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This may have been covered previously but maybe worth another airing.
We have been 'caught out' a couple of times recently meeting people who look nothing like the photos posted on the site or ones they have sent to us privatly . We all change over the months/years , some for the better , in my case for the worse !!! lol but we wouldn't dream of misleading people with photos years out of date !!
Has this happened to anyone else ???
all our pic's are never more than a year old and a lot are very new some are last weekend
As Im sure we all know, we usually choose the pics of ourselves that we like personally. Some are a true reflection of how we look and others not..............I had a pic taken of me after I had my hair straightened and even my sons did double takes!
I would advise you to webcam with your new potential friends if the look thing is important to you.........if they are not willing to cam, then you read into that what you will. :shock: :shock:
Quote by luv2kiss
This may have been covered previously but maybe worth another airing.
We have been 'caught out' a couple of times recently meeting people who look nothing like the photos posted on the site or ones they have sent to us privatly . We all change over the months/years , some for the better , in my case for the worse !!! lol but we wouldn't dream of misleading people with photos years out of date !!
Has this happened to anyone else ???

You have to bear in mind that until you know for sure what people look like, it is all in the " cyber " world. We used to go to a swingers club that had pics and profiles up. After we had gone to a party we checked some of the pics out and we hardly recognised anyone from the party!
For us we ask for a pic with something in the has a mobile phone and can be sent that way. That is for single guys though, with couples we tend to get to know them by chatting on here and on the phone. In our experience most couples, thats genuine ones wont mind sending recent pics. You have to also realise that there are way too many timewasters out there, so if your checks are a bit excessive, than so be it. Rather that than meet and find out they are nothing like their pics.
We are very careful when meeting and make sure as much as we can, not to be caught out, because there are many liars and fantasists out there.
Quote by luv2kiss
This may have been covered previously but maybe worth another airing.
We have been 'caught out' a couple of times recently meeting people who look nothing like the photos posted on the site or ones they have sent to us privatly . We all change over the months/years , some for the better , in my case for the worse !!! lol but we wouldn't dream of misleading people with photos years out of date !!
Has this happened to anyone else ???

I agree, there is a guy on here that has pics on his profile that look 20 yrs younger than he did on webcam, and then he got funny when i wouldn't meet him confused we try and up date our pics as often as possible over the last few months my hair has got longer and the colour different, also i like to show off the new outfits dave has bought for me biggrin
On the other hand we have seen people on webcam and then met them soon after in a social setting and they look 10 times better than they did on cam...
Also some people dont have a webcam...
read into that what you will ;-)
Our pics are all under 3 years old, Mainly because until then we didnt have a digi camera to upload them. But i still look fairly different from the pics compared to my true to life self but not so much that people dont reconise me.
Im on webcam so often than nearly anyone who meets me knows what my webcam face looks like (i look better in real life so ive been told) Ive met people who look loads better/loads worse/or been completely different people to the pics webcams ive seen.
Those who use dated photo's or other peoples pictures obviously feel the need to do so however annoying it may be to others
Our pics are all less than a year old, we up date with some new ones about every three months or so.
We don't mind when people's pics were taken, as long as they still look like them.
It's the lack of pics on people's profiles that are so anoying.
My pictures are all up to date as a mature member there is no point in trying to hide the fact. Having said that some say I look younger than my years cool and I feel it.I limit my profile to just 1 but if there is a genuine interest happy to share more.
Not that it makes much of a difference as.... moan... moan... rolleyes unless you are below 40 it seems like you are on the scrap heap. But I will persevere and hope that being open and honest will work....it has a couple of times and I have met 2 lovely ladies both in that diffcult redface age group of 45 - 55. tell you what though experience really does count and it is still as good today as when I was a teenager.
Quote by loyalduke
My pictures are all up to date as a mature member there is no point in trying to hide the fact. Having said that some say I look younger than my years cool and I feel it.I limit my profile to just 1 but if there is a genuine interest happy to share more.
Not that it makes much of a difference as.... moan... moan... rolleyes unless you are below 40 it seems like you are on the scrap heap. But I will persevere and hope that being open and honest will work....it has a couple of times and I have met 2 lovely ladies both in that diffcult redface age group of 45 - 55. tell you what though experience really does count and it is still as good today as when I was a teenager.

your profile doesnt say your age, and your pic looks good, although distant.
nice profile. i actually thought that 35+ was the best age on here, maybe thats cuse im 38 and have found simmiler aged people, sorry you fell 40+ is scrap heap, certinally not in my opinion.
xxx fem xx
oh in line of origional post, yep had far far to many meets where by the pics are beyond being seen in best light, but no should only be seen in the dark lol
pics that are 5-10 years old, and no true reflection on what they look like now, im not actually arsed its not all looks to me but personality but its the fact they have lied/conned to get a meet, not that i dont like whats turned up all the time. but then the lie is bigger than the looks.
sorry rambled hope you understand what i ment
xx fem xx
Well thank you Fem biggrin and I did have my age on my profile and don't know why its changed but i will put it right!
For your information I am actually 57 as of last week! yes I keep fit with gym and walking but the best exercise you can get is something i do not get enough of anymore.....not for the want of trying!
Just one question WTF is a professional guy is that apposed to an amateur guy??
I.e youre only a guy for a hobby and don't get paid for it but a professional is a guy all the time and gets paid for it???
wink :wink:
Ask for upto date pics via a mobile phone.
Get them into the chat room, if need be in a passworded room and on cam.
Get them to meet you at a site social.
Quote by woohoo
Just one question WTF is a professional guy is that apposed to an amateur guy??
I.e youre only a guy for a hobby and don't get paid for it but a professional is a guy all the time and gets paid for it???
wink :wink:

Technically the definition of a Professional is someone who's job is of an intellectual nature, as apposed to manual. However it seems to be used in a very snobbish way in the swinging world.
It's funny someone mentioning the age thing, because we have played with couples all of whom are 35+ but we get some people who won't play with us because they think I am too young, lol - so there you go!
my pic is about three yrs old! But then, it is of my belly button... suppose it has a few more wrinkles now and the pic hides me beer belly quite nicely! lol
Quote by kentswingers777
For us we ask for a pic with something in the has a mobile phone and can be sent that way. That is for single guys though, with couples we tend to get to know them by chatting on here and on the phone. In our experience most couples, thats genuine ones wont mind sending recent pics.

We don't have a mobile 'phone with a camera. So, I wouldn't have a clue how to send pictures that way!
Quote by Steve
On the other hand we have seen people on webcam and then met them soon after in a social setting and they look 10 times better than they did on cam...
Also some people dont have a webcam...
read into that what you will ;-)

We don't have a web cam set up either. Have one somewhere but had a new PC a few months ago and don't even know if it will work dunno
We tend to meet people socially first anyway, usually at munches or socials, so pictures are irrelevant really. My avatar is about three months old. Of course we have older pictures, but we do take new ones now and again. Might be due for a photo session to update, actually!

Im applying to be a mod, just so I can approve them lol :lol: :lol:
My phone takes pics and sends them but Im blowed if I can work it out redface so its not always possible to send by phone.
Quote by helnheaven
Might be due for a photo session to update, actually!

Im applying to be a mod, just so I can approve them lol :lol: :lol:

Wrong response! You could offer to take some :rascal:
Quote by Freckledbird
Might be due for a photo session to update, actually!

Im applying to be a mod, just so I can approve them lol :lol: :lol:

Wrong response! You could offer to take some :rascal:
Damn!! Story of my life rolleyes
Suppose its too late now sad
Whoever takes em dont forget where my PM box is :rascal:
Quote by helnheaven
Suppose its too late now sad

Goodness me, no! :twisted:
We are soooooo lucky - We just never age. That's the secret folks lol cool
We are soooooo lucky - We just never age. That's the secret folks lol cool
Quote by Freckledbird

Suppose its too late now sad

Goodness me, no! :twisted:
On mi way lol
Quote by Steve
Whoever takes em dont forget where my PM box is :rascal:

PM Box? Im gonna need help to keep the camera still lol
Quote by helnheaven

Suppose its too late now sad

Goodness me, no! :twisted:
On mi way lol
If its camera shake then you might need something to rest on. Never seen myself as a tripod before but it would be a challenge I think we could all enjoy wink
Happy to help just say when/where