From what I know of it, it's more of an S&M / Power Exchange thing than a swinging thing. The people involved are often in a femdom relationship, where humiliation is part of that particular couple's kink. It's often combined with chastity play - the woman having sexual control of the man's release.
Seems mental to me, but it takes all sorts.
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Quote by Lost
Must admit that I'm not confused about things here though
This is of coarse the main reason we are here at all, (See our profile) For many years I had this very strange fantasy of watching the wife with another man.....
We spoke about it, play acted it out for a long, long time. We then joined here and hung around watching, reading, and listening to others. Then talking to others and researching the subject. It is far more popular than you might think. There were some worries, like how would I feel when it really came to the real thing, what if he seamed to satisfy the wife better than me, and many more such thoughts. But when we Finlay did try it out, all such problems disappeared and we both enjoyed it very much.
Some times I just watch, video, photograph, some times I join in with a threesome. - It's just so fu*king horny! And the sex between you and the Mrs afterwards is amazing. Usually far better than the sex she just had with the other guy too, Thats not saying the sex she's just had isn't good in fact the better it is the better the sex between us is after.
I am NOT, how ever a cuckold, as I have no wish to be humiliated in any way what so ever - Couldn't agree more with this Pisses my right off. The only things that would happen if someone tried to humiliate me is that the Mrs would probably castrate him with whatever implement was at hand. (Castration by bedside light would not be pretty) Together with his own humiliation in having to limp down the street without his trolleys on.
Totally in sync with this post bluefish :thumbup:
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Quote by tweeky
What brought it on? 6 years of being here, some of the people we have known and some of the dramas that have unfolded regardless of all the communication and precautions.
Is it not a risk all swinger take, comes with the territory kind of thing?
Yes for sure. From what I have seen though in the main part is couples split that could be for any reason and nout to do with swinging. Have known of quite a few married or in a relationship partners to run off with the single but hardly seen any couples split with one going off with the other part of a couple. I am sure it does happen but I would guess it happens more when you start to play with singles maybe even more so when thats multiple experinces with the same singles. That is the scenario in which I have known most break ups to happen.
I guess that makes sense really, but its a chance we have to take if we wish to partake in these games. Just like many things in life, it comes with a risk, one each couple/person, have to asses and make their decision.
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I guess that makes sense really, but its a chance we have to take if we wish to partake in these games. Just like many things in life, it comes with a risk, one each couple/person, have to asses and make their decision.
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being involved with the cuckold thing is no more of a danger of your other half straying with that person, than all the others on here who advertise seperate room fun.
in this swinging scene there has to be a complete and utter trust between the parties. to be honest i know mrs star would never do something along those lines and i have to say i possibly would be a little tiny bit pissed off if a bloke i had invited into my home tried to get more than i was willing to give.
i would deam that rude and bang out of order and he could well leeve my house with a bit more than he came into it with. something black springs to mind. :twisted:
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Quote by starlightcouple
I guess that makes sense really, but its a chance we have to take if we wish to partake in these games. Just like many things in life, it comes with a risk, one each couple/person, have to asses and make their decision.
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being involved with the cuckold thing is no more of a danger of your other half straying with that person, than all the others on here who advertise seperate room fun.
in this swinging scene there has to be a complete and utter trust between the parties. to be honest i know mrs star would never do something along those lines and i have to say i possibly would be a little tiny bit pissed off if a bloke i had invited into my home tried to get more than i was willing to give.
i would deam that rude and bang out of order and he could well leeve my house with a bit more than he came into it with. something black springs to mind. :twisted:
Maybe you have not experienced it yet but some certainly do given half an oppertunity. We have even had the male half of one couple we met offer his own services without his lady friend.
Cuckolding has to many different meaning and variations nowadays for anyone to be right or wrong to what cuckolding actually means. What your fantasy maybe about cuckolding could be nothing like what the so called “Bull” considers cuckolding is. After having a bad experience with cuckolding I would suggest you play an active role in planning and controlling any meets. It can and does go wrong sometimes when you invite another man into your family nest.
It can be fun if you all keep it under control and to plan but the minute one of the 3 sees it any other way make sure you can put a stop to it or the “Bull” will put a stop to your happiness.
It can be fun if you all keep it under control and to plan but the minute one of the 3 sees it any other way make sure you can put a stop to it or the “Bull” will put a stop to your happiness.
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being involved with the cuckold thing is no more of a danger of your other half straying with that person, than all the others on here who advertise seperate room fun.
in this swinging scene there has to be a complete and utter trust between the parties. to be honest i know mrs star would never do something along those lines and i have to say i possibly would be a little tiny bit pissed off if a bloke i had invited into my home tried to get more than i was willing to give.
i would deam that rude and bang out of order and he could well leeve my house with a bit more than he came into it with. something black springs to mind. :twisted:
Trust is the key to this. I have had my wife warn me that it would be dangerous for her to see a regular threesome buddy on her own. I was kind of disappointed as I was really encouraging her to do this (at this stage we only did threesomes and I was getting more and more desperate for her to have a meet with him on her own) but understood that I should not push it. She never did see that particular guy on her own but we often still fantasise about it.
Coming back to original question, we also tried at first to answer the question "Why?" but realised that was as pointless as trying to explain the meaning of life - by the time you find out, you will probably be dead (or even worse, no longer able to have sex). So now we just enjoy it. It is a wonderful juicy part of our sex life. It is always arranged by me, not as a security idea as someone suggested, although it serves that purpose. Once we are in a scene with a guy, she really loves it and every now and again she takes the lead and suggests that I set something up with someone. That really turns me on.
After many years, I still get hugely turned on by the idea of her being on her own with a guy who turns her on and love hearing her talk about the times (sadly not that many) when she has done that. In a threesome scenario I love to watch the two of them, joining when I feel like it (I don't look like Mr Bean, so it wasn't me that someone on here met).
Like everyone who has contributed to this thread, we have no interest in the idea of humiliation of anyone ever and no-one has ever tried it once we have met. We have weeded out quite a few guys who have approached it in that way, though, before we met them.
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Quote by couple_uk
being involved with the cuckold thing is no more of a danger of your other half straying with that person, than all the others on here who advertise seperate room fun.
in this swinging scene there has to be a complete and utter trust between the parties. to be honest i know mrs star would never do something along those lines and i have to say i possibly would be a little tiny bit pissed off if a bloke i had invited into my home tried to get more than i was willing to give.
i would deam that rude and bang out of order and he could well leeve my house with a bit more than he came into it with. something black springs to mind. :twisted:
Trust is the key to this. I have had my wife warn me that it would be dangerous for her to see a regular threesome buddy on her own. I was kind of disappointed as I was really encouraging her to do this (at this stage we only did threesomes and I was getting more and more desperate for her to have a meet with him on her own) but understood that I should not push it. She never did see that particular guy on her own but we often still fantasise about it.
Coming back to original question, we also tried at first to answer the question "Why?" but realised that was as pointless as trying to explain the meaning of life - by the time you find out, you will probably be dead (or even worse, no longer able to have sex). So now we just enjoy it. It is a wonderful juicy part of our sex life. It is always arranged by me, not as a security idea as someone suggested, although it serves that purpose. Once we are in a scene with a guy, she really loves it and every now and again she takes the lead and suggests that I set something up with someone. That really turns me on.
After many years, I still get hugely turned on by the idea of her being on her own with a guy who turns her on and love hearing her talk about the times (sadly not that many) when she has done that. In a threesome scenario I love to watch the two of them, joining when I feel like it (I don't look like Mr Bean, so it wasn't me that someone on here met).
Like everyone who has contributed to this thread, we have no interest in the idea of humiliation of anyone ever and no-one has ever tried it once we have met. We have weeded out quite a few guys who have approached it in that way, though, before we met them.
An interesting statement the part in bold. Why was this? Suggests to me that your wife was already having additional feelings other than sexual towards that person? Just my own point of view but if feelings are getting past sexual in your threesomes then its all probably laced with danger. If Mrs Tweeky were to announce similar there would be no swingining of any kind for quite some time.
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One thing that has been mentioned but worth pointing out. WHat should people do if they like it too much?
I know there are fears and doubts etc, but the opposite is worth thinking about too ;o)
I know there are fears and doubts etc, but the opposite is worth thinking about too ;o)
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I know you don't approve of cheating Tweeks. up to a point you can govern people's behaviour, but it crosses a line to think that thoughts and feelings can be scrutinised or even controlled?
I can only go by my own experience. I know that I can walk into a room with a lady I am attracted too and know its just about sex. I know that even if they are very nice they make me laugh and seem like someone I would get on with in other situations its still just about sex. I can walk out of the room at the end of that night and know thats it. Maybe its mindset? As thats what I have set out to do prior to going out. If people cant do that then swinging will always be problematic. Also just my own point of view but again I think its good to vary it up in the swinging world not stick around the same playmates. Varying it up at the start gets you used to the swapping idea and makes it more about the sex rather than forming bonds with specific singles or couples. And I dont get the cheating ref Duncan?
I dont think you can enjoy it too much Derek
Unless its not right already on the home front. For us sex at home is often better than the sex we have swinging and especially better just after swinging :twisted: Thats because we know each others buttons and others dont. The last paragraph could lead me on to the subject of men who will do this and that to your Mrs but then cant :lol: Thats why I dont make to many promises or over exagerted caht with females of couples before we meet. Like I say, thats another topic though.
