Cliques

31 Jan 2007

Yes, it's the 'clique' word that pops up ever so often on here so I thought I'd create a post about it confused

Contentious yes! But it has got me wondering... cool

So what are they reallyand do they reallyexist?
Are they only called that because people who ain't 'in them' (and shouldn't be) but want to be and can't... in fact, if they got 'in' they'd discover that there isn't really a clique at all - just a group of similar people who know how to conduct themselves and get along as a result. I think it has a lot to do with possessing basic social skills... dunno

<<< That's my opinion :thumbup:
Are there really cliques here, there and elsewhere and what can we do about them or do we need to do anything at all?
Is there a Forum clique, a Chat clique, a Munch clique, a Social clique, a Dogging clique or is is really just that we each like different things and prefer sharing similar environments with similar people to enjoy them? I think so biggrin

What do you think? lol

31 Jan 2007

See if i can get a reply in before it gets nasty, and locked!!!
I for one thought the forums were a little cliquey. Sorry!!!
But I didnt gripe about it, I just kept posting, and didnt get stroppy when my posts were ignored.
I went to a couple of munches, and realised that actually, there is no clique, most, not everybody though, is really friendly.
Yes there are still people that ignore my posts, but maybe thats just cause they arn't relevant or just not enough for people to comment on.
People that complain forums are cliquey obviously are the type of people that can walk into any public place in the world and have everybody talking to them straight away!!! rolleyes

31 Jan 2007

Quote by redangel
See if i can get a reply in before it gets nasty, and locked!!!

I do hope not... seriously, it wasn't meant in that way confused

I just figured that it features so highly that it would be interesting to have a healthy debate about it biggrin

Great reply, thank you :P I call it 'Wizard Of Oz' syndrome - sometimes when you actually get behind the curtain there really isn't anything that scary there at all :D

31 Jan 2007

Quote by redangel
See if i can get a reply in before it gets nasty, and locked!!!
I for one thought the forums were a little cliquey. Sorry!!!
But I didnt gripe about it, I just kept posting, and didnt get stroppy when my posts were ignored.
I went to a couple of munches, and realised that actually, there is no clique, most, not everybody though, is really friendly.
Yes there are still people that ignore my posts, but maybe thats just cause they arn't relevant or just not enough for people to comment on.
People that complain forums are cliquey obviously are the type of people that can walk into any public place in the world and have everybody talking to them straight away!!!

When i first start on the forums i realsied i was a stranger in a new room and need people to get use to me i am the first to admit i'm wierd and strange and not many people get my humor but i wouldn't say its cliquey, i would say that people just have to be patient and get use to and allow people to get use to you slowly i still feel i have some post ignored but thats me being paranoid

31 Jan 2007

Its not so much thats theres a clique Bloke although i used to think there was if truth be known, its just that i personally feel that there are people on the site who use it regularly, go on the chatroom the forum and know the people well through munches and socials etc and tend to get on with each other better than others do!!
I have noticed that the longer you stick around and the more frequently you use the site and its features, the better known an familiar you become, like in an office or workplace, if you walked around with your head down and didnt say hi to anyone etc, you could think that there was a clique, although its probably just that the people who you think are in the "clique" are probably just more socially adept and have involved themselves more if that makes sense? confused

I do however firmly think that there are some people on the site who use their higher social status badly, by either not giving newer people who make the kind of mistakes in posts that im sure we all did at first, a chance, or by taking the "side" of their friends in the occasional little forum battles that crop up more and more infrequently these days!
I think the thing to remember is this is a site used by a broad spectrum of the public, and in this we see the great tapestry of idiosyncrasies that a large collection of people will always have within it. We see friendships, arguments, love interests and flirting, do gooders, not so do gooders and the occasional arse hole, i have decided that il just sit back an enjoy the ride lol

PS- You can be in the tank top clique with me Bloke!! wink

31 Jan 2007

PPS: YOU can do WHATEVER you like.... wanna be in your gang, your gang, your gang... wanna be in your gang.... ooo yeah! :rascal:

31 Jan 2007

I thought a clique was a group of people that ignored others.....but i have found that some people will say there is a clique on here....not because they are being ignored but because no one agreed with what they had to say!

31 Jan 2007

Quote by Srne
PS- You can be in the tank top clique with me Bloke!!

ya in a clique for ya own tank top club lol

31 Jan 2007

People are strange when you're a stranger
Faces look ugly when you're alone
Women seem wicked when you're unwanted
Streets are uneven when you're down
When you're strange
Faces come out of the rain
When you're strange
No one remembers your name
When you're strange
When you're strange
When you're strange
People are strange when you're a stranger
Faces look ugly when you're alone
Women seem wicked when you're unwanted
Streets are uneven when you're down
When you're strange
Faces come out of the rain
When you're strange
No one remembers your name
When you're strange
When you're strange
When you're strange
See, it's not cliquey at all. We're all just strange confused

31 Jan 2007

Well feck me....
1) Srne
2) Mr NEC
3) Mr Powers
4) The Laird
A Bloke's dreamlist :inlove:

31 Jan 2007

Firstly can I say great post Bloke, as usual, and I'm not saying that just cos I'm in the North East gorgeous people clique that Bloke has created. OOps did the rest of you not know about that one?
:laughabove:
bolt

Anyway, when I first joined this site, someone initially came to me in the chatroom and warned me of the clique that was going on, specifically in the room I frequented, and warned me I would never be accepted. Naturally that was a single guy, bitter and twisted about his inability to 'break in', and had I listened to him, or taken him seriously, I would have run away and never met the fantastic people I now consider friends (some of them at least!! lol

)
As with any new 'environment' the regulars who know each other have conversations, know alot about each other, and have 'in' jokes. And as with any new environment it is up to the 'newbie', and their personality, to try to join in, to be polite, to be decent, to be kind, to be interesting, to be funny and to be 'worth a conversation'. I have seen brief moments of cliquey behaviour, simply because everyone, quite rightly, protects those they already know, trust and spend time with. The only time I have seen anyone 'rejected or ignored' has been during an inconsiderate, inappropriate, rude and offensive attempt to make conversation. Protection of those we know and care about is simply human nature, and maybe if newbies realised that then they wouldn't be so blunt or intrusive.
I don't believe there are cliques on S/h, I believe there are like minded groups of people, with similar interests (because we don't all share the same views - the forum proves that :lol: ), who get on, meet socially, meet sexually, chat, spend time together, and don't tolerate bad behaviour. If that is seen, from newbies - or regulars, because it does happen - friends and acquaintances tend to close ranks, and I'm highly supportive of that. We are a community on here, with a common interest, but it also allows us the right to spend time with people we genuinely like, much as we do in our own social circles, and at work etc.
Its a shame that word is ever suggested to anyone, and if I wasn't made of tough stuff I would have run away on my first day. We welcome all to every part of this site, but we are all human, we all have our preferences, and we all have the ability to make choices.
:lol:

31 Jan 2007

Quote by Bloke2005
Well feck me....
1) Srne
2) Mr NEC
3) Mr Powers
4) The Laird
A Bloke's dreamlist :inlove:

Easy Tiger
wink

Northeastcouple, thats a mighty big sig you've got there

31 Jan 2007

Only came in to see what the word meant :shock: thought it was a french sexual act
Found out it wasn't, so left ......................
Dave_Notts

31 Jan 2007

I don't think it's cliquey in here. Now down the road....hmmmm. dunno

31 Jan 2007

Quote by the_Laird
Well feck me....
1) Srne
2) Mr NEC
3) Mr Powers
4) The Laird
A Bloke's dreamlist :inlove:

Easy Tiger
wink

Northeastcouple, thats a mighty big sig you've got there was till mal stole it the git lol

31 Jan 2007

Quote by northeastcoupleuk
Well feck me....
1) Srne
2) Mr NEC
3) Mr Powers
4) The Laird
A Bloke's dreamlist :inlove:

Easy Tiger
wink

Northeastcouple, thats a mighty big sig you've got there
was till mal stole it the git lol

He's lovely really :lol:

31 Jan 2007

Quote by ClassyKatie
Anyway, when I first joined this site, someone initially came to me in the chatroom and warned me of the clique that was going on, specifically in the room I frequented, and warned me I would never be accepted. Naturally that was a single guy, bitter and twisted about his inability to 'break in', and had I listened to him, or taken him seriously, I would have run away and never met the fantastic people I now consider friends (some of them at least!! )
:lol:

yep me too Katie in the same room actually
i dont think there are cliques just people who know each other through, socials, munchs, living in the same area, going to clubs as groups, familiarity from posting in forums or chat rooms all of which builds up a rapport.
i remember being a newbie and seeing the regular posters and going through the having the posts ignored, which i still get sometimes i think we all do, especially during thread hijacking where all the banter is going on, i thought i would never be accepted, i was wrong.
all it takes is a little perserverance, the right attitude and manners, and by the right attitude i mean not going off on a rant or a whinge cos you think there is a clique or you are being ignored.
Earthy xx

31 Jan 2007

Quote by northeastcoupleuk
Well feck me....
1) Srne
2) Mr NEC
3) Mr Powers
4) The Laird
A Bloke's dreamlist :inlove:

Easy Tiger
wink

Northeastcouple, thats a mighty big sig you've got there was till mal stole it the git lol

You smooth talker, you!! :lol2:
Mal
cool

31 Jan 2007

down the road?
i actually think alot of people will come on to this site thinking its yet another sex site, those who have been around realise its more of a community. But some new members can come in and postthe one liner wanna shag posts.
ive been around a long time now and have seen members come in, become post whores, some welcome newbies, some once they feel they have been accepted can actually become smug and attack newbies.
i believe there are groups who are obviousely friends, internet or real life, there can be more banter amongest these people which is obviously going to happen, but they dont exclude others.
its the ones who snap at new people, or who i feel, (from what insight its possible to gain via text in here,) will argue the toss with a members post, even though if one of their friends had raised it it would have not been the case.
not sure if im making sense here??
xx fem xxx

31 Jan 2007

Quote by MikeNorth
I don't think it's cliquey in here. Now down the road....hmmmm.

:smackbottom: how far down the road lol

31 Jan 2007

I belong to a clique................the Pussy Posse :giggle:
and you men STILL ain't getting in flipa

31 Jan 2007

Very short time to post therefore shorthand will be used in this message.
Cliques- bollocks
I feel like an outsider very often these days.
Yer a cliquey bunch - all of ya! ( Good at oxymorons me )
.

31 Jan 2007

Quote by Srne
Its not so much thats theres a clique Bloke although i used to think there was if truth be known, its just that i personally feel that there are people on the site who use it regularly, go on the chatroom the forum and know the people well through munches and socials etc and tend to get on with each other better than others do!!
I have noticed that the longer you stick around and the more frequently you use the site and its features, the better known an familiar you become, like in an office or workplace, if you walked around with your head down and didnt say hi to anyone etc, you could think that there was a clique, although its probably just that the people who you think are in the "clique" are probably just more socially adept and have involved themselves more if that makes sense?
I do however firmly think that there are some people on the site who use their higher social status badly, by either not giving newer people who make the kind of mistakes in posts that im sure we all did at first, a chance, or by taking the "side" of their friends in the occasional little forum battles that crop up more and more infrequently these days!
I think the thing to remember is this is a site used by a broad spectrum of the public, and in this we see the great tapestry of idiosyncrasies that a large collection of people will always have within it. We see friendships, arguments, love interests and flirting, do gooders, not so do gooders and the occasional arse hole, i have decided that il just sit back an enjoy the ride
PS- You can be in the tank top clique with me Bloke!!

Its not so much thats theres a clique Bloke although i used to think there was if truth be known, its just that i personally feel that there are people on the site who use it regularly, go on the chatroom the forum and know the people well through munches and socials etc and tend to get on with each other better than others do!!
I have noticed that the longer you stick around and the more frequently you use the site and its features, the better known an familiar you become, like in an office or workplace, if you walked around with your head down and didnt say hi to anyone etc, you could think that there was a clique, although its probably just that the people who you think are in the "clique" are probably just more socially adept and have involved themselves more if that makes sense? :?
I do however firmly think that there are some people on the site who use their higher social status badly, by either not giving newer people who make the kind of mistakes in posts that im sure we all did at first, a chance, or by taking the "side" of their friends in the occasional little forum battles that crop up more and more infrequently these days!
I think the thing to remember is this is a site used by a broad spectrum of the public, and in this we see the great tapestry of idiosyncrasies that a large collection of people will always have within it. We see friendships, arguments, love interests and flirting, do gooders, not so do gooders and the occasional arse hole, i have decided that il just sit back an enjoy the ride :lol:
PS- You can be in the tank top clique with me Bloke!! :wink:
All my own words that :smug: Yeh they are, the sites playing up and Srne copied me!! :uhoh:
:lol2: I tried to add to it, but couldn't think of anything you hadn't mentioned. Cracking post! :thumbup:

31 Jan 2007

Dont forget the Slag Central clique too! wink

31 Jan 2007

Quote by Hungrypussy69
Dont forget the Slag Central clique too!

And the corrupted by dawnie club innocent

:giggle:

31 Jan 2007

cliques NO
Friends YES
we can't all get on with everyone on here so there will be disagreements
there are also people who have been on here for a number of years who have become friends through munches/ socials/meets
thats all I have to say sorry rolleyes

31 Jan 2007

Quote by hisandhers
cliques NO
Friends YES
we can't all get on with everyone on here so there will be disagreements
there are also people who have been on here for a number of years who have become friends through munches/ socials/meets

:thumbup:

31 Jan 2007

cliques? What's one of them then? When I first joined the site I knew one or two people from another site. I sat and watched the forum world tick by for a few days to get the feel of the place and then slowly eased myself into it.
I wouldn't move house, walk into the nearest pub and expect to be immediately accepted by all the locals anymore than I would arrive on a new site and expect all the regulars to say hi. It takes time to get known, time to get accepted and this forum is no different than everyday life.
Yes there are people on this site I have met and have chatted to, there are a heck of a lot more that I haven't. Does that make me in a clique? No that just makes me an occassional poster on the forum who has taken the time to chat to a few people dunno

31 Jan 2007

whats a "clique" then ? dunno

can i be in one please ? redface

or should i go to the bottom of the garden an eat worms? :silly:

31 Jan 2007

Quote by sercher01
whats a "clique" then ?
can i be in one please ?
or should i go to the bottom of the garden an eat worms? :silly:

slugs are better hun :giggle: