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to your wife/husband or partner that you would like them to join you at a swinging event. how do you broach the subject?
what if there reaction is to start screaming and shouting and calling you a pervert??
what if they say yes ?...after you pick yourself up what do you say?
just a few rambling thoughts from a would be rambler.
I guess it depends on whether they know of your interest in swinging already dunno
I broached the subject of my (then) bi-curiosity with my ex hubby when we were playing a little game. We both listed things we'd like to try someday and I mentioned having sex with another woman. He was a little surprised but very interested ( surprise surprise rolleyes ) Maybe you could try something like that and guage her reaction?
or indeed if she agrees, joins, then views your profile and sees how long you have been a member for :shock: :kick:
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or indeed if she agrees, joins, then views your profile and sees how long you have been a member for :shock: :kick:

If that was me, I'd kill him.
I'd also spend the next week going through his laptop, pockets, MSN/ etc, bank statements etc etc etc.
And he's be on the sofa.
But, hey, that's just me. biggrin
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ah but on the other side of this is the guy who wants his wife to join in, and then finds that she enjoys it more than he does. it happens sometimes. the things people think they want and encourage others to do arn't always so great for them in reality.
whips

Too true! :thumbup:
Sometimes one half of a couple will 'encourage' the other half because they think it might increase their chances of a meet, but then find their partner is having more fun and don't like it.
on reflection i think i`ll stay in the shadows biggrin
Once upon a time, some how, I am not sure how or why my wife and I with another couple decided to play. My wife and I talked about it, but on the night it did not happen the way any of us imagined. The four of us did not let it change our relationship. That was probable a miracle.
Nowadays we play, but not in front of each other.
If you are going to change the rules of your relationship, do it honestly and up front.
Travis
PS No outcome is guaranteed.
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Once upon a time, some how, I am not sure how or why my wife and I with another couple decided to play. My wife and I talked about it, but on the night it did not happen the way any of us imagined. The four of us did not let it change our relationship. That was probable a miracle.
Nowadays we play, but not in front of each other.
If you are going to change the rules of your relationship, do it honestly and up front.
Travis
PS No outcome is guaranteed.

I can relate to what you say. We started by swapping partners with friends about 18 years ago. All our fun happened in separate rooms then. The swinging is a fairly recent thing and I think I prefer to hear what he's been up to rather than witness it first hand. Hearing it described gives me an immense amount of pleasure and turns me on no end. I hope he feels the same but I confess I haven't asked. We haven't really had many experiences yet, but I keep hoping that will change. Obviously, threesomes are a completely different matter :shock: We've had a few and they have all been fun, MMF and FFM, although I think himself marginally prefers to swap as a couple rather than just add one to our number.
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Once upon a time, some how, I am not sure how or why my wife and I with another couple decided to play. My wife and I talked about it, but on the night it did not happen the way any of us imagined. The four of us did not let it change our relationship. That was probable a miracle.
Nowadays we play, but not in front of each other.
If you are going to change the rules of your relationship, do it honestly and up front.
Travis
PS No outcome is guaranteed.

I can relate to what you say. We started by swapping partners with friends about 18 years ago. All our fun happened in separate rooms then. The swinging is a fairly recent thing and I think I prefer to hear what he's been up to rather than witness it first hand. Hearing it described gives me an immense amount of pleasure and turns me on no end. I hope he feels the same but I confess I haven't asked. We haven't really had many experiences yet, but I keep hoping that will change. Obviously, threesomes are a completely different matter :shock: We've had a few and they have all been fun, MMF and FFM, although I think himself marginally prefers to swap as a couple rather than just add one to our number.
Then again when fantasy becomes real we make a discovery, not always the one we want.