do you think im bi?

3 Oct 2010

Quote by kentswingers777
Plus Brucie has now gone suddenly very shy.....unlike him.
His posts have been edited which leads me to seriously believe he is a bi geezer.
IF it was not true the posts would have remained.
I do not really know what the problem is with just admitting you are bi or whatever.....there is certainly no shame in it.
In all the years we have been swinging, and all the people we have met and played with, I would say 5% are completely straight, and the rest enjoy a dabble.
Why guys are scared to just admit it is beyond me.
Take it like a man Brucie........:giggle:

Well said, Kenty :thumbup:

3 Oct 2010

Quote by kentswingers777
Plus Brucie has now gone suddenly very shy.....unlike him.
His posts have been edited which leads me to seriously believe he is a bi geezer.
IF it was not true the posts would have remained.
I do not really know what the problem is with just admitting you are bi or whatever.....there is certainly no shame in it.
In all the years we have been swinging, and all the people we have met and played with, I would say 5% are completely straight, and the rest enjoy a dabble.
Why guys are scared to just admit it is beyond me.
Take it like a man Brucie........:giggle:

I would be 100% astonished if that figure was correct. Dont know if you are just referring to swinging couples or if you attribute this to the entire population. I think some people do have a problem with saying or even understanding they are bi. Mrs Tweeky for example on our profile it says Bi curious dunno

This is because although she will talk about woman in a sexual way whilst horny she cant seem to say whilst not horny that she likes woman. On the other hand I have no desire to talk about or do anything with men at all, it just does nothing for me. Some ideas when suggested seem sexually appealing where as say having a mens cock in my mouth does nothing at all. Its also not something I would do just as a tolerable act for someone else's enjoyment. So here is one of your 5% but I reckon I am in a lot larger % to be honest. Nothing wrong with being Bi I just think that figure is way off.

3 Oct 2010

Tweeks............I was simply commenting on the people we have met in the swinging scene, with my percentages.
I cannot possibly say what the figures are or could be in the vanilla world.
We have met I would say around 15 couples and a few single guys. All the guys in the couples except one were ok with some guy play.
In the single guy catagory there were a couple that did not mention that in general chatting, the rest were ok with it.
When I have asked why people just do not put it on their profile, it would be almost admitting to oneself that they were actually bi, and for some that is an admission they do not want to have.
There have been many threads on here over they years discussing this very issue, and I have said then and I will say now.....IF you are ok with sucking a cock or having your cock sucked by another guy, then you are bi.
Being bi does not mean you will take it or give it up a guys arse, because the bi thing is a lot more than just that.

3 Oct 2010

Quote by kentswingers777
Tweeks............I was simply commenting on the people we have met in the swinging scene, with my percentages.
I cannot possibly say what the figures are or could be in the vanilla world.
We have met I would say around 15 couples and a few single guys. All the guys in the couples except one were ok with some guy play.
In the single guy catagory there were a couple that did not mention that in general chatting, the rest were ok with it.
When I have asked why people just do not put it on their profile, it would be almost admitting to oneself that they were actually bi, and for some that is an admission they do not want to have.
There have been many threads on here over they years discussing this very issue, and I have said then and I will say now.....IF you are ok with sucking a cock or having your cock sucked by another guy, then you are bi.
Being bi does not mean you will take it or give it up a guys arse, because the bi thing is a lot more than just that.

All percentages I guess Kent. I took a look at your profile to what might make your percentage larger. As I am sure you know yours says straight male but you have looking for bi couple. That might be why you get couples with bi men. Going by your above figures around 90% of the straight male profiles on here would be Bi. It would be interesting to see how many bi guys a couples profile with straight males and without looking for bi couples gets. In our experience thats zero to date.

3 Oct 2010

Its not really practicable to consider bi as a main feature of a typical swinging profile. To be a practising bi would involve a group of at least 2 males and 2 females in any combination at any time, meeting enough to say that its truly the mainstay of your sex life.
so a typical hetero couple will be dabbling on occasion, but is it enough to say 'yeah i'm bi'
i have played with guys in a couple but its never been enough in my life to say i'm a practising bi.

3 Oct 2010

Quote by duncanlondon
Its not really practicable to consider bi as a main feature of a typical swinging profile. To be a practising bi would involve a group of at least 2 males and 2 females in any combination at any time, meeting enough to say that its truly the mainstay of your sex life.
so a typical hetero couple will be dabbling on occasion, but is it enough to say 'yeah i'm bi'
i have played with guys in a couple but its never been enough in my life to say i'm a practising bi.

So as you dont do it often enough you dont put it on your profile? So what about a single guy who is not getting any from any sex? Is he unclassified lol

I guess we all have ways of looking at it but mine is simple. Guys dont turn me on and I could not physically play with guys. A little contact when playing jointly with a female is unavoidable but its not expected to be sexual. If you have or can play with guys or might like to play with guys in my way of thinking that makes you bi. I am unable to do any of the things in the previous sentence, that makes me straight.
I guess now we will get the "no labeling" squad in. Not that I care its cut and dried to me and makes no difference how people want to perceive themselves as all I care about is how I perceive them. Does make life a little awkward though if you think some men who have played with men consider themselves not bi and dont put it on the profile. I would certainly say they were and that could lead to crossed wires at some future point.

3 Oct 2010

What saddens me with this thread is that anyone, male or female, feels they have to deny or hide the fact they are bi or bi-curious. Im not saying Brucie is or isnt, or that anyone in this thread is having a go at Bruicie or any other bi-male but I feel that it is sad that anyone does feel they cannot be 'straight' and say they are bi (sorry, excuse the pun).
Kent, I cant comment on your percentages, but I do agree that there are a lot more bi members of the site than the status on profiles, seems to suggest. We have met a lot of people who state they are 100% straight, but after getting to know them, it soom becomes clear that they are (as you describe) willing to dabble. Nothing what so ever wrong with it, but as I said, I feel it is sad that they do not feel they can be honest about it in the first place.
We seem to live in a society that although is relatively open to the differences in people, but, in a lot of ways, is not a very forgiving one :sad:

3 Oct 2010

Quote by tweeky
Tweeks............I was simply commenting on the people we have met in the swinging scene, with my percentages.
I cannot possibly say what the figures are or could be in the vanilla world.
We have met I would say around 15 couples and a few single guys. All the guys in the couples except one were ok with some guy play.
In the single guy catagory there were a couple that did not mention that in general chatting, the rest were ok with it.
When I have asked why people just do not put it on their profile, it would be almost admitting to oneself that they were actually bi, and for some that is an admission they do not want to have.
There have been many threads on here over they years discussing this very issue, and I have said then and I will say now.....IF you are ok with sucking a cock or having your cock sucked by another guy, then you are bi.
Being bi does not mean you will take it or give it up a guys arse, because the bi thing is a lot more than just that.

All percentages I guess Kent. I took a look at your profile to what might make your percentage larger. As I am sure you know yours says straight male but you have looking for bi couple. That might be why you get couples with bi men. Going by your above figures around 90% of the straight male profiles on here would be Bi. It would be interesting to see how many bi guys a couples profile with straight males and without looking for bi couples gets. In our experience thats zero to date.
Yes it does say bi couple in our search but I took that to mean something else. Irrelevant really as ALL the couples we have met it clearly states they are looking for a couple with a bi fem only.
It is only when we meet up and have a chat before any possible play that the subject tends to come up.
We have never actively sought to look for anything other than a bi fem couple. Actually you are the first person to comment on the fact our profile states bi couple, which I suppose could get people thinking we are looking for a couple who are both bi.
I will leave it as it is as it has been like that for as long as I can remember.

3 Oct 2010

I wonder if Bruce has gone out on a weekend sex bender, "Are show them lot i'm not Bi" lol

3 Oct 2010

Quote by tweeky
Its not really practicable to consider bi as a main feature of a typical swinging profile. To be a practising bi would involve a group of at least 2 males and 2 females in any combination at any time, meeting enough to say that its truly the mainstay of your sex life.
so a typical hetero couple will be dabbling on occasion, but is it enough to say 'yeah i'm bi'
i have played with guys in a couple but its never been enough in my life to say i'm a practising bi.

So as you dont do it often enough you dont put it on your profile? So what about a single guy who is not getting any from any sex? Is he unclassified lol

I guess we all have ways of looking at it but mine is simple. Guys dont turn me on and I could not physically play with guys. A little contact when playing jointly with a female is unavoidable but its not expected to be sexual. If you have or can play with guys or might like to play with guys in my way of thinking that makes you bi. I am unable to do any of the things in the previous sentence, that makes me straight.
I guess now we will get the "no labeling" squad in. Not that I care its cut and dried to me and makes no difference how people want to perceive themselves as all I care about is how I perceive them. Does make life a little awkward though if you think some men who have played with men consider themselves not bi and dont put it on the profile. I would certainly say they were and that could lead to crossed wires at some future point.
Anyone not doing some sex is simply celibate.
But if there are going to be a variety of interpretations, then its down to people sorting those out with each other, making sure they understand each other etc.

4 Oct 2010

Quote by kentswingers777
Tweeks............I was simply commenting on the people we have met in the swinging scene, with my percentages.
I cannot possibly say what the figures are or could be in the vanilla world.
We have met I would say around 15 couples and a few single guys. All the guys in the couples except one were ok with some guy play.
In the single guy catagory there were a couple that did not mention that in general chatting, the rest were ok with it.
When I have asked why people just do not put it on their profile, it would be almost admitting to oneself that they were actually bi, and for some that is an admission they do not want to have.
There have been many threads on here over they years discussing this very issue, and I have said then and I will say now.....IF you are ok with sucking a cock or having your cock sucked by another guy, then you are bi.
Being bi does not mean you will take it or give it up a guys arse, because the bi thing is a lot more than just that.

All percentages I guess Kent. I took a look at your profile to what might make your percentage larger. As I am sure you know yours says straight male but you have looking for bi couple. That might be why you get couples with bi men. Going by your above figures around 90% of the straight male profiles on here would be Bi. It would be interesting to see how many bi guys a couples profile with straight males and without looking for bi couples gets. In our experience thats zero to date.
Yes it does say bi couple in our search but I took that to mean something else. Irrelevant really as ALL the couples we have met it clearly states they are looking for a couple with a bi fem only.
It is only when we meet up and have a chat before any possible play that the subject tends to come up.
We have never actively sought to look for anything other than a bi fem couple. Actually you are the first person to comment on the fact our profile states bi couple, which I suppose could get people thinking we are looking for a couple who are both bi.
I will leave it as it is as it has been like that for as long as I can remember.
What I mean is Kent if you have bi couple in your list of people you look for then you may attract attention from couples with a bi male even if they do not have it on their profile. You can be anything but still search for couples looking for a bi couple which would bring your profile up on the list of search results. So couples with undisclosed bi men may feel more comfortable in contacting you once they have sought you out.

4 Oct 2010

Fair enough points Tweeks.
Never looked at it like that before....but do now.
Will have to ask Brucie how he deals with it. lol

:lol: :lol:

4 Oct 2010

Quote by brucie
and now my last reply didnt get posted?!!?
as i said, someone is having a good laugh at my expense but fortunately i dont really give a shit.

Yeah... going back to delete your really old posts is a fine indication of you not giving a shit! Bless ya... you gave me a giggle! wink

4 Oct 2010

Quote by Dirtygirly
and now my last reply didnt get posted?!!?
as i said, someone is having a good laugh at my expense but fortunately i dont really give a shit.

Yeah... going back to delete your really old posts is a fine indication of you not giving a shit! Bless ya... you gave me a giggle! wink

Be a bigger giggle when he comes out as a cross-dresser :wink: :lol:

4 Oct 2010

Quote by brucie
and now my last reply didnt get posted?!!?
as i said, someone is having a good laugh at my expense but fortunately i dont really give a shit.

Can you please explain how that can be the case Brucie?
If you didn't make the posts, who did?

4 Oct 2010

Quote by brucie
and now my last reply didnt get posted?!!?
as i said, someone is having a good laugh at my expense but fortunately i dont really give a shit.

If you hit the submit button it would have been posted. If we had removed it you would definitely have known why!
And just to move this on a bit. Whether he is bi or not and whether he is willing or not to admit does not give people open season to either try and 'out' him or ridicule him for it. Be careful what you post.
Mal

4 Oct 2010

Quote by Freckledbird
Be a bigger giggle when he comes out as a cross-dresser

:grin::grin:

4 Oct 2010

Quote by Mal
and now my last reply didnt get posted?!!?
as i said, someone is having a good laugh at my expense but fortunately i dont really give a shit.

If you hit the submit button it would have been posted. If we had removed it you would definitely have known why!
And just to move this on a bit. Whether he is bi or not and whether he is willing or not to admit does not give people open season to either try and 'out' him or ridicule him for it. Be careful what you post.
Mal
That surely works both ways then yes? wink

4 Oct 2010

Of course.

4 Oct 2010

Quote by Dirtygirly
and now my last reply didnt get posted?!!?
as i said, someone is having a good laugh at my expense but fortunately i dont really give a shit.

If you hit the submit button it would have been posted. If we had removed it you would definitely have known why!
And just to move this on a bit. Whether he is bi or not and whether he is willing or not to admit does not give people open season to either try and 'out' him or ridicule him for it. Be careful what you post.
Mal
That surely works both ways then yes? wink

Same for everyone, as always confused

4 Oct 2010

Quote by Mal
Of course.

Jolly good! :thumbup:

4 Oct 2010

Brucie, not a thing, but that does not stop me getting hit on by males.
Forget it and take the compliment.
Travis

5 Oct 2010

it would probably be better to avoid joining in such types of thread in the future.