Is this the place I should be?
I have been married for 17 years and until 4 years ago all was well when my wife started to take Prozac. Since then our sex life has been in a steady decline and now she is not interested in the slightest.
She has told me that she wouldn't be bothered if she didn't have sex again. I am very unhappy because I enjoy sex and am bloody good at it. I can't see me going without much longer. I don't want to do anything to impact on my family but am missing the way I feel when I am intimate with a woman. Something has got to give! :twisted:
Anyway, now that I have introduced myself where do I go from here?
Eltigre
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Is this the place I should be?
I have been married for 17 years and until 4 years ago all was well when my wife started to take Prozac. Since then our sex life has been in a steady decline and now she is not interested in the slightest.
She has told me that she wouldn't be bothered if she didn't have sex again. I am very unhappy because I enjoy sex and am bloody good at it. I can't see me going without much longer. I don't want to do anything to impact on my family but am missing the way I feel when I am intimate with a woman. Something has got to give! :twisted:
Anyway, now that I have introduced myself where do I go from here?
Eltigre
Welcome to the forum.
Some people will meet you, some won't. Whatever your reasons are for joining the site.
Sex God
Welcome!
Don't really have any advice, but hope you find a way of sorting it out.
Don't really have any advice, but hope you find a way of sorting it out.
Sex God
Quote by Eltigre
Is this the place I should be?
I have been married for 17 years and until 4 years ago all was well when my wife started to take Prozac. Since then our sex life has been in a steady decline and now she is not interested in the slightest.
She has told me that she wouldn't be bothered if she didn't have sex again. I am very unhappy because I enjoy sex and am bloody good at it. I can't see me going without much longer. I don't want to do anything to impact on my family but am missing the way I feel when I am intimate with a woman. Something has got to give! :twisted:
Anyway, now that I have introduced myself where do I go from here?
Eltigre
Prozac and and other anti d's are well known to cause a loss of libido.
Welcome to the forum and good luck.
Sex God
when i was married and after a number of years my labido took a down turn and my doctor prescribed prozac as he thought i was depressed and as it is a non addictive anti depressent he thought this was best and i took it and after reading the side effects i descovered that one side effect i could expect was a loss of labido ..... o m g why did my doctor prescribe this to me when i went to see them with a lost labido i still do not understand to this day .....my piece of advice to you is get your wife to go back to the doctor to prescribe somthing different and read the side effects carefully, perhaps her taking prozac is the cause of her lack of interest.
best of luck with whatever the outcome is
best of luck with whatever the outcome is
Quote by Sara_2006
when i was married and after a number of years my labido took a down turn and my doctor prescribed prozac as he thought i was depressed and as it is a non addictive anti depressent he thought this was best and i took it and after reading the side effects i descovered that one side effect i could expect was a loss of labido ..... o m g why did my doctor prescribe this to me when i went to see them with a lost labido i still do not understand to this day .....my piece of advice to you is get your wife to go back to the doctor to prescribe somthing different and read the side effects carefully, perhaps her taking prozac is the cause of her lack of interest.
best of luck with whatever the outcome is
Thank you for the welcome and all of your comments.
She will not change her medication. She is happy with it.
I feel torn between being faithful and enjoying life again. Quote by Eltigre
Thank you for the welcome and all of your comments.
She will not change her medication. She is happy with it.
at a pinch, and with some courage, you may like to try a long conversation with the good lady... laying your feelings on the line... just a thought... you never know
lp
Quote by LondonPlaything
Thank you for the welcome and all of your comments.
She will not change her medication. She is happy with it.
at a pinch, and with some courage, you may like to try a long conversation with the good lady... laying your feelings on the line... just a thought... you never know
lp
:thumbup: There are two people in the relationship.Jeez! LP just talked sense :shock:
Sex God
Quote by winchwench
Thank you for the welcome and all of your comments.
She will not change her medication. She is happy with it.
at a pinch, and with some courage, you may like to try a long conversation with the good lady... laying your feelings on the line... just a thought... you never know
lp
:thumbup: There are two people in the relationship.Jeez! LP just talked sense :shock:
Yep, but only one of them is desperate for a shag!
LP, are you OK? Feeling a little feverish?
:giveup: hi and :welcome: to the forum
all i can suggest is talk , more talk and then talk some more with your wife then start talking again only you know what is best for yourself
have you told her how you feel about the possibilty of getting your needs elsewhere ??? maybe do some research on the net on anti depressants and prozac there may be something you come accross that your wife would be open to trying if she sees the facts etc depression is a funny thing and many people have little understanding of it a few year ago i was depressed and on medication that also caused lack of sexual appetite and phrases many would say "what have you got to be depressed about" "i think you have a great life so why be depressed" etc only served to make the problem worse
hope you find the right answer for you
all i can suggest is talk , more talk and then talk some more with your wife then start talking again only you know what is best for yourself
have you told her how you feel about the possibilty of getting your needs elsewhere ??? maybe do some research on the net on anti depressants and prozac there may be something you come accross that your wife would be open to trying if she sees the facts etc depression is a funny thing and many people have little understanding of it a few year ago i was depressed and on medication that also caused lack of sexual appetite and phrases many would say "what have you got to be depressed about" "i think you have a great life so why be depressed" etc only served to make the problem worse
hope you find the right answer for you
Warming the Bed
Feel for you not an easy situation for both of you i am sure. Welcome and good luck
Pheline and Kevin
Pheline and Kevin
Thanks again for all of your comments. Trust me when I say I have exhausted all of my options. The talking has been done, she knows I love her but also knows I won't be able to go without forever.
True, you are only hearing one side of the story but when I over hear her joking with friends about getting bored when I last too long it has some impact.
I know I am coming over as being a right wuss! It has taken me years to reach this point and it isn't easy for me to admit that things aren't they way they should be. It has got to the point now where I don't want to have sex with her anymore. It is like sleeping and I do mean sleeping with a good friend.
Well, I've banged on long enough. Now that I have got all that off my chest I'll have a look around and get to know a few of you.
Cheers
True, you are only hearing one side of the story but when I over hear her joking with friends about getting bored when I last too long it has some impact.
I know I am coming over as being a right wuss! It has taken me years to reach this point and it isn't easy for me to admit that things aren't they way they should be. It has got to the point now where I don't want to have sex with her anymore. It is like sleeping and I do mean sleeping with a good friend.
Well, I've banged on long enough. Now that I have got all that off my chest I'll have a look around and get to know a few of you.
Cheers
Sex God
Does she know you're on here and looking?
Sex God
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Does she know you're on here and looking?
No, she's in be watching Hero's!
Does she know you've joined then?
Sex God
Quote by Eltigre
Does she know you're on here and looking?
No, she's in be watching Hero's!
Does she know you've joined then?
No, she wouldn't be too happy about it. I am hoping to solve the problem without her knowing.
Ah right. Well, you've said it in the forum so people know, at least. You'll need to accept that some won't want to meeet married & cheating. Whatever your reasons for doing it, there's no need to explain them to everyone on the forum though. Won't make any difference why.
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Does she know you're on here and looking?
No, she's in be watching Hero's!
Does she know you've joined then?
No, she wouldn't be too happy about it. I am hoping to solve the problem without her knowing.
Ah right. Well, you've said it in the forum so people know, at least. You'll need to accept that some won't want to meeet married & cheating. Whatever your reasons for doing it, there's no need to explain them to everyone on the forum though. Won't make any difference why.
I fully understand. I am not too happy about thinking about taking this course of action myself, but certainly won't lie about my situation. I guess that I am looking for the "easy" way out and am not certain that I am doing the right thing.
I appreciate your comments and see I have a lot to learn about the members here.
I should have read the definition of swinging in the terminology section before posting.
"Swinging can and often does lead to long lasting friendships, because it is very social and open, with no need for any deceit. Anyone who equates Swinging with having an affair really could not be more wrong."
I apologise to anyone I might have offended by suggesting that in my case the least damaging, though certainly more deceitful course of action would be to meet with someone without my wifes knowledge. In my first post I asked if I was in the right place, looks like I’m not.
"Swinging can and often does lead to long lasting friendships, because it is very social and open, with no need for any deceit. Anyone who equates Swinging with having an affair really could not be more wrong."
I apologise to anyone I might have offended by suggesting that in my case the least damaging, though certainly more deceitful course of action would be to meet with someone without my wifes knowledge. In my first post I asked if I was in the right place, looks like I’m not.
Eltigre wrote:
I guess that I am looking for the "easy" way out and am not certain that I am doing the right thing.
Being in a similar position to you, I can assure you that it is NOT an easy way out.
When you care immensely for someone but, for whatever reason, they are no longer interested in the physical side, it leaves you with a huge, painful dilemma.
Good luck.
I guess that I am looking for the "easy" way out and am not certain that I am doing the right thing.
Being in a similar position to you, I can assure you that it is NOT an easy way out.
When you care immensely for someone but, for whatever reason, they are no longer interested in the physical side, it leaves you with a huge, painful dilemma.
Good luck.
