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Goodness me, that's not ladylike at all. :lol:
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Am I the only person who read the original post and took it at face value?
I know some people have been stung in the past but being automatically suspicious is bad for you.
H.x
nope, i too read the first post and took it at face value.
i also read the second one the same way.
i only became supicious when i saw that she had placed herself an advert on here over a month ago using the same account she is using to "look around what her husband is doing" over the last cpl of days
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: I didn’t know that my partner was a member here till just before xmas (we had just become an ex) and yes he did know I was a member here, I was the one who told him about this site!
I met him on another swingers site (and no I still don’t swing, I’m just a nosy sod!!
).
The bit I was cross about was why didn’t he tell me he had joined SH, unless he had something to hide?
: Or maybe I’m paranoid about these things? I would have been fine with him being a member…
Then I find out he was still swinging without my knowledge (meeting from the other site. I found out by a couple posting in the *other* forum basically saying they had had a meet with him, then they posted the pics on their profile
:x ) and boy……..was I extremely hurt, devastated, angry…oh all those feelings you can’t always describe when someone you care about lies to you. I still find it painful to even think about it.
So yes, it does happen…and men/women it happens too have my deepest sympathy. I think Steve Clarke is right…it’s a reaction to the situation and we all react differently…… we don’t always think logically though at times like this.
I must admit that if I was in the same situation as *maryme* describes I would have most probably joined up to see what it was all about…mainly out of curiosity and to see what I was missing hehe (I wouldn’t have posted an add tho…mmmmmm). Then most likely asked him (hopefully) right questions and sorted it out.
I smiled at J3diMast3r post because its probably true to a certain extent…
xanaisx
I met him on another swingers site (and no I still don’t swing, I’m just a nosy sod!!
).The bit I was cross about was why didn’t he tell me he had joined SH, unless he had something to hide?
: Or maybe I’m paranoid about these things? I would have been fine with him being a member…Then I find out he was still swinging without my knowledge (meeting from the other site. I found out by a couple posting in the *other* forum basically saying they had had a meet with him, then they posted the pics on their profile
:x ) and boy……..was I extremely hurt, devastated, angry…oh all those feelings you can’t always describe when someone you care about lies to you. I still find it painful to even think about it.So yes, it does happen…and men/women it happens too have my deepest sympathy. I think Steve Clarke is right…it’s a reaction to the situation and we all react differently…… we don’t always think logically though at times like this.
I must admit that if I was in the same situation as *maryme* describes I would have most probably joined up to see what it was all about…mainly out of curiosity and to see what I was missing hehe
(I wouldn’t have posted an add tho…mmmmmm). Then most likely asked him (hopefully) right questions and sorted it out. I smiled at J3diMast3r post because its probably true to a certain extent…
xanaisx
My partner certainly knows, she loves browsing profiles! Not done any swinging together yet aside from a night of fun and frolics with her best girlfriend and breaking the bed
Keep talking about attending a munch to meet others one day or even better maybe try to organise one here in one day.
Keep talking about attending a munch to meet others one day or even better maybe try to organise one here in one day.
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Sorry, can't get into all the intricacies this question has raised but my situation is clearly explained in me profile.
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Sorry, can't get into all the intricacies this question has raised but my situation is clearly explained in me profile.
I think that if you have your partners consent thats brill....
Im fact, I admire her!
Maybe thats something Im unable to do...Im not sure, I havent been in that situation! :)
xanaisx
Just so I have this clear (in my own head) ............
You found your parnter is using this site - but don't know his username?
You were nosing around yourself anyway without telling your partner?
You both do things and consealed them from eachother?
Have you now become a member to stalk your own partner?
You found your parnter is using this site - but don't know his username?
You were nosing around yourself anyway without telling your partner?
You both do things and consealed them from eachother?
Have you now become a member to stalk your own partner?
Quote by anais
I didn’t know that my partner was a member here till just before xmas
...
Then I find out he was still swinging without my knowledge (meeting from the other site. I found out by a couple posting in the *other* forum basically saying they had had a meet with him, then they posted the pics on their profile
You have my sympathy, I don't understand how people can swing without their partners knowledge and knowing how it would hurt them when they found out.
My husband found the site, but I suggested that we joined. We'd both always known we were each bi curious and it seemed like a good way to experiment, plus we didn't want to miss out on each other's pleasure in meeting people...I've told S that he could play without me there, but he's always said this would make him uncomfortable...bless!
So far, though, I've decided not to meet two different individuals because I realised that they were cheating on their partners. At the same time, had a fab first fem/fem experience with another woman while her and my partner watched...so I know SH can be sexy as well as seedy!
H
Quote by loveh4s
I didn’t know that my partner was a member here till just before xmas
...
Then I find out he was still swinging without my knowledge (meeting from the other site. I found out by a couple posting in the *other* forum basically saying they had had a meet with him, then they posted the pics on their profile
You have my sympathy, I don't understand how people can swing without their partners knowledge and knowing how it would hurt them when they found out.
My husband found the site, but I suggested that we joined. We'd both always known we were each bi curious and it seemed like a good way to experiment, plus we didn't want to miss out on each other's pleasure in meeting people...I've told S that he could play without me there, but he's always said this would make him uncomfortable...bless!
So far, though, I've decided not to meet two different individuals because I realised that they were cheating on their partners. At the same time, had a fab first fem/fem experience with another woman while her and my partner watched...so I know SH can be sexy as well as seedy!
H
Thank you loveh4s
Im glad its worked out so well for you both...and having fun! This is what I thought SH is all about, not hurting people.Good luck and hope you both enjoy the pleasure SH brings to your life...
xanaisx
Quote by anais
I didn’t know that my partner was a member here till just before xmas
...
Then I find out he was still swinging without my knowledge (meeting from the other site. I found out by a couple posting in the *other* forum basically saying they had had a meet with him, then they posted the pics on their profile
You have my sympathy, I don't understand how people can swing without their partners knowledge and knowing how it would hurt them when they found out.
My husband found the site, but I suggested that we joined. We'd both always known we were each bi curious and it seemed like a good way to experiment, plus we didn't want to miss out on each other's pleasure in meeting people...I've told S that he could play without me there, but he's always said this would make him uncomfortable...bless!
So far, though, I've decided not to meet two different individuals because I realised that they were cheating on their partners. At the same time, had a fab first fem/fem experience with another woman while her and my partner watched...so I know SH can be sexy as well as seedy!
H
Thank you loveh4s
Im glad its worked out so well for you both...and having fun! This is what I thought SH is all about, not hurting people.Good luck and hope you both enjoy the pleasure SH brings to your life...
xanaisx
:kiss: and hugs,
H & S
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Maryme has gone awfully quiet.
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Quote by foxylady2209
Maryme has gone awfully quiet.
maybe her need for attention has passed
