Here’s one, how common are fantasies amongst women?
It seems a bit strong to me, and just putting this post up makes me afraid of being judged.
So am I being a bit feeble is it actually more common that I think?
Adam
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Here’s one, how common are fantasies amongst women?
It seems a bit strong to me, and just putting this post up makes me afraid of being judged.
So am I being a bit feeble is it actually more common that I think?
Adam
a lot more common that you think,!! but then as someone said to me la t night , there is a lot of difference between consentual rap and real !!!
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Here’s one, how common are fantasies amongst women?
It seems a bit strong to me, and just putting this post up makes me afraid of being judged.
So am I being a bit feeble is it actually more common that I think?
Adam
a lot more common that you think,!! but then as someone said to me la t night , there is a lot of difference between consentual rap and real !!!
yes massive difference!!!
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I think the whole fantasy thing has to do with ones sub/dom tendencies, so should be a fairly common fantasy.
For me personaly, think I'd flip playing out the thing, bit too close to home that one.
But rough sex, spanking, bondage?
Yes please :grin:
Should I be changing the sheets?
Ditto!!
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Here’s one, how common are fantasies amongst women?
It seems a bit strong to me, and just putting this post up makes me afraid of being judged.
So am I being a bit feeble is it actually more common that I think?
Adam
a lot more common that you think,!! but then as someone said to me la t night , there is a lot of difference between consentual rap and real !!!
yes massive difference!!!
Suprising how some men automatically realis that, isnt it?
I dunno about anybody on here but I always thought that would be a more male fantasy! Im well into tying up spanking hard rough sex but thats a definite no no for me??
I know this probably doesnt sound very open minded but I dont understand why anybody would want to participate in somethinglike that male or female! Scary scary
I know this probably doesnt sound very open minded but I dont understand why anybody would want to participate in somethinglike that male or female! Scary scary
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I dunno about anybody on here but I always thought that would be a more male fantasy! Im well into tying up spanking hard rough sex but thats a definite no no for me??
I know this probably doesnt sound very open minded but I dont understand why anybody would want to participate in somethinglike that male or female! Scary scary
Because its freedom from responsability, if only for a short while. Its brilliant if youve been making decisions all the time just to relax and not have to decide anything, pur bliss!!
I have no idea how common the fantasies are with women 
It's a pretty thing to talk about - gotta be, cos like you I'm sat here shaking just typing this out too :?
I think to carry this out properly, the role play would have to be carried out with someone that you trust implicitly - and extremely important to have a safe word.
I have done this once, with someone that I totally trusted, only after talking about it loads beforehand - and must admit that it made for an extremely intense time, to say the least. He also knew me and my limits very well, another important thing - I don't think pushing sexual limits in this kind of role play a good move, like I said he knew my limits, and took me right up to that, but no further.
Like everyone, the thought of actual fills me with absolute horror - But I must admit to really enjoying the 'forced' role play thing. I'm not into pain, so that didn't come into play at all, but I did find it an incredible turn on to be slammed onto the bed, restrained, blindfolded, then have my legs forced apart .......... if I ever got to play it again, I would also like to have the clothes cut off me once I'm restrained
So yep, I still fantasise about it 8-)
As for the guy, he had never thought about the forced sex thing before, so was new to him too - so I presume him knowing that we both knew each other intimately, made him more comfortable with the scenario. Although it was forced sex role play in the mental sense, in the physical sense, he didn't do anything that he knew I wouldn't like.
It really was an incredibly instense experience - for us at the time it was. It's not something that I would do with anyone, the person concerned was a long term partner. And never ever do it if you are even slightly dubious, I reckon it could be bluddy disturbing rather than erotic for either person, or both, if there is the slighest doubt in either mind.
It's a pretty thing to talk about - gotta be, cos like you I'm sat here shaking just typing this out too :?
I think to carry this out properly, the role play would have to be carried out with someone that you trust implicitly - and extremely important to have a safe word.
I have done this once, with someone that I totally trusted, only after talking about it loads beforehand - and must admit that it made for an extremely intense time, to say the least. He also knew me and my limits very well, another important thing - I don't think pushing sexual limits in this kind of role play a good move, like I said he knew my limits, and took me right up to that, but no further.
Like everyone, the thought of actual fills me with absolute horror - But I must admit to really enjoying the 'forced' role play thing. I'm not into pain, so that didn't come into play at all, but I did find it an incredible turn on to be slammed onto the bed, restrained, blindfolded, then have my legs forced apart .......... if I ever got to play it again, I would also like to have the clothes cut off me once I'm restrained
So yep, I still fantasise about it 8-) As for the guy, he had never thought about the forced sex thing before, so was new to him too - so I presume him knowing that we both knew each other intimately, made him more comfortable with the scenario. Although it was forced sex role play in the mental sense, in the physical sense, he didn't do anything that he knew I wouldn't like.
It really was an incredibly instense experience - for us at the time it was. It's not something that I would do with anyone, the person concerned was a long term partner. And never ever do it if you are even slightly dubious, I reckon it could be bluddy disturbing rather than erotic for either person, or both, if there is the slighest doubt in either mind.
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Here’s one, how common are fantasies amongst women?
It seems a bit strong to me, and just putting this post up makes me afraid of being judged.
So am I being a bit feeble is it actually more common that I think?
Adam
a lot more common that you think,!! but then as someone said to me la t night , there is a lot of difference between consentual rap and real !!!
Excuse me for being a bit thick, (I'm being serious) but isnt consential a contradiction in terms
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Here’s one, how common are fantasies amongst women?
It seems a bit strong to me, and just putting this post up makes me afraid of being judged.
So am I being a bit feeble is it actually more common that I think?
Adam
a lot more common that you think,!! but then as someone said to me la t night , there is a lot of difference between consentual rap and real !!!
Excuse me for being a bit thick, (I'm being serious) but isnt consential a contradiction in terms
: :?Yes, probably, but isnt life full of contradictions??
and dosnt consential look better when its spelt rite?
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Here’s one, how common are fantasies amongst women?
It seems a bit strong to me, and just putting this post up makes me afraid of being judged.
So am I being a bit feeble is it actually more common that I think?
Adam
a lot more common that you think,!! but then as someone said to me la t night , there is a lot of difference between consentual rap and real !!!
Excuse me for being a bit thick, (I'm being serious) but isnt consential a contradiction in terms
: :?Yes, probably, but isnt life full of contradictions??
and dosnt consential look better when its spelt rite?
I wasn't quite sure about my spelling :!:
The Nancy Friday books about Fantasies were discussed in a thread recently. I t seems that in fantasies - anything goes. I know I have fantasies that I enjoy that I would never tolerate in real life.
I have only one Nancy Friday book - "My Secret Garden" and my edition was published in 1975 and the flyleaf copyrights it at 1973 so she's probably recording fantasies from late 60's or early 70's. Now that means that she's recording fantasies from women who are now, perhaps, in their seventies or maybe even eighties.
I would really like to know if our fantasies have changed. Certainly 30 or 35 years ago fantasies were used by many women
Mollie
I have only one Nancy Friday book - "My Secret Garden" and my edition was published in 1975 and the flyleaf copyrights it at 1973 so she's probably recording fantasies from late 60's or early 70's. Now that means that she's recording fantasies from women who are now, perhaps, in their seventies or maybe even eighties.
I would really like to know if our fantasies have changed. Certainly 30 or 35 years ago fantasies were used by many women
Mollie
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The Nancy Friday books about Fantasies were discussed in a thread recently. I t seems that in fantasies - anything goes. I know I have fantasies that I enjoy that I would never tolerate in real life.
I have only one Nancy Friday book - "My Secret Garden" and my edition was published in 1975 and the flyleaf copyrights it at 1973 so she's probably recording fantasies from late 60's or early 70's. Now that means that she's recording fantasies from women who are now, perhaps, in their seventies or maybe even eighties.
I would really like to know if our fantasies have changed. Certainly 30 or 35 years ago fantasies were used by many women
Mollie
Her later books contain very similar ideas. If the stories are genuinely women's fantasies that have been sent in to her then it would seem that , along with alsations, seem to figure frequently in some women's fantasies.
Sex God
Theres a lot of difference between a contradiction in terms and a paradox.
Orgasminator
oddly enough I've had the fantasy being on the recieving end (every time I dress up and walk on the seafront) but could never do it to someone else, I just couldn't be like that with a woman no matter how much she begged!
I would agree with the general consensus here, that a ' ' fantasy is more in actuality a domination fantasy, for one partner to be totally in charge and to 'force' sex onto their partner, the submissive. Aspects of role play could come into it also, with the sub partner trying to 'fight off their attacker' but if done properly that would have been agreed beforehand and a safe word set so that if the sub does become genuinely disturbed or upset they can stop it immediately.
True on the other hand is an horrific crime and nobody, man or woman should ever have to be subjected to it.
Nancy Friday has written in depth about this sort of fantasy and she comes to this conclusion, and also that some victims may use scenarios such as this to overcome their fears and the trauma of what they went through, although obviously others would hate it and wouldn't partake in a fantasy of this nature.
True on the other hand is an horrific crime and nobody, man or woman should ever have to be subjected to it.
Nancy Friday has written in depth about this sort of fantasy and she comes to this conclusion, and also that some victims may use scenarios such as this to overcome their fears and the trauma of what they went through, although obviously others would hate it and wouldn't partake in a fantasy of this nature.
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ok so we have all discussed the female role play fantasy how many men have fantasys of being by one or more women?? i must confess that i have
why we are on the subject i see a few of the ladies like the role play is this with 1 or more men???
Being by a few women is something I have thought about quite a few times. Nothing nasty though just no consent. Cant say I have ever fantasised about a woman. The idea just does not do anything for me. Taking turns doing consensual restraint is quite an exciting fantasy though.
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I have no idea how common the fantasies are with women
It's a pretty thing to talk about - gotta be, cos like you I'm sat here shaking just typing this out too :?
I think to carry this out properly, the role play would have to be carried out with someone that you trust implicitly - and extremely important to have a safe word.
I have done this once, with someone that I totally trusted, only after talking about it loads beforehand - and must admit that it made for an extremely intense time, to say the least. He also knew me and my limits very well, another important thing - I don't think pushing sexual limits in this kind of role play a good move, like I said he knew my limits, and took me right up to that, but no further.
Like everyone, the thought of actual fills me with absolute horror - But I must admit to really enjoying the 'forced' role play thing. I'm not into pain, so that didn't come into play at all, but I did find it an incredible turn on to be slammed onto the bed, restrained, blindfolded, then have my legs forced apart .......... if I ever got to play it again, I would also like to have the clothes cut off me once I'm restrained
As for the guy, he had never thought about the forced sex thing before, so was new to him too - so I presume him knowing that we both knew each other intimately, made him more comfortable with the scenario. Although it was forced sex role play in the mental sense, in the physical sense, he didn't do anything that he knew I wouldn't like.
It really was an incredibly instense experience - for us at the time it was. It's not something that I would do with anyone, the person concerned was a long term partner. And never ever do it if you are even slightly dubious, I reckon it could be bluddy disturbing rather than erotic for either person, or both, if there is the slighest doubt in either mind.
I know what you mean but to me that doesnt sound like a arape fantasy really ( I really hate that word so much!) Isnt that just rough submissive sex!?
I really like being tied but and shagged senseless by my shagging partner and have done so a few times blindfolded and otherwise.
Is it really a fantasy if its concensual?? I dont think so.
It is a very subject I dunno I cant think of anything more to say about it other than that!
It would be interesting to hear from both people who maybe have been in this situation for real and people who havent and see the difference in their views??
Sex God
I dont wanna get tied up in semantics , but its all about what the word realy means . If you enjoy the idea of multiple men using you annoymously for sex that is one thing . There is of course no such thing as consentual thats an impossibilty. Theres no word that really describes the fantasy were talking about but I guess its more about losing yourself in the experience and abandon and of course the animalistic desire . Either way its a sexual fantasy , and the true nature of in its reality has very little to do with sex and very much to do with the ultimate in violent domination and impositon of power by the . A very large number of rapes dont result in any sexual gratification or orgasm for the assailant , rather they feed a need for power over the helpless and to cover the rapists own inate inferiority problems . I cant imagine anyone really desiring the reality of unless they have serious self image problems themselves , and even then even though it may appear a sexual act it would in truth be about adressing a need from their personality defects than sexual enjoyment.
Just My opinion of course
G
( Silky says I have to sign the heavy posts now in case you think its her )
Just My opinion of course
G
( Silky says I have to sign the heavy posts now in case you think its her )
you make a very valid point there what we are all talking about is the end result being sexual satisfaction tho im sure some would argue that its actually the power that is the turn on
myself personally the thought of being tied and helpless why a woman or women
do what they wish to me is a massive turn on and seeing as we all agree that it is a subject that does turn us on means that infact it can not be that we all have fantasys over lol
myself personally the thought of being tied and helpless why a woman or women
do what they wish to me is a massive turn on and seeing as we all agree that it is a subject that does turn us on means that infact it can not be that we all have fantasys over lol 