Do single men get a look in on here?

28 Aug 2006

Quote by RayT
...get deleted and set for ignore instantly. What a turn off for both of us!
These thimbledicks think that a main profile picture of their nudger with the camera 6 inches from scrotum to delivering an exaggerated impression of size will get them an invitation?
Dream on!
RandY

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

28 Aug 2006

Quote by smaug99
Without being rude, as a single fella i'd be off to dedicated dating sites adn state what you are looking for in a partner, then return as a couple and see how many invites come in

I'm gonna come back and answer some more of this thread, but for the moment I'll put my t'penny into this bit.
As someone that's been, by turn and turn about, a single single bloke, single with fuckbuddies, single with special munch/fuck/social buddies, thought by others to be half of a couple, actually part of a couple, and a few things in between and outside description; I actually view being part of couple much "harder" than any of the previous descriptions.
Do single men get a look in on here ?
Yes they do.
As do couples, single fems, trannys, cd's, gay men, gay women, bi men and bi women, the curious and the confused (TM HornyLittleBlonde) those in denial, and most other "labels"
My opinion, for what it's worth, is that everyone gets a look in on here.
One of the best things about Swinging Heaven, the lifestyle and the people is that there's room and time for EVERYONE - to get at least a "look in"
It's what the individual chooses to do with that "look in" that seems to count, matter and lead to "success" or not.
I've often said there is a very simple way to have SH, and all that it involves, work for you.
A very simple way, but sometimes a very difficult thing to do.
BE YOURSELF and BE STRAIGHT
If you're a comic - be a comic.
If you're a flirt - be flirt
If you're an organiser - organise
If you're nice - be "nice"
If you're a "wrong 'un" - be so
If you're an arse - be an arse.
I'm not going to claim to know which of the above, people consider me to be. I don't think that's my place; but I do know that some people here love me, some people here hate me, some people here tolerate me, and some people here have absolutely no opinions/feelings whatsoever. (For "me" - read "everyone") And that's all good. That's one of the good thiongs about SH. And I have similar opinions/feelings for most other people.
Somebody will want you. Somebodywill fancy you. Somebodywill fuck you
There are two (three if I include myself - when single) guys in this thread, that spring to mind, that have absolutely totally opposing views about how SH should work, and doeswork for them.
Whether I, or anyone else, agrees or disagrees with theirway of doing it is pretty much irrelevant. It works for them. I think it works for them because they are being themselves. Be that arse, or comic, or flirt.
Of course, some of the answer lies in "what part of on here" you mean, and what sort of "look in" you're wanting.
Chatroom ? Cafe ? LMU ? Dogging ? Photo Ads ? dunno

Social ? Sexual ? A combination ? :dunno:

Quote by PoloLady

Sometimes, I believe that what you see in the forums isnt always what you get in real life!

Sometimes what you see in the profile isn't always what you get in real life! lol

Sometimes tho, you get exactly what it says on the tin - but you haveto read the label :wink:

28 Aug 2006

i think what dammy's tryin to say is
"its a numbers thing" wink

but i think he sed it so much better than me :thumbup:

28 Aug 2006

Quote by sercher01
i think what dammy's tryin to say is
"its a numbers thing"
but i think he sed it so much better than me :thumbup:

Funilly enough - that's exactly what I'm not saying.
I never found "the numbers" to be an issue; but - I've never trawled the Photo Ads as a primary way of meeting people :thumbup:

28 Aug 2006

Quote by dambuster
BE YOURSELF and BE STRAIGHT

Are you going to PM bloke and tell him? :giggle:

28 Aug 2006

Quote by dambuster
i think what dammy's tryin to say is
"its a numbers thing"
but i think he sed it so much better than me :thumbup:

Funilly enough - that's exactly what I'm not saying.
I never found "the numbers" to be an issue; but - I've never trawled the Photo Ads as a primary way of meeting people :thumbup:
ah! but im not sayin that what im tryin to say is there r so many people on here that sooner or later u will find some1 who likes u an who u get on with!
wich is what u where tryin to say i think dammy m8?
so it is a numbers thing in a round about way
an like dammy sed just be yourself :wink:

28 Aug 2006

Quote by dambuster
Do single men get a look in on here ?
Yes they do.
As do couples, single fems, trannys, cd's, gay men, gay women, bi men and bi women, the curious and the confused (TM HornyLittleBlonde) those in denial, and most other "labels"
My opinion, for what it's worth, is that everyone gets a look in on here....
It's what the individual chooses to do with that "look in" that seems to count, matter and lead to "success" or not......
BE YOURSELF and BE STRAIGHT
If you're a comic - be a comic.
If you're a flirt - be flirt
If you're an organiser - organise
If you're nice - be "nice"
If you're a "wrong 'un" - be so
If you're an arse - be an arse.
Somebody will want you. Somebody will fancy you. Somebody will fuck you
There are two (three if I include myself - when single) guys in this thread, that spring to mind, that have absolutely totally opposing views about how SH should work, and does work for them.
Whether I, or anyone else, agrees or disagrees with their way of doing it is pretty much irrelevant. It works for them. I think it works for them because they are being themselves. Be that arse, or comic, or flirt.
Of course, some of the answer lies in "what part of on here" you mean, and what sort of "look in" you're wanting.
Chatroom ? Cafe ? LMU ? Dogging ? Photo Ads ?
Social ? Sexual ? A combination ? :dunno:
Sometimes tho, you get exaclty what it says on the tin - but you have to read the label

I've picked out a few points that pretty much hit the nail on the head for me. :thumbup:
Thanks Uncle Dammie for saving me from trying to put it into words myself passionkiss

Fee
XX

28 Aug 2006

Quote by sercher01
ah! but im not sayin that what im tryin to say is there r so many people on here that sooner or later u will find some1 who likes u an who u get on with!
wich is what u where tryin to say i think dammy m8?
so it is a numbers thing in a round about way
an like dammy sed just be yourself

Sorry Dude. I misread your post.
That's exactly what I meant. I just ramble too much redface

Quote by the rather gorgeous LadyFeeBee
Thanks Uncle Dammie for saving me from trying to put it into words myself
Fee
XX

. . . . for you two - almost anything kiss

28 Aug 2006

note a ramble oh! knowleagbl one wink

u just took longer to say it :wink:
:wink:

28 Aug 2006

Quote by dambuster

Without being rude, as a single fella i'd be off to dedicated dating sites adn state what you are looking for in a partner, then return as a couple and see how many invites come in

I'm gonna come back and answer some more of this thread, but for the moment I'll put my t'penny into this bit.
As someone that's been, by turn and turn about, a single single bloke, single with fuckbuddies, single with special munch/fuck/social buddies, thought by others to be half of a couple, actually part of a couple, and a few things in between and outside description; I actually view being part of couple much "harder" than any of the previous descriptions.
Do single men get a look in on here ?
Yes they do.
As do couples, single fems, trannys, cd's, gay men, gay women, bi men and bi women, the curious and the confused (TM HornyLittleBlonde) those in denial, and most other "labels"
My opinion, for what it's worth, is that everyone gets a look in on here.
One of the best things about Swinging Heaven, the lifestyle and the people is that there's room and time for EVERYONE - to get at least a "look in"
It's what the individual chooses to do with that "look in" that seems to count, matter and lead to "success" or not.
I've often said there is a very simple way to have SH, and all that it involves, work for you.
A very simple way, but sometimes a very difficult thing to do.
BE YOURSELF and BE STRAIGHT
If you're a comic - be a comic.
If you're a flirt - be flirt
If you're an organiser - organise
If you're nice - be "nice"
If you're a "wrong 'un" - be so
If you're an arse - be an arse.
I'm not going to claim to know which of the above, people consider me to be. I don't think that's my place; but I do know that some people here love me, some people here hate me, some people here tolerate me, and some people here have absolutely no opinions/feelings whatsoever. (For "me" - read "everyone") And that's all good. That's one of the good thiongs about SH. And I have similar opinions/feelings for most other people.
Somebody will want you. Somebodywill fancy you. Somebodywill fuck you
There are two (three if I include myself - when single) guys in this thread, that spring to mind, that have absolutely totally opposing views about how SH should work, and doeswork for them.
Whether I, or anyone else, agrees or disagrees with theirway of doing it is pretty much irrelevant. It works for them. I think it works for them because they are being themselves. Be that arse, or comic, or flirt.
Of course, some of the answer lies in "what part of on here" you mean, and what sort of "look in" you're wanting.
Chatroom ? Cafe ? LMU ? Dogging ? Photo Ads ? dunno

Social ? Sexual ? A combination ? :dunno:

Quote by PoloLady

Sometimes, I believe that what you see in the forums isnt always what you get in real life!

Sometimes what you see in the profile isn't always what you get in real life! lol

Sometimes tho, you get exactly what it says on the tin - but you haveto read the label :wink:
worship

:worship: :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship:
I was just about to say that, :shock: no honest, I was innocent

hwoar: Dammie, I love the new improved look, fancy a pint :smitten: :grin:

28 Aug 2006

hi all, would just like to throw my thoughts in here, i understand that the men out number the women by a lot, allthough there are plenty of adds from women seeking men. what i find a bit annoying is, that you make the effort to send a message etc.., even if your the the type ect.. the women are looking for, it only take a few mins to reply. to me this is just good manners, it costs nothing, even a no thanks, is better than total rudness. I understand there will be replies to this, such as get into chat,turn up at munch etc.., but even in chat it does seem unwellcomming. but this is about just sending a polite reply to some one,wont takt much time out of your life will it ? and its always nice to get an email. smile

28 Aug 2006

Quote by browning
It's like playing the lottery,
one day your number might come up

yup but but have to buy the ticket first lol

28 Aug 2006

Quote by bikeR1der
sending a polite reply to some one,wont takt much time out of your life will it?

1 reply = no.
100+ replies = yes.

28 Aug 2006

Quote by Kiss
sending a polite reply to some one,wont takt much time out of your life will it?

1 reply = no.
100+ replies = yes.:thumbup: to kissamathingyperson!
Cum on bike... you say you "can understand that the men out number the women by a lot,"
That's cool....
We all understand the fact that we may get the luxury of replying to one or two pms a week from SH laydeez... we can handle those & reply instantly!
But would you really wanna be replying to 100 plus emails a day?
When would YOU get time to go out & play!!
Suck it up man & move on! :cheers:
Life's way too short!

29 Aug 2006

Ok this is my first SH thread for a bloody long time......
Here goes....
1) Single men do have fun in the site and i can confirm that.
2) Just be yourself people will like you for who you are.
3) be honest with people.......
i really dont know what else to say here...as i havent really got anything else to say

29 Aug 2006

Well Smoky we'd have to agree with most of what has already written on here..........
We meet guys for 3somes and yes when we post in LMU, even at short notice we always get enough responses through messages that we can choose.
Basically I (M) go through all messages first. What am I looking for? I am looking for words, a style, a feeling that the person who sent the message wants to be open and communicate with both of us, and is not just looking to come over and shag my other half. The ones that are most successful with us, tell us about themselves, their likes and dislikes. I get a feel for the person and then H talks to them on the phone. If we are happy we will arrange a meet but there is no gaurantee that anything will happen until we are both happy about it.
Frankly the ones that just get a polite no thanks from us are the ones that send us a very brief message, and have nothing in their profiles. I have nothing to go on so it doesn't go further. We would meet with someone who is nervous (and we have) as long as we have been able to form an opinion of what that person is like. Hey we have all been nervous and at times we still can be.
I suspect what I have written here is more or less how a lot of people would approach a meet, so put yer thinking hat on, get your profile updated and take it from there smile

Good Luck
MandH

29 Aug 2006

Hi yes it is very difficult to make contact with couples when you are a single guy .
I have the same problem . However the advice you are getting here I think is correct .. You have to socialise using the forums and chat so people get to know you .. Problem is it is so time consuming .. anyway best of look you will just have to keep at it ..
Regards Max

29 Aug 2006

Quote by Max247
Hi yes it is very difficult to make contact with couples when you are a single guy .
I have the same problem . However the advice you are getting here I think is correct .. You have to socialise using the forums and chat so people get to know you .. Problem is it is so time consuming .. anyway best of look you will just have to keep at it ..
Regards Max

thats only a problem for the QSB
for those who are more patient, the rewards are more than worth it, on many levels
there are many people here who are worth a large amount of time and effort

29 Aug 2006

I have to confess that I wouldn't mind a meet with a single male, but I had to take it out my profile for some very simple reasons:
1. I kept getting winks. My profile says they won't be replied to.
2. I kept getting asked if I wanted to meet up the same night as the mail was sent. My profile clearly states that I will only meet once I've got to know the person.
3. People treat me as a single, even though my profile says married and he plays too. Any mails I got were for me only, not including him.
I don't mind meeting for coffee if I've chatted to the person (By the way, Essex there does good coffee wink

) But if I've never heard of the person, never spoken to them before and the profile is a bit thin, then I'm not going to do anything. I'm very wary of meeting people that I've never spoken to prior to the one mail, so it's just not going to happen. I don't particularly want to spend my time clock watching and tapping my foot waiting for it all to be over because the person just isn't interesting/exciting/what I would look for in a coffee buddy never mind for sex.
Single males, take heart. There are some out there that will be interested, but some of us are happier to take the long way round and do the approaching from this end rather than getting flooded with winks. If you get known and liked, then the mails will come to you.
Maybe it's just me... I dunno dunno

29 Aug 2006

Quote by CarmelaDeA
I have to confess that I wouldn't mind a meet with a single male, but I had to take it out my profile for some very simple reasons:
1. I kept getting winks. My profile says they won't be replied to.
2. I kept getting asked if I wanted to meet up the same night as the mail was sent. My profile clearly states that I will only meet once I've got to know the person.
3. People treat me as a single, even though my profile says married and he plays too. Any mails I got were for me only, not including him.
I don't mind meeting for coffee if I've chatted to the person (By the way, Essex there does good coffee ) But if I've never heard of the person, never spoken to them before and the profile is a bit thin, then I'm not going to do anything. I'm very wary of meeting people that I've never spoken to prior to the one mail, so it's just not going to happen. I don't particularly want to spend my time clock watching and tapping my foot waiting for it all to be over because the person just isn't interesting/exciting/what I would look for in a coffee buddy never mind for sex.
Single males, take heart. There are some out there that will be interested, but some of us are happier to take the long way round and do the approaching from this end rather than getting flooded with winks. If you get known and liked, then the mails will come to you.
Maybe it's just me... I dunno

cheques in the post......

29 Aug 2006

Sod the cheque... Mail yourself instead...

29 Aug 2006

Quote by CarmelaDeA
Sod the cheque... Mail yourself instead...

im sure i could arrange a special delivery

29 Aug 2006

you'd need the check to pay for the excess baggage on his fat head :giggle:

29 Aug 2006

well id just like to say there are people who will meet I am probably in a smaller niche than yourself being bi and a tv but have found that you do need to be proactive, sell yourself. And a basic profile tells no one anything, apart from the fact that you are probably not serious. check the profiles of a few other people, and you can then decide if yours looks interesting. also get involved in the chat rooms, get a cam. whats the worst that could happen.
I now fill my profile with a few rules to discourage people, but it doesnt work lol.
and I never meet people with blank profiles. but I always answer, and tell them why.

29 Aug 2006

To a certain extent, I share your feelings....as an old geezer I get lots of 'also rans', but at the same time I've had some good meets here....If I notice anything, it's the 'clique' thing with some groups...if you're in, great, if you're not....not bovvered.....!. Just keep on trying, you will win throuigh one day! Jon