Forum/Online Characters

1 Nov 2009

Firstly I am NOT intending for this thread to descend into a slanging match and I shall delete it if it does.
But, I have been thinking the past week or so about the online persona or character we create.
Are you exactly the same on the forum as you are in real life? Does the anonymity give you the freedom to be something you can't be/don't have the courage to be in real life?
I'll start: I think I am perhaps marginally more feisty and flirty on here than in real life. The fact that I can be sat typing away in my pjs (am not right now though wink

) and noone can see me I guess allows me to be a bit more forward than I may otherwise be.
I will happily PM people on here out of the blue and shamelessly flirt with them. Would I go up to them in a pub and do the same? Hmmm... possibly not.
When I am posting about something I feel strongly about though, I think I pretty much stay true to my opinions and values.
So yes, I am a lefty liberal bleeding-heart Guardian reader lol

and I am quite gobby and opinionated. I'm also a bit flirty... but maybe not quite so much in real life.
So, if we were to meet good forumites, would you be exactly how I'd expect you to be?

1 Nov 2009

I think I would be yes smile

x x

1 Nov 2009

I swear less on the forum. biggrin

1 Nov 2009

Quote by foxylady2209
I swear less on the forum.

You, swear?! Surely not... See, I have you down as a very proper and placid and lol

1 Nov 2009

am probably the same, dunno you will have to ask those that have met me along with yourself lol

1 Nov 2009

Quote by flower411
You`d probably be surprised at how charming I am in real life
And, of course totally bowled over by my stunning good looks ....nothing can prepare you for that !! :P

Do you know flower, I love being surprised by what people actually look like. It's one of the reasons I love going to Munches - it is great to put faces to forum names and avatars!
Sooooo... you're a hunk huh? :rascal:

1 Nov 2009

Quote by brucie
im not so unopinionated irl

:shock: Flippin 'eck... :shock:
lol

1 Nov 2009

I think that I am very similar in real life. If anything I am more opinionated- more as I am in the chatrooms here perhaps.
I am fiercely loyal in real life of those who I class as real life friends. I have no such inclination on here.
In either place I don't suffer fools so well and have a strong sense of right and wrong (in my opinion)
I suspect that in real life my opinion will often been softened by body language... but then again.. I don't know.
In real life I am much more flirty..... but in real life I also blush... (I have no idea how)

1 Nov 2009

I think I am the same, sometimes shy sometimes not, sometimes quiet and other times I can be loud or argumentive.
On a one to one basis I can be very sexy with the right person or couple.

1 Nov 2009

I am an outrageous flirt on here but a shy as you like IRL ...
But .....
I am a twat here and IRL so one cancels out the other :lol2:

1 Nov 2009

Quote by splendid_
I think that I am very similar in real life. If anything I am more opinionated- more as I am in the chatrooms here perhaps.
I am fiercely loyal in real life of those who I class as real life friends. I have no such inclination on here.
In either place I don't suffer fools so well and have a strong sense of right and wrong (in my opinion)
I suspect that in real life my opinion will often been softened by body language... but then again.. I don't know.
In real life I am much more flirty..... but in real life I also blush... (I have no idea how)

Yup, with Splendips you get what you see. Bloody scary on here, bloody scary in the flesh.
Me...hmm...I have no idea. This me must just be a manifestation of a me I am, somewhere inside. So I guess I'm still just me. confused

1 Nov 2009

Id say I am pretty much the same on here as I am in real life. One thing I have changed about my forum posting not just here but on all forums is my eagerness for debating. I find I just dont come over very well when I try and make points online and just piss everyone off so with the passing of time I now avoid those kind of topics. Flirting! whats that then? Useless in real life and useless here lol

Ive been told I have the flirting ability of a dead fish and I often dont even realize when people flirt with me.

1 Nov 2009

I think I am a bit more reserved... or maybe I think that the people who go to munches and socials are a lot louder....
I think it is a case of me feeling a bit more confident in front of my computer than I am going into a situation that is "foreign" for me..... when I get use to it I think I do open up...

1 Nov 2009

I'd say I'm a bit more outgoing online. Saying that, in person you either like me or you don't. Those who like me I'm friends with. Those who don't I couldn't give a flying fart about and Lord knows, there's enough of them these days :dry:

1 Nov 2009

I think i am the same in real life, i voice my opinion if i feel i have to, otherwise i just chip in now and again like on here.
I was told at a social that i was far more attractive than the person imagined me to be redface

that was rather nice and she got a lovely snog in return

1 Nov 2009

I don't have a clue if i'm different or not.

1 Nov 2009

I think there's a core of me that's the same - i.e. I can usually string a sentence drunk or sober and know when it's time to be funny and time to be serious and take a step back loon

However, I do play up to the 'predatory' role on here but only for fun and hopefully, it's taken that way. If I'm bantering, I'll typically send a PM to someone if I think I might have overstepped the mark to say so kiss

Anyone who's met me in 'real life' can hopefully vouch for the fact that I haven't eaten anyone's husband, boyfriend etc unless they've asked me to and usually helped or given instructions along the way (and the husband, boyfriend etc has been in agreement) wink

1 Nov 2009

Quote by Lost
I don't have a clue if i'm different or not.

Please don't be different Losty... in my head all your conversations come out in long rambling lovely green speech bubbles!
:giggle:

1 Nov 2009

I think I'm the same once I open up in real life (I can be quite shy to begin with). I suspect I come across as wittier online because I can take half an hour to think of a response. In real time, everyone has moved on, or even gone home, by the time I think of something funny to say rolleyes

1 Nov 2009

I'm an argumentative fucker in real life as i am here.

1 Nov 2009

Quote by BIoke
I think there's a core of me that's the same - i.e. I can usually string a sentence drunk or sober and know when it's time to be funny and time to be serious and take a step back
However, I do play up to the 'predatory' role on here but only for fun and hopefully, it's taken that way. If I'm bantering, I'll typically send a PM to someone if I think I might have overstepped the mark to say so
Anyone who's met me in 'real life' can hopefully vouch for the fact that I haven't eaten anyone's husband, boyfriend etc unless they've asked me to and usually helped or given instructions along the way (and the husband, boyfriend etc has been in agreement)

liar liar pants on fire
only joking mate

1 Nov 2009

Quote by secksy_cpl
liar liar pants on fire
only joking mate

Sorry, do I know you?
wink

1 Nov 2009

im just the same where ever i am......im just me :rascal:
be it good or bad dunno

1 Nov 2009

No, I'm not the same
And the reasons are many and varied.
However, nor am I a fake, everything I've said, in truth, about me or Mrs R is true. The points I make I do so because I believed in them. That isn't my point.
Where I differ is in the issues of confidence. I am generally a positive, happy person, but I find it hard sometimes to project that in a situation where I am not confident or do not know all the people present. In social situations I tend to be much more guarded, not through any great personal inability, just through fear of coming across as a frightful bore, or just irritating people.
rolleyes

is much more difficult to contend with in real life.

1 Nov 2009

Quote by earthchild
am probably the same, dunno you will have to ask those that have met me along with yourself lol

Depends on how far into the evening in RL it is, you slurr less on here :haha:

Quote by splendid_
I think that I am very similar in real life.

You 'Shush' and boss more in RL smackbottom

Quote by varca
but to be honest I think I am a little less vocal on here :lol2:

A little?

on here we don't hear from you for weeks, in RL i think evolution must have enabled you to breathe through your ears as you never bloody shut up yapping long enough to take a breath :shock:

1 Nov 2009

Depends how well I know a person/people - where I am and how comfortable I feel. I can be outgoing, flirty, noisy, and blunt yet at times quiet, reserved and very shy and thats on-line and off.
Some people think I'm hard to get to really know - I agree as I've got really fussy whom I allow in these days.
I don't think we can be the same on-line as we are off-line all of the time. In fact, I know some aren't....

2 Nov 2009

Quote by Mr-Powers
I'm an argumentative fucker in real life as i am here.

I thought chinese people were placid until I met you....... rolleyes

2 Nov 2009

Im generally a different person with every person I interact with.
I tend to reciprocate the personality of the other person. I suppose that this endears me to the greatest number of people, but in reality, its just the way that I behave naturally.
I have trouble interracting with people who dont have much of a personality to reciprocate.

2 Nov 2009

Quote by varca
I'd say I'm a bit more outgoing online. Saying that, in person you either like me or you don't. Those who like me I'm friends with. Those who don't I couldn't give a flying fart about and Lord knows, there's enough of them these days :dry:

I'm in the like camp biggrin

It's your homemade pork scratchings that swung it :grin:
Hot bananas surely? wink

2 Nov 2009

Dificult one this as i've never really been into the whole 'self analasys' thing so all i can do is repeat what i've been told by a few people that have met me.
"What you see, is what you get"
I actually have no idea what that means lol

i guess it could be construed as meaning shallow and boring? dunno

hey ho
I was complimented by someone recently though who said "one of the things I respect you for is that you say it as you see it and don't pull any punches"
Thought about that for a while and realised what they actually meant was that i'm a mouthy git :lol2:
oh well, take me as you find me i guess wink