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Quote by marcus123
just a thought, and this is a bit of an open question. do you think men, women and couples back out at the last minute because they like the idea and not the reality? would like to hear views on this, could be quite intresting!
Another timewaster thread
Sex God
Quote by marcus123
just a thought, and this is a bit of an open question. do you think men, women and couples back out at the last minute because they like the idea and not the reality? would like to hear views on this, could be quite intresting!
as for your initial question........well it works for me........
as to people backing out...........maybe as FB pointed out, they are timewasters........there again maybe they got hit by a bus...........you genuinly don't know why others drop out.........
Quote by poshkate
just a thought, and this is a bit of an open question. do you think men, women and couples back out at the last minute because they like the idea and not the reality? would like to hear views on this, could be quite intresting!
as for your initial question........well it works for me........
as to people backing out...........maybe as FB pointed out, they are timewasters........there again maybe they got hit by a bus...........you genuinly don't know why others drop out.........
And me
Sex God
Works for me, too :twisted:
Sex God
good post :thumbup:
interestimng question :shock:
cummon peeps, some input required here please
been askin the same question for years and years (never did get an answer)
sigh :dunno:
:lol2:
interestimng question :shock:
cummon peeps, some input required here please
been askin the same question for years and years
(never did get an answer)sigh :dunno:
:lol2:
Sex God
Quote by markz
you live in the middle of nowhere pete
well maybe you're right Markz, but we have been on this site since 1874, and have not had a single response to any of our adds (this is actually nearly true)
And all we get In reply to our mails is "thanks, but no thanks" :shock:
I never realised that Mrs Pete was sooo unattractive that people would actually sign a petition to have us moved to the mingers section
Being as I’m such a handsome chap I really think I should try to forge out on my own ……….. What :dunno: :whistling|
thats 1 of many reasons marcus i guess, however we've been on here nearly 3 years on and off and gotta say it's getting better, at first only 1% of peeps turned up for arranged meets but our dogging meet yesterday actually got 10% turned up,so vast improvement, however you seem to get a larger %age turn up for social / munches.
Quote by poshkate
as for your initial question........well it works for me........
Well if it works for her it must work for me..........or is there something your not telling me hun
People drop out for all manner of reasons, whilst I've never failed to show at a meet I remember feeling the biggest c*nt on earth because I had to cancel last minute on 2 social events and trust me nothing normally comes between me and a night out :lol:
It happens I've had someone back out on me once................. but at the end of the day life goes on and all that
Mod
well they defo work for me
Been on site for quite a while now put myself out to travel and attend socials.
Makes it easier to meet ppl that way on a no assumption basis.
Have made some brillaint freinds all over the country and had fun with a few more on the way.
Before you say oh yes but its easier for a single fem >>>>>>>>>>>>come on guys get real there is the safety issue as well as the abuse you get thrown at you if you actualy answer mail with thanks but no thanks you are not my type.
so yeh on the whole they work and very well to :twisted:
Been on site for quite a while now put myself out to travel and attend socials.
Makes it easier to meet ppl that way on a no assumption basis.
Have made some brillaint freinds all over the country and had fun with a few more on the way.
Before you say oh yes but its easier for a single fem >>>>>>>>>>>>come on guys get real there is the safety issue as well as the abuse you get thrown at you if you actualy answer mail with thanks but no thanks you are not my type.
so yeh on the whole they work and very well to :twisted:
I think lots of people on here like the idea and get turned on by the flirting and arranging a meet but thats all they after, some people just think its funny to have you stood about waiting for them knowing they never going to turn up, some people genuinly have reasons why they can't make it and havn't neen able to let you know, after all if my child had just got knocked over out side the house the first thing that came to my mind would not be to run in the house and sent a PM to some guy i was meeting later theres many reasons people don't turn up each case is diffarent there just is no answer.
As for if it works, well i have had my fair share of time wasters and no shows like most of us but over all yes it works for me
theres many reasons people don't turn up each case is diffarent there just is no answer.As for if it works, well i have had my fair share of time wasters and no shows like most of us but over all yes it works for me
Quote by marcus123
just a thought, and this is a bit of an open question. do you think men, women and couples back out at the last minute because they like the idea and not the reality? would like to hear views on this, could be quite intresting!
Hello, I am new to the forum but ot to the site.
I think the site is brilliant, it's changed my life so much for the better. I dont get lucky all the time, but I do get luky often enough and from time to time this can move into regular meetings, even better from my point of view
I think too many single men play like naughty little boys on the site. I' sure some pretend to be couples just to receive naughty pics etc. I am sure loads of men reply with no intention of ever actually meeting up, just a wind up. I'm sure some boys pretend to be single 18 year old nymphomaniac females, just to get a reaction.
Lots of free members place adverts, then add to their ad, please send pics, we will not reply without. Well, I don' think free members can see pics attached to emails. I'm sure that's very frustrating for them, but have they been informed, no pay no pics in emails, I don't know.
Adds over a month old on the system are frustrating, as are people that havn't been on the site for over 3 months, especially free members who have just given up. If you wor on the site, you soon learn who are regular swingers in yor area, who don't fancy you (and fair enough) and others who seem compatable.
If you read all the forum advise, and it doesn't take too long, follow that advise, work hard at it, then tis is a wonderful site that is very good for me. I havn't poted much in the forums, I don't attend munches, I don't travel, but I still have a good amount of fun from the site.
I apologise if I have framed this too much as a single man. Swinging is my hobby, and call me an old transpotter if you will, but I work at it, lots of reseach and then lots of effort into retention, ie, pting my new friends preferencebefore my own. Gawd hope that doesnt sound too clinical.
i'll shurrup now
Regards Simon
Quote by vodkatonic
as well as the abuse you get thrown at you if you actualy answer mail with thanks but no thanks you are not my type.
Slightly off subject here but I have heard of a number of cases of women being abused for turning offers down. Does the site have a policy for dealing with this. Did you report the individuals concerned vodka? And if you did what action was taken?
Re. the original question yes of course this site works. Like vodka, I have met some of the very best people on here. But the site is made up of people and as they say there's nowt as queer as folk. They come in all shapes and sizes.
No one is born swinging and at some point someone has to make that first move into the water. People do get scared and back out. Yes there are those on here who are just cam watchers and pic collectors who would run a mile if confronted by a real couple, but I think most people who pull out of meets do so because they just can't go through with it. Some on here do complain about people not being honest about their intentions in advance but to be fair, it is sometimes only minutes before a meet, with their heart racing, that a person realises that it is not for them. And no-one should continue with something if they are not comfortable. I think that this will always be a problem with swinging. A shame really as I have seen so many people go through hell psyching themselves up for a meet to realise after they have taken that step that it is not only not scary but is actually loads of fun. And for every one of those people there are countless others who don't cross that wonderful line.
Most people, particularly here in the UK, spend their life in the world of fantasy. We are the ones that step over that line and make our fantasies reality.
Yes swinging sites do work, but only for those who want them to.
Lonni x
Quote by Lonni
Slightly off subject here but I have heard of a number of cases of women being abused for turning offers down.
Why on earth do they send abuse - what do they hope to gain? I guess the "silver lining" is that it confirms that they were right to turn them down in the first place.
Quote by Lonni
Does the site have a policy for dealing with this. Did you report the individuals concerned vodka?
I hope so - otherwise these idiots will just keep going.
Quote by 36openminded
Slightly off subject here but I have heard of a number of cases of women being abused for turning offers down.
Why on earth do they send abuse - what do they hope to gain? I guess the "silver lining" is that it confirms that they were right to turn them down in the first place.
Quote by Lonni
Does the site have a policy for dealing with this. Did you report the individuals concerned vodka?
I hope so - otherwise these idiots will just keep going.
Sadly it does happen... hence I don't often reply to unsolicited PM's anymore. A "Thanks but no thanks." canresult in an nice reply along the lines of "Ok well thanks for letting me know." or at the other end of the spectrum I've had messages like "Well I didn't really want to f*ck you anyway you ugly b*tch etc etc" and worse.
The good news is though that Admin have always acted swiftly and fairly when I have forwarded the offensive messages. Of course it is tempting to reply to an abusive message with "p*ss off you c*nt" but it's then six of one and half a dozen of the other. Just report anything without replying and move on.
Quote by simonnw
just a thought, and this is a bit of an open question. do you think men, women and couples back out at the last minute because they like the idea and not the reality? would like to hear views on this, could be quite intresting!
Hello, I am new to the forum but ot to the site.
I think the site is brilliant, it's changed my life so much for the better. I dont get lucky all the time, but I do get luky often enough and from time to time this can move into regular meetings, even better from my point of view
I think too many single men play like naughty little boys on the site. I' sure some pretend to be couples just to receive naughty pics etc. I am sure loads of men reply with no intention of ever actually meeting up, just a wind up. I'm sure some boys pretend to be single 18 year old nymphomaniac females, just to get a reaction.
Lots of free members place adverts, then add to their ad, please send pics, we will not reply without. Well, I don' think free members can see pics attached to emails. I'm sure that's very frustrating for them, but have they been informed, no pay no pics in emails, I don't know.
Adds over a month old on the system are frustrating, as are people that havn't been on the site for over 3 months, especially free members who have just given up. If you wor on the site, you soon learn who are regular swingers in yor area, who don't fancy you (and fair enough) and others who seem compatable.
If you read all the forum advise, and it doesn't take too long, follow that advise, work hard at it, then tis is a wonderful site that is very good for me. I havn't poted much in the forums, I don't attend munches, I don't travel, but I still have a good amount of fun from the site.
I apologise if I have framed this too much as a single man. Swinging is my hobby, and call me an old transpotter if you will, but I work at it, lots of reseach and then lots of effort into retention, ie, pting my new friends preferencebefore my own. Gawd hope that doesnt sound too clinical.
i'll shurrup now
Regards Simon
well put
not the "i'll shurrup now" bit Quote by cuddly-catlin
just a thought, and this is a bit of an open question. do you think men, women and couples back out at the last minute because they like the idea and not the reality? would like to hear views on this, could be quite intresting!
Hello, I am new to the forum but ot to the site.
I think the site is brilliant, it's changed my life so much for the better. I dont get lucky all the time, but I do get luky often enough and from time to time this can move into regular meetings, even better from my point of view
I think too many single men play like naughty little boys on the site. I' sure some pretend to be couples just to receive naughty pics etc. I am sure loads of men reply with no intention of ever actually meeting up, just a wind up. I'm sure some boys pretend to be single 18 year old nymphomaniac females, just to get a reaction.
Lots of free members place adverts, then add to their ad, please send pics, we will not reply without. Well, I don' think free members can see pics attached to emails. I'm sure that's very frustrating for them, but have they been informed, no pay no pics in emails, I don't know.
Adds over a month old on the system are frustrating, as are people that havn't been on the site for over 3 months, especially free members who have just given up. If you wor on the site, you soon learn who are regular swingers in yor area, who don't fancy you (and fair enough) and others who seem compatable.
If you read all the forum advise, and it doesn't take too long, follow that advise, work hard at it, then tis is a wonderful site that is very good for me. I havn't poted much in the forums, I don't attend munches, I don't travel, but I still have a good amount of fun from the site.
I apologise if I have framed this too much as a single man. Swinging is my hobby, and call me an old transpotter if you will, but I work at it, lots of reseach and then lots of effort into retention, ie, pting my new friends preferencebefore my own. Gawd hope that doesnt sound too clinical.
i'll shurrup now
Regards Simon
well put
not the "i'll shurrup now" bit 
:D :D :D :D To answer the original question, Yep its worked for us.
Timewasters......hmmmmm difficult one this, of course they exist, in any walk of life there are talkers and there are do'ers.
People who set up meets with the intention of never keeping to arrangements made, well i think everyone has pretty much the same opinion of them.
The person just starting out is a bit different imho i know when we first started how nervous we both were, so i suppose we can empathsise a bit, if folks are in this situation we would much rather have a message saying 'I/We arnt sure can we postpone' than turn up and know that one of the people dosnt feel comfortable or even want to be involved in the situation. Theres far too much that can go wrong and it can have the effect of putting poeple off for good.
To be honest if we have a meet arranged and we get a message cancelling it wether before or in the days following, we'll always give folks another chance after all, life does have this habit of getting in the way sometimes!
Timewasters......hmmmmm difficult one this, of course they exist, in any walk of life there are talkers and there are do'ers.
People who set up meets with the intention of never keeping to arrangements made, well i think everyone has pretty much the same opinion of them.
The person just starting out is a bit different imho i know when we first started how nervous we both were, so i suppose we can empathsise a bit, if folks are in this situation we would much rather have a message saying 'I/We arnt sure can we postpone' than turn up and know that one of the people dosnt feel comfortable or even want to be involved in the situation. Theres far too much that can go wrong and it can have the effect of putting poeple off for good.
To be honest if we have a meet arranged and we get a message cancelling it wether before or in the days following, we'll always give folks another chance after all, life does have this habit of getting in the way sometimes!
