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Quote by targaid
It seems to me that there are two types of folk here. Those who put up an ad' and those who, like me, only reply. So I was wondering what the proportion of members was each way. Really just hoping that I'm not in the minority.
I don't have an ad...... and that places me in a similar position to many of the women on SH... i chat to whomsoever i feel like chatting to.... but must admit... i never look through the ads... unless i particularly wish to see just who it is i'm talking to.....
equi-princess xxx
Sex God
Jon and I do run an ad, but I never read the ad section looking for a prospective meet.
Jon peruses it from time to time, but we've only ever replied to one. That turned into a very successful regular arrangement, which has lasted almost two years :twisted:
We have so many replies to our own, we can generally find someone to take our fancy from those. We have also met with a number of people via the chatroom/forum and of course social get togethers.
All in all, I think we get lots out of the site from every angle
Tracy-Jayne
Jon peruses it from time to time, but we've only ever replied to one. That turned into a very successful regular arrangement, which has lasted almost two years :twisted:
We have so many replies to our own, we can generally find someone to take our fancy from those. We have also met with a number of people via the chatroom/forum and of course social get togethers.
All in all, I think we get lots out of the site from every angle
Tracy-Jayne
I have always found that as a single female it is best not to advertise, I just go shoping on the Men seeking women pages, this saves a lot of time and means I get more choice. If I do advertise the response is overwelming and usual most of the respondees just havnt bothered reading the ad properly!!
However, as a couple who are currently looking for something very specific we have advertised, strange though the response has been mainly from people who dont fit our criteria - so not much difference there!!
However, as a couple who are currently looking for something very specific we have advertised, strange though the response has been mainly from people who dont fit our criteria - so not much difference there!!
We have a add but never get any replys to it 
i have never replyed to a add, like dawn as a rule i/we only meet people we have already met at munches/parties or when we go to clubs, i find its a much easier way to meet genuine people, i have never met anyone thro the adds to be honest, i once put up a add in the single fems board asking for a bi guy to go to chams with on bi night and within 15 mins i had 30+ emails all from guys offering me something different to what i had asked for, mostly str8 men and guys who would rather meet at my place :roll: so i just don't bother with the adds section, now if i want a bi guy i go to chams on my own and take my pick of whos there
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i have never replyed to a add, like dawn as a rule i/we only meet people we have already met at munches/parties or when we go to clubs, i find its a much easier way to meet genuine people, i have never met anyone thro the adds to be honest, i once put up a add in the single fems board asking for a bi guy to go to chams with on bi night and within 15 mins i had 30+ emails all from guys offering me something different to what i had asked for, mostly str8 men and guys who would rather meet at my place :roll: so i just don't bother with the adds section, now if i want a bi guy i go to chams on my own and take my pick of whos there
:lol: Yes being new here I spent 2 weeks looking in the forums and at the ads too ... wrote to some people .. and posted a bit but seemed to get off on the wrong foot so I posted an ad myself .. within 24 hrs my inbox was groaning and so was i ... 3 weeks later and a sore typing hand later I still haven't found what I am looking for nor had any sex with anyone from the replies. Maybe I am being too fussy but I know what I want .. just don't think placing an ad is getting if for me as I see the 'come out onto the moors and bend over the bonnet of your car for me for a few minutes brigade' seem to be the main repliers to my advert. I did say in it I was not interested in one night stands but well as a lot here have already said ..the vast majority of the men take no notice of what is written ... I can't understand why they then wonder why they have no luck
DD
DD
Quote by devondelight
Yes being new here I spent 2 weeks looking in the forums and at the ads too ... wrote to some people .. and posted a bit but seemed to get off on the wrong foot so I posted an ad myself .. within 24 hrs my inbox was groaning and so was i ... 3 weeks later and a sore typing hand later I still haven't found what I am looking for nor had any sex with anyone from the replies. Maybe I am being too fussy but I know what I want .. just don't think placing an ad is getting if for me as I see the 'come out onto the moors and bend over the bonnet of your car for me for a few minutes brigade' seem to be the main repliers to my advert. I did say in it I was not interested in one night stands but well as a lot here have already said ..the vast majority of the men take no notice of what is written ... I can't understand why they then wonder why they have no luck
DD
a lot (very lot
) of single guys on here are married and cheating and most do only want one night stands, they go thro the adds and just fire a load off hoping they will get at least one meet out of it, the emails u get are porbabily the same and the ones he had multi sent to another 20 email addresses which is why they are usually not what you are after. Quote by naughtynymphos1
Yes being new here I spent 2 weeks looking in the forums and at the ads too ... wrote to some people .. and posted a bit but seemed to get off on the wrong foot so I posted an ad myself .. within 24 hrs my inbox was groaning and so was i ... 3 weeks later and a sore typing hand later I still haven't found what I am looking for nor had any sex with anyone from the replies. Maybe I am being too fussy but I know what I want .. just don't think placing an ad is getting if for me as I see the 'come out onto the moors and bend over the bonnet of your car for me for a few minutes brigade' seem to be the main repliers to my advert. I did say in it I was not interested in one night stands but well as a lot here have already said ..the vast majority of the men take no notice of what is written ... I can't understand why they then wonder why they have no luck
DD
a lot (very lot
) of single guys on here are married and cheating and most do only want one night stands, they go thro the adds and just fire a load off hoping they will get at least one meet out of it, the emails u get are porbabily the same and the ones he had multi sent to another 20 email addresses which is why they are usually not what you are after.Duh ya think :roll:
DD
Quote by seagull69
We've never posted an ad and never replied to one, there seem to be much easier ways of meeting people.
I have to agree with this. I think there is too much effort in trying to arrange meets through ads. Its so much easier to go to a club
It depends on what you are looking for and what your circumstances are.
I am married but in a celibate marriage .. hubby is ok with me meeting someone but he doesn't want me to be sleeping with a string of fellas I don't know.
So going to the clubs on my own would not please him and scares the **** out of me to be honest. Its horses for courses.
DD
Quote by seagull69
We've never posted an ad and never replied to one, there seem to be much easier ways of meeting people.
I have to agree with this. I think there is too much effort in trying to arrange meets through ads.Its so much easier to go to a club
Yep, totally agree. We started at clubs, have only done clubs and see no reason to change and we've never had a timewaster yet.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Quote by devondelight
We've never posted an ad and never replied to one, there seem to be much easier ways of meeting people.
I have to agree with this. I think there is too much effort in trying to arrange meets through ads. Its so much easier to go to a club
It depends on what you are looking for and what your circumstances are.
I am married but in a celibate marriage .. hubby is ok with me meeting someone but he doesn't want me to be sleeping with a string of fellas I don't know.
So going to the clubs on my own would not please him and scares the **** out of me to be honest. Its horses for courses.
DD
clubs are very scary places till you actually go to them and realise that all the images you have of them are just not true.
Speaking of chameleons which is the club we use the most because its so close, its very relaxed and has private rooms, noone will pester you for sex and as a rule most men will ask b4 joining in even in a open room, tho i do admit in some rooms it can get a bit like a cattle market, but if your new you just avoid them rooms. Its not a scary place, u are able to chat at the bar and get to know some one and then go off to a private room on or own and lock the door. Personally i think its a ideal place to meet people, u don't have to mess about swapping pics, chatting on phone, arranging a meet, worring if they will like you when u do meet etc plus i quite like the cattle market effect at times :twisted:
Sex God
It sounds like the old type of job hunting. Create a few CV's. Make sure they are all general and all show off your plus points. Send them to as many companies (women) as you can in a hope that one or two will get noticed. Using this method for applying for jobs, you could send out 100-200 CV's and get three replies.
Now-a-days, this is not what people try and do. Instead they look for a job that they might actually like. Something they will enjoy doing. Where the times are good, not too far traveling and hopefully nice people to work with. For jobs like these however it usually requires a more custom made CV. Something that will stand you out of the crowd. Something that is creative and defined purely from the job role and application form. Using the custom CV method you do get a much higher response rate from the companies. Even if it is a no thanks but the position is filled. Roughly you'll be looking at 30 jobs applied for, around 10-15 will reply back.
This was purely a metaphore and shouldn't be considered as a rule of thumb. Women are much more harder work then any job you're likely to come to.
Now-a-days, this is not what people try and do. Instead they look for a job that they might actually like. Something they will enjoy doing. Where the times are good, not too far traveling and hopefully nice people to work with. For jobs like these however it usually requires a more custom made CV. Something that will stand you out of the crowd. Something that is creative and defined purely from the job role and application form. Using the custom CV method you do get a much higher response rate from the companies. Even if it is a no thanks but the position is filled. Roughly you'll be looking at 30 jobs applied for, around 10-15 will reply back.
This was purely a metaphore and shouldn't be considered as a rule of thumb. Women are much more harder work then any job you're likely to come to.
Sex God
Quote by northwest-cpl
We've never posted an ad and never replied to one, there seem to be much easier ways of meeting people.
I did have an ad for a while, but I won't again - I agree with what they say above. :thumbup:
I've run an ad twice, both of which were successful (hopefully anyway, the second meeting is tomorrow 
). Replying to ads is a totally different matter though, I replied to some earlier in the year and got no response at all which was a bit of a surprise based on comments in the forum about bi-females - but even so, I'd been on SH long enough to know that no replies is common.
It very much depends on what you're looking for. I like the social aspects of the forum and did use LMU once but getting to know people is the key to success. For me, the photo ads seem better for more specific or anonymous arrangements where friendship isn't the issue.
). Replying to ads is a totally different matter though, I replied to some earlier in the year and got no response at all which was a bit of a surprise based on comments in the forum about bi-females - but even so, I'd been on SH long enough to know that no replies is common.It very much depends on what you're looking for. I like the social aspects of the forum and did use LMU once but getting to know people is the key to success. For me, the photo ads seem better for more specific or anonymous arrangements where friendship isn't the issue.
Sex God
Quote by targaid
It seems to me that there are two types of folk here. Those who put up an ad' and those who, like me, only reply.
And those like me who do neither.
Sexlightened
Quote by Dawn_Mids
We rarely reply to other ads. That could possibly be because we tend to play with people we have met at a munch or social or even chatted to on the forum/chatroom I guess
Oh yeah do you fancy a chat......
sorry I just had to say it. 
Warming the Bed
We do both and intend to try the swinging clubs before crimbo
Warming the Bed
we do both
