Do couples actually swing anymore ?

5 Apr 2010

I hope its ok to reply to this thread as a single girl?
I have been around on this site for around two years, originally as part of a couple and we did manage to have meets from off here, but as you say no real genuine replies to ads.
As a single girl all i get everytime I logon is a load of friend requests from single guys I have never even chatted to never mind invited.
Messages wanting me to cam with them, or ones that claim that they have a gf that wants her first bi experience!
I now refuse to meet anybody unless I have met them at a social function or ones that at least can be vouched for by somebody I know. Obviously if somebody is a regular chatroom user then my trust may be gained but not on a whim.
Occasionally I attend swinging clubs with guys I know and I too have noticed a real decline in couples going - the last time I went to one I was amazed at the numbers of people wondering around fully clothed upstairs just gawping - this never used to be allowed.
At one time I went as a single girl a few times on a night where single guys are allowed and felt safe - now the majority there are single guys and you are practically mobbed everytime you move - no limits seem to be set anymore and no way in a million would i go alone. This is offputting to single girls and presumably couples too, result even less women to go around....
The exception to the above has been Chams which I have to say was on both times I have been a really great night.
I use the chatroom on here reguarly and have made new friends, but because I say I don't want to meet somebody who is a complete stranger at 11pm on a Saturday night or go to a party where I know not one of the guests that I am not a swinger and shouldn't be using the chatroom as a social venue.
I am accused of not being a genuine swinger because I don't actually want to shag every person who shows an interest in me and that being "social" has no place in real swinging.
In otherwords unless i am using the chatroom to arrange a meet i shouldn't be there and I am included in what some label as time wasters!
I object to this - each to their own I say - I simply prefer to get to know people first.
Its not just an excess of single guys who are the problem, there are single guys on couple profiles, couples who go on cam to prove genuinity, but whos "wife" seems to change often and they look like the paid for variety.
There is no real verification of people on here and there is a lack of trust - that is why the site has become more social.
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6 Apr 2010

We have only had a few meets from this site - on the recommendation of one of those we went somewhere else (with verification) and basically haven't stopped!
We only use this site for the chatrooms - and although we go on cam for hours we never and we mean NEVER get a mail message.. (and never a response to an ad either..)
Shame though - this is the best site to navigate around (apart from a back to search button)