Can it really be that hard?

22 Jan 2009

Orgasms come on guys and girls, is it really that hard to achieve? :P
Guys have it easy a few tugs and wham bam! :wanker:
Girls are a little more complex as we are made with a little more thought and attention to detail. :dry:
It isn’t really that hard to achieve, a few guys I guess could get bored of scrambling around trying to find something that can’t be seen, but come on when you hear a oooo mmmm arrrrrr pleaseeeeeeeee that is a little indication that your searching isn’t in vane.
But some guys (I can’t say all) tend to get bored at this stage and seem to thing it would be nice to try something different. :yawn:
Why do guys get bored so easily dunno

Maybe too many played tug of war as a youth (a quick pull and its over) rather than hide and seek and there could be a pleasant surprise in store. lol

22 Jan 2009

You know what us blokes are like Minx,
If we see a button we press it, and if nothing immediately happens we move onto the next switch, button or level that we see...
I think that's why erogenous zones get rapaciously pawed beyond recognition and also explains why we try to tune into Radio five live on ladies nipples.
Of course that is a sweeping generalisation, and I am sure most of the well-educated, sexually enlightened chaps and ladies on here not only know which buttons to press on a lady, but have bought the Haynes Manual that goes with it.
I never played tug of war, but I was keen on hide and seek. However many games ended in frustration where I'd just get lost, fumble around in the bushes aimlessly for a while, looking for the right hole to hide in and slowly as interest dwindled, we'd stop with a feeling of lingering resentment and disappointment.

22 Jan 2009

I says never give up on a good seek as eventually you always find that deep dark hiding place that few know about, and then you feel you not only achieved but know exactly where to seek next time wink

22 Jan 2009

Female's can orgasm?? ffs well there you go, you learn something new everyday wink

:lol:

22 Jan 2009

Quote by woohoo
Female's can orgasm?? ffs well there you go, you learn something new everyday :lol:

22 Jan 2009

Sometimes I just can't. Can be having a great time and really enjoying the sensations but I just cannotorgasm.
Dunno why, but the minute I think about it then that doesn't help.

22 Jan 2009

Quote by noladreams30
Sometimes I just can't. Can be having a great time and really enjoying the sensations but I just cannot orgasm.
Dunno why, but the minute I think about it then that doesn't help.

I can't always, I think it is different for woman, it is very much being in the right frame of mind and mood.
But I do think when it happens, it is well worth it wink

I haven't found men have those same problems.

22 Jan 2009

Quote by noladreams30
Sometimes I just can't. Can be having a great time and really enjoying the sensations but I just cannot orgasm.
Dunno why, but the minute I think about it then that doesn't help.

I sooo know where you're coming from confused

It doesn't happen too often thank God. I know sometimes having had too much alcohol doesn't help (but not always).

22 Jan 2009

Quote by Mrsgoggins
Sometimes I just can't. Can be having a great time and really enjoying the sensations but I just cannot orgasm.
Dunno why, but the minute I think about it then that doesn't help.

I sooo know where you're coming from confused

It doesn't happen too often thank God. I know sometimes having had too much alcohol doesn't help (but not always).
Yup. The moment my brain starts concentrating on it too much, my body gets all petulant and feels pressured and sets out to spitefully deny me what I want most. Which makes me focus on it more, which makes it all the more unlikely. I have to be very relaxed, have many dirty thoughts and then just sneak up on myself ...

22 Jan 2009

Quote by Mmmaybe
Sometimes I just can't. Can be having a great time and really enjoying the sensations but I just cannot orgasm.
Dunno why, but the minute I think about it then that doesn't help.

I sooo know where you're coming from confused

It doesn't happen too often thank God. I know sometimes having had too much alcohol doesn't help (but not always).
Yup. The moment my brain starts concentrating on it too much, my body gets all petulant and feels pressured and sets out to spitefully deny me what I want most. Which makes me focus on it more, which makes it all the more unlikely. I have to be very relaxed, have many dirty thoughts and then just sneak up on myself ...
Exactly! :thrilled:

22 Jan 2009

Quote by Resonance
You know what us blokes are like Minx,
If we see a button we press it, and if nothing immediately happens we move onto the next switch, button or level that we see...
I think that's why erogenous zones get rapaciously pawed beyond recognition and also explains why we try to tune into Radio five live on ladies nipples.
Of course that is a sweeping generalisation, and I am sure most of the well-educated, sexually enlightened chaps and ladies on here not only know which buttons to press on a lady, but have bought the Haynes Manual that goes with it.
I never played tug of war, but I was keen on hide and seek. However many games ended in frustration where I'd just get lost, fumble around in the bushes aimlessly for a while, looking for the right hole to hide in and slowly as interest dwindled, we'd stop with a feeling of lingering resentment and disappointment.

I don't believe we have met...
I too, love hide and seek, I'm very good at it...
Maz xx

22 Jan 2009

Orgasms................
What orgasms??? lol

Typed in Tenerife, too tired for one! :lol:

23 Jan 2009

There are people who just lie there quietly?????
How peculiar

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Mmmaybe
There are people who just lie there quietly?????
How peculiar

Only if I have my parents or other vanilla guests staying :twisted:

23 Jan 2009

Quote by flower411
I don`t always orgasm !!
I suppose that just increases me "girly" credentials.
But really !! c`mon ..do you girls honestly help the situation or do you sometimes just keep quiet and think ....." He`s not doin it right, if he`d just move a little to the left....." or whatever.
It is generally easier for blokes to orgasm ....but if you don`t give a guy some pointers ....how do expect him to work it out ???

If someone asked for directions, I always like to make sure their destination is reached. wink

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Mmmaybe
There are people who just lie there quietly?????
How peculiar

Oh Yes! Without a doubt there are. My wife for one, sometimes she even wakes up.
And Hello Maz&Den! wave

Nice to meet you. Between you and Minx I guess I have just not played hide and seek with the right people. I still can't find my old mate Lord Lucan.
I also agree with Flower to an extent. It may be easier for a man to achieve the big "O" but I think that is because we have the common decency to have our organs of arousal in unmistakably plain view. We don't hide them behind drapes and curtains or have them hidden away secretly, on a wall halfway along our pleasure tunnel...
However I would argue that while it may be easier to make blokes have one, it isn't always the case. The more on edge, nervous and indeed, ratted a bloke is, it becomes far more difficult, if not impossible. After all, you can't cosh a burglar with flaccid draught excluder can you?
I think this female orgasm thing is a myth really, invented to make us chaps feel insecure. The only time I've seen anything like it is when the Sale signs go up in Dolcis.
Or maybe I just need more practice? dunno

23 Jan 2009

I've always been a long stayer ,which as a younger man was an asset ,but i've always needed more than the stimulaton of a vagina.
My first wife was quick to orgasam 5-10 mins and one orgasam was enough for her then she would want to go to sleep ,maybe she found me boring :cry: .
My second wife and soulmate is totally different,she like lots of foreplay ,no 10 minute tickles for her ,once she's had her first orgasam the floodgates open and 10-15 is not uncommon for her ....i just hope i can keep up with her now i'm getting on a bit ,or i'll have to "set a lad on" to give me a hand , wink

(no pun intended ) :wink:

23 Jan 2009

Quote by noladreams30
Sometimes I just can't. Can be having a great time and really enjoying the sensations but I just cannot orgasm.
Dunno why, but the minute I think about it then that doesn't help.

Another one here. Sometimes it's just never gonna happen and pushing my clit like it's a doorbell and no-one is answering does not help. rolleyes

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Sometimes I just can't. Can be having a great time and really enjoying the sensations but I just cannot orgasm.
Dunno why, but the minute I think about it then that doesn't help.

Another one here. Sometimes it's just never gonna happen and pushing my clit like it's a doorbell and no-one is answering does not help. rolleyes

Ooh!
Does it play a little tune... Like The one Big Ben plays before it "bongs"?
Or what about Sam and Dave's "Hold on! I'm Comin"?
I can sense a business opportunity for Dragon's Den here... Clit Bells... It'd be interesting to see Peter Jones' face when demonstrated...

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Resonance
Sometimes I just can't. Can be having a great time and really enjoying the sensations but I just cannot orgasm.
Dunno why, but the minute I think about it then that doesn't help.

Another one here. Sometimes it's just never gonna happen and pushing my clit like it's a doorbell and no-one is answering does not help. rolleyes

Ooh!
Does it play a little tune... Like The one Big Ben plays before it "bongs"?
Or what about Sam and Dave's "Hold on! I'm Comin"?
I can sense a business opportunity for Dragon's Den here... Clit Bells... It'd be interesting to see Peter Jones' face when demonstrated...
:giggle:
No... it's more likely to play "never gonna happen!"
And I already have balls on my clit that rattle :mrgreen:
Too slow Resonance! wink

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Sometimes I just can't. Can be having a great time and really enjoying the sensations but I just cannot orgasm.
Dunno why, but the minute I think about it then that doesn't help.

Another one here. Sometimes it's just never gonna happen and pushing my clit like it's a doorbell and no-one is answering does not help. rolleyes

Ooh!
Does it play a little tune... Like The one Big Ben plays before it "bongs"?
Or what about Sam and Dave's "Hold on! I'm Comin"?
I can sense a business opportunity for Dragon's Den here... Clit Bells... It'd be interesting to see Peter Jones' face when demonstrated...
:giggle:
No... it's more likely to play "never gonna happen!"
And I already have balls on my clit that rattle :mrgreen:
Too slow Resonance! wink

Me too DG and I find they've actually helped me 'get there' more often too.

23 Jan 2009

Damn... Scrub that idea off the list then...
As per usual, I think I get there first and someone has been there before me.

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Resonance
Damn... Scrub that idea off the list then...
As per usual, I think I get there first and someone has been there before me.

some would be pleased to have seconds! wink

23 Jan 2009

Just to clarify... its very easy to do it on my own... no problems there. :rascal: Just sometimes when I'm with someone else, especially someone new, it can take forever and occasionally not at all. :cry:

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Just to clarify... its very easy to do it on my own... no problems there. :rascal: Just sometimes when I'm with someone else, especially someone new, it can take forever and occasionally not at all. :cry:

For me it's the thrill of the new that often does it... But if someone's trying to hard to please me, and I feel I have to 'deliver' an orgasm to please them and make them feel good, and then it's game off.
Alone with my thoughts I can be wherever I want to be with no pressure at all, so .... oh dear, must off for a wee lie down...

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Ms_Whips
Just to clarify... its very easy to do it on my own... no problems there. :rascal: Just sometimes when I'm with someone else, especially someone new, it can take forever and occasionally not at all. :cry:

that's just a case of nerves and not knowing each other though surely? we can all worry then.

Possibly... it's a mental thing for me I guess... I never really relax until I know someone and they know me. That's probably why I never get very much out of the one off swinging things. dunno

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Just to clarify... its very easy to do it on my own... no problems there. :rascal: Just sometimes when I'm with someone else, especially someone new, it can take forever and occasionally not at all. :cry:

that's just a case of nerves and not knowing each other though surely? we can all worry then.

Possibly... it's a mental thing for me I guess... I never really relax until I know someone and they know me. That's probably why I never get very much out of the one off swinging things. dunno

I think to orgasm you have to give yourself up totally, I haven't always had one on a first meet, I use that meet as getting a feel for each other and what the other really enjoys, then we work from there.
It has happened on a first meet but then that was somewhat in the planning and the fact we had spoken over a long time.
Trust respect and enjoying each other go a long way to make both feel relaxed and make it fun, I need to laugh to feel relaxed, it isnt always easy for either party.

23 Jan 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Just to clarify... its very easy to do it on my own... no problems there. :rascal: Just sometimes when I'm with someone else, especially someone new, it can take forever and occasionally not at all. :cry:

Yep - me too. Never a problem alone.
I think is sometimes because I really get into the whole sensation of being fucked, and then I kinda get passed the point of orgasm.
Probably doesn't make sense, but does to me.
Nola x

24 Jan 2009

a few tugs? you're meeting the wrong sort of bloke!!
blast

27 Jan 2009

Not popular opinion but I think you have to get inside someones head to really enjoy sex so maybe it goes like that for some women. :shock: