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half mm couple wants f, what to do?

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Yeah I know I'm not in a minority in that respect, just grumbling like the rest 'spose
Ya know you could just hang out at a nice bar and let yourself get picked up....I know it's kinda old fashioned, but it still works lol
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Ya know you could just hang out at a nice bar and let yourself get picked up....I know it's kinda old fashioned, but it still works lol

It's a lost art skinny - you should consider giving us newbies lessons :lol2:
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OK one year later, still no fems or mixed couples are responding to me

Have you tried clubs or socials? That may be a good way to meet women - We've only been to a club once, but both of us were more "up for it" there than we expected to be. The atmosphere adds to the horn levels and it's a lot quicker getting to know someone over a drink in a club than via PM or chatrooms on the site. We're going to our first social this Sat - partly because LB2 doesn't really like the whole online thing, and partly because LB2 is currently feeling like she wants to play with other women, whereas I am still more interested in meets with men... So, we're hoping that we'll meet some f/m couples to play with. It may sound silly to say we want to go to a social to find that, as there are plenty of bi-f/m couples on this site! But, the tricky thing is finding a couple we both find attractive and vice versa... And since I struggle to get my wife to spend any time on the site, (and I don't want to arrange meets without her getting to know people first) a social seems the way forward!! We'll definitely go to clubs again too.
Give it a whirl!
But, to answer your original question, I doubt many women are put off because a guy is bi - and bi women are especially likely to be cool with it. Both my wife and I are fine with it. In fact, we quite enjoy it!! We'd love a meet with two bi guys actually... Imagine the possibilities with an entirely bi MMFF meet!!
I wonder if, when you finally fuck a woman, you'll hate it and wonder why you spent so long looking for it on here!!
LB1 xx
Totally agree!
W have found that absolutely the best way to meet people is at a social. You can chat in a relaxed non-pressure environment and obviously it gives you a chance to mingle and connect with the right people for you.
If nothing else you will have a fun night lol
If you try a combination of socials/clubs/chatting on here you will be open to every eventuality .... which is always good wink
See ya Saturday LB1!
Inanna
:twisted: Any chance you could drop me a line next time you are going to a club?
thanks LB1 for the advice on going to socials/clubs, though I think my rabbit caught in the headlights look will be a turn off for most :shock: seriously though, I am intimidated by the prospect of going and trying to be cool and sexy when I'm nervous as hell. Guess I'm just ignorant cos don't know where to go to or what to expect either. I thought I had to get invited to stuff via the site to go to socials, is that right? 'How do I get involved?' is the short question.
You wonder if, when I fuck a woman, I'll hate it? I know I like kissing women and I like the female body, frankly its been doing my nut in thinking about it. I don't want to dump a load of psychological baggage onto someone when I meet them, but if I am getting on with someone, I want them to understand I'm experimenting and broadening my horizons, how do you say something like that?
Ughhhh banghead
Thanks x
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thanks LB1 for the advice on going to socials/clubs, though I think my rabbit caught in the headlights look will be a turn off for most :shock: seriously though, I am intimidated by the prospect of going and trying to be cool and sexy when I'm nervous as hell. Guess I'm just ignorant cos don't know where to go to or what to expect either. I thought I had to get invited to stuff via the site to go to socials, is that right? 'How do I get involved?' is the short question.
You wonder if, when I fuck a woman, I'll hate it? I know I like kissing women and I like the female body, frankly its been doing my nut in thinking about it. I don't want to dump a load of psychological baggage onto someone when I meet them, but if I am getting on with someone, I want them to understand I'm experimenting and broadening my horizons, how do you say something like that?
Ughhhh banghead
Thanks x

If you look in the section "Let's Meet Up" in the Forum, you'll find lots of socials listed. You just need to ask to be added to the list of the one(s) you'd like to attend. They're likely to be less intimidating than clubs, as they're "no play" venues (all play happens at hotels later, if wanted and privately arranged).
As for clubs, I don't think I'm the best person to advise on this, as we've only been once. You could always tag along with some friends from the site if you're nervous, or look for club meets in the forum pages, and go along on a night when lots of other SH folk will be there. I'd also recommend alcohol for replacing the rabbit in headlights look with a horny-as-fuck look!!
I think you're worrying too much about your situation. Just be honest and open and it'll be fine. I genuinely think that any woman meeting you, if she knew it was your first time with a woman, would be patient and understanding. :-)
Lilith xx
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I want them to understand I'm experimenting and broadening my horizons, how do you say something like that?

You don't really need to explain much - a lot of people come on here to explore their desires and even more to push their boundaries and the boundaries of others. You probably think that being inexperienced or even "not knowing what you like" is a negative point but I guarantee you there are plenty of people out there that are very keen on this... innocence, for lack of a better word. First times mostly suck anyway lol - that's the beauty of meeting someone casually, whether a good or bad experience you can have it, ponder on it, learn from it and then pack it away and move on. Key is as LB said, being honest about your situation and what you hope to achieve, so those that don't fancy experiments stay out of the way :thumbup:
What's wrong with the "rabbit caught in headlights" look?! (other than that "deer" is better haha). Projecting self-confidence is great, but a touch of vulnerability can also reel victims in :P