i`m writing this because it seem that replies we recieve to our advert are all along the lines of "oh you look nice". ....."heres our pics, can we chat?". which we dont mind, so we usually reply (if mrs ninja likes em), and send a couple of face pics, still everythings hunky dory and were getting into the chatting and flirting on MSN bit, when we start sendin pics etc of body we then ussually get replies along the lines of were looking for someone abit slimmer or closer to my size (fem), i dont mind people liking what they like but it can be upsetting for mrs ninja esp: when shes put some effort into flirting and really likes em, it does plainly say on our advert that she is 14/16 size, and i thnk she carries her little bit extra really well (big boobs and nice ass) just a little bit of a tummy, just wondered if any of you are gulity of not reading the adverts and just lookin at the pics, mrs ninja would also like to know if slim women do like girls around her size, i know the answer to that one already, but would be nice to be able to back it up with a couple of comments from you (annoyingly), honest people, laterz xxx
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do most people bother reading the ads or look at the pics
Sex God
nice pic, care to chat? ;)
:twisted:
some people read what you write others don't. Use it as a valuable tool to sort the wheat from the chaff and stop bloody complaining in the forums. Half the people here don't even use the ad system ffs!
Where is Sarge with his damn locking keys when you need him???
Gem. x - being annoyingly honest
:twisted:
some people read what you write others don't. Use it as a valuable tool to sort the wheat from the chaff and stop bloody complaining in the forums. Half the people here don't even use the ad system ffs!
Where is Sarge with his damn locking keys when you need him???
Gem. x - being annoyingly honest
Quote by little gem
nice pic, care to chat? ;)
:twisted:
some people read what you write others don't. Use it as a valuable tool to sort the wheat from the chaff and stop bloody complaining in the forums. Half the people here don't even use the ad system ffs!
Where is Sarge with his damn locking keys when you need him???
Gem. x - being annoyingly honest
i didnt know that half the peeps in here dont use the advert system sorry....and you dont have to read the post do ya :P
Sex God
Oooo, touchy.
I kinda like you, you're feisty.
I do use the ad system and have found that people have no real concept of dress sizes like 14/16 unless you are a woman who is or has been a 14/16 or a bloke who is with a woman who is/has been that size.
Concepts of size don't actually start arriving until you see more of the person to put things more into perspective. Someone who is 5ft and a size 16 will be very different visually to someone who is the same dress size but is 6ft. If you get what I mean.
I also think people make excuses when they see a few pictures, for various different reasons as they might get cold feet about it or something you or they said triggered a nervous reaction.
Keep looking and someone will come along and reply in a way that sparks both parties off and the size thing won't matter so much I guess. Plus you never really know what folk are like until you meet them in real life anyway.
:kiss:
Gem. x
Quote by Sgt Bilko
Where is Sarge with his damn locking keys when you need him???
The keys are jingling in my pocket as we speak!!
:lol: :lol: :lol:please sarge please, dont lock me away, i didnt do it honest....... but seriously tho, this topic has got a valid purpous, in lettin us know if slim fems find bigger fems attractive, plus any opinions on how to minimise the damage from other users when they fail to read the advert and then after a bit of email tennis let mrs ninja down......but i`d like you to know sarge i used to watch all your programs.... you cheeky rascal "y i outta", cheers in advance if you leave your keys in your pocket, if not i still have the upmost respect for you.........an i`m not really bitchin just tryin to get some honest opinions laterz
Quote by little gem
Oooo, touchy.
I kinda like you, you're feisty.
I do use the ad system and have found that people have no real concept of dress sizes like 14/16 unless you are a woman who is or has been a 14/16 or a bloke who is with a woman who is/has been that size.
Concepts of size don't actually start arriving until you see more of the person to put things more into perspective. Someone who is 5ft and a size 16 will be very different visually to someone who is the same dress size but is 6ft. If you get what I mean.
I also think people make excuses when they see a few pictures, for various different reasons as they might get cold feet about it or something you or they said triggered a nervous reaction.
Keep looking and someone will come along and reply in a way that sparks both parties off and the size thing won't matter so much I guess. Plus you never really know what folk are like until you meet them in real life anyway.
:kiss:
Gem. x
not bein touchy chick, just sayin is all......what you wrote has made ME think, good point about the height thing as well, dont suppose you like the advert lol
Sex God
I'd like to know what you think you'd do if you find out that slimmer women find larger women than them un-attractive?
Will it put you off swinging? Would you change you advert in some way and how? Would you change the idea of the people you are looking for?
Gem. x
not looked at the advert!
Will it put you off swinging? Would you change you advert in some way and how? Would you change the idea of the people you are looking for?
Gem. x
not looked at the advert!
Personally i am confused as to why someone would message you saying nice pics then tell you your mrs is too big when theres pics of her on your profile where u can clearly see shes not a size 10 
i mean that in no way nasty as not many of us are a size 10 i sure as shit am not lol, just confused as to how they can find that a nice pic (which is it) and not your others when shes the same size on them all :!:
i have also noticed you manage to add your G/f size in a moaning way in about 90% of your adds lol
Some slimmer women will like larger ladies some wont, women are no different to men some like a cuddly figure some do not.
i mean that in no way nasty as not many of us are a size 10 i sure as shit am not lol, just confused as to how they can find that a nice pic (which is it) and not your others when shes the same size on them all :!: i have also noticed you manage to add your G/f size in a moaning way in about 90% of your adds lol
Some slimmer women will like larger ladies some wont, women are no different to men some like a cuddly figure some do not.
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I'd like to know what you think you'd do if you find out that no slimmer women find larger women than then attractive?
Will it put you off swinging? Would you change you advert in some way and how? Would you change the idea of the people you are looking for?
Gem. x
good question.....i personally wouldnt be put off, as i like all shapes and sizes, mrs ninja does like slim girls with bigger boobs, but i think goodlookin faces are more important than bodies, although we did meet up with a couple a couple of weeks ago and they obviously used older pictures cause they looked alot bigger in real life if you get my meaning....and that didnt put her of at all... but that does highlight another problem>peeps using old pics, personally ours look just like us as we are now, but thanks for the comments chick
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Personally i am confused as to why someone would message you saying nice pics then tell you your mrs is too big when theres pics of her on your profile where u can clearly see shes not a size 10
i have also noticed you manage to add your G/f size in a moaning way in about 90% of your adds lol
Some slimmer women will like larger ladies some wont, women are no different to men some like a cuddly figure some do not.
that is something i dont understand naughty, must be my pic that scares em off, thanks for the comment about the pic xxx
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Personally i am confused as to why someone would message you saying nice pics then tell you your mrs is too big when theres pics of her on your profile where u can clearly see shes not a size 10
i have also noticed you manage to add your G/f size in a moaning way in about 90% of your adds lol
Some slimmer women will like larger ladies some wont, women are no different to men some like a cuddly figure some do not.
ohh an i dont have a problem with my g/f`s size sorry if it appears like that, she has a problem with it i suppose her unhappiness about it does get channelled through me sometimes, in fact i love her just the way she is, xxx
Sex God
So, what you're saying is that your partner is size 14/16 but she finds slim women attractive? There will be someone who likes you whatever your body size but you/she may have to come to terms with the fact that if she finds only slim women attractive then she's limiting her options and probably will get upset at some point if the slim women she finds attractive, don't find her attractive.
I think most people will go initially on looks/body size but it won't be much of an issue if/when you hit it off.
I think most people will go initially on looks/body size but it won't be much of an issue if/when you hit it off.
Sex God
Quote by quimninja305070
nice pic, care to chat? ;)
:twisted:
some people read what you write others don't. Use it as a valuable tool to sort the wheat from the chaff and stop bloody complaining in the forums. Half the people here don't even use the ad system ffs!
Where is Sarge with his damn locking keys when you need him???
Gem. x - being annoyingly honest
i didnt know that half the peeps in here dont use the advert system sorry....and you dont have to read the post do ya :P
OK, I need someone to explain to me how the old "If you don't like it don't read it" thing works.
If I don't read it, how do I know whether I like it?
Quote by Ice Pie
nice pic, care to chat? ;)
:twisted:
some people read what you write others don't. Use it as a valuable tool to sort the wheat from the chaff and stop bloody complaining in the forums. Half the people here don't even use the ad system ffs!
Where is Sarge with his damn locking keys when you need him???
Gem. x - being annoyingly honest
i didnt know that half the peeps in here dont use the advert system sorry....and you dont have to read the post do ya :P
OK, I need someone to explain to me how the old "If you don't like it don't read it" thing works.
If I don't read it, how do I know whether I like it?
the comment was made specifically at the fact little gem said half of peeps on hear dont use the advert system and dont want to hear us bitch about it, the title of the topic says it all really, so if your not interested in the bitchin about adverts you can steer clear based on the title..................dont think that makes sense Sex God
Quote by quimninja305070the comment was made specifically at the fact little gem said half of peeps on hear dont use the advert system and dont want to hear us bitch about it, the title of the topic says it all really, so if your not interested in the bitchin about adverts you can steer clear based on the title..................dont think that makes sense
If I don't read it, how do I know whether I like it?
Ah, but you're assuming that anyone who's interested in the subject will still be interested after reading the post. It might be a potentially interesting topic but a really dull thread. The only way to find out is to read it
Quote by quimninja305070
Personally i am confused as to why someone would message you saying nice pics then tell you your mrs is too big when theres pics of her on your profile where u can clearly see shes not a size 10
i have also noticed you manage to add your G/f size in a moaning way in about 90% of your adds lol
Some slimmer women will like larger ladies some wont, women are no different to men some like a cuddly figure some do not.
ohh an i dont have a problem with my g/f`s size sorry if it appears like that, she has a problem with it i suppose her unhappiness about it does get channelled through me sometimes, in fact i love her just the way she is, xxx
I had worked that out for myself by reading your adds, its clear that shes the one whos unhappy, but saying that i think you will find that a lot of the women on here are a little or a lot over weight and are unhappy with it but its something u have to live with, i also find it hard to meet people i think mainly down to my own lack of self confidence but i have 2 choices either be happy with the way i am or go ona diet :!: coming on here saying i can't find anyone i like cause i'm over weight will not get me a meet!! but as i have said on a post of your b4 i think u will find most slim women or couples with slim women are after the same, after all if your mrs don't like over weight women why should they? maybe if we all was a little more open about who we met and didn't just go for looks we'd all have a easier time
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Personally i am confused as to why someone would message you saying nice pics then tell you your mrs is too big when theres pics of her on your profile where u can clearly see shes not a size 10
i have also noticed you manage to add your G/f size in a moaning way in about 90% of your adds lol
Some slimmer women will like larger ladies some wont, women are no different to men some like a cuddly figure some do not.
ohh an i dont have a problem with my g/f`s size sorry if it appears like that, she has a problem with it i suppose her unhappiness about it does get channelled through me sometimes, in fact i love her just the way she is, xxx
I had worked that out for myself by reading your adds, its clear that shes the one whos unhappy, but saying that i think you will find that a lot of the women on here are a little or a lot over weight and are unhappy with it but its something u have to live with, i also find it hard to meet people i think mainly down to my own lack of self confidence but i have 2 choices either be happy with the way i am or go ona diet :!: coming on here saying i can't find anyone i like cause i'm over weight will not get me a meet!! but as i have said on a post of your b4 i think u will find most slim women or couples with slim women are after the same, after all if your mrs don't like over weight women why should they? maybe if we all was a little more open about who we met and didn't just go for looks we'd all have a easier time
thats right naughty...there would be more fun to be had by all, in fact i think with the cpl we met a few weeks ago, mrs ninja liked her from her photos, did a bit of msn flirtin etc, then when we went to meet em an she was bigger than her photos she didnt get turned off at all, in fact i think it helped mrs ninjas confidence, women confuse me for the most part :P Sex God
I was just being facetious and provocative for the hell of it really Ice. ;) You know the devil's advocate well I think! It's something I have considered about the if you dont like it dont read it thing. But I think its more likely to be "if you dont like what you read, don't reply" Not that I care much anyway, but I can feel my troll tendencies appearing along with a massive hangover. :crazy:
Ninjas, even if you are not looking for someone specific in swinging, people say no for a whole host of reasons and is part of the whole thing. You have to take the rough with the smooth which is difficult when there is no smooth going on..... If your mrs is negative about how she is then it will certainly come across to the other person. I feel like there may be some underlying issues here that only you two would be able to work out a solution to, even with us lot butting in, hijacking, advising etc.... only you two know what you are comfy with and how to work this out.
Gem. x
It's something I have considered about the if you dont like it dont read it thing. But I think its more likely to be "if you dont like what you read, don't reply" Not that I care much anyway, but I can feel my troll tendencies appearing along with a massive hangover. :crazy:Ninjas, even if you are not looking for someone specific in swinging, people say no for a whole host of reasons and is part of the whole thing. You have to take the rough with the smooth which is difficult when there is no smooth going on..... If your mrs is negative about how she is then it will certainly come across to the other person. I feel like there may be some underlying issues here that only you two would be able to work out a solution to, even with us lot butting in, hijacking, advising etc.... only you two know what you are comfy with and how to work this out.
Gem. x
Sex God
Quote by SXBOY
only look at ads with pictures but read them first
is that a bit confusing
look for location and catchy heading,,check its got pix then open it
1. Check location.
2. If location is acceptable, check for photo
3. If photo is included, open advert
4. If photo doesn't induce vomitting, read the ad
5. Forget the ad
6. Send standard "I really like whatever is it you said you are into, fancy a shag?" type reply
7. Complain in forum about lack of response from advertiser
8. Complain about complaint getting locked
9. Create new ID
10. Repeat
Apparently. ;)
Quote by Ice Pie
only look at ads with pictures but read them first
is that a bit confusing
look for location and catchy heading,,check its got pix then open it
1. Check location.
2. If location is acceptable, check for photo
3. If photo is included, open advert
4. If photo doesn't induce vomitting, read the ad
5. Forget the ad
6. Send standard "I really like whatever is it you said you are into, fancy a shag?" type reply
7. Complain in forum about lack of response from advertiser
8. Complain about complaint getting locked
9. Create new ID
10. Repeat
Apparently. ;)....PMSL
Sex God
Quote by Ice Pie
only look at ads with pictures but read them first
is that a bit confusing
look for location and catchy heading,,check its got pix then open it
1. Check location.
2. If location is acceptable, check for photo
3. If photo is included, open advert
4. If photo doesn't induce vomitting, read the ad
5. Forget the ad
6. Send standard "I really like whatever is it you said you are into, fancy a shag?" type reply
7. Complain in forum about lack of response from advertiser
8. Complain about complaint getting locked
9. Create new ID
10. Repeat
Apparently. ;)
Goodness me, Ice - are you saying that this has happened before? :shock:
Sex God
Quote by freckledbird
Goodness me, Ice - are you saying that this has happened before? :shock:
One hears the occasional rumour.
Quote by Ice Pie
only look at ads with pictures but read them first
is that a bit confusing
look for location and catchy heading,,check its got pix then open it
1. Check location.
2. If location is acceptable, check for photo
3. If photo is included, open advert
4. If photo doesn't induce vomitting, read the ad
5. Forget the ad
6. Send standard "I really like whatever is it you said you are into, fancy a shag?" type reply
7. Complain in forum about lack of response from advertiser
8. Complain about complaint getting locked
9. Create new ID
10. Repeat
Apparently. ;)
For most who reply to ads it should be
1. check location,
2. If its within 300 miles of you then check for photo
3. Photo or not, continue anyway
4. Even if photo induces vomiting, continue, even if your not serious about ever meeting, and read the ad.
5. Read ad, Copy name for pasting into 'standard' reply
6. If pic was included, type an extra 'liked your pic' line to standard ad, just to prove you looked.
7. Get no replies
8. Wonder why
9. Forget you got no replies
10. Repeat
Sex God
Well your question's been answered, so it's almost compulsory for the thread to be hijacked.
