Id hate to think someone was being indiscreet about me,,,,,i dont much fancy people knowing who ive shagged....(or not is more the case now LOL)
I must admit Im not a fan of people in the forums heavily hiting and almost blatantly shoving it in your face that they are doing this that and the other, or have done it with someone else....kinda makes me feel like a gooseberry if that makes sense....kind of like Im eavesdropping on a private convo, that I shouldnt be...
Can't abide it, indiscretion to the max in 'some' chat rooms, one of the reasons I don't go there.
If you have a close set of friends and you are all in agreement to chat amongst yourselves, fine, but to chat in public without people's knowledge, below the belt in my opinion.
That's awful.I'm very against things between people are private and should be respected as such.
Annoys me no end! There are times when snippets get out, and sometimes it can be easy to guess who was involved, however naming people and specific details is wrong.
We've bumped into a couple in our local Asda and we had the kids with us, the couple were ultra discreet when my daughter asked who they were, luckily we'd worked at the same firm (different times) and he just politely said that we knew each other from x co and then changed the subject ;) They never made it seem out of the ordinary and saying "off a website" would have made her ask more questions!
On the other hand, I've had someone who knew me, point another someone to my business website as a way of getting in touch with me!!!! I was absolutely livid about that, even though the gesture was meant well.
Personal details are just that ... personal and as a third party we have no right giving any kind of information away. If someone wants in touch then act as a go between by all means but people's details/lives/activities should be treated as private!
I wouldn't necessarily not meet with someone if I knew they had been with someone else I don't like, but I'd be very careful about the gossip and how I'd found out (if that makes sense?)
i get pissed off when others decide when im being indiscreet.. i recall a while back doing a post while in a club..me rose and a girl decided to say what a good time we were having..our choice, lol we were praising SH for bringing the situation together ..all of us..the girl concerned was waiting till the next morning to join in on the thread id created and add her bit to it.. several on this forum decided i was being indiscreet , no names were mentioned if i recall not that we minded and the thread by morning had been locked..after a couple of the usual stupid bollox comments from the usual suspects that police this place.. they were deciding for us about our own personal choice..it lead me to believe at the time that swinging should not be discussed on this forum..lol now thats the kind of situation that to me is going to far..
ill decide my discretion thanks ... we will decide our discretion thanks and as a group we will all decide together without the help from anyone else..
now dont go reading this and thinking i care not for discretion, i do ..to the upmost..i could tell a million tails about a lot of you ..i wouldnt dream about doing that..that would be indiscreet indeed.. sometimes i just think some of you get a little paranoid .. perhaps because you can be paranoid as discretion is one of those at all cost subjects... now what i mean is... i cant tell you i was at a social the other day OMG !!! but heres a picture of me face and all the rest of me with a dildo up my bum!! do you see where im coming from..that disregard for discretion because it suits them at the time..
discretion isnt cut and dry.. to my mind its a rare commodity in swinging.. for many, many folk.. the next morning after a party you can go in chat and within two mins know who shagged who.. maybe even after a meet.. so many of us are guilty of indiscretion lets not be hypocritical about the subject..
to sum up...i agree with being discreet but will not be a hypocrite about my understanding of how swinging works..like it or not..
staggy keeping it real.
we always wipe the minds of anyone after we meet them,saves a lot of hassle over indiscretion...and a lot less messier than killing them!
Our view is that discretion is important outside the scene. We don't want people saying anything that would identify us to non swingers that know us.
Among swingers we don't really see what the fuss is, but it's everyone's right to draw their own line. But as WRATS say, sometimes the line seems to be drawn for you.
and i thought it was just me that felt that way..
I have to admit I find it amusing at times that folks make assumptions from a bit of flirting. Some people dont do discretion and are out n proud of it to coin a phrase. Personally we dont go for open chat who we have or havent .........is no point the act itself suffices as in an encounter /frienship etc. saying that my mouth is here and waiting BIoke. Its back to celebrity name dropping or notches on the bedpost for one our bed is metal (much harder to carve into) and would waste a good bed frame and secondly celebritys PAH !!!
I am a very private person... and the only people that need to know about what i do or get up to is the people i share the time with.... and the same goes for things that are said to me.. everyone that knows me, knows that what is shared with me goes no further.. as i personally feel that, Yes everyone in the swinging world tends to be more open about them self.. but there are times when you need to be discrete to build a certian trust between others.
If you find out someone is ever a little bit indiscreet does it put you off meeting them or does it take more than 1 single thing?
I rarely go in there myself now
