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Hopefully this post will generate a useful debate rather than offend anybody -
Any swinging site you visit that includes personals ads must have 1000's of men compared to couples and females on there. After being a member of this site, yes I am a single male, it is clear that the couples who 'swing' are a genuine bunch of people who have a good community spirit and have a very laid back (pardon the pun) approach to life. Couples ads get responses but looking through the 'Lets Meet up' forum, how many single guy ads go by with no replies.
So, to the couples, do you think that single men clog up the sites and flood the forums and chatrooms, give us all a bad name as timewasters etc. or is there a genuine 'market' (for want of a better word) for the single male. Or would you prefer alternative sites for us to use to gain our sexual pleasures.
Just a thought?
yours
Devils Advocate
I have had zero replies to my ad in seven months.
If this changes after I actually get around to placing an ad, I'll let you know, but this bunch of nutters in the cafe are all I can cope with for the forseeable future so don't hold your breath. biggrin
Although in a couple I post as a single male, also I am a 'social' swinger only, and even I have had 2 wonderful offers (which I have had to regretfully decline) so there is a need for the single male IMHO...
Quote by thommo69
So, to the couples, do you think that single men clog up the sites and flood the forums and chatrooms, give us all a bad name as timewasters etc. or is there a genuine 'market' (for want of a better word) for the single male. Or would you prefer alternative sites for us to use to gain our sexual pleasures.
Just a thought?
yours
Devils Advocate

You've adressed this comment to couples. (We're actively seeking a single male fror MMF btw). So, no you're not clogging up the forums (still getting to grips with chatroom). wink
But your ad link is : Male looking for female confused
I've had an ad in the single male section for nine months now, and I've never had a reply.
rolleyes
Mike.
Have never replied to ads, ourselves, but get plenty of replies to our ad from single chaps. As long as thery are single and not just doing the dirty on their partner - we love 'em.
Conditions apply. Singleness is not a guarantee of a shag. The value of your stocks and shares may go down as well as up. Calls may be recorded for taff training and security purposes.
Quote by Vix
Conditions apply. Singleness is not a guarantee of a shag. The value of your stocks and shares may go down as well as up. Calls may be recorded for taff training and security purposes

So you only train the Welsh ones? ;) :lol2:
Sorry couldn't resist :P
Quote by Angel Chat

Conditions apply. Singleness is not a guarantee of a shag. The value of your stocks and shares may go down as well as up. Calls may be recorded for taff training and security purposes

So you only train the Welsh ones? ;) :lol2:
Sorry couldn't resist :P
HAHAHAHAH
Yes, the others all know how to walk and talk at the same time, already.
I put up an ad mainly so people can get a little bit of info about me. I don't expect any replies, but hey you never know smile I don't see the problem with single males using swinger sites as long as they read the ads they're replying to properly. But then as a single bloke, I would say that wouldn't I :)
Quote by Vix

Conditions apply. Singleness is not a guarantee of a shag. The value of your stocks and shares may go down as well as up. Calls may be recorded for taff training and security purposes

So you only train the Welsh ones? ;) :lol2:
Sorry couldn't resist :P
HAHAHAHAH
Yes, the others all know how to walk and talk at the same time, already.
and i used to like you lot as well from the poor old welshman
im a single guy and i have an add on here and have had a few replies (have to admit i was shocked ) but it seams to me that most on here are a good bunch and enjoy a laugh i have had a lot of fun chatting to some of the nutter`s on here if i do get to meet anyone from this site it will just be a really big bonus
i hope all the couples on here dont mind us single guy`s joining in the fun
lol
colin
Sorry Col. Just to make amends, Reese & my first MMF experience was with a Welshman. But don't tell anyone, ok?
no probs vix
all in good fun and im glad to hear there is at least one lucky welshman around wink
this is interesting.
I have never put up an advert but as a sigle male who does not even have any pictures to send, I have had three meets with single women from the photo ads. therefore I do believe this site works well for the single male
patience is of course a virtue and it can take several e mails before someone is comfortable enough to move on to telephone or meet ,usually this is in a public place for everyones safety.
So it does work in my opinion very well
I couldn't place an ad, someone might respond to it and then what would I do? Seriously though, as the followers of this sad life may know, yours truly hasn't had sex for 10 years since herself hit the change and decided she didn't want to.
Although I want to in a VERY REAL way, it's now 28 years since I had sex with anyone who wasn't my wife, and apart from the fact that my body is no better than it ought to be at my age, there is the doubtful question of the performance that might be expected of me.
If I say so myself, and I do, I used to be rather good at it. In my youth was a sort of gigolo person bringing happiness to ladies of many ages, though not a real one cause I never got paid for it. However these days the excitement would probably cause orgasm on penetration (or earlier) to my complete and total embarrassment to say nothing of the damage to my ego! I'm not sure I have the nerve for it.
My wife told me I was getting boring the other day and should go off and have an affair. What an offer! Probably this would be the best solution, a more gentle approach to the problem, but it's the kind of thing that won't happen. I work from home, where am I going to meet this paragon? It's why dogging has appeal, sexual excitement without commitment or expectation.
Enough enough, I hear you shout, and quite right, I'll go into the garden and eat more worms.
There is a definite market for the single guys.
What do a couple need for a MMF? - A single guy
Once a female has requested a Gang Bang, who does she need? - Single guys
What do single women require? - A single guy!
If a lady requires multiple partners, who does she need? - A single guy!
Tha ads may not be the best place to get yourself noticed. People still want to get to know a little about you, before they agree to shag your brains out. What better place can they use to get to know you than by using the forums! Nearly all the fun I have had has been generated by people who have met me through the forums, not the ads. I don't have an ad, but may put one up just to let people know a bit more about me, rather than to say 'I'm available, shag me' (although I am lol !)
The single guys are not totally ignored, blackballed, hated with a vengeance or treated like a leper by all couples and single women. The bad ones are, and rightly so, but if you're not getting results, look at what you are doing and see what needs changing. Then look at what does work and copy/mirror it. And to all you couples and single ladies out there, if you see someone who obviously is nearly there with his efforts, but not quite, let him know where you think he needs help. (Please don't say get a bigger dick!! redface ). He may not be for you, but someone out there might be looking for exactly what he's got. But whatever you do, don't pity him or slag him off if he has made a decent attempt. A little encouragement goes a long way in this game. One day he may be the one for you, just not yet :lol: !
Mal
wink
What do a couple need for a MMF? - A single guy
Once a female has requested a Gang Bang, who does she need? - Single guys
What do single women require? - A single guy!
If a lady requires multiple partners, who does she need? - A single guy!
>>> I must be completely barking this morning... I started singing these lines to the Ghostbusters song !!!!! redface
Paul
I also am a single man and have had some replies from couples, one supposedly from a couple who wanted to meet me in a lonely place without either seeing me first or speaking on the phone, I phoned them twice without a reply. When I asked them to phone me they said they had done, but I had blocked their call which was untrue.
Arranged to meet in a public car park twice, but they didn't turn up because they said they were not prepared to pay 70p charge, I have got plenty of semi-naked photo's of a young beautifull woman, one with her vagina wide open with her face obscured, but not one of the man despite me asking for their photo together.
After dozens of photos being exchanged between us, they stopped emailing suddenly and I haven't heard from them since for six weeks.
I had a reply from a husband who was bi-sexual and wanted to know if I could enjoy a man as well as his wife, I declined because I am straight.
Another reply was from a couple who wanted me to take the wife to a swingers club without the husband, the wife wanted me to phone this premium number to listen to her relating her experiences at £1 .50 per minute, also, she wanted to know my address without us meeting first, needless to say, I didn't reply. 69position rolleyes
OK, if you know the details of the first and last couple, can you let me or any of the Mods know? We are not happy with people advertising and wasting your time or shelling out money, so please let us know so we can deal with them.
Mal
wink
As I hoped, some interesting replies. I have been successful from this site, and as somebody said, patience is a vrtue and most should understand they are not going to get a positive response to their replies.
It just seems a shames that there'appears' to be so many timewasters out there - how often do you see ads updates with no one liners, no pic no reply - why don't people read the ads properly!!
I have been on the site for a while but only recently discovered the forums (OK, I was shallow and just viewed the ads....) and I agree that they are a useful place to get to know people and become a 'genuine' member of this community.
Dave
Adverts are just soooo nineties
Quote by Sexysteph
There is a definite market for the single guys.
If a lady requires multiple partners, who does she need? - A single guy!
Mal
wink

can't resist Mal but if I wanted multiple partners I WANT MORE than A single guy lol
:doh: lol
Mal
:wink:
Put it this way, I would not be a swinger were it not for single guys :twisted:
Quote by Sexysteph
can't resist Mal but if I wanted multiple partners I WANT MORE than A single guy lol

It has to be said, you seem to see a lot of adverts these days from ladies wanting a ready-made group of guys for a gangbang - they don't want the trouble of weeding through lots of single guys to make a group for herself.
OTOH, not everyone wants to be just another anonymous dick in a gangbang.
Thanks to OK for the further info he sent me. Appropriate action has been taken.
Mal
wink
this has had me thinking all day
if we had les bi ladies there would be more to go around for us poor single guy`s
im just popping out to put my flack jacket on before the replies start comming in rotflmao
Well there certainly is room for the single men...as I have found with the response to my ad..start with a healthy tot of honesty...mix with a touch of enticement...add an infusion of anticipation...blend well with excitement...place in the ad section for the required amount of time...updating on a regular basis...and wait for the perfect results..
I have always found the final result utterly delicious...
Quote by bluexxx
Put it this way, I would not be a swinger were it not for single guys :twisted:

same as us blue kiss
Quote by roger743
can't resist Mal but if I wanted multiple partners I WANT MORE than A single guy lol

It has to be said, you seem to see a lot of adverts these days from ladies wanting a ready-made group of guys for a gangbang - they don't want the trouble of weeding through lots of single guys to make a group for herself.
OTOH, not everyone wants to be just another anonymous dick in a gangbang.
Yes you're right. We see lots of postings about how easy it is for the single women and how hard it is for the single men. But the fact is it's hard for us single ladies too. Yes, we can go to any swingers party but more often than not single men are excluded. But we want them.
If we're not bi-, it's really dfifficult to find a situation where we can have fun.
You're right - We should just post 'Gang Bang wanted' but can you imagine exactly how much sifting through that would entail. And we seek a ready-made group because we know that random, single guys will probably not gel together and give us the good time we seek. Seasoned group-sex guys are going to serve us better.
I don't know the answer. I did once start a post about organising a singles only party and there was a positive response. If I knew I could gathher enough ladies there to satisfy you guys I would take it further.
So ladies - if interested - can you PM me please..
Jezzay
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I don't know the answer. I did once start a post about organising a singles only party and there was a positive response. If I knew I could gathher enough ladies there to satisfy you guys I would take it further.
So ladies - if interested - can you PM me please..
Jezzay

Yay, a party for singles, great idea! I'd be there smile
Arrange one here in Scotland so I don't have to travel too far though. It's a very long drive to get down south to 'civilisation' ;)
So Zootle - you're a single guy?
Just checking. It's not in your profile.
Jezzay.