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After reading Gagmasters's thread I was pondering..
I often get changed in public after kayaking, not the full lot but changing my shorts and top because they are usually wet, if changing my shorts I wrap a towel around my bottom half but changing my top I usually just take it off and put a dry one on exposing my flabby tummy and bra
If I get into the car wet not only does the seat get wet but it's rather uncomfortable and i usually end up dragging half the beach home, finding public toilets to change in is not always as simple as it would seem as they can be miles away
So some questions
If you saw the above or surfers or even just bathers changing on the beach doing the above would it embarrass you or worry you because you had kids with you?
Would you see it and not bat an eyelid?
Or would you find it a turn on?
What would you do in the same scenario?
Any other thoughts?
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After reading Gagmasters's thread I was pondering..
I often get changed in public after kayaking, not the full lot but changing my shorts and top because they are usually wet, if changing my shorts I wrap a towel around my bottom half but changing my top I usually just take it off and put a dry one on exposing my flabby tummy and bra
If I get into the car wet not only does the seat get wet but it's rather uncomfortable and i usually end up dragging half the beach home, finding public toilets to change in is not always as simple as it would seem as they can be miles away
So some questions
If you saw the above or surfers or even just bathers changing on the beach doing the above would it embarrass you or worry you because you had kids with you?
Would you see it and not bat an eyelid?
Or would you find it a turn on?
What would you do in the same scenario?
Any other thoughts?

I may think, gosh she is hot, but make a point of not looking any longer than a glance
Wouldn't bother us, it's all about "intent". ie your not intending to be erotic or lewd, just being practical.
In Cap D'agde its the other way round, you go into the lingerie shops naked and try on exotic and erotic clothes in full view of people (as everyone is nude no need for changing rooms), but everyone is looking to see what you look like with clothes on !!!
John & Shel
I dont think that people changing at the beach etc in front of kids is wrong, its not like the peeps changing are doing it for any reason other than to get in or out of water.. on my recent holiday back up in Scotland, my kids and friends of ours spent most days in water, and changing in or out of wetsuits, and there is no real place for modesty when battling with a wet wetsuit!! biggrin
I kayak as well so I'm used changing in public and because I kayak I'm used to seeing others change in public.
It's not an issue for me. As Kaznkev said, in this case, it's clearly a sporting event. If I was walking past with kids I don't think I'd be too concerned either.
The British are very prudish in matters such as this.
I read a few weeks ago about a Mother breast feeding her child in a restaurant, and was asked to stop.
I would have felt a tad uncomfortable if I was on a beach with my kids and somebody stripped off naked to change next to me....that is not really the place to do that where there are kids about.
There is a time and a place for most things and if it is likely to cause offense, then maybe not on public display would be a better option.
I am certainly no prude but I would not want full nudity in front of my kids, but if a woman just changed her top and had her bra on I really cannot see a problem with this, though some might if it was in the middle of the local Wimpy. lol
Thanks for everyone's comments. that is pretty much my train of thought to, I do change in front of my own son when he is present but never full nudity, it's not something I had really thought about I just did it
Blue, in my kayak gear I am anything but hot lol
Kaz the British in general are very hung up on nudity and politically correctness goes to far at times
Kent, I think I would feel uncomfortable to if someone stripped of naked right next to me if my son was there,
You made me think of a holiday last year visiting a friend in Majorca, she usually goes topless but when I was there with my son then 10, she asked if I was uncomfortable with it - I wasn't and my son never batted an eye, I was pleased she asked but also proud of my son for not taking any notice anyway
Oh twister what have you got?
Minxy wetsuits are awful things to put on/get off,
Hmmmm... I came across this just the other week at the gym. The changing rooms are open plan shall we say and kids are allowed in before 6pm. I had been for a swim and when I came out the shower there was a mum in with her son. No idea how old he was... maybe six or seven? Usually I just strip and get get dressed again, never really think twice about it, I suspect it's an age thing cause I don't think I'd ever have done that as a teenager. Even a few years ago I think I probably would have been a bit more self-conscious than I am nowadays, I wonder if being involved in this scene has made me more comfortable with nudity in front of strangers...
Anyway... it did cross my mind that I was about to strip in front of a little boy but I was more uncomfortable for his sake than for mine. In the end I opted to sort of get dressed under my towel, I'm not sure what the appropriate course of action is.
As kids my folks were naked in the house, not all the time but in and out of the bathroom/shower etc. and my mum always sunbathed topless on holiday so it was never really an issue.
Hi Tan-Kinky,
I have a whitewater creek-type boat. I paddle rivers mostly - I live too far from the coast for sea kayaking to be a regular occurence lol
What do you paddle ?
Just wanted to clarify my initial post ( for the general public ), we always try to be discreet when changing from paddling gear and use towels etc. to minimise any nudity. There is little in the way of changing facilities overall so we have to manage the best way we can. I would expect anyone in a similar situation to show the same discretion. I think this would explain my relative lack of concern if I was with some children and I chanced upon a group in the process of disrobing.
Not entirely on topic but I read a letter in one of the expat papers here written by an English woman with a 13 year old son. She was asking who she could complain to about her (French) neighbour stripping off and sunbathing nude in her (the French lady's) garden in full view of her (the English lady's) 13 year old son.
Well, it turns out that the 13 year old has to precariously balance on a chair in the spare bedroom in order to get a good view from the window over the hedge.
When challenged by the mother, the French lady merely provides the classic Gaelic shrug which is taught to all French children from a very early age, pouts her lips and walks away which just infuriates the mother even more.
Now, any teenage boy whose natural instincts are suppressed by an overly Victorian approach to nudity is going to go in search of it anyway, or at least exploit it when such an opportunity presents itself.
French boys of the same age probably wouldn't bother because "they've seen it all before" anyway, their parents, brothers, sisters, their friends both male and female down the beach or at the swimming pool.
The English are soooo prudish! I seem to remember that the advice given to the dear Mother by the resident agony aunt was basically "grow up" and that he'll grow out of it.
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...the mother even more.
Now, any teenage boy whose natural instincts are suppressed by an overly Victorian approach to nudity is going to go in search of it anyway, or at least exploit it when such an opportunity presents itself.
French boys of the same age probably wouldn't bother because "they've seen it all before" anyway, their parents, brothers, sisters, their friends both male and female down the beach or at the swimming pool.
The English are soooo prudish! I seem to remember that the advice given to the dear Mother by the resident agony aunt was basically "grow up" and that he'll grow out of it.

I think this point of view is quite stereotypical, for both the English and the French.
If your suggesting that a horny French teenager would not get turned on by nudity think that's quite wide of the mark. Also suggesting that a boy with a lack of experience of nudity will seek out nudity more is just as bad.
I think it comes down to how much of an urge a person has at that particular time, rather than being of a certain race or culture.
I know from my own up bringing nudity was not something that was done openly, but neither was it drilled into me that nudity was bad. In fact there was no opinion given what so ever. My interest in girls and women developed probably much later than others, of my cohort, but I'd put that down to my hormones kicking in a lot slower. However once they did, whether a woman was naked or not, if she was sexy and I was horny then yes it would grab my attention even if it was just a quick, mmm she looks nice.
I can't speak for girl's not being one myself and maybe the amount of nudity that a girl is exposed to would reduce her reaction to nudity. For me if a woman is sexy and I'm horny, then yes it's going to draw my attention and I think that would be the same whether I was French or Japanese. That does not mean I'm inclined to jump said woman it can be as simple as a 1 second thought of mmm nice.
For me it's all about the situation, breast feeding would not draw my attention sexually, as is not very sexual. However if I was on holiday and saw topless sunbathing it would probably be more down to my feelings on that day. Someday's I may look other days I might not, it's more complex than my upbringing.
mmmmmmmm Japanese now your talking!
All that lush jet black hair.... :rascal:
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Hmmmm... I came across this just the other week at the gym. The changing rooms are open plan shall we say and kids are allowed in before 6pm. I had been for a swim and when I came out the shower there was a mum in with her son. No idea how old he was... maybe six or seven? Usually I just strip and get get dressed again, never really think twice about it, I suspect it's an age thing cause I don't think I'd ever have done that as a teenager. Even a few years ago I think I probably would have been a bit more self-conscious than I am nowadays, I wonder if being involved in this scene has made me more comfortable with nudity in front of strangers...
Anyway... it did cross my mind that I was about to strip in front of a little boy but I was more uncomfortable for his sake than for mine. In the end I opted to sort of get dressed under my towel, I'm not sure what the appropriate course of action is.
As kids my folks were naked in the house, not all the time but in and out of the bathroom/shower etc. and my mum always sunbathed topless on holiday so it was never really an issue.

You're being far to 'nice' McDirty kiss if his mother thought it was ok to take him into the changing rooms then it doesn't really bother her or she has no right to comment/complain about naked bodies being seen by her sprog- it's a changing room, what else would you see in there?
As for getting changed in public, if been attempting surfing for years and have lost count of the number of carparks i've hopped round in while trying to remove my wetsuit then getting dried off. i wear shorts underneath it but i'm sure someone, somewhere would be hurrumfing at the vulgar display of my pasty white body. personally i don't give a monkeys, i suffer lots of things that piss me off, but that could be a whole other ranting type thread, so i'll shut up now :mrgreen:
DG just out of interest would you of felt different if it had been a girl of the same age in front of you? just curious if it was an age thing or the fact it was a boy of that age?
My son came into the ladies changing rooms up until he was around 8 but there was always cubicles so I never worried about it but I agree with meaty , I would have changed anyway - all there for the same reason.
Nudity in my house now and when I was a child is/was similar to how you describe, in and out the bathroom, my son does have a habit of coming to talk to me when I am in the bath and topless sunbathing occurs on holiday
Twister, I have a touring boat, Perception Carolina - I live to near the coast not to go in the sea lol Would love to get back in ww though, and your right about being discreet I think people try to be as discreet as they possibly can be
GnV, A neighbour topless in the garden would not bother me, I might tell my son not to stare but that would be the only conversation on the matter dunno what a person does in their house/garden is up to them. I wouldn't make an issue out of it, he may find it a turn on at a certain age but hopefully it would become the norm to him
Could it possibly be true that most swingers are less prudish than vanilla's?
Kaz redface I did look through the catalogue at the men in their boxers :giggle:
Mmm meaty in shorts :smitten::rascal:
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Could it possibly be true that most swingers are less prudish than vanilla's?

I'm sure you're right on that...
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Kaz redface I did look through the catalogue at the men in their boxers :giggle:
Mmm meaty in shorts :smitten::rascal:

it was the bra section that caught my attention surprisedops:
Didn't think you had one Kaz... or is that the reason for looking?
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What very conservative views being held by people who follow a liberal lifestyle.
People in the UK seem unable to differentiate between nudity and sex and hence get in a flap over non issues like this. The "Benny Hill" smut type humour is engrained in the British psyche and until we grow up as a nation and remember the nude is normal we will continue to worry and bother ourselves over such nonsense.
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What very conservative views being held by people who follow a liberal lifestyle.
People in the UK seem unable to differentiate between nudity and sex and hence get in a flap over non issues like this. The "Benny Hill" smut type humour is ingrained in the British psyche and until we grow up as a nation and remember the nude is normal we will continue to worry and bother ourselves over such nonsense.

Part of me agrees with you hot, but as both of us are in a liberal scene in swinging, maybe that is why you have such liberal attitudes to nudism?
The law is clear on nudity in public and also what another person may find offensive with regards to " common decency ".
I have no problems with it at all, but I would do if I felt those boundaries were being breached, in front of my kids.
Sorry but nudity is all well and good with consenting adults, but children should without a doubt be protected from it....not prudish just common sense to me.
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Sorry but nudity is all well and good with consenting adults, but children should without a doubt be protected from it....not prudish just common sense to me.

Protected from what exactly? It is absolutely perfectly normal to be naked and totally abnormal to act inappropriately - naked or otherwise.
We have spent a great deal of time in Spanish and French naturist resorts and area's and we firmly believe that children brought up understanding that the human body is perfectly normal would grow up far more tolerant and balanced than most Bristish people seem to be.
Personally I feel that laws of "decency" as they are refered to belong in the Victorian ages back from whence they came. Decency should be about the way you act not what you wear (or don't wear).
I am really at a loss as to why you feel children should be protected from nudity - it seems a sure fire way to me for children to grow with hang ups if you follow that line of thought.
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Protected from what exactly? It is absolutely perfectly normal to be naked and totally abnormal to act inappropriately - naked or otherwise.
We have spent a great deal of time in Spanish and French naturist resorts and area's and we firmly believe that children brought up understanding that the human body is perfectly normal would grow up far more tolerant and balanced than most Bristish people seem to be.

No it is not " perfectly normal " to be naked walking down your high street. It is perfectly normal in a nudist site....a subtle difference. You I presume are naturists, and obviously have different opinions on nudity than a lot of people do, that are not into that scene.
Tolerant and balanced about what exactly dunno....the fact that kids who grow up around nudity are more balanced and tolerant? Have you any statistics to support that at all?
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Personally I feel that laws of "decency" as they are refered to belong in the Victorian ages back from whence they came. Decency should be about the way you act not what you wear (or don't wear).

Once again as a naturist you would think the current laws are Victorian, unfortunately you do not make the laws, so you will just have to base that on an opinion.
Sorry decency is more than the way you act, you try walking in Bluewater shopping center naked and see how many people you would offend. Because you think it Victorian does not mean everyone has to adhere to your thoughts and actions on nudity.
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I am really at a loss as to why you feel children should be protected from nudity - it seems a sure fire way to me for children to grow with hang ups if you follow that line of thought.

If adults want to wander around naked all day long then fine, that is there choice to do but.....how many of those young kids actually get that same choice? Usually they go with the parents and because the parents have a liberal attitude to nudity, they expect their kids to have the same views.
As I have said already....I have no problem with nudity and I am no prude, I just feel uncomfortable with children being around naked adults, and as the law stands you could not walk down your high street the same way you can around a nudist site, and rightly so.
I do not expect someone who is a nudist to have any other attitude than the one you have expressed, but the vast majority of people are not nudists, and would find the whole thing offensive, especially where kids are around adults naked. That is not being Victorian at all, just being given a choice.
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Protected from what exactly? It is absolutely perfectly normal to be naked and totally abnormal to act inappropriately - naked or otherwise.

And sadly the society we live in seems to dictate that we have a different attitude these days. It's not perfectly normal to be naked in every situation and I think a little common sense is required. It is totally abnormal to most of us to act inappropriately but there are a small percentage who deem it perfectly normal. These are the people that we should be protecting all children from. I find your view a tad on the naive side to be pefectly honest. I appreciate the thought behind it but the reality is quite different now which is awful but fact. Sad. Very sad indeed.
Guys - read the original post again please. It is about getting changed - not being naked all day or wandering down the high street naked - just getting changed.
My reference was about British attitudes that just get all worked up over nothing as can be seen from following posts.
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Guys - read the original post again please. It is about getting changed - not being naked all day or wandering down the high street naked - just getting changed.
My reference was about British attitudes that just get all worked up over nothing as can be seen from following posts.

Hot you are correct....it sort of got around to nudity.
From my perspective getting changed as she described in her original comment I see nothing in particular wrong in that at all.
Tans comment about getting changed on the beach is I think what turned it around into nudity...maybe tan could clarify?
Changing out of wet clothes where only part nudity is seen in a public place, in other words seeing her in her bra, I think that is acceptable.
Doing it in Mcdonalds might get a different reaction though. wink
Well... I'm just back from the gym and I took all your comments on board. There were a load of kids in this morning and when I went to get a shower and get dressed there was a little boy there with his mum. She was explaining to him that she'd forgotten to bring a top with her so she had just put her tracky top on with nothing under it. He promptly zipped her top up to the neck and she asked if he was embarrassed by her!! He rolled his eyes and nodded! lol I'd guess he was about seven.
So... I came out the shower and started to get dressed. I never take clean undies... I just put my trackies on and my top and come home and get dressed properly. So there I am, with my trousers on and I dropped my towel to put my t-shirt on... the little boy had his back to me at this point but turned round just as I was pulling my t-shirt over my head and I watched as his eyes widened and he remarked to his mum "they're BIG!!" :lol:
She told him off for being cheeky and looked at me apologetically... I just laughed and whispered to her that they used to be bigger!! wink
I dare say males are all the same regardless of their age... tits are tits! :giggle:
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I dare say males are all the same regardless of their age... tits are tits!

There is an exact science to this question..........and as a scientific person I would need to compare and contrast before a decision is made.
So when are you free for me to investigate :twisted:
Dave_Notts
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I dare say males are all the same regardless of their age... tits are tits!

There is an exact science to this question..........and as a scientific person I would need to compare and contrast before a decision is made.
So when are you free for me to investigate :twisted:
Dave_Notts
Bloody count me in on that one too please Davey........we can compare notes.:notes:
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I dare say males are all the same regardless of their age... tits are tits!

There is an exact science to this question..........and as a scientific person I would need to compare and contrast before a decision is made.
So when are you free for me to investigate :twisted:
Dave_Notts
Bloody count me in on that one too please Davey........we can compare notes.:notes:
I have a spare lab coat. You can look all scientificky too lol
Dave_Notts
Do not fret Voddy............I have the latest in sat nav technology and between the two of us we will find it not problem.
Stick the lab coat in the boot of ya car Davey.....all we need now is the postcode.
You want to ask her for it? lol
Am I allowed to post my tits in the forum?! dunno
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Am I allowed to post my tits in the forum?! dunno

Hell yes !!!