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My husband wants to learn to be a Dom, but his nature is fairly submissive. I am willing (in fact I want to) be more submissive with him. Can he train or learn to dominate me?
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Has your partner been in a submissive role with anyone else?. Or has he taken the submissive role with you?
So I understand from experience or having talked too thers the best understanding for a 'dominant' can come from having experienced and understood the submissive role for themselves. Getting the 'feel' of the submissive and knowing, or learning how that could effect the approach of the dom/me.
Just a thought
lp
So I understand from experience or having talked too thers the best understanding for a 'dominant' can come from having experienced and understood the submissive role for themselves. Getting the 'feel' of the submissive and knowing, or learning how that could effect the approach of the dom/me.
Just a thought
lp
Forum Virgin
He has taken a submissive role occassionally. But I want him to feel comfortable spanking and hurting me. I trust him completely- but he is worried about hurting me, I have tried to tell him "That is exactly what I want!!"
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He has taken a submissive role occassionally. But I want him to feel comfortable spanking and hurting me. I trust him completely- but he is worried about hurting me, I have tried to tell him "That is exactly what I want!!"
ah well... in that case... this could well be a case of simply exploring between the two of you how you might go about it.
He might want to try to get used to the levels he can inflict...
Have been through a similar thing myself... and one part of me is very much developing a taste for it... slowly building up what I can do... though at the moment am still doing pretty much what Im told...or at the instigation of another... however... it's something Im getting used to and have a genuine desire with the right person to 'inflict' in the right way, at the right time.
teeth are good
lp
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Thank you.
Orgasminator
Hi Alexa
It is possible for your husband to learn to dominate you. There are many submissive men who take on the Dom role to satisfy their Mistress's switchy nature. If you or him want more information on training, please PM me.
All the best
It is possible for your husband to learn to dominate you. There are many submissive men who take on the Dom role to satisfy their Mistress's switchy nature. If you or him want more information on training, please PM me.
All the best
Sex God
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He has taken a submissive role occassionally. But I want him to feel comfortable spanking and hurting me. I trust him completely- but he is worried about hurting me, I have tried to tell him "That is exactly what I want!!"
ah well... in that case... this could well be a case of simply exploring between the two of you how you might go about it.
He might want to try to get used to the levels he can inflict...
Have been through a similar thing myself... and one part of me is very much developing a taste for it... slowly building up what I can do... though at the moment am still doing pretty much what Im told...or at the instigation of another... however... it's something Im getting used to and have a genuine desire with the right person to 'inflict' in the right way, at the right time.
teeth are good
lp
omg lp the most i have ever seen u write i'm lost for words :shock:
mr b has been trained to b my sub but took lots of years n patience to get to the stage we r at now although it has snowballed in the last year once he started to take me seriously as a Domme then it went from strength to strength and we both enjoy it fully so i believe patience and perseverence are the mainstay of Dom/sub relationship
and fully agree on the teeth comment they r a great tool as are my nails
Very interesting thread.
If I could add a question please. I have an occasional partner and she also introduced the idea of S&M - she likes being submissive and me being the dom. I have no problems in administering 'pain' but I do still feel at the back of my mind 'be careful don't want to hurt her too much' - we do have the safe word etc. Something stops me hurting her too much and she always ends up saying I didn't go far enough with the pain afterwards. Aha so next time I'll hit harder
Also she likes being tied up which we tried - great fun. My problem is sometimes I run out of ideas of what to do next, especially when tying her up, I have looked at websites and found the Japanese Nawa Shibari bondage very interesting but where do you learn to do that?
Or am I trying to run before I can walk? Any teachers here?
I'm sure she'll get fed up one day and say - bugger off you're a crap dom
If I could add a question please. I have an occasional partner and she also introduced the idea of S&M - she likes being submissive and me being the dom. I have no problems in administering 'pain' but I do still feel at the back of my mind 'be careful don't want to hurt her too much' - we do have the safe word etc. Something stops me hurting her too much and she always ends up saying I didn't go far enough with the pain afterwards. Aha so next time I'll hit harder
Also she likes being tied up which we tried - great fun. My problem is sometimes I run out of ideas of what to do next, especially when tying her up, I have looked at websites and found the Japanese Nawa Shibari bondage very interesting but where do you learn to do that?
Or am I trying to run before I can walk? Any teachers here?
I'm sure she'll get fed up one day and say - bugger off you're a crap dom
Orgasminator
awol
The first thing you got to learn before tying someone up is how to free them instantly in an emergency. Then you need to learn about the safe areas and the unsafe ones. Understand how the body works in terms of blood circulation, breathing, joint flexibility...
As for the 'what to do next' ideas will pop into your head once you feel secure in what you are doing. Maybe you'll want to blindfold her and play a guessing game by touching her body with different stuff. Maybe you'll go for the hot and cold treatment. Loads to do, but as with everything else, a bit of preparation can do wonders.
One thing you should never, ever do is leave a tied person alone in the house. So any dreams of tying her up and popping to the pub for a pint or two are strictly forbidden, OK?
The first thing you got to learn before tying someone up is how to free them instantly in an emergency. Then you need to learn about the safe areas and the unsafe ones. Understand how the body works in terms of blood circulation, breathing, joint flexibility...
As for the 'what to do next' ideas will pop into your head once you feel secure in what you are doing. Maybe you'll want to blindfold her and play a guessing game by touching her body with different stuff. Maybe you'll go for the hot and cold treatment. Loads to do, but as with everything else, a bit of preparation can do wonders.
One thing you should never, ever do is leave a tied person alone in the house. So any dreams of tying her up and popping to the pub for a pint or two are strictly forbidden, OK?
Can you learn to be dominant? I do occasionally take that role but I will always change to submissive after a little while as I feel more comfortable with that.
I only got the experience with this from my current partner. In past relationships where I had asked to be spanked, tied up etc, they were always scared they'd hurt me too much, but they didn't mind me being bitey or scratchy!
It will be a lovely learning experience for you both though. :-)
I only got the experience with this from my current partner. In past relationships where I had asked to be spanked, tied up etc, they were always scared they'd hurt me too much, but they didn't mind me being bitey or scratchy!
It will be a lovely learning experience for you both though. :-)
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awol
The first thing you got to learn before tying someone up is how to free them instantly in an emergency. Then you need to learn about the safe areas and the unsafe ones. Understand how the body works in terms of blood circulation, breathing, joint flexibility...
As for the 'what to do next' ideas will pop into your head once you feel secure in what you are doing. Maybe you'll want to blindfold her and play a guessing game by touching her body with different stuff. Maybe you'll go for the hot and cold treatment. Loads to do, but as with everything else, a bit of preparation can do wonders.
One thing you should never, ever do is leave a tied person alone in the house. So any dreams of tying her up and popping to the pub for a pint or two are strictly forbidden, OK?
Ah... so tying her neck was not a good thing? :lol:
Thanks for the advice Tania
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