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What am I doing wrong?? I've met a few people now off the site, all gorgeous and all fun.
But - couples = drama
Single men = they want love or they are just too odd
OR they are too young.
I have found one knight amongst the wolves, but seriously, what am I doing wrong!!
Amber xx
not interested in love or relationship just got out of one, looking for fun only but maybe too old for you as im 38.
what is too old for you
There are some odd ones on here but also some lovely people.
And I have found a prince too,.........early days yet but could be another match made in heaven!
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What am I doing wrong?? I've met a few people now off the site, all gorgeous and all fun.
But - couples = drama
Single men = they want love or they are just too odd
OR they are too young.
I have found one knight amongst the wolves, but seriously, what am I doing wrong!!
Amber xx

Bloody typical woman! Blames me and I’ve never even met her. rolleyes
wink Welcome to the site BTW.
Theres nothing wrong with being odd in my humble.. wink
well vixen, your advert is a bit odd for a start. You want 2 men, but they mustn't be single! does that mean you want a gay couple (in which case, why would they want you), or do you want 2 married guys both playing away. And your profile doesn't say what you are after either. If you don't specify the age range, but you have one in your head, then you will get ppl who are too old and too young. Plus a photo would help......
So, if you were more local to me, i wouldn't be pm-ing you because I dont know if you want a married guy, aged 50............
hope this helps...information is power...
steve
Amber, we really must go for that drink. wink
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Amber, we really must go for that drink. wink

Oi i was going to say that evil
bolt
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well vixen, your advert is a bit odd for a start. You want 2 men, but they mustn't be single! does that mean you want a gay couple (in which case, why would they want you), or do you want 2 married guys both playing away. And your profile doesn't say what you are after either. If you don't specify the age range, but you have one in your head, then you will get ppl who are too old and too young. Plus a photo would help......

I personally read that ad as she's after two or more blokes, not just one on his own, rather than two or more blokes who happen to be part of a couple. dunno The point about specifying an age range if you have one in mind is good though - it won't stop everyone outside the range from applying, but it might give you a somewhat higher success rate.
As for photos on ads, threy're nice but to be honest I can see why people choose not to put one on, since although they may get more responses with a photo, they may get significantly fewer suitable responses.
Quote by ambervixen
What am I doing wrong?? I've met a few people now off the site, all gorgeous and all fun.
But - couples = drama
Single men = they want love or they are just too odd
OR they are too young.
I have found one knight amongst the wolves, but seriously, what am I doing wrong!!
Amber xx

back off sister, Knight is mine ! duel
:giggle:
I doubt you're doing anything wrong hunni. I haven't read your profile or ad but from what the others have said, maybe redo them and see what happens.
There's nothing wrong with being specific about what you want but it might take a little longer to find it.
Good luck :thumbup:
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Theres nothing wrong with being odd in my humble.. wink

and your humble is...where, exactly?
lp
Ola,
I think that there is some food for thought in the responses. Though, in seriousness have I stated that I don't want single men? I didn't think I had.
I do think that I ought to update my profile a bit, it was thrown together when I joined a while ago, and whilst I was unsure as to what exactly I was after!
rolleyes
I will update my profile, I was unsure as to how I ought to do it, but a kind member has informed me.
A few people have suggested that a bit more information and a photo might help me, it's not that I've not had some fantastic responses either to my first add, or to my profile, it's just that I think that there are a lot of people who are looking for the wrong thing from this forum.
Not that I think that it is in any way my place to tell anyone what they ought to be looking for. I've just had a few very random and unexpected outcomes to recent interactions.
Maybe I'm attracted the stranger ones... :twisted:
It's all a learning curve
To update, I am interested in meeting single men!
And Kiss - babe we're totally having that drink and if I have a bit of luck a bit more lol xxxxx
Quote by ambervixen
What am I doing wrong?? I've met a few people now off the site, all gorgeous and all fun.
But - couples = drama
Single men = they want love or they are just too odd
OR they are too young.
I have found one knight amongst the wolves, but seriously, what am I doing wrong!!
Amber xx

what do you mean by Couples = drama?.....just curious.
Amber
Your ad is a little confusing. It says "No single men" so I think you need to refine it to either say a single male then if you're after a MMF advertise seperately then get the two together or be more specific about the two men, do they have to know each other, can they be just friend or are you after a gay couple (as silentsvben says they may not want you?).
And adding to Mr Powers, what makes couples = drama? Please do tell.
pink x
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Theres nothing wrong with being odd in my humble.. wink

and your humble is...where, exactly?
lpthe back and beyond..
Quote by ambervixen
What am I doing wrong?? I've met a few people now off the site, all gorgeous and all fun.
But - couples = drama
Single men = they want love or they are just too odd
Amber xx

Meeting the same people as me ?? :shock: confused ;)
Happy medium= uri geller counting his money !
jay x
I mentioned the "Happy Medium" in a thread last week HERE
Basicly there is one somewhere and i suppose its part of the experiance finding it.
I have found what im looking for and the way we did it was we chatted for sometime before anything else. We know what the boundaries are and they suit us both.
Just keep looking, you doing nothing wrong and if you change anything in what you are doing you will be even less liklly to find the happy medium
Hey there,
Thanks for all the kind words of encouragement. I think that I probably ought to rejig my profile and my ad at the same time.
Couples = drama, well I've walked away from 2 couples pre sex, because they ended up arguing, by couples I mean the pleasures of mff.
And the last one, well started fabulously, the couple were gorgeous and lovely, but they clearly hadn't thought it through as the lady in question got up mid-sex and started to cry.
I've been in some awkward situations while naked - but none so odd or embarassing!! They were very civilized about it, but I was on the receiving end - as it were - of something, they weren't too comfortable with. What I mean by that is that we engaged (the lady and I) in some gentle restraining - by my hands, on her wrists, and she found it uncomfortable, which is fine, but she took 5 minutes to decide... And in fairness their profile, and adds all said they wanted a dominate bi-fem. Ever willing to please this is the 'water' I was testing... I didn't take it personally, but it has put me off the whole 'doing a couple' thing... I think I'll stick to bi women on their own from now on.
To add a little flavour - which can never harm things. I am very open minded sexually, and happy to hear from single women, single men, couples, bi men, bi women.. and so on and so on.
I'll update my profile so I don't seem to be some single bloke sitting wanking over pictures...
I'm really enjoying the forums here, there are a lot of sane and beautiful people on this site, and I have recently met one tres articulate gentleman off this site - who is so goregous that I couldn't concentrate on anything he said over supper, as I was imagining him naked, and tied up and generally shagging him.
He knows who he is, and he's getting f88ked senseless this weekend - WAHEY
Also, I'm going to have a 'go' at mmf this weekend, so I'd better not drink too much this Friday or I'll be walking sideways in my new job on Monday.
Any hoo - off to pretend to cook dinner ( i.e. microwave the death morleys chicken I purchased on the way home).
Adios xxx