Just wondering what everyones thoughts are on this as recently we have noticed some people getting a bit of hassle in the chat rooms for being 'too young'...
One comment we noticed was 'why would someone your age NEED to swing'
We're a youngish couple, 28 and 23, and we do find a lot of people are put off by that.
For us, its definately not a question of needing to swing, but we thought perhaps some older couples see it as something you need to do because your sex life is drying up having been with someone for so long.
We definately don't need to, as we have a fantastic sex life without swinging, we WANT to swing becasue we want to share it with everyone else, and have an even better time at that!
We also get the impression that some older couples, well particularly the girls, are suggesting that they would feel more uncomfortable in themselves with a younger couple (perhaps they think younger automatically = more attractive?)
I reckon that neither of these reasons are justified, I'm sure that a lot of couples are not swinging because they can't get what they want from each other any more, but because they are having a fantastic time with each other, so therefor age shouldn't be such an issue and It certainly shouldn't be the case that a younger couple would be more attratctive than an older coule either!
So younger swingers, have you noticed anything like this?
And the more mature, what do you think???
maz xxxxxxx
I thought that swinging was a lifestyle and sexual choice.... to that end age is not an issue for me.
Some of the best sex I have had has been with younger women.....19 and 24 to be exact. I don't actually think that age is factor either way as for me the turn on is the confidence the person has with themselves.
Experience is negligible as it is only relevent if they are experienced with the things that I like. It is also not dependent on age.
So maz... anytime you feel like coming down south let me know and I will get my best cotton sheets out.... :twisted: :twisted:
i think a lot of it is down to attitude
i have met older people who act younger than some younger people, i think to a certain extent, an age is just a number
since getting involved in the swinging scene, my choices and preferences have changed, in terms of age, looks and preferences
previously, i would have had a quite narrow range of preferences, age being one of them, but ultimately, if i like someone, i like them, regardless of age and other criteria
I'll just pop this one in now and come back later....
Some of the mature couples I have spoken to about age preferences have satated they don't like younger couples for one simple reason - they are too close to the age of their kids.
seems to me that there might be no age bar on WANTING to be a "swinger" or indeed having group sex... it's all the rage apparently...
However you can see from the posts here that some of the more experienced or older swingers might have an issue in "swinging" with younger people...
it seems that personality and attitude count for loads....
to be honest maz.... although ive not seen Den.... you are very very attractive and i hazard a guess that most people on the site would happpily get down and dirty with you both ... purely on the basis of your looks alone... and having chatted with you too on a number of occasions i know full well that you are an intelligent, confident, fun young lady.... who id wanna hav fun with...
so... all id suggest is keeping on with whatever youre doing... be happy you have attributes that will get you plenty of interest and give you the flexibility of choice and spare a thought for those who arent as lucky as you
from my own personal view... i like swinging with people of all ages.....
but then again im well-kinky
all the best
We quite agree PL!!!!! Whilst there probably are people out there who are swinging 'cos the spark is lost from their relationship, I'm sure that's not the case for the majority.
We just found it really strange when a poor young couple were getting a touch of hassle as noone seemed to believe that such a young couple would be interested in swinging, therfor there must be some other reason (so yes the preson arguing with them was an arsehole methinks!) When we stuck up for them, it turned out it was a pretty common opinion in the chat room at the time!
Deecee- It's never been something we've come across until the other day in chat, and it's never been directed at us - we're having plenty of fun and always will have- you sexy boy!!!! :twisted:
Personally I (tend to) avoid young couples - just as I do my best to avoid meeting 'we would like to try' couples.
I have been there and done that and got bitten - once bitten twice shy as the saying goes - unfortunately I have been bitten a few times.
In short - when I meet couples I like to enjoy sex with people who know how to be relaxed about the whole thing. I do not want to be someone’s experiment to see if they like something (especially when half way through they decide they don't and everyone feels uncomfortable)
I know it is putting all people of those groups into one barrel and marking it "no thanks" and that there will be some in there who just don't deserve to be. But - we all have to look for the things we know suit us the best (unless you're not really fussy as long as it's sex).
