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Sex God
Well if it had not been for living out my fantasy we simply would not be here on this site. My fantasy was to watch my wife have sex with another man. (Just like Ms-Whips) This is a fantasy which had developed over a very long time of us being together. We often spoke, and still do, about our fantasies. We like to talk about them and then act them out, still in fantasy land, during our sexual play. So after talking about this fantasy for some time, we played it out many times over the years in our sex sessions.
After months of talk we thought it may be fun for Teresa on one of her nights out with the girls pull a young man, see where it goes. The result of that can be seen here. As that went so well and we enjoyed it so much we started to look into web sites.
Early this year we started watching this site and then after a while we joined this web site and after chatting to many people here and with each other we had our first meet which can be read here.
I think the thing to remember is we have been together some years, so we know each other well. We took things carefully and slowly, consulting each other all the way, any thing either of us is ever not happy about then it is discussed and if not resolved we don't do it. We know where a situation is going and how far we want it to go, and if either of us feels uncomfortable we have a signal which we can use to stop. The wife always has the last say and choice.
At the end of the day this is an aid to our (the wife and I) sex lives, so we play it our way.
How ever there are fantasies which have to stay just that, for instance the wife has one we occasionally act out where she is blindfolded and pretends I am a total stranger who has overpowered her and taking advantage of her. This could only ever be a fantasy.
After months of talk we thought it may be fun for Teresa on one of her nights out with the girls pull a young man, see where it goes. The result of that can be seen here. As that went so well and we enjoyed it so much we started to look into web sites.
Early this year we started watching this site and then after a while we joined this web site and after chatting to many people here and with each other we had our first meet which can be read here.
I think the thing to remember is we have been together some years, so we know each other well. We took things carefully and slowly, consulting each other all the way, any thing either of us is ever not happy about then it is discussed and if not resolved we don't do it. We know where a situation is going and how far we want it to go, and if either of us feels uncomfortable we have a signal which we can use to stop. The wife always has the last say and choice.
At the end of the day this is an aid to our (the wife and I) sex lives, so we play it our way.
How ever there are fantasies which have to stay just that, for instance the wife has one we occasionally act out where she is blindfolded and pretends I am a total stranger who has overpowered her and taking advantage of her. This could only ever be a fantasy.
Sex God
I don't think it is important to live out your fantasies as such, it is nice to do that, but important no.
What is more important is having strength in your relationship, whether it's conventional or a swinging one. If you have that then it allows you to explore the fantasies without, hopefully, causing any problems.
I think discussing fantasies is a great idea and I think is the crucial first step to actually deciding if you want to live them out or not. You and your partner may have very different ideas of what they want and perhaps your fantasies are not compatible. Say, you want a FFFM 3 some and she wants to be gangbanged by 5 hot studs while you watch on wearing a dog collar.
I have lots of fantasies for different scenarios, people, places, acts, moods etc. I've even committed some to paper to foolishly send out to people to laugh at and then pretend they enjoyed it. Of them we've probably done less than 1%, but it doesn't matter, we've talked about most of them and that can be just as fulfilling.
And there is always the very good point that others have already made, the fantasy may well be a great deal better, than the reality.
What is more important is having strength in your relationship, whether it's conventional or a swinging one. If you have that then it allows you to explore the fantasies without, hopefully, causing any problems.
I think discussing fantasies is a great idea and I think is the crucial first step to actually deciding if you want to live them out or not. You and your partner may have very different ideas of what they want and perhaps your fantasies are not compatible. Say, you want a FFFM 3 some and she wants to be gangbanged by 5 hot studs while you watch on wearing a dog collar.
I have lots of fantasies for different scenarios, people, places, acts, moods etc. I've even committed some to paper to foolishly send out to people to laugh at and then pretend they enjoyed it. Of them we've probably done less than 1%, but it doesn't matter, we've talked about most of them and that can be just as fulfilling.
And there is always the very good point that others have already made, the fantasy may well be a great deal better, than the reality.
Sex God
Live out your fantasies, you only live once and what you dont try is gone when your dust. If a relationship cant handle one fantasy gone wrong then it was never very stable anyway (thats not aimed at anyone in particular btw)
