I know its not just me....as I have witnessed both couples and ladies express their utter distain at the remarks , instructions, demands and generally just abhorrent vulgarity a great many men blurt out to couples and ladies who are kind enough to show themselves on webcam in the chatroom.
It never ceases to amaze me .............I am frequently embarrassed to be a single male in there.
Is it not possible to have a moderator ejecting......better still deleting the perpetrators from the site altogether?
Just a thought...
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Quote by da_jeff2003
Is it not possible to have a moderator ejecting......better still deleting the perpetrators from the site altogether?
Just a thought...
There are quite a few of us actually, but given the amount of rooms that there are and the fact that we do this in our spare time there can be times when there is no-one online.... I am just having a quick look at the forums before I nip off to cook for the kids and then do some chores. Once I have done all that I will be back online and jumping from room to room...
Shireen
i understand what you mean da_jeff,
however...... the chat room opps are doing their best and they do it for the love of the site not for money.
imho there are a few things that can be done by the members to help this situation....
log the name of the person who was offensive and report them to admin or mods.
keep calm and ignore the people who you feel abuse the chat rooms
those members who go on cam can sometimes be at fault ( ok maybe not the right word)
some people dont mind being directed , all the room ooowwing at ahhing at their cams, but this then gives the viewers the impression its ok to treat all cammers this way.
maybe if the admin could install a ignore button it would make life a bit easier??
and btw , welcome to the forum, but remember some of us forumers will get fed up aswell of chat room users using the forum to moan about the chat room etc ( like ad moaners)
xxxxxxxxxx lou xxxxxxxxxx
however...... the chat room opps are doing their best and they do it for the love of the site not for money.
imho there are a few things that can be done by the members to help this situation....
log the name of the person who was offensive and report them to admin or mods.
keep calm and ignore the people who you feel abuse the chat rooms
those members who go on cam can sometimes be at fault ( ok maybe not the right word)
some people dont mind being directed , all the room ooowwing at ahhing at their cams, but this then gives the viewers the impression its ok to treat all cammers this way.
maybe if the admin could install a ignore button it would make life a bit easier??
and btw , welcome to the forum, but remember some of us forumers will get fed up aswell of chat room users using the forum to moan about the chat room etc ( like ad moaners)
xxxxxxxxxx lou xxxxxxxxxx
Master of Sex
Quote by da_jeff2003
Hope I haven't shot myself in the foot by speaking out...........
Not even a near miss..!
Though with regard to your post I have to say "yeah....and...what do you expect..?"
We do pop into the chatrooms, and we do occasionally take a peek at the odd cam.
If a lady wants to give her rabbit the full workout on cam there's bound to be a bit of vulgar encouragement..though don't for a minute think that we're condoning it..!
Perhaps an answer from the cam stars might put the matter in perspective...?
just a quick simple idea from someone who doesnt really use the chat room so prob no use at all 
been in a few times but it moves way too fast for my typing skills :?
couldnt there be two main rooms set up one that allows cams & the other that doesnt allow them
then maybe all the people who just want to chat & get to know eachother would go into the non cam room & the oooo get em out lot could enjoy the cam room
result everyone happy
:D
been in a few times but it moves way too fast for my typing skills :? couldnt there be two main rooms set up one that allows cams & the other that doesnt allow them
then maybe all the people who just want to chat & get to know eachother would go into the non cam room & the oooo get em out lot could enjoy the cam room
result everyone happy
:D Quote by banlwales
Hope I haven't shot myself in the foot by speaking out...........
Not even a near miss..!
Though with regard to your post I have to say "yeah....and...what do you expect..?"
We do pop into the chatrooms, and we do occasionally take a peek at the odd cam.
If a lady wants to give her rabbit the full workout on cam there's bound to be a bit of vulgar encouragement..though don't for a minute think that we're condoning it..!
Perhaps an answer from the cam stars might put the matter in perspective...?
Totally agree ........... if they are on cam ........... playing for people ........... what exactly do they expect from the people who are watching ?
Double standards or what !! ...........They want to show you everything they've got but will be shocked and upset if you say anything naughty to them
:lol: :lol: fgs )Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
Totally agree ........... if they are on cam ........... playing for people ........... what exactly do they expect from the people who are watching ?
Double standards or what !! ...........They want to show you everything they've got but will be shocked and upset if you say anything naughty to them :lol: :lol: fgs )
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I’m sorry Blonde but I have to disagree with you. If you were at a club, party or out Dogging , you would be putting on a show for people intentionally or otherwise.
If someone became excessively rude or offensive wouldn’t you want someone to tell them to get lost or have the power to do it yourself? Isn’t politeness one of the fundamental rules of the swinging community?
Stormwalker
Double standards or what !! ...........They want to show you everything they've got but will be shocked and upset if you say anything naughty to them
:lol: :lol: fgs )Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I’m sorry Blonde but I have to disagree with you. If you were at a club, party or out Dogging , you would be putting on a show for people intentionally or otherwise.
If someone became excessively rude or offensive wouldn’t you want someone to tell them to get lost or have the power to do it yourself? Isn’t politeness one of the fundamental rules of the swinging community?
Stormwalker
Quote by blonde
Totally agree ........... if they are on cam ........... playing for people ........... what exactly do they expect from the people who are watching ?
Double standards or what !! ...........They want to show you everything they've got but will be shocked and upset if you say anything naughty to them
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by firelizard
Going on cam .............. has nothing to do with swinging ............. swinging is where people get together and swing ............. camming is what people do on a sex site !
Just my opinion
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
Quote by blonde
Totally agree ........... if they are on cam ........... playing for people ........... what exactly do they expect from the people who are watching ?
Double standards or what !! ...........They want to show you everything they've got but will be shocked and upset if you say anything naughty to them
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by firelizard
Going on cam .............. has nothing to do with swinging ............. swinging is where people get together and swing ............. camming is what people do on a sex site !
Just my opinion
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
So are you saying that the people on cam are somehow less deserving of respect because they are not proper swingers?
Double standards or what !! Your words Blonde.
Stormwalker.
Sex God
Quote by Darkfire
Going on cam .............. has nothing to do with swinging ............. swinging is where people get together and swing ............. camming is what people do on a sex site !
Just my opinion
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Blonde , that's a bloody good point!!
No Darkfire it’s a very bad point….
It says if you are on cam then you are not a swinger.
It’s the thin edge of a wedge what next?
Are Doggers not swingers if they let people watch them?
Are club players not swingers because people not playing can see them?
Are party goers not swingers because……..
Are you lot not swingers because you don’t do exactly what I do…..
Stormwalker …… just my views.
Babe .............. I am not saying people on cam are not also swingers 
All I am saying is that ......... if you choose to go on cam ......... and perform for anyone who cares to watch ............. you have to expect what you get back !
We go to clubs .......... we go to parties ......... we joined when it was a swinging site ....... not the sex site it has now become .
I still like it in here ........... I just dont choose to go on cam for all the guys
:kiss: good luck to you ......... if it floats your boat.
But no matter what you say I will never think that camming is swinging ........... camming is camming ...........
Each to their own ........... I respect that ................ but I watched a woman with a toy who was shocked today when the guys told her what they wanted her to do
Did she expect them to tune in and say the wallpaper looks nice ? or did she expect them to say exactly what they said ??
Each to their own ........... theres room for all of us on here :kiss:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
All I am saying is that ......... if you choose to go on cam ......... and perform for anyone who cares to watch ............. you have to expect what you get back !
We go to clubs .......... we go to parties ......... we joined when it was a swinging site ....... not the sex site it has now become .
I still like it in here ........... I just dont choose to go on cam for all the guys
:kiss: good luck to you ......... if it floats your boat.
But no matter what you say I will never think that camming is swinging ........... camming is camming ...........
Each to their own ........... I respect that ................ but I watched a woman with a toy who was shocked today when the guys told her what they wanted her to do
Did she expect them to tune in and say the wallpaper looks nice ? or did she expect them to say exactly what they said ??
Each to their own ........... theres room for all of us on here :kiss:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
Quote by firelizard
Going on cam .............. has nothing to do with swinging ............. swinging is where people get together and swing ............. camming is what people do on a sex site !
Just my opinion
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Blonde , that's a bloody good point!!
No Darkfire it’s a very bad point….
It says if you are on cam then you are not a swinger.
It’s the thin edge of a wedge what next?
Are Doggers not swingers if they let people watch them?
Are club players not swingers because people not playing can see them?
Are party goers not swingers because……..
Are you lot not swingers because you don’t do exactly what I do…..
Stormwalker …… just my views.
I never said if you go on cam you are not a swinger ............... what I said was ....... if you put a show on for everyone........................ what do you expect them to do ???
For every action ............. there is a reaction
Just dont be surprised if you get one :kiss:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I can see both sides to this to be honest
I have played on a cam a couple of times in the chatroom.. we are swingers but do like to do a bit of variation to our fun hehehehe
When i have been on cam i am fine with the comments, thats part of it and as blonde said, to be expected after all the person on cam is encouraging it to a certain point,
However, its the ones that go over the top that say things like lets see you fist your ass or the ones that can get really nasty if you don't do exactly what they say that can be a bit annoying
I don't think either of you are wrong, it just depends where the line is being drawn as in what is classed as fun or over the top
and as there is no line, "what one person would find really bad another would find tame" there will always be this kind of banter while on cam...
Me myself, like so much of the banter but only to a point so i just choose not to do anything to often thats naughty on there lol
Hope i have made myself understandable lol, its getting late
Shaz xxx
I have played on a cam a couple of times in the chatroom.. we are swingers but do like to do a bit of variation to our fun hehehehe
When i have been on cam i am fine with the comments, thats part of it and as blonde said, to be expected after all the person on cam is encouraging it to a certain point,
However, its the ones that go over the top that say things like lets see you fist your ass or the ones that can get really nasty if you don't do exactly what they say that can be a bit annoying
I don't think either of you are wrong, it just depends where the line is being drawn as in what is classed as fun or over the top
and as there is no line, "what one person would find really bad another would find tame" there will always be this kind of banter while on cam...
Me myself, like so much of the banter but only to a point so i just choose not to do anything to often thats naughty on there lol
Hope i have made myself understandable lol, its getting late
Shaz xxx
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However, its the ones that go over the top that say things like lets see you fist your ass or the ones that can get really nasty if you don't do exactly what they say that can be a bit annoying
At the end of the day all they can do is get abusive and stamp their feet... They cant make you do anything you dont want to after all.... The best way to deal with people like that?? Turn the cam off
:rotflmao:Shireen
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Quote by Shireen_Mids
However, its the ones that go over the top that say things like lets see you fist your ass or the ones that can get really nasty if you don't do exactly what they say that can be a bit annoying
At the end of the day all they can do is get abusive and stamp their feet... They cant make you do anything you dont want to after all.... The best way to deal with people like that?? Turn the cam off
:rotflmao:Shireen
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hehehe and thats what we do if it gets to that point
pointless arguing with people as it then just makes yourself as bad... unless its in your own defense :lol: :lol:
Shaz x
Orgasminator
some men are just arrogent enough to think that the women are there just to please them......with that attitude they are destined to spend the rest of their lives wanking to crappy little webcam pictures rather than having a girlfreind.
It grips my shit when you get a new member and the other members seem to drive em away !!!
Take tonight for example....a nice lass joins the site, as the decency to turn her web cam and mic on and the vultures just pounced on her...if it wasnt show us your bits it was calling her all the names going.
As soon as a lesbian (i'll try to be pc....a girl that doesnt like men) came on-line and saw how pretty the newbie was, the said member started getting all abusive towards the newbie !!!
That aint right is it???
The newbie as got all the rights (if not more cos she as paid) to use the site for whatever means....she as paid her money to join a site which I think as vastly improved.
The chat rooms need to be policed alot better, of which the chat room op's do a great job as it is(i aint knocking you guys), but there is room for improvement.
I am probably not the first person to say all of this but it definatly needs sorting out one way or another.
Take tonight for example....a nice lass joins the site, as the decency to turn her web cam and mic on and the vultures just pounced on her...if it wasnt show us your bits it was calling her all the names going.
As soon as a lesbian (i'll try to be pc....a girl that doesnt like men) came on-line and saw how pretty the newbie was, the said member started getting all abusive towards the newbie !!!
That aint right is it???
The newbie as got all the rights (if not more cos she as paid) to use the site for whatever means....she as paid her money to join a site which I think as vastly improved.
The chat rooms need to be policed alot better, of which the chat room op's do a great job as it is(i aint knocking you guys), but there is room for improvement.
I am probably not the first person to say all of this but it definatly needs sorting out one way or another.
Sex God
I think both Blonde and Firelizard both raise interesting points......
Is the exhibitionist on a webcam any different to the exhibtionist in the car park dogging any different to the exhibitionist in a swinging club???? probabaly not..... does it make it all any less vaild..... probably not!!!
the only difference is is that if they made there comments while dogging or in a club, they would probably get asked to leave/have ten bells knocked out of them.....
doggers have the choice to go elsewhere if it gets too much, the get in their cars....
people in swinging clubs have a choice... they can go into a private room and close the door
people on cam have a choice.... they can switch it off!!!
The real prroblem is that people (not necessarily just the single guys) feel that they can get away with things behind a computer screen which you would never get away with in front of real people.......
what should people expect when they get on cam....quite simple one word...Respect!!!.... the same if you went dogging.... the same if you went to a club....
Sean xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Is the exhibitionist on a webcam any different to the exhibtionist in the car park dogging any different to the exhibitionist in a swinging club???? probabaly not..... does it make it all any less vaild..... probably not!!!
the only difference is is that if they made there comments while dogging or in a club, they would probably get asked to leave/have ten bells knocked out of them.....
doggers have the choice to go elsewhere if it gets too much, the get in their cars....
people in swinging clubs have a choice... they can go into a private room and close the door
people on cam have a choice.... they can switch it off!!!
The real prroblem is that people (not necessarily just the single guys) feel that they can get away with things behind a computer screen which you would never get away with in front of real people.......
what should people expect when they get on cam....quite simple one word...Respect!!!.... the same if you went dogging.... the same if you went to a club....
Sean xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
Now why couldn’t I have put it as clearly as that, thanks Sean.
Blonde, if I came across as having a go at you last night then please forgive me. I was not angry with you at all babe, you are a very nice little breakfast cereal fetishist.
For the record, Mrs Firelizard has been on cam in the room several times. Not playing, just chatting, and almost every time she has had at least one fool being offensive. The girls and couples who do play on cam get the same thing many times over.
Blonde, if I came across as having a go at you last night then please forgive me. I was not angry with you at all babe, you are a very nice little breakfast cereal fetishist.
For the record, Mrs Firelizard has been on cam in the room several times. Not playing, just chatting, and almost every time she has had at least one fool being offensive. The girls and couples who do play on cam get the same thing many times over.
Quote by firelizard
Blonde, if I came across as having a go at you last night then please forgive me. I was not angry with you at all babe, you are a very nice little breakfast cereal fetishist.
:kiss: ........ I am sorry if I upset you too :kiss:
Do we get to cuddle now ?? :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
Quote by blonde
Blonde, if I came across as having a go at you last night then please forgive me. I was not angry with you at all babe, you are a very nice little breakfast cereal fetishist.
:kiss: ........ I am sorry if I upset you too :kiss:
Do we get to cuddle now ?? :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
LOL you may have to cuddle us both, just to stop Mrs Lizard from being jealous.
Stormwalker xxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by firelizard
Blonde, if I came across as having a go at you last night then please forgive me. I was not angry with you at all babe, you are a very nice little breakfast cereal fetishist.
:kiss: ........ I am sorry if I upset you too :kiss:
Do we get to cuddle now ?? :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
LOL you may have to cuddle us both, just to stop Mrs Lizard from being jealous.
Stormwalker xxxxxxxxxxxx
I meant both
:kiss:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
