since getting into this scene with mrs starlight i have been fasinated by the whole cuckold thing.
we are looking at all avenues to this.
what has happened to me over the last few months?
are there any other peeple here who have gone into that bit of the scene? am i going mad by wanting to see mrs star shagged by another guy whilst i only watch?
i am confused.
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Orgasminator
We tried it. The reality for us wasn't as good as the fantasy.
Don't get me wrong, it wasn't bad - just not for us. We still enjoy elements tho.
There are websites that will help you out. Swinging sites aren't really the place to be looking. All you find are so called self proclaimed 'bull's' who really don't have a clue what it's all about, just want to fuck your wife with no regard for what's in it for you.
Choose carefully tho and you'll have a ball.
*Her*
Don't get me wrong, it wasn't bad - just not for us. We still enjoy elements tho.
There are websites that will help you out. Swinging sites aren't really the place to be looking. All you find are so called self proclaimed 'bull's' who really don't have a clue what it's all about, just want to fuck your wife with no regard for what's in it for you.
Choose carefully tho and you'll have a ball.
*Her*
Sex God
Like most of the guys around I was always happy to shag another man's wife while he watched, although my personal preference is when both guys go to work on the lady. I think that the true concept of cuckolding has as much to do with humiliating the husband by shagging his wife for him....but of course there are many variations in all of our pshycs....In fact most guys would prefer to see their wife pleasured by some nice guy who's likely to become a pal, or on the other hand by some young stud who just turns up and gives her a good seeing to and then leaves.
It's really a case of testing yourselves to see what is the most fulfilling for you and your partner....and talk about it too because you may find out that you have different preferences.
Good luck with it all, I hope you have lots of fun finding your own niche.
It's really a case of testing yourselves to see what is the most fulfilling for you and your partner....and talk about it too because you may find out that you have different preferences.
Good luck with it all, I hope you have lots of fun finding your own niche.
Sex God
Quote by starlightcouple
since getting into this scene with mrs starlight i have been fasinated by the whole cuckold thing.
we are looking at all avenues to this.
what has happened to me over the last few months?
are there any other peeple here who have gone into that bit of the scene? am i going mad by wanting to see mrs star shagged by another guy whilst i only watch?
i am confused.
Join the club of the confused club Star!!
This is of coarse the main reason we are here at all, (See our profile) For many years I had this very strange fantasy of watching the wife with another man.....
We spoke about it, play acted it out for a long, long time. We then joined here and hung around watching, reading, and listening to others. Then talking to others and researching the subject. It is far more popular than you might think. There were some worries, like how would I feel when it really came to the real thing, what if he seamed to satisfy the wife better than me, and many more such thoughts. But when we Finlay did try it out, all such problems disappeared and we both enjoyed it very much.
Some times I just watch, video, photograph, some times I join in with a threesome.
I am NOT, how ever a cuckold, as I have no wish to be humiliated in any way what so ever
I feel Star that it only fare to warn you that it was just after this time I had this urge to follow Fox Hunting!!!! :-x:-x
Sex God
Quote by couplefunuk
We tried it. The reality for us wasn't as good as the fantasy.
Don't get me wrong, it wasn't bad - just not for us. We still enjoy elements tho.
There are websites that will help you out. Swinging sites aren't really the place to be looking. All you find are so called self proclaimed 'bull's' who really don't have a clue what it's all about, just want to fuck your wife with no regard for what's in it for you.
Choose carefully tho and you'll have a ball.
*Her*
I wonder if you know of some good sites, on this subject, if such info could be placed in our inbox?
Sex God
Quote by starlightcouple
I feel Star that it only fare to warn you that it was just after this time I had this urge to follow Fox Hunting!!!! :-x:-x
OMG bluefish.
i think i shall take up knitting
:laughabove::laughabove::laughabove::laughabove:
Sex God
A threesome I get the cuckolding thing I dont really get. We have done threesome a few times over the years to me its just group sex. We both enjoy the experience Mrs Tweeky I guess more than me as in that scenario she gets all the attention. We did have one guy who started to try a little humiliation but didnt last long as he kept getting answered back Being humiliated does not appeal and similarly neither does being a bull. I cant imagine humiliatiing someone whilst doing their wife, would probably find it too comical and start laughing or something.
Guess this is just one area of swinging I'll never be able to comprehend the attraction of.
Being humiliated does not appeal and similarly neither does being a bull. I cant imagine humiliatiing someone whilst doing their wife, would probably find it too comical and start laughing or something.Guess this is just one area of swinging I'll never be able to comprehend the attraction of.
Orgasminator
Quote by starlightcouple
are there any other peeple here who have gone into that bit of the scene? am i going mad by wanting to see mrs star shagged by another guy whilst i only watch?
i am confused.
Have quite enjoyed my limited experience of the cuckold scene, its a little strange at first but it became obvious everyone involved was getting something from it and I soon started to see a certain attraction to it.
I cant say what drives all those involved in this scene. I can say in the situations I have been in there was a subtle sense of her degrading and chastising him to add to her expressionn of gratitude for him allowing it to happen.
"Not only are you letting me fuck someone else, but you are letting me fuck someone else younger, fitter and with a bigger cock than yours and im fucking loving it!"
There are people who get off on utter humiliation and abuse during cuckolding, I think that would be a step to far even for my broad taste in naughtiness :rascal:
You are certainly not alone and if its something you feel you would both enjoy then all you can do is discuss what kind of level you would like to take it to and try and find someone to match your needs.
Im sure you wont be short of offers, if you are ill let you know when im next working in London ;)
Master of Sex
Isn't getting pleasure from watching your wife with another man Wilholdry? Cuckoldry takes things a stage further.
Orgasminator
Quote by Jewlnmart
Isn't getting pleasure from watching your wife with another man Wilholdry? Cuckoldry takes things a stage further.
Ooh dunno, ill check the book of 'curious pleasures' when I get home
I once had a guy who sat in a chair in the corner and said and did nothing while I got down and dirty with his wife, he barely said a word to either of us in the 2 hours I was there, creeped me out a little :uhoh:
He looked a bit like Mr Bean too which kinda of put me off! :lol2:
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I once had a guy who sat in a chair in the corner and said and did nothing while I got down and dirty with his wife, he barely said a word to either of us in the 2 hours I was there, creeped me out a little :uhoh:
He looked a bit like Mr Bean too which kinda of put me off! :lol2:
In my defence, Top Gear was on.
We play MMF and sometimes multiple MF. I have also observed others enjoying similar situations in clubs. There are, from my experience and observations, as many sources of enjoyment from these scenarios as there are swingers.
As is so often the case, folk who don't understand other motivations sometimes seek to judge. Just as men who proclaim there bisexuality can be judged to be less manly so those who enjoy watching there missus shagging can be judged to be enjoying humiliation. Neither is necessarily true of course.
I try very hard to understand what others enjoy. I find the best way is to try it and see how I feel after.
Sex God
Quote by Bluefish2009
Must admit that I'm not confused about things here though
This is of coarse the main reason we are here at all, (See our profile) For many years I had this very strange fantasy of watching the wife with another man.....
We spoke about it, play acted it out for a long, long time. We then joined here and hung around watching, reading, and listening to others. Then talking to others and researching the subject. It is far more popular than you might think. There were some worries, like how would I feel when it really came to the real thing, what if he seamed to satisfy the wife better than me, and many more such thoughts. But when we Finlay did try it out, all such problems disappeared and we both enjoyed it very much.
Some times I just watch, video, photograph, some times I join in with a threesome. - It's just so fu*king horny! And the sex between you and the Mrs afterwards is amazing. Usually far better than the sex she just had with the other guy too, Thats not saying the sex she's just had isn't good in fact the better it is the better the sex between us is after.
I am NOT, how ever a cuckold, as I have no wish to be humiliated in any way what so ever - Couldn't agree more with this Pisses my right off. The only things that would happen if someone tried to humiliate me is that the Mrs would probably castrate him with whatever implement was at hand. (Castration by bedside light would not be pretty) Together with his own humiliation in having to limp down the street without his trolleys on.
Totally in sync with this post bluefish :thumbup:
Quote by Ben_Minx
We play MMF and sometimes multiple MF. I have also observed others enjoying similar situations in clubs. There are, from my experience and observations, as many sources of enjoyment from these scenarios as there are swingers.
As is so often the case, folk who don't understand other motivations sometimes seek to judge. Just as men who proclaim there bisexuality can be judged to be less manly so those who enjoy watching there missus shagging can be judged to be enjoying humiliation. Neither is necessarily true of course.
I try very hard to understand what others enjoy. I find the best way is to try it and see how I feel after.
could not agree more ben.
we have met a guy from another site and mrs star has played with him with me there. in fact we have played as a three sum and it was all great. I loved the watching her suck his big cock and then watched as he fucked her hard. i loved it.
i have no desire to be humiliated at all by the guy but love it if the wife afterwards tell me me how much bigger his cock was, or how great he fucks, a huge turn on indeed.
now though i would love to stay downstairs while he fucks her upstairs without me being there, just listening. just writting this makes no sense at all to me. this guy is young and fit and has a very large cock which mrs star loves, but am i taking this too far?
i am confused but fucking horny about the whole thing. he is coming over on saturday and mrs star wants to fuck him alone and tell me about it, but she is having trouble deeling with it as well.
Sex God
Quote by starlightcouple
now though i would love to stay downstairs while he fucks her upstairs without me being there, just listening. just writting this makes no sense at all to me. this guy is young and fit and has a very large cock which mrs star loves, but am i taking this too far?
i am confused but fucking horny about the whole thing. he is coming over on saturday and mrs star wants to fuck him alone and tell me about it, but she is having trouble deeling with it as well.
The problem with trying any new thing is that you never know if you're going to like it until you try it but then you can never take it back if you don't like it.
We have both done the scenario that you are suggesting, one of us going upstairs with a single while the other is downstairs and listening. It can be a really horny experience. I wouldn't class that as cuckholding though but we each have our own definition hey.
Why not have a chat and if you both like the idea you could agree that if you don't like it, then neither of you will have any issues from it, you will just agree to not do it again. You could even agree on a safeword or phrase. Something like "I'm gonna put the kettle on love, do you want a brew?" That way if you're downstairs and you're not liking what is going on upstairs you can just say the phrase through the door. You all know what it means and play will stop but no one has to actually say "Can we stop now, because I'm really not enjoying this!" and then that way there is no awkwardness or hard feelings.
Just a thought
Quote by Funlovers2009
now though i would love to stay downstairs while he fucks her upstairs without me being there, just listening. just writting this makes no sense at all to me. this guy is young and fit and has a very large cock which mrs star loves, but am i taking this too far?
i am confused but fucking horny about the whole thing. he is coming over on saturday and mrs star wants to fuck him alone and tell me about it, but she is having trouble deeling with it as well.
The problem with trying any new thing is that you never know if you're going to like it until you try it but then you can never take it back if you don't like it.
We have both done the scenario that you are suggesting, one of us going upstairs with a single while the other is downstairs and listening. It can be a really horny experience. I wouldn't class that as cuckholding though but we each have our own definition hey.
Why not have a chat and if you both like the idea you could agree that if you don't like it, then neither of you will have any issues from it, you will just agree to not do it again. You could even agree on a safeword or phrase. Something like "I'm gonna put the kettle on love, do you want a brew?" That way if you're downstairs and you're not liking what is going on upstairs you can just say the phrase through the door. You all know what it means and play will stop but no one has to actually say "Can we stop now, because I'm really not enjoying this!" and then that way there is no awkwardness or hard feelings.
Just a thought
your thoughts are noted. thanks
Sex God
Quote by starlightcouple
We play MMF and sometimes multiple MF. I have also observed others enjoying similar situations in clubs. There are, from my experience and observations, as many sources of enjoyment from these scenarios as there are swingers.
As is so often the case, folk who don't understand other motivations sometimes seek to judge. Just as men who proclaim there bisexuality can be judged to be less manly so those who enjoy watching there missus shagging can be judged to be enjoying humiliation. Neither is necessarily true of course.
I try very hard to understand what others enjoy. I find the best way is to try it and see how I feel after.
could not agree more ben.
we have met a guy from another site and mrs star has played with him with me there. in fact we have played as a three sum and it was all great. I loved the watching her suck his big cock and then watched as he fucked her hard. i loved it.
i have no desire to be humiliated at all by the guy but love it if the wife afterwards tell me me how much bigger his cock was, or how great he fucks, a huge turn on indeed.
now though i would love to stay downstairs while he fucks her upstairs without me being there, just listening. just writting this makes no sense at all to me. this guy is young and fit and has a very large cock which mrs star loves, but am i taking this too far?
i am confused but fucking horny about the whole thing. he is coming over on saturday and mrs star wants to fuck him alone and tell me about it, but she is having trouble deeling with it as well.
We went through all these emotions also Star, we have also played the separate room fun, even once at a hotel we met a regular in the bar, I sat at a table near by as they pretended to meet for the first time, he chatted up the wife and then she took him to our room while I stayed in the bar. We also had a video set up on a tripod which the wife pressed record on as they walked into the room, for me to watch later. We would only go to these lengths with some one we had met many times and trust 100%
I have no idea why this is such a turn on, but have reached a point now of not caring why and we both just enjoy
As funlovers said a safe word is a must. We always have a safe word for every meet, in particular with new people! Some times a safe word is just not enough, one young man had to be told, in no uncertain terms that it was safe sex only. He removed his condom and thought no one would notice, I did and he never got to finish the fun he had hoped for!!
:-x Sex God
Quote by Lost
Must admit that I'm not confused about things here though
This is of coarse the main reason we are here at all, (See our profile) For many years I had this very strange fantasy of watching the wife with another man.....
We spoke about it, play acted it out for a long, long time. We then joined here and hung around watching, reading, and listening to others. Then talking to others and researching the subject. It is far more popular than you might think. There were some worries, like how would I feel when it really came to the real thing, what if he seamed to satisfy the wife better than me, and many more such thoughts. But when we Finlay did try it out, all such problems disappeared and we both enjoyed it very much.
Some times I just watch, video, photograph, some times I join in with a threesome. - It's just so fu*king horny! And the sex between you and the Mrs afterwards is amazing. Usually far better than the sex she just had with the other guy too, Thats not saying the sex she's just had isn't good in fact the better it is the better the sex between us is after.
I am NOT, how ever a cuckold, as I have no wish to be humiliated in any way what so ever - Couldn't agree more with this Pisses my right off. The only things that would happen if someone tried to humiliate me is that the Mrs would probably castrate him with whatever implement was at hand. (Castration by bedside light would not be pretty) Together with his own humiliation in having to limp down the street without his trolleys on.
Totally in sync with this post bluefish :thumbup:
:thumbup::thumbup:
I was so supprised when I discovered that lots of people enjoyed this kind of thing, before we found our way here I thought I was very odd
Orgasminator
Quote by Ben_Minx
In my defence, Top Gear was on.
Was about 5 years ago when Top gear was still good and Dave didnt show repeats ad nauseum Ben, I would never have booked a meet when it was on back then :lol2:
Quote by Jewlnmart
Isn't getting pleasure from watching your wife with another man Wilholdry? Cuckoldry takes things a stage further.
Cant find anything about 'wilholdry' but found 'Wittol' is another word for cuckold.
Ill hold off on adding wilholdry to my CV until the folks at the Oxford dictionary of filth get back to me ;)
Apparently a cuckold is simply any man whos wife has commited adultery so I supose my experience of being involved in this is not as limited as I had first imagined.
I must say I prefer the more relaxed and comfortable experience which excludes the humiliation aspect and includes a chat, a few drinks and mutual respect - but I love variety and I am pretty happy to go further when the need arises.
I think being made a cuckold involves cheating by the wife, under the direction of the adulterous male. So going out swinging with this idea in mind isn't the same thing, its just play acting or role play designed to create a set of feelings and responses.
its a development from what in reality is a threat to many a couple. its not something one would want to bring on for real.
But its fun for some, so whatever.....................
its a development from what in reality is a threat to many a couple. its not something one would want to bring on for real.
But its fun for some, so whatever.....................
Sex God
Just be careful with the fun! There have been and will be again members who's significant other ventured into rooms alone with other partners for sexy fun and then ventured off into the wild blue yonder with said new partner/s or just for the joy of sex. Has happened to all couple types long/short/with kids/So perfect we would be together forever. The thing is with relationships its like everything else they change. No one can be certain when that I want to fuck you feeling turns to a I want to sleep in your bed all night feeling. I hope thats never the case for anyone here but sadly it has and will happen again. Take whatever steps you can to make sure its not you.
Orgasminator
^^^ whoa there tweaky fella, what brought this on?? :shock:
While Im sure this does happen, if a couple do the smart discuss and plan thing, setting ground rules before hand they can reduce the chances of emotions getting the better of them and it turning illicit.
1) Only phone contact goes through the guys mobile number, if guy to gal chat is required it can still go through his mobile (or if situation reversed and couple meeting a single fem then the ladies exchange numbers)
2) Set message notification on the site to go to the guys (or womans) email address, so they know it is unlikely contact can be made without their partner getting a whiff of it.
You dont think us genuine, honest, single, wife ravishing, rampant, horny single males have it tough enough trying to get our dose of dirty (and helping likeminded couples add an extra portion of cock) without you adding further:
Piss > Chips!!
:lol2:
While Im sure this does happen, if a couple do the smart discuss and plan thing, setting ground rules before hand they can reduce the chances of emotions getting the better of them and it turning illicit.
1) Only phone contact goes through the guys mobile number, if guy to gal chat is required it can still go through his mobile (or if situation reversed and couple meeting a single fem then the ladies exchange numbers)
2) Set message notification on the site to go to the guys (or womans) email address, so they know it is unlikely contact can be made without their partner getting a whiff of it.
You dont think us genuine, honest, single, wife ravishing, rampant, horny single males have it tough enough trying to get our dose of dirty (and helping likeminded couples add an extra portion of cock) without you adding further:
Piss > Chips!!
:lol2:
There is a lot of reference to cuckolding in Shakespeare. In those plays it seemed that cuckolding was a means of undermining someone who had either power or authority over you. It seemed to be more to do with bringing someone down a peg or two in the world. In so doing giving them a lifelong stigma. but it also seemed that most couples survived such things and still do today.
Orgasminator
Quote by duncanlondon
There is a lot of reference to cuckolding in Shakespeare. In those plays it seemed that cuckolding was a means of undermining someone who had either power or authority over you. It seemed to be more to do with bringing someone down a peg or two in the world. In so doing giving them a lifelong stigma. but it also seemed that most couples survived such things and still do today.
Indeed, its also key to the Millers Tale, part of Chaucer's Canterbury tales.
Seems a rake such as myself would have been quite at home in medieval times :rascal:
I think marriage in those middles ages represented a lot more than it does now. it often consolidated the wealth of two families, and a healthy married couple could go on to rule their domain for many years. thus keeping many people at almost poverty level.
So anyone who could break that deadlock became something of a hero. Cuckolding was one of the devices to undermine that power.
So anyone who could break that deadlock became something of a hero. Cuckolding was one of the devices to undermine that power.
Sex God
Quote by Big_Fraser
^^^ whoa there tweaky fella, what brought this on?? :shock:
While Im sure this does happen, if a couple do the smart discuss and plan thing, setting ground rules before hand they can reduce the chances of emotions getting the better of them and it turning illicit.
1) Only phone contact goes through the guys mobile number, if guy to gal chat is required it can still go through his mobile (or if situation reversed and couple meeting a single fem then the ladies exchange numbers)
2) Set message notification on the site to go to the guys (or womans) email address, so they know it is unlikely contact can be made without their partner getting a whiff of it.
You dont think us genuine, honest, single, wife ravishing, rampant, horny single males have it tough enough trying to get our dose of dirty (and helping likeminded couples add an extra portion of cock) without you adding further:
Piss > Chips!!
:lol2:
What brought it on? 6 years of being here, some of the people we have known and some of the dramas that have unfolded regardless of all the communication and precautions.
Sex God
Quote by tweeky
^^^ whoa there tweaky fella, what brought this on?? :shock:
While Im sure this does happen, if a couple do the smart discuss and plan thing, setting ground rules before hand they can reduce the chances of emotions getting the better of them and it turning illicit.
1) Only phone contact goes through the guys mobile number, if guy to gal chat is required it can still go through his mobile (or if situation reversed and couple meeting a single fem then the ladies exchange numbers)
2) Set message notification on the site to go to the guys (or womans) email address, so they know it is unlikely contact can be made without their partner getting a whiff of it.
You dont think us genuine, honest, single, wife ravishing, rampant, horny single males have it tough enough trying to get our dose of dirty (and helping likeminded couples add an extra portion of cock) without you adding further:
Piss > Chips!!
:lol2:
What brought it on? 6 years of being here, some of the people we have known and some of the dramas that have unfolded regardless of all the communication and precautions.
Is it not a risk all swinger take, comes with the territory kind of thing?
Sex God
Quote by Bluefish2009
^^^ whoa there tweaky fella, what brought this on?? :shock:
While Im sure this does happen, if a couple do the smart discuss and plan thing, setting ground rules before hand they can reduce the chances of emotions getting the better of them and it turning illicit.
1) Only phone contact goes through the guys mobile number, if guy to gal chat is required it can still go through his mobile (or if situation reversed and couple meeting a single fem then the ladies exchange numbers)
2) Set message notification on the site to go to the guys (or womans) email address, so they know it is unlikely contact can be made without their partner getting a whiff of it.
You dont think us genuine, honest, single, wife ravishing, rampant, horny single males have it tough enough trying to get our dose of dirty (and helping likeminded couples add an extra portion of cock) without you adding further:
Piss > Chips!!
:lol2:
What brought it on? 6 years of being here, some of the people we have known and some of the dramas that have unfolded regardless of all the communication and precautions.
Is it not a risk all swinger take, comes with the territory kind of thing?
Yes for sure. From what I have seen though in the main part is couples split that could be for any reason and nout to do with swinging. Have known of quite a few married or in a relationship partners to run off with the single but hardly seen any couples split with one going off with the other part of a couple. I am sure it does happen but I would guess it happens more when you start to play with singles maybe even more so when thats multiple experinces with the same singles. That is the scenario in which I have known most break ups to happen.
