Yesterday, near to where I live, there was a fatal stabbing. This morning I called the police, as I had been wrestling with myself to wether the information I had would be relevant to them or not. It turned out it might have been, as it may have helped established a timeline. But I feel really shaken up and nervous about it.
The other thing that has happened, and it may seem trivial to some, is that a light was stolen out of my front garden. It had been there three years, in memory of my late husband. I am still feeling pretty upset about it. The thing is, is that the light meant something to me, but the person stealing it wouldn't have known the significance of it. It has also un-nerved me, as it was right by my front door, and they would have had to come right up to the house to steal it. :shock:
There is no point in asking the question, why do people steal, as there are many reasons, I just wish that the people who do it, would think of what happens to the people that they steal from. I feel ok when I have someone with me, but still a little shaky when I'm alone, but I know that will pass over time.
What do you guys think? Has something happened to you in the past that still bothers or affects the way that you do things? If you don't feel that you can post here, please PM me, and I will answer all PM's as quickly as I can.
Thank you xx
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Crime, who does it really affect?
I had around £2000 worth of jewelry stolen recently and that was mates rates estimate you could almost double the price for the shop window. My childrens things some of which were birth gifts and virtually all my stuff.
Worst thing about this is that it has to be someone I know. I wasn't burgalled and a sneak thief may get in but only through the back which means with my dog they are not getting out again without something remaining behind.
I've always been a good friend whenever I can. I've given bags of food out of my cupboards and freezer to mates that have had nothing in the past. Given money when I haven't enough myself and generally been there whenever I'm needed for a shoulder to cry on. One person that knew me for about 6 months recently said I'm the best mate he'd ever had, it could even be him so as you can imagine it's a real head fu*k.
Bonnie was just as hurt as I was fortunately she didn't lose anything as she's not really a jewelry wearer, only like myself trust. We don't even like to talk to people about it as we may be confiding in the thief.
I've even given people the chance to give it back anonymously and thought to myself I would forgive them for they must have been desperate to steal from me.
I do have my suspicions but what can you do.
Clyde
Worst thing about this is that it has to be someone I know. I wasn't burgalled and a sneak thief may get in but only through the back which means with my dog they are not getting out again without something remaining behind.
I've always been a good friend whenever I can. I've given bags of food out of my cupboards and freezer to mates that have had nothing in the past. Given money when I haven't enough myself and generally been there whenever I'm needed for a shoulder to cry on. One person that knew me for about 6 months recently said I'm the best mate he'd ever had, it could even be him so as you can imagine it's a real head fu*k.
Bonnie was just as hurt as I was fortunately she didn't lose anything as she's not really a jewelry wearer, only like myself trust. We don't even like to talk to people about it as we may be confiding in the thief.
I've even given people the chance to give it back anonymously and thought to myself I would forgive them for they must have been desperate to steal from me.
I do have my suspicions but what can you do.
Clyde
Several years ago i had the misfortune to shout at a youth who was trying to smash a neighbours windscreen in (just for the fun of it i might add).
His reaction.....he turned, walked backed to my house and proceeded to start kicking in my front door with his size 12 whilst i quaked behind it and phoning the police.
He was caught just down the road but the day before the court case we were told it wasnt going to be heard. Apparently the little wotsit had put his hands up to about another 80 offences and as mine was considered a "minor offence" it wasnt going to appear in court as a seperate case.
My reaction was one of total disbelief, i never managed to get the marks of his shoe prints off my door, so i had a constant reminder of being in fear of my life and i wasnt going to have the chance to face this guy in court and tell him just how afraid he had made me - i had refused to go out by myself for weeks after that and being alone in the house was a big no no.
After that i lost my faith in the justice system, it may have been a minor case to them but a major event in my life. And i guess at the end of the day i just felt i needed to front up to this guy and take the control back from him.
What it has taught me though is that there are a lot of to***rs in the world. There is no explaining or even understanding what goes through their heads when they commit stupid acts of crime but that we are the bigger person than them when we come to terms with it and continue with our lives.
Dont let the buggers win but at the same time dont beat yourself up too much about feeling like this at the moment. Its a natural human reaction but it will pass.
tc
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His reaction.....he turned, walked backed to my house and proceeded to start kicking in my front door with his size 12 whilst i quaked behind it and phoning the police.
He was caught just down the road but the day before the court case we were told it wasnt going to be heard. Apparently the little wotsit had put his hands up to about another 80 offences and as mine was considered a "minor offence" it wasnt going to appear in court as a seperate case.
My reaction was one of total disbelief, i never managed to get the marks of his shoe prints off my door, so i had a constant reminder of being in fear of my life and i wasnt going to have the chance to face this guy in court and tell him just how afraid he had made me - i had refused to go out by myself for weeks after that and being alone in the house was a big no no.
After that i lost my faith in the justice system, it may have been a minor case to them but a major event in my life. And i guess at the end of the day i just felt i needed to front up to this guy and take the control back from him.
What it has taught me though is that there are a lot of to***rs in the world. There is no explaining or even understanding what goes through their heads when they commit stupid acts of crime but that we are the bigger person than them when we come to terms with it and continue with our lives.
Dont let the buggers win but at the same time dont beat yourself up too much about feeling like this at the moment. Its a natural human reaction but it will pass.
tc
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Clyde - Sorry to hear this hun. Tis a crappy feeling not knowing who you can trust, especially when you sound like you've been a really good friend to everyone.
Try not to let one of those people (if indeed it was a friend) spoil it for you or for the rest of your mates. They'll show their true colours sooner or later but in the meantime dont go eating yaself up with questions or suspicions or begin to mistrust everyone you come into contact with because that would be the greatest tragedy in all of this.
Try not to let one of those people (if indeed it was a friend) spoil it for you or for the rest of your mates. They'll show their true colours sooner or later but in the meantime dont go eating yaself up with questions or suspicions or begin to mistrust everyone you come into contact with because that would be the greatest tragedy in all of this.
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Several years ago i had the misfortune to shout at a youth who was trying to smash a neighbours windscreen in (just for the fun of it i might add).
His reaction.....he turned, walked backed to my house and proceeded to start kicking in my front door with his size 12 whilst i quaked behind it and phoning the police.
He was caught just down the road but the day before the court case we were told it wasnt going to be heard. Apparently the little wotsit had put his hands up to about another 80 offences and as mine was considered a "minor offence" it wasnt going to appear in court as a seperate case.
My reaction was one of total disbelief, i never managed to get the marks of his shoe prints off my door, so i had a constant reminder of being in fear of my life and i wasnt going to have the chance to face this guy in court and tell him just how afraid he had made me - i had refused to go out by myself for weeks after that and being alone in the house was a big no no.
After that i lost my faith in the justice system, it may have been a minor case to them but a major event in my life. And i guess at the end of the day i just felt i needed to front up to this guy and take the control back from him.
What it has taught me though is that there are a lot of to***rs in the world. There is no explaining or even understanding what goes through their heads when they commit stupid acts of crime but that we are the bigger person than them when we come to terms with it and continue with our lives.
Dont let the buggers win but at the same time dont beat yourself up too much about feeling like this at the moment. Its a natural human reaction but it will pass.
tc
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Your right there.
Yours is not an isolated case, in fact I bet zillions of people can tell similar tales.
The justice system is geared up to be in favour of the criminal now....and don't they know it.
Eventually.....one day......that person who has done you wrong WILL be paid back. I know that is no consolation to you, as you will no doubt never see it but.....it will happen.
I have even had things stolen from my Mothers grave. Last year I put lots of new flowers down and plants. Three weeks later I took my disabled Father to visit the grave, thinking it would be in full bloom. Imagine the shock to both of us to find all the plants and flowers had been nicked.
Still I am happy in that fact that I hope the little bugger gets testicular cancer of the balls, and they fall off.
I am sorry to learn of the trauma suffered by contributors to this thread.
I've had a few incidents over the years. Looking back I think I would have benefited enormously from some kind of professional emotional help and I can thoroughly understand the wish to confront the perpetrator. I have no idea what the current victim support arrangements are but If its affecting your daily life you can always see your GP.
Big Hug, Good luck.
I've had a few incidents over the years. Looking back I think I would have benefited enormously from some kind of professional emotional help and I can thoroughly understand the wish to confront the perpetrator. I have no idea what the current victim support arrangements are but If its affecting your daily life you can always see your GP.
Big Hug, Good luck.
excellent team.
sorry to hear of what you've been through, i know it makes you angery to think someone has taken the light without any consideration of the impact, but turn that around into try not to feel scared by it as exactly above the morons did not even consider what they were doing, so didnt actually mean to make you feel threatened.
does that make sense?
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