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Quote by naughtynymphos1
as a rule i/we only meet people we have already met at munches/parties or when we go to clubs, i find its a much easier way to meet genuine people,
That'd be fine for me, too if we didn't live in Scotland. There are no clubs and we've only had two munches in the past year. I agree with most of you, though as far as most ads being a complete waste of time. In all the ads I've replied to I've rarely had an answer and the one couple who sent us a phone number never answered it when we called. Been chatting to one couple lately who advertise, but don't use the forum or chat much. Perhaps if they didn't all require seperate sign-ins & passwords there might be more switching between them. But I do think most advertisers -with apologies to those here who do - are pic collectors and time-wasters. Most of them just want you to reply with a photo for their collection.
We have an ad and we regulalry look through the ads to find people to play with. Got very few responses either way but the few that we have got to know have been absolutely wonderful people! Definitely a case of quality over quantity. We don't seem to get inundated with e-mails but then our ad goes into quite a bit of detail and most people are probably put off from reading to the end to find out e-mail address. We don't mind that much because we generally get good people contacting us rather than scores of undesirables.
I must be one of the few forum users who does not see the forum as a good way to meet people. For us there has to be a combination of physical attraction and cerebral appeal and we have, in the course of the last yeat, met a lot of really nice, intelligent and fun people who we are simply not attracted to. We hate to be in a situation where we like someone but don't find them attractive and have to tell them so (especially if we know they find us attractive) so we try to avoid that situation occurring and therefore it would be in very exceptional circumstances that we would get in touch with someone if we had not seen a picture of them before hand. Maybe this seems shallow to some and maybe we are missing out on meeting some great people but we only have so much time that we wish to devote to swinging and online friendships that it is the best way we can manage our time.
The idea of going to a club is appealing now (after swinging for a year) but it was a number of steps too far before very recently. In addition to that we are interested in making friends that we have sexy fun with (and in that order) so while the odd evening of purely sexual fun is good it only works on one level. And one final - though major - point; there are no clubs that are readliy accessible to those of us in the frozen north of Scotland so searching, and posting, the ads is pretty much all we can do if we want to meet people! (If anyone knows of clubs in Scotland then please, please let me know!)
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I must be one of the few forum users who does not see the forum as a good way to meet people. For us there has to be a combination of physical attraction and cerebral appeal and we have, in the course of the last yeat, met a lot of really nice, intelligent and fun people who we are simply not attracted to. We hate to be in a situation where we like someone but don't find them attractive and have to tell them so (especially if we know they find us attractive) so we try to avoid that situation occurring and therefore it would be in very exceptional circumstances that we would get in touch with someone if we had not seen a picture of them before hand. Maybe this seems shallow to some and maybe we are missing out on meeting some great people but we only have so much time that we wish to devote to swinging and online friendships that it is the best way we can manage our time.
The idea of going to a club is appealing now (after swinging for a year) but it was a number of steps too far before very recently. In addition to that we are interested in making friends that we have sexy fun with (and in that order) so while the odd evening of purely sexual fun is good it only works on one level. And one final - though major - point; there are no clubs that are readliy accessible to those of us in the frozen north of Scotland so searching, and posting, the ads is pretty much all we can do if we want to meet people! (If anyone knows of clubs in Scotland then please, please let me know!)
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Warming the Bed
Along the lines of an earlier post, the only responses I've had to the ad on here were from gay men.
It hasn't been updated in a while tho'.
I have managed a couple of meets thru' chat rooms elsewhere. (I find the one here slow and hard to access!)
Its disappointing that when you take time to give a full response to an ad that you don't even receive a "no thanks". I've also stopped sending pics because of this. So what if people don't find each other attractive? Just turn off the lights and explore!
Oh and at the time of posting 60% have replied "yes" and 39% "no". It is late, but I'm sure there wasn't a third option for that other 1%.
It hasn't been updated in a while tho'.
I have managed a couple of meets thru' chat rooms elsewhere. (I find the one here slow and hard to access!)
Its disappointing that when you take time to give a full response to an ad that you don't even receive a "no thanks". I've also stopped sending pics because of this. So what if people don't find each other attractive? Just turn off the lights and explore!
Oh and at the time of posting 60% have replied "yes" and 39% "no". It is late, but I'm sure there wasn't a third option for that other 1%.
Sex God
Quote by Happy Cats
We've had to stop updating our ads, we got sick of all the " do you meet alone without your wife"
Some people!
What ?
:roll: Is this when they get an invite to your diseased dogging van :scared: :scared:
Sex God
Quote by Happy Cats
We've had to stop updating our ads, we got sick of all the " do you meet alone without your wife"
Some people!
What ?
:roll: Is this when they get an invite to your diseased dogging van :scared: :scared:
I'm getting sick of telling you - "I dont go solo!" Stop asking!
Please dont say that :cry: :cry: dont you know i :love: you and your dirty diseased dogging van
:worship: :love: Quote by HornyRed
We've had to stop updating our ads, we got sick of all the " do you meet alone without your wife"
Some people!
What ?
:roll: Is this when they get an invite to your diseased dogging van :scared: :scared:
I'm getting sick of telling you - "I dont go solo!" Stop asking!
Please dont say that :cry: :cry: dont you know i :love: you and your dirty diseased dogging van
:worship: :love:Sorry, but NO!
As a single male i cant really see the point of advertising Yes i do reply but can appreciate that say a couple advertising for single males/doggers will be inundated with replies but "if you havent got your hook in the water you wont catch fish" Exactly how do you convince a couple that yes the wife does know , yes im discrete ,yes i will turn up if i say i will ,no i dont want pics of her bits, no not just after anything with a pulse ,i can do joined up talking and dont fire off replies by the dozen Answers on a postcard please or EM
I have done both with success. Placing an ad is easier, you get to put what you want that way :twisted: (not that many of them actually take notice!), though I have answered one or two (and I PM people on here too).
I don’t bother with one liners because they say nothing and I am much more inclined to take notice of something written in details with a simple photo attached. If someone tells me what they are into, a little about what they have done, then I can see if we are sexually compatible. It does go wrong sometimes and I have met people who have said they are into some things that they definitely are not into (but I have still had fun with them lol). I have met some lovely sexy guys through the ads that make my weekends fun :P .
I don’t bother with one liners because they say nothing and I am much more inclined to take notice of something written in details with a simple photo attached. If someone tells me what they are into, a little about what they have done, then I can see if we are sexually compatible. It does go wrong sometimes and I have met people who have said they are into some things that they definitely are not into (but I have still had fun with them lol). I have met some lovely sexy guys through the ads that make my weekends fun :P .
Sexlightened
We have an ad which we put up when we first joined the site, we also have ads elsewhere at other sites, We met with one cpl from here from chat and found the ad useful when we used chat for people to be able to see us and what we were looking for etc. It certainly saved having to type out the same info each time we "met" someone onlne.
We have had a pretty low response rate to our ad, although we are relatively picky and not looking for a single guy, so that cuts potential responses down a lot ;) Our expectations have shifted somewhat recently however and we now tend to use SH to browse the forums. We still think it is useful having an ad though for other browsers to link to and being eternal optimists we never know when we might get lucky :P
We have had a pretty low response rate to our ad, although we are relatively picky and not looking for a single guy, so that cuts potential responses down a lot ;) Our expectations have shifted somewhat recently however and we now tend to use SH to browse the forums. We still think it is useful having an ad though for other browsers to link to and being eternal optimists we never know when we might get lucky :P
