that if they arrange to meet someone on here that person may not find them very attractive?
Because thats what I'm scared of!
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Quote by petal24
that if they arrange to meet someone on here that person may not find them very attractive?
Because thats what I'm scared of!
I don't ever seem to have the problem of anyone finding me overly attractive :cry:
Shaz has had a couple of times though and she has just told them straight thats she's not interested,,, normally thats the end of it then.
Tony
if thats ShazQuote by petal24
I just don't see what people see in me! Stupid I know!
I think you'll find it's a common problem. I've never manage to go to a meet yet without nearly turning back ten times, and once there waiting for them to do that "you're kiddng right?" look.
Commonly known as lack of confidence.
H.x
Sex God
i used to worry about it but not any more.
Obviously we can't be attracted to everyone. The other person is just the same.
At least you will have a good night out of it if you make it clear before meeting that it will be fun even if it doesn't go any further than a few drinks
Obviously we can't be attracted to everyone. The other person is just the same.
At least you will have a good night out of it if you make it clear before meeting that it will be fun even if it doesn't go any further than a few drinks
Sex God
Quote by petal24
I just don't think I could handle it if I met someone and they were like 'Ugh!' when they saw me! :shock:
any decent human being wouldn't say ugh.
If they did then at least you know that they aren't someone that you would want to have fun with. They are very shallow.
Quote by petal24
I just don't think I could handle it if I met someone and they were like 'Ugh!' when they saw me! :shock:
I try to get round it with logic.
Think about it from the other side, there must be men out there that you are attracted to and men you aren't? Does that mean that no-one will find the men you're not attracted to attractive, no - someone will. In the same way not everyone will be attracted to you, it doesn't make you a bad person - it doesn't make them bad people for not fancying you.
I find it hugely reasuring to find that other people have the same fears as me, makes me feel less of an idiot.
H.x
Quote by H-x
I find it hugely reasuring to find that other people have the same fears as me, makes me feel less of an idiot.
H.x
I wouldn't say idiot H..maybe just a bit dizzy
:lol: 
I can only re-iterate what others have said really,not everyone fancies everyone else, what you like the next person won't and you might not like what they do ;)
Minx x x
I think it pretty normal to worry about this though some wouldnt and it may or may not depend on how many times theyve done it.
I worried about it myself on the meet i've had.
It's hard to advise when i have the same problem but i think you would know pretty quickly if it wasn't right and you can deal with it better. Again it's not the same for all but i would say it more common than expected.
And H you look fabulouse (spellcheck )
I worried about it myself on the meet i've had.
It's hard to advise when i have the same problem but i think you would know pretty quickly if it wasn't right and you can deal with it better. Again it's not the same for all but i would say it more common than expected.
And H you look fabulouse (spellcheck
) Sex God
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
ihas anyone here refused to swing with someone because they or their partner were ugly?
Nope because we ask to see a picture first so wouldn't really meet someone if we didn't like the look of them
Tony
Pictures are soooo not always good.
We have seen pics of people and thought ugh but then when we have met, they aren't so bad.
Personality means a hell of a lot more to us than looks usually but of course there are the exceptions where you just wouldn't and couldn't :twisted:
Sexlightened
I posted somthing similar about "looks"
Petal you will be fine
No body will go "arghhhhh" thats a promise
If i can go there you can to
as all others have said you will be welcomed with open arms so to speak
get to a social/munch people there are freindly and welcoming
and
H
Come off it you are Stunning
and i mean Stunning
Petal you will be fine
No body will go "arghhhhh" thats a promise
If i can go there you can to
as all others have said you will be welcomed with open arms so to speak
get to a social/munch people there are freindly and welcoming
and
H
Come off it you are Stunning
and i mean Stunning
Quote by dundeecpl
ihas anyone here refused to swing with someone because they or their partner were ugly?
Nope because we ask to see a picture first so wouldn't really meet someone if we didn't like the look of them
Tony
Pictures are soooo not always good.
We have seen pics of people and thought ugh but then when we have met, they aren't so bad.
Personality means a hell of a lot more to us than looks usually but of course there are the exceptions where you just wouldn't and couldn't :twisted:
Thats very true.....but with seeing a picture first we can at least see if there is an initial attraction with the looks....
Personality is very important yes but thats something thats hard to judge over the internet as people can make themselfs out to be totally different online to what they are in reality..
Most of it is going with your instinct so for us pic's is just the first stepping stone.
Tony :wink:
Well I'm an ugly bugger anyway so what does it matter
Its very simple
If they dont like what they see - it's not my problem
I am what I am and if anyone doesnt like it - there aint a boat load I can do about it - so its very simple - why worry
Well corrie likes it - and to me thats all that matters
Its very simple
If they dont like what they see - it's not my problem
I am what I am and if anyone doesnt like it - there aint a boat load I can do about it - so its very simple - why worry
Well corrie likes it - and to me thats all that matters
I think that's a good reason to meet up socially first, maybe more than once. That way, you needn't take it further if you dont want to. Also, personally I usually find myself more attracted to someone the more familiar I am with them, because you get to see further than just their appearance - their sense of humour, their sexyness, and how good they make you feel about yourself.
ps - Goose - how could you be insecure with those buns?
ps - Goose - how could you be insecure with those buns?
Sex God
Quote by martellnotts
Well I'm an ugly bugger anyway so what does it matter
Its very simple
If they dont like what they see - it's not my problem
I am what I am and if anyone doesnt like it - there aint a boat load I can do about it - so its very simple - why worry
Well corrie likes it - and to me thats all that matters
Exactly.
Like it or lump it
Or even hump it!!!!!
