Most of the negatives on the "Do women like DP" seem to centre around not liking anal sex or finding it difficult. Interesting to know what all sexes think about this subject. Be serious now.
When I was in my teens and 20s, I wasn't particularly interested in it. Thirty years later, I regret all the missed opportunities ... girls wanted to be technical virgins then and didn't want to get pregnant but they were still HOT (believe it or not!). Unfortunately, my technique was bad. I remember a girlfriend who was really interested it and poked her bum right up in the air, really up, to encourage me. I jammed it in without much thought. Very poor experience for her and not much better for me. Put her right off and also off DP, in which she had expressed an interest previously.
I know more about it now and will repeat what's in the DP thread. My experience is that most people don't really enjoy anal penetration until the sphincter is dialated fully but then tend to enjoy surprisingly deep penetration. As a student, I vividly remember a rather proper middle-aged woman clearly experiencing a powerful orgasm during proctoscopy.
Some people do have very tight anal sphincters and there drugs and surgical procedures to relieve this. I'm not suggesting that for this purpose. You can "train" your sphincter by inserting a progressively wider series of objects. Within reason, object length is no problem since the average large intestine is long. Another tip is to insert the object tip and press firmly towards one of the legs, rather than to just push straight in or pushing fore or aft.
Most sources say that much lubrication is required for anal intercourse although my experience is that a little saliva or pre-ejaculate will do; but better too much than too little, though. You *really, really, really should use a condom* against STDs and a water based lubricant is important (e.g., K-Y) then; petroleum based lubricants will dissolve the rubber in a few minutes. Another reason for using a condom is to deal with the dreaded "brown hat" phenomenon (I've never actually had that happen to me) and for cleanliness in general (you can get urethritis from E. coli or worse being pushed in).
Warnings! Large objects (or excessive enthusiasm) can tear the sphincter or relax it permanently. A tear may have to be repaired surgically and a lazy sphincter can lead to faecal incontinence, both of which are unpleasant and embarrassing. Another warning is about losing dildos and objects in the bowel. We used to laugh ourselves silly in A&E when these patients (always men) attended, but it may require more medical attention than you really want under the circumstances. Also, although the bowel is over a metre long, it makes a sharp turn after the rectum, so don't push in anything too long, especially if you get resistance, and don't be too energetic. A bowel perforation is a life-threatening emergency!
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Do women like DP should be do you like A?
Fascinating post. Thanks.
Personally I'm quite fond of anal-play but not full penetration - either giving or receiving. Actually I've only been on the giving penetration side a few times and my overall reaction is always "huh, is that it?". I have played around with receiving dildos and wotnot but again it leaves me underwhelmed, whilst just the tip of a finger drives me absolutely crazy.
Personally I'm quite fond of anal-play but not full penetration - either giving or receiving. Actually I've only been on the giving penetration side a few times and my overall reaction is always "huh, is that it?". I have played around with receiving dildos and wotnot but again it leaves me underwhelmed, whilst just the tip of a finger drives me absolutely crazy.
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Warnings! Large objects (or excessive enthusiasm) can tear the sphincter or relax it permanently.
Have fun!
Yes of course all things are possible and what you say here is fundamentally true, but in practise this tearing is extremely rare, especially considering the overall number of people who practise and enjoy anal sex on a regular basis. In fact this is almost impossible unless a rigid and completely solid object is used (common sense should always prevail here). Your right regarding foreign objects getting stuck or lost, again this is by people being careless and silly. A real penis or a silicone or flexible plastic "strap- on" is extremely unlikely to tear the sphincter in normal sexual activity, even in enthusiastic activity. If you need confirmation of this just watch some anal porn. As your profile states that you are a Doctor I am sure you are more than aware of these facts and that we should not really be into scare stories. I bow to you superior medical knowledge, however, personally I have been a avid devotee of this practise for several decades and having been involved with the LGBT community for many years I have never come across anyone experiencing a torn sphincter due to normal or enthusiastic anal play. I take issue with using saliva as lube then body fluid of any kind should be avoided for obvious reasons including saliva as this is a very easy medium for carrying all kinds of nasties. I am surprised at a doctor recommending this. Lube, lube and more lube such as TLC or KY should be use in abundance to avoid any kind of chaffing,( hence another opportunity for infection) and reducing friction to minimum, the condom helps in the lubrication process too. There can never be too much water based lube used here.
This reply is just so people don't become too paranoid or scared about a subject / activity that some people would like to try but are a little bit afraid to indulge in.
As in all things sexual, if we use common sense and care then there isn't usually a problem.
Judy
As a doctor, I suppose almost nothing can really be recommended
, certainly not anal intercourse. While the mouth is possibly one of the (bacteriologically) dirtiest places in the body, it doesn't stop many of us from employing it for diverse sexual practices and, where the mouth goes, saliva goes with it. Arse-kissing has a long and noble history - see todays Honours. As for tears, it's natural that more of these are seen in a medical environment than in the bedroom. I, however, experienced one personally as the result of too much enthusiasm on the part of a male partner. Too embarassed to go to colleagues and a bit difficult to do oneself, it has now resolved after 30 years to only an occasionally troublesome fissure. As you say, a bit of common sense ... pity there's so little of it out there. Certainly no one who would indulge in "normal" sex should avoid anal sex if they fancy it - you should see what childbirth can do! But SAFE, SAFE, SAFE - multiple partners is a very high risk for STDs!!!!
Orgasminator
Quote by jgjsmith
Most of the negatives on the "Do women like DP" seem to centre around not liking anal sex or finding it difficult. Interesting to know what all sexes think about this subject. !
DP is great but you have to know how to go about it. Get the A filled first and then the V. Only one man can move at a time. Or best, just leave it up to the lady to move any way she fancies!
It is important to listen to your partner and watch out for signs of non verbal communication. A sharp 'Ah!' is bad. A long 'Ahhhhhh' is good. Kicking and punching the mattress is bad... very bad, means you are hurting the hell out of her/him. Grasping the sheets/pillows and making caressing movements with your hands is a good sign - you are approaching heaven!
I would not recommend penetration without some lubrication as it can irritate/cause haemmorhoids. Believe me, you don't want that!
Never lost anything inside. As long as the muscles are in good shape, the body will prevent anodic movement.
People are advised to do their homework and play safe. And don't believe tales that you can insert things 1.5 metres long in your ass, it is not true.
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Do women like DP should be do you like A?
This brings up a question I've been curious about ever since choosing the wording for our SH ad: Vix & I thoroughly enjoy DP, but neither of us has any interest in A whatsoever (giving or receiving). So, in our case, DP is limited to two penii (is that the plural?) rubbing enthusiastically against each other within her vagina. Now, I know that when people use the term, they're most commonly referring to one penis in the vagina and one in the anus. So, my question is, is there another term for our particular flavour of DP - i.e. two in one hole - so that we can make it clear that no anal entry would be involved?
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Do women like DP should be do you like A?
This brings up a question I've been curious about ever since choosing the wording for our SH ad: Vix & I thoroughly enjoy DP, but neither of us has any interest in A whatsoever (giving or receiving). So, in our case, DP is limited to two penii (is that the plural?) rubbing enthusiastically against each other within her vagina. Now, I know that when people use the term, they're most commonly referring to one penis in the vagina and one in the anus. So, my question is, is there another term for our particular flavour of DP - i.e. two in one hole - so that we can make it clear that no anal entry would be involved?
Would it work if you just put in VDP
: or things like pussyDP :?: .......personaly I like the idea of that type of DP just gotta find 2 cocks :twisted: Sex God
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Would it work if you just put in VDP
VDP (noun) - Vix' Double Penetration :P
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.......personaly I like the idea of that type of DP just gotta find 2 cocks :twisted:
You should be at ours for Vix' & my wedding night - there'll be plenty to go around! ;)
~Reese!
P.S. Seriously, referring to it as VDP should do the trick - thanks!
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Sex God
Quote by cool4catz
Reese, I would have said "double vaginal" is probably about as clear as you could be, possibly not everyone would get what "VDP" meant.
You're probably right - I should spell it out - ta.
Then again, we could write a manual with easy-to-understand instructions, diagrams, photos, a FAQ and system requirements - i.e. minimum endowment to make the effort practical - and provide this in convenient PDF format linked from our ad!
~Reese!
Orgasminator
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It's going to get very confusing when all the high street shops start selling DVD Audio.
that would be even worse for sure , DVDA does sound like a laugh though, for those flexibla enough to manage it!
Orgasminator
Quote by Reese
Do women like DP should be do you like A?
This brings up a question I've been curious about ever since choosing the wording for our SH ad: Vix & I thoroughly enjoy DP, but neither of us has any interest in A whatsoever (giving or receiving). So, in our case, DP is limited to two penii (is that the plural?) rubbing enthusiastically against each other within her vagina. Now, I know that when people use the term, they're most commonly referring to one penis in the vagina and one in the anus. So, my question is, is there another term for our particular flavour of DP - i.e. two in one hole - so that we can make it clear that no anal entry would be involved?
I've always heard it expressed as "twos up" or "2's up" or double pussy.
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I've always heard it expressed as "twos up" or "2's up" or double pussy.
Thanks, Jon! Two's up sounds good to me - will give it a go - especially if it's a more commonly understood term. Seems more flexible as well, since we were trying to figure out the logistics of making it a three's up on the wedding night (which, of course, requires the utmost of flexibility)! ;)
~Reese! :love:
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I've always heard it expressed as "twos up" or "2's up" or double pussy.
Thanks, Jon! Two's up sounds good to me - will give it a go - especially if it's a more commonly understood term. Seems more flexible as well, since we were trying to figure out the logistics of making it a three's up on the wedding night (which, of course, requires the utmost of flexibility)! ;)
~Reese! :love:
:shock: :shock: :shock:
:lol: :lol: Now that i'd love to see... you need a photographer to record the events :lol: :lol:
Quote by piercedJon
I've always heard it expressed as "twos up" or "2's up" or double pussy.
Thanks, Jon! Two's up sounds good to me - will give it a go - especially if it's a more commonly understood term. Seems more flexible as well, since we were trying to figure out the logistics of making it a three's up on the wedding night (which, of course, requires the utmost of flexibility)! ;)
~Reese! :love:
:shock: :shock: :shock:
:lol: :lol: Now that i'd love to see... you need a photographer to record the events :lol: :lol:
Damnit, John... use the remote shutter release, eh? ;)
Orgasminator
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I've always heard it expressed as "twos up" or "2's up" or double pussy.
Thanks, Jon! Two's up sounds good to me - will give it a go - especially if it's a more commonly understood term. Seems more flexible as well, since we were trying to figure out the logistics of making it a three's up on the wedding night (which, of course, requires the utmost of flexibility)! ;)
~Reese! :love:
:shock: :shock: :shock:
:lol: :lol: Now that i'd love to see... you need a photographer to record the events :lol: :lol:
Damnit, John... use the remote shutter release, eh? ;)
"ooo errr misus" :lol: :lol: :lol:
Now theres an idea ;-) :P
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As a doctor, I suppose almost nothing can really be recommended
Interesting to hear the views of a doctor on this subject ..................... but slightly disconcerting to see that your avatar is the spitting image of Dr Harold Shipman. :shock: :shock:
Quote by NLondonJohn
As a doctor, I suppose almost nothing can really be recommended
Interesting to hear the views of a doctor on this subject ..................... but slightly disconcerting to see that your avatar is the spitting image of Dr Harold Shipman. :shock: :shock:
Hmmmm .... suppose so. Perhaps a change is indicated then.
How's this? Not a bit like Shipman!
