I understand the general content of your post, but unfortunately there are so many fools and wasters around, no doubt during your time on here you will come across a few.
So understandably people are wary of inviting single guys to events due to the amount of messers around.
I hope this helps the genuine guys out there....
Not to long ago I attended my first house party, ok I was apprehensive and nervous about going alone and not knowing anyone there, also not really knowing what to expect and I felt privelaged to get an invite.
So I applied the rules of swinging.
1. Expect nothing to happen, then if something does its a bonus
2. No means No
3. Be polite (manners are free but their value is great)
4. Don't be pushy, you just come across as a desperate fool
5. Wait to be asked before you join in
6. A playroom door is closed for a reason (not that some people take any notice)
7. Never judge anyone
8. Always thank your host
If there is anything I've missed, please post them to help the Genuine Guys....
Did I happen to mention I have three testicles?
I dont think single men need help at all actually.
I have been to a cpl of SH events and i must admit i have loved every single one of them. I am a single guy who is young (23), and because of the stigma attached to single guys at first i thought i would not get accepted. However how wrong was I. Everyone I have met has been so nice, caring and respectful.
I have just been myself and so my advice is be your sellf get to know people.
MikeC
^^^ What he said.
In general, people are judged, if that's the right word, by their behaviour, and some (ok, a lot) of the single guys do behave like prats, particularly the younger ones who have not quite developed the social skills required in a place like this. I think those who present themselves in a mature way are respected, regardless of age.
We've met some great single guys, mostly older than us and at parties, where we have had a chance to physically meet and chat face-to-face first, however I can see where you're coming from as lots of couples I know won't even entertain single guys at all(most are after girls). We personally do, and once we get aquainted properly (ie face-to face, not over the net) will have great fun together. I think if you are genuine enough and can convince people of that then your onto a winner! And I know thats alot easier said than done....
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ops: dont now haw to move help.
I now that I will take the advice & move on.I hope others do the same.