Not long into this scene and already experienced the joys of mmf 3 some and definitely want to repeat that but with a bi bloke this time for extra fun.
Absolutely love dogging but it's been decidedly on the quiet side both times and cooooooold !!
So have had thoughts about a little ff action but am unsure how to go about this . My 1st love will always be cock I think but have fantasies about being with another woman. Am a bit worried though that the fantasy will not be the reality and then I'm faced with a situation where I'm not turned on and not knowing how the fuck to get out of the situation. Don't want to lead anyone on and waste anyone's time but as it stands I'm bi curious at the moment not bi. Thought about a 3 some with my fb so that if it comes to it, he can pick up the slack so to speak ...lol but thought the idea of a bi woman just happening to want to be with us was a bit remote . Really really love the idea of playing with other couples but don't want to set myself up as something I'm not and disappoint.
Please don't suggest friends or anything like that - I keep my two lives very separate.
So any thoughts or advice ?
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First ff experience - how to proceed
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Master of Sex
As long as you are as open and honest with the female you intend to play with as you have been in this forum post, then I don't think there will be any "disappointing" going on. The right female or bi couple for you would be ones that were understanding of your apprehension. I've been in your shoes, and after lots of chatting and getting to know the couple(fem) I was upfront about the fact that this is new to me and I don't know how I'll like it until we get down to it..No pressure. If anyone gets annoyed at you because you're not feeling comfortable, then good riddance. This obviously works both ways.
Goodluck x
Goodluck x
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It's best to keep an open mind about your first time with another female. Sometimes our nerves can be our worst enemy and can ruin expectations in a blink of an eye. I stil get nerves when I do meets but once I am settled and comfortable I just go with the flow.
If you feel any pressure or are made to feel uncomfortable by the other then put a halt to proceedings. You don't have to walk out, stay and continue to get to know one another till it feels the right time and if/when you are ready to proceed. Hopefully if the other female has experiences with other woman then she will pick up on your signals and body language and she will just wait for you. Don't ever feel bad about disappointing anyone. At the end of the day your first experience with a fem will help you define your sexuality and I hope you have a good experience for your first time. It's all a journey and you alone will find out what you enjoy.
If it helps don't feel insecure about flirting, some light touching, stroking. This normally is an ice breaker. Just remember the other female might be just as nervous. In my experience when another female is nervous I can feel it and start to think about about the other female more than trying to enjoy what we are doing. Always remember when you both are ready then that is the right time. I wish you well and good luck with your first time. xxx
If you feel any pressure or are made to feel uncomfortable by the other then put a halt to proceedings. You don't have to walk out, stay and continue to get to know one another till it feels the right time and if/when you are ready to proceed. Hopefully if the other female has experiences with other woman then she will pick up on your signals and body language and she will just wait for you. Don't ever feel bad about disappointing anyone. At the end of the day your first experience with a fem will help you define your sexuality and I hope you have a good experience for your first time. It's all a journey and you alone will find out what you enjoy.
If it helps don't feel insecure about flirting, some light touching, stroking. This normally is an ice breaker. Just remember the other female might be just as nervous. In my experience when another female is nervous I can feel it and start to think about about the other female more than trying to enjoy what we are doing. Always remember when you both are ready then that is the right time. I wish you well and good luck with your first time. xxx
Sexpert
This is the Mr side of herts here. As a bi male, I have in the past chatted to guys who have thought they might be bi. I have met some with the understanding (on my part) that it is for a drink and a chat. If we get on and things go further then fine but that is not what we are meeting for.
Not sure if this approach will work with a bi female (not my area of expertise really) but at least there would be no expectations and no pressure. Who knows, if you just became friend it would not be a bad thing.
Not sure if this approach will work with a bi female (not my area of expertise really) but at least there would be no expectations and no pressure. Who knows, if you just became friend it would not be a bad thing.
