Constant Craving

10 Oct 2007

This is a quote from Audrey Hepburn:
“I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it.”
I have contemplated having it in my sig, because it sums me up, and it's what makes me a rubbish swinger! lol

It's a constant, burning craving feeling that I have a heart overflowing with affection, and I need ...something put my emotion into. It's not a nice feeling, it's like a burning ache, makes me tearful sometimes, which is bizarre because I do have people who love me.
I'm guessing that if I had kids, maybe especially a baby, this is the same feeling I would have, but I'd have something to pour it out onto!
Do other people have this? or is it just wind? :lol:

10 Oct 2007

It's wind

Seriously tho, I think too much, I love too much, I care too much... that's always been my trouble, but I'll learn.
I look at my husband and sometimes have this immense feeling of love that feels painful so yes I can understand this Cherry,
At the minute I have a feeling of complete and utter hurt with things going on with my daughter, that is mixed from love and hurt but it will get better I'm sure. :cry:

10 Oct 2007

Wow Cherry, you could be talking about me.
I have this desire, as you say a craving to be loved and cherished. To me its as important as breathing. I need to be loved and liked, and if I feel like someone is upset with me or has fallen out with me, the crushing sadness I feel is unbelievable.
(Experienced this last night, and it destroyed me.......I spent most of the evening grovleing and apologising bacause someone got upset with me over a misunderstanding.
I also love to love, its my nature, I love to make people feel good and special and happy because I care about them so much (even complete strangers like you lot) Which is why I try to make my posts amusing, kind, helpful or funny. I like to think I bring a smile to peoples faces, and I get a warm glow from that. Why, I have no idea whatsoever.
My need to love and nurture and care is evident in the fact I have 4 kids, pets well into double figures, and do voluntary work with kids too. Sometimes, as other posters have said I feel I care too much, and sometimes it works to my detriment, but I think I'd rather be like this that cold and feelingless (is that a word??)

10 Oct 2007

Jaymar :therethere:
Boney for last night :therethere:

10 Oct 2007

I think it's human nature - we all want to be desired/cherished by someone, don't we?
I'd be far more worried by a person who rejected love or affection of any kind, although I imagine that such people exist.

10 Oct 2007

Why is is not enough for your (or my if you lot dont feel the same) nearest and dearest to love you??
Why do I feel the need to be loved by others too?

10 Oct 2007

With me, the feeling is more that I need to put my affections onto someone, not so much that I need it back.
Your question works for both issues, though.

10 Oct 2007

and thanks for my :therethere: Cherry biggrin

Have lots of pets like me Cherry....cheaper than kids lol

10 Oct 2007

Quote by Bonedigger
Why is is not enough for your (or my if you lot dont feel the same) nearest and dearest to love you??
Why do I feel the need to be loved by others too?

Dunno really, suppose we all want to be loved in different ways? Different people offer you different kinds of love, don't they?

Quote by Cherrytree
With me, the feeling is more that I need to put my affections onto someone, not so much that I need it back.

But maybe subconsciously you feel that if you give more, it will be returned?

10 Oct 2007

Races in been busy in my pm box, it seems to work today :bounce:
Thought this was about choccie and sweets...... lol

Sorry Cherry, I cannot add any thing as such...

10 Oct 2007

I have cravings but more physical than emotional, maybe Im just a hard old nut to crack.
Sorry Cherry not much use to you.

10 Oct 2007

Quote by Cherrytree
“I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it.”

Get a cat

10 Oct 2007

I can't, I'm allergic.
I'm a dead loss, really lol

10 Oct 2007

Cherry, if you are allergic, may i recommend snakes or lizards as pets lol

they have no fur, feather or dander to be allergic to!!

10 Oct 2007

Yes but you can't hug 'em, can you - or can you?
I think I need a baby.
I love babies. Not so keen on kids, but LOVE babies. lol

10 Oct 2007

Cherry

I used to be allergic to cats and still am to a certain extent.
I brought a british short haired cat for my ex, but the cat decided she preffered me rotflmao

It was the long molting hair that got me, i never saw my cat for about 9 months but shes been here for about a month and get all my love and cuddles from her at the moment, shes currently on my lap as it type lol

10 Oct 2007

Cherry and a kiss

to all that want one.
I think some people are born to care/love thats just how we are, its almost like a calling but nothing to do with religon. For some of the people that care/love it can be way of copeing i.e whilst they are "giving" they are not focusing on them self's. They take a back seat and put their energys into others and draw on the satisfaction that they get from helping others to fill a personal void/need. After all it can be far easier to help,love or care for others than it can be to do the same for ourselfs.
Self awarness and reflection often will help us undertand why we do what we do and are the way we are. Others can help us decode our feelings but imho only we have the answers to why we are the way we are.
Not sure if that makes any sense,as it seemed much more understandable in my head redface

Nicky
xxxxx

10 Oct 2007

Nicky - wow yes. thanks, you are right. You are totally describing me, I get huge satisfaction doing stuff for people - in a way, it's for selfish reasons - I do it because it makes me feel good.
And to others who have posted, thank you, all very thought provoking kiss

10 Oct 2007

I wouldnt say it was selfish cherry, it's the reward after all being a giver is often a double edged sword and can quite often lead us on a rollercoaster ride of emotions so its natures way of ensuring that people continue to care and in some case's can give people a purpose or some direction in life.....a bit like orgasam to ensure people partake in sex and so inevitably some will produce offspring to continue the human race lol

10 Oct 2007

yeah u can cuddle em cherry
this is one of my water dragons Tubbs, enjoying a cuddle, he loves them.

10 Oct 2007

Cherry hun this sounds to me as if you have a classic case of body clock going into overdrive. Ive been here 4 times and your symptoms are classic.
I can't offer you an immediate solution but I can give you this kiss

10 Oct 2007

Boney - great pic!
Fire - yes I think you might be right. Hadn't thought about that before now, but yes it strikes a chord in me.
kiss

10 Oct 2007

Quote by firelizard
Cherry hun this sounds to me as if you have a classic case of body clock going into overdrive. Ive been here 4 times and your symptoms are classic.
I can't offer you an immediate solution but I can give you this

I can offer an immediate solution….. :smug:
Oh…..no…hang on ……I had the snip didn’t I. :doh:

10 Oct 2007

:shock: children :scared:

10 Oct 2007

Quote by LondonPlaything
:shock: children :scared:

children are nothing to be scared of......
its the emotions of caring for/loving them that scare the bejesus out of you.

10 Oct 2007

Winey :therethere:

10 Oct 2007

I think I fit into this one!! Its very much sums up a pisces I reckon! Or me anyway hhehe
Do you think its more a woman thing???
Nice to see you Nicky, been an age kiss

Quote by swing_fun_cpl
Cherry and a :kiss: to all that want one.
I think some people are born to care/love thats just how we are, its almost like a calling but nothing to do with religon. For some of the people that care/love it can be way of copeing i.e whilst they are "giving" they are not focusing on them self's. They take a back seat and put their energys into others and draw on the satisfaction that they get from helping others to fill a personal void/need. After all it can be far easier to help,love or care for others than it can be to do the same for ourselfs.
Self awarness and reflection often will help us undertand why we do what we do and are the way we are. Others can help us decode our feelings but imho only we have the answers to why we are the way we are.
Not sure if that makes any sense,as it seemed much more understandable in my head
Nicky
xxxxx

11 Oct 2007

Anais, you lovely woman you.
It's definitely not just a woman thing to be what I call a "care-giver" - I had a male mate a while back who was exactly the same. He ended up marrying a girl who was very needy because (in my opinion) she seemed like the perfect solution to his need to give and to support. And it worked quite well for a while - but unfortunately fell apart eventually, despite them having a child together, probably because the constant giving just wore him out. It's definitely not easy being a care-giver ... but thank God for all of you, that's what I say.
Russell

11 Oct 2007

I am a total huglsut, I have my head shaved, and at munches, some people cant resist stroking it
I love affection, both giving and receiving, but only to those that means something to me, and there are times that I feel having that mentality doesn't belong here
But, people are here for different reasons, why shouldn't they go for what they want?