Does (body) size matter??

29 Jul 2006

Quote by bsubverted
a good point...
Something to consider: Extraverts are often mistaken for having confidence because of their outward nature... however that is not necessarily a sign of confidence...
oh and I donâ€™t think that everyone is confident 24/7... I think a confident person is someone who constantly fights to rise above self doubt... and wins more often the not

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i've been trying to explain that before but i can never find the words to say it.........but you seem to have done it for me....... lol

29 Jul 2006

Quote by bsubverted
Something to consider: Extraverts are often mistaken for having confidence because of their outward nature... however that is not necessarily a sign of confidence...

actually i think most poeple like that have little or no confidance and its just a show they put on to make people think they are happy, a truely confidant person don't feel like they need to be the centre of attention.

29 Jul 2006

:? I am confident and I dont ever have times where I am not.... There are people who are confident 24/7 wink

29 Jul 2006

NN, ffs! we siad we'd banned ourselves from BBW / fat threads lol

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29 Jul 2006

Quote by bsubverted

Confidence comes in lots of different forms. It can be subtle and also something that only comes accross when you know somebody well. You don;t have to be the life and soul of the party to be comfortable in your own skin.
:helnheaven

a good point...
Something to consider: Extraverts are often mistaken for having confidence because of their outward nature... however that is not necessarily a sign of confidence...
oh and I donâ€™t think that everyone is confident 24/7... I think a confident person is someone who constantly fights to rise above self doubt... and wins more often the not
Oh now Im soooo lost.......Helnheaven didnt actually write that. Helnheaven suggests you check back through the thread to see who did.
I actually did something or other wrong when quoting and got someone elses bits mixed in with mine but thought Id already explained that.
Back to forum posting for beginners for me I think! redface

29 Jul 2006

Quote by Darkfire
NN, ffs! we siad we'd banned ourselves from BBW / fat threads :lol:

sorry i just can't resist :lol:

29 Jul 2006

Quote by fem_4_taboo
also im fed up with being told i have no place in the bbw room unless you are over a size 22 or something. im actually bi so can i not be in there as a admiror of bbw in my own right????

There is an anti-thin feeling about the bbw room, whether thats suggestive of some people's actual attitudes in real life or just some way of protecting against the abusive idiots that seem to pass through the room from time to time is hard to tell. I am bbw and into bbw but don't have any issues with women's size end of story, the partner I had before the beloved was about a size 10 after a big dinner wink

I would rather know who someone is rather than what size clothes they wear and make my decisions about them based on that any day of the week!

29 Jul 2006

Quote by lavabubble
also im fed up with being told i have no place in the bbw room unless you are over a size 22 or something. im actually bi so can i not be in there as a admiror of bbw in my own right????

There is an anti-thin feeling about the bbw room, whether thats suggestive of some people's actual attitudes in real life or just some way of protecting against the abusive idiots that seem to pass through the room from time to time is hard to tell. I am bbw and into bbw but don't have any issues with women's size end of story, the partner I had before the beloved was about a size 10 after a big dinner wink

I would rather know who someone is rather than what size clothes they wear and make my decisions about them based on that any day of the week!
i have also noticed that a lot of the women in the bbw get very uncomfy if a slim lady goes on cam, personally i also am not threaten or bothered by slim woman and usually watch them, i will meet anyone i get on with be them a size 8, 18 or 28 size is not a issue to me

30 Jul 2006

Quote by helnheaven
Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large.

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As someone with little or no confidence, according to that post, I must look like Ive being beaten several times over with the ugly stick! :cry:
Bag now over head and tied securely
No way! What I was :thumbup: to was the fact that somebody could be so not my usual 'type' but something about their character of confidence really turns you on. Arrogance is a massive turn-off IMHO.
Confidence comes in lots of different forms. It can be subtle and also something that only comes accross when you know somebody well. You don;t have to be the life and soul of the party to be comfortable in your own skin.
kiss

Kiss_Me.....I was referring to bsubverted's post where he said about a lack of confidence could actually make a person ugly, not your post.
There is a slight misunderstanding I think. Please bear with me Im sorta newish to posting and havent quite got the hang of quoting yet sorry if I misled you with my other post x
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Honestly there is no problem at all! I am the Queen of missquoting and missreading things on here so absolutely no offence taken.
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30 Jul 2006

Quote by Kiss_Me
Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large.

:thumbup:
As someone with little or no confidence, according to that post, I must look like Ive being beaten several times over with the ugly stick! :cry:
Bag now over head and tied securely
No way! What I was :thumbup: to was the fact that somebody could be so not my usual 'type' but something about their character of confidence really turns you on. Arrogance is a massive turn-off IMHO.
Confidence comes in lots of different forms. It can be subtle and also something that only comes accross when you know somebody well. You don;t have to be the life and soul of the party to be comfortable in your own skin.
kiss

Kiss_Me.....I was referring to bsubverted's post where he said about a lack of confidence could actually make a person ugly, not your post.
There is a slight misunderstanding I think. Please bear with me Im sorta newish to posting and havent quite got the hang of quoting yet sorry if I misled you with my other post x
:rose:
Honestly there is no problem at all! I am the Queen of missquoting and missreading things on here so absolutely no offence taken.
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Kiss_Me....Thanks for that xxxx I will learn.....eventually honest! or maybe not lol

31 Jul 2006

does it really matter, I don't think so.
I would say though that if you encounter someone who wants to be judgemental about appearances, run away!
judgemental people are not likley to be nice people in my opinion, so let them go and find some suitably shallow to be judgemental with!
funny that you never here the mored cuddly folks of the world saying to the skinny ones (err... that'd be me then!)
"Eewww your so skinny, "

31 Jul 2006

To me personally,i dont care...my ex was 20 stone when i met him,and i was a piddly 7 stone.....but we stil had great sex.....and i loved every inch of him.....
Im still skinny now,no tits,no arse....who cares.....i know that i haven't chose to be thin,this is how i have always been,and if people don't like the look of me,then why are they looking!!! You shouldn't care less what people think of you,ive been insulted about being thin nearly all my life,more so by females,then by guys....there is such a big deal about being thin,that it also makes us thin women think its bad and you only look sexy with fuller breasts and sexy curves....
We should be happy with what we have while we still have it,cos b4 we know it,it will all go south!
T xx

31 Jul 2006

Well, I think i'm the first to say this, but I think it does to a certain extent for both of us, we do find we're only really attracted to certain body types, which is slim for gals and muscly for guys!
Neither of us find plus size that attractive, and have never been out with someone with a large build, although having said that, we both agree that we preferred bigger sophie dahl to smaller sophie dahl!
The reason is probably cos we're both quite body conscious, and spend a lot of time in the gym.....(blah blah blah lol

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Don't shoot me down, as plenty of people have said that they don't find a slim figure attratctive at all, which i would consider myself to have! (well, some of the time lol)
I do also think though that now, if either of our body shapes were to change, it really wouldn't bother the other at all, we'd still fancy each other......
( however, den would prob say my boobs disappear when i loose weight which he doesn't like!)

31 Jul 2006

I don't consider myself to be skinny but I have had a few comments in chat that I should eat something and that I'm too thin. I used to be size 18-20 and had to lose weight because of a medical condition so I am quite consious of my weight. I think you just have to appreciate the people that appreciate you and take no notice of the ones who insult you for no other reason than your size, they don't know me, and if that's their attitude I'd rather not give them the opportunity. I like to think that I treat people as people regardless of what size, shape, gender or whatever they are, if they're worth getting to know then what difference does size matter? Saying that I do find taller men much sexier, I have no idea why and I don't think it's a conscious thing.
H.x