On a personal note, I'm sick of the whingers, this site is and has been the leader in our world.
People come, people go, you take from this site what you want from it, you choose who you chat too and those that you don't.
I love the site and the friends I've not only made but met from here considering I'm from Ireland.
I just wish that people would realise that there's more to SH than the chatroom!
Think outside the box peeps! You never know there maybe a box you long to tick
I don't think its the site thats dying, I think its swinging in general.
We have not been here as long as many who have posted here, so perhaps we aren't qualified to comment, but we definately won't be renewing our membership. Not because we have any issue with the site, but simply because it no longer offers us what we are looking for. The site hasn't changed, we have. We have learnt loads about the scene from this site, had some great meets and even wasted money on plane tickets for a meet we got let down on! It's been a great learnng tool for us when we first started out, and we are grateful sh was the end of the day if you don't enjoy it here anymore, it's time to move on.
The site has changed. Its in my view got less personal or maybe there are less personal people. There are far less events than there were 5 years ago that kind of party spirit has kind of deminished. The forum is the same as it was but now is far quieter. Someone will disagree and say its not but Ive lived it and done the research and am 100% certain its far quieter. I think at one time this was the UK hub of swinging and now it is not, that has moved elsewhere.
Perhaps we should change the site name and call it Whispering Heaven........
I've been a member of SH for longer than I care to remember. While the site itself, such as the ads, the galleries and the forums haven't really changed - other than cosmetic things or search functionality, for example - the chat community, which has been my main involvment with the site, most definitely has.
Although I've been a long-term member, I log on far less when I'm in a relationship. After coming back from my last "break", only a period of about 6 months, the chat community was almost dead. It was around the time that they were changing over to the new chat software, so maybe that put a lot of people off and they went elsewhere. You used to be able to go into the Chat 2 Beach Bar and chat all night about meaningless crap with good friends, n then move to other rooms if you fancied something dirtier. The social aspect of that seems to have gone now, leaving (frankly pretty boring) sex chat left over. You see the odd old face n have a chat to them, but that's rare.
I've lost count of the number of times I've tried to get a conversation going in one of the lobby rooms, only to be shouted over by 50 people saying "show us ure titttz !!1!!11! lolz" followed by an inevitable 2 hour debate on what constitutes 'directing'. So no, I don't think SH is dying, but I do think the social side of it has atrophied a little.
Also its the nature of the internet and how it has changed so quickly and the way people have been affected by it.
The fact is that most people are leading a dual existence. the first is you as a real person and the other is your internet life. the two rarely coincide in a compatible way, and at times can become quite disturbing. for example you may dash off a flippant remark in a forum or chat room and suddenly find yourself in a very awkward spot for a while.
Trying to continue your life and reference it to the ever changing way the net is used can be a misleading relationship. So things do and have and will change and so also will the people involved with the net.
You instinctively know something has changed, you often don't know what it is or if you have changed again.
And some excellent observations but if you visit other sites all the old faces are there same names etc, they moved for a reason and thats a fact
