Have we been a bit hard?

20 Jun 2006

We've modified our profile several times to try and avoid too much attention from those rude and pushy guys who simply won't take no for an answer.
Yesterday we were whispered by a guy in one of the chatrooms who very politely asked about us. I referred him to our profile but he said he couldn't access it. Is this correct? If so, why? I thought eveyone could access profiles if not some of the other site features. If it is correct what is the point of havign a profile? dunno

I'll freely admit to having been a bit terse with some of those who've sent unrequested whispers. PM's etc. but I'm starting to wonder if they too couldn't access our profile.

20 Jun 2006

No - just checked and no problem accessing your profile. Probably just him being a numpty.
Mal
wink

20 Jun 2006

Quote by Mal
No - just checked and no problem accessing your profile. Probably just him being a numpty.
Mal

Aren't you going to pm us with an offen then Mal ????
lol

:lol: :lol:

20 Jun 2006

so can i, hello again Miss P, looking as gorgeous as ever :inlove: worship

(oh yeah, better say hello to T poke

:giggle: )

20 Jun 2006

Don't let it worry you hun. If they can't be arsed to read your profile then are they the sort of person you'd want to meet anyway? If I get whispers from guys, I send them off to my profile, most of the time when they see I'm not looking for guys or couples they say sorry and good luck but there are one or two that pester and I sometimes find myself getting arsey with them.
Some people want all the fun without doing the groundwork rolleyes

20 Jun 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Don't let it worry you hun. If they can't be arsed to read your profile then are they the sort of person you'd want to meet anyway? If I get whispers from guys, I send them off to my profile, most of the time when they see I'm not looking for guys or couples they say sorry and good luck but there are one or two that pester and I sometimes find myself getting arsey with them.
Some people want all the fun without doing the groundwork

Thanks for the relies (except M2PU that is LOL).
Well what made me wonder was that this guy (unlike many) was very polite and seemed genuinely willing to check but just couldn't access it. He even asked for our profile number whatever that is??
Maybe it was a tech. glitch or as Mal said, he just wasn't doing it right. Know that feeling ffs! LOL

20 Jun 2006

When I get wispers from guys who ask me what I'm looking for, I tell 'em "someone who can read", surprisingly it shuts quite a few up.
H.x

20 Jun 2006

Quote by H-x
When I get wispers from guys who ask me what I'm looking for, I tell 'em "someone who can read", surprisingly it shuts quite a few up.
H.x

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20 Jun 2006

Quote by osemlover
Thanks for the relies (except M2PU that is LOL).
Well what made me wonder was that this guy (unlike many) was very polite and seemed genuinely willing to check but just couldn't access it. He even asked for our profile number whatever that is??
Maybe it was a tech. glitch or as Mal said, he just wasn't doing it right. Know that feeling ffs! LOL

I think he is getting ads mixed up with profiles, If you had an ad, you would have a number, but you don't have any, hence him looking for the wrong thing!
There's always one - and probably always him! :shock:
Mal
wink

20 Jun 2006

Quote by Mal

Thanks for the relies (except M2PU that is LOL).
Well what made me wonder was that this guy (unlike many) was very polite and seemed genuinely willing to check but just couldn't access it. He even asked for our profile number whatever that is??
Maybe it was a tech. glitch or as Mal said, he just wasn't doing it right. Know that feeling ffs! LOL

I think he is getting ads mixed up with profiles, If you had an ad, you would have a number, but you don't have any, hence him looking for the wrong thing!
There's always one - and probably always him! :shock:
Mal
wink

Hey Mal - it's obvious why you're a Mod!!!!
;)

20 Jun 2006

it can be true that some can't access the profiles from chatroom page as we can't all the time. since s.h. upgraded we had problems gaining entry into the chatrooms now sorted thanks to s.h. help desk but alas we now experience problems reading profiles once in the chatrooms , some days we can then next time we can't, we ask guys to ERR "WINK" us so we then can read there profiles b4 responding to p,m's. and we know others with similar problem, so it may of been an excuse but it is a probable excuse.

20 Jun 2006

Quote by osemlover
Hey Mal - it's obvious why you're a Mod!!!!
;)

The Rockers wouldn't have him? confused

20 Jun 2006

As a single male on here ive got quite used to the abuse some women feel they have to give to any men that dare say "Hello" to them. I can only assume that because of a small number of men that can not or will not behave, the rest of us men then get lumped into the same category.
As for the few people on here that know me on a more personal level, they would tell you I am both polite and well mannered. I come into the chat rooms here to chat with like minded people, have a laugh, arrange meetings and to make new friends. I'm not here to wank on cam ( although I wouldn't stop others doing so if thats their thing ) I'm not here to cyber and most of all I'm not here to give abuse to other people.
I suspect I'm not the only single male on here that has had to put up with such abuse not only from attention seeking primadonna's but also from their pathetic groveling sycophants. I must however counter this with a big thank you to all the nice decent, normal people I have had the pleasure of chatting to on here.
I finish on a comment made in chat today "All men are bastards" ! rather sums up the mindset of some jaded females on here. It would be as big a mistake to brand all ladies as whores as it is to brand all men as bastards and most unuseful in keeping chat a friendly place to visit.
Don't forget we are all very lucky to have such a website as this lets keep it fun ! cool

20 Jun 2006

Quote by jb74
I finish on a comment made in chat today "All men are bastards" !

I saw that comment as well and it rather made me cringe as well... rolleyes

20 Jun 2006

Quote by H-x
When I get wispers from guys who ask me what I'm looking for, I tell 'em "someone who can read", surprisingly it shuts quite a few up.
H.x

That is a classic answer, Hope you don't mind us using it in the future lol

Tony x

20 Jun 2006

Can't say i've really had any abuse off any of the females on here, i don't really use the chatrooms so can't comment on those. don't know many people who would dislike a polite and friendly PM etc. i just suspect a fair few blokes go in 'bollocks first' which is why you saw this

Quote by jb74
I finish on a comment made in chat today "All men are bastards" !

most likely the result of someone having a bad day than their actual view of the male species.
carry on being polite and friendly as you will stand out from idiots and gain the trust of anyone that may be interested in getting to know you :thumbup:

20 Jun 2006

Quote by jb74
I suspect I'm not the only single male on here that has had to put up with such abuse not only from attention seeking primadonna's but also from their pathetic groveling sycophants. I must however counter this with a big thank you to all the nice decent, normal people I have had the pleasure of chatting to on here.
I finish on a comment made in chat today "All men are bastards" ! rather sums up the mindset of some jaded females on here. It would be as big a mistake to brand all ladies as whores as it is to brand all men as bastards and most unuseful in keeping chat a friendly place to visit.

20 Jun 2006

Quote by jb74
As a single male on here ive got quite used to the abuse some women feel they have to give to any men that dare say "Hello" to them. I can only assume that because of a small number of men that can not or will not behave, the rest of us men then get lumped into the same category.

Can I just re-iterate that we DONT tolerate abuse in the chatrooms, so should you experience this again make sure you tell one of the OP's and we can pass it to admin to look at.
Just because you are a single man does not mean you should have to put up with any form of abuse smile

20 Jun 2006

Cringe is about right, it wouldn't be too bad if it was meant in a jokey way. By the way just before that comment was made some mad chick told me to f**k off for daring to say hello to her. Well if she thinks thats the way to treat men, she'll get all she deserves.
Some are born with class, some attain class and some think class is the item they drink out of ! cool

20 Jun 2006

Quote by jb74
As a single male on here ive got quite used to the abuse some women feel they have to give to any men that dare say "Hello" to them. I can only assume that because of a small number of men that can not or will not behave, the rest of us men then get lumped into the same category.

I agree it's not nice to be treated like that. if a guy whispers just to say hello or compliment me on my profile then I'm polite back to them and usually have a good chat. The only ones who get my back up are the ones who just say 'hiya sexy, you gonna show yourself on cam?' or 'you want some fun with me?' knowing all the while they've got more chance of shagging the Pope than me rolleyes

Treat everyone as an individual and respond accordingly. Abuse should not be tolerated whether it's aimed at fems, guys or couples.

20 Jun 2006

Quote by jb74
Cringe is about right, it wouldn't be too bad if it was meant in a jokey way. By the way just before that comment was made some mad chick told me to f**k off for daring to say hello to her. Well if she thinks thats the way to treat men, she'll get all she deserves.
Some are born with class, some attain class and some think class is the item they drink out of !

Good post jb74 and just to clarify. We're never rude to single guys and have nothing against them per se - in fact our only experiences to date have been with single guys! I was referring to those single guys who are pushy and/or rude and/or unable to accept "no thanks" as an answer. Clearly you're not one of that breed so our comments were not directed at you or even the guy who couldn't access our profile whose politeness I actually commented on in my original post.
Yes you will sometimes get tarred with the same brush sadly just as all sorts of groups do whether they be England football fans or single male swingers and there's nothing you can do about someone who believes 'all men are bastards'. However despite my comments and our profile we have had many very pleasant and sexy chats with single guys and long may it remain so - which is why our profile states we don't respond to pushy single guys as opposed to ANY single guys.

20 Jun 2006

Quote by Shireen_Mids
As a single male on here ive got quite used to the abuse some women feel they have to give to any men that dare say "Hello" to them. I can only assume that because of a small number of men that can not or will not behave, the rest of us men then get lumped into the same category.

Can I just re-iterate that we DONT tolerate abuse in the chatrooms, so should you experience this again make sure you tell one of the OP's and we can pass it to admin to look at.
Just because you are a single man does not mean you should have to put up with any form of abuse smile

Thank you. I very much doubt it will happen again with the ladies in question, I shall do my best to keep as far away from them as I can. It did cross my mind that maybe thats the only way they can get off ?
Lets keep it fun cool

20 Jun 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Can't say i've really had any abuse off any of the females on here, i don't really use the chatrooms so can't comment on those. don't know many people who would dislike a polite and friendly PM etc. i just suspect a fair few blokes go in 'bollocks first' which is why you saw this

I finish on a comment made in chat today "All men are bastards" !

most likely the result of someone having a bad day than their actual view of the male species.
carry on being polite and friendly as you will stand out from idiotsand gain the trust of anyone that may be interested in getting to know you :thumbup:
Just like you eh M2PU??
;)

20 Jun 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Can't say i've really had any abuse off any of the females on here, i don't really use the chatrooms so can't comment on those. don't know many people who would dislike a polite and friendly PM etc. i just suspect a fair few blokes go in 'bollocks first' which is why you saw this

I finish on a comment made in chat today "All men are bastards" !

most likely the result of someone having a bad day than their actual view of the male species.
carry on being polite and friendly as you will stand out from idiots and gain the trust of anyone that may be interested in getting to know you :thumbup:
'kin ell ! :shock: This is about the 4th post of Meaty's I've read recently that has been helpful. :shock: I think the real Meaty has been abducted by aliens and replaced by this imposter!
Bring back the grumpy old twat that we all know and errrr love smackbottom

20 Jun 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Bring back the grumpy old twat that we all know and errrr love

i'm not sure if you and Osem are being nice or taking the piss now dunno

i'm confused

20 Jun 2006

Good post jb74 and just to clarify. We're never rude to single guys and have nothing against them per se - in fact our only experiences to date have been with single guys! I was referring to those single guys who are pushy and/or rude and/or unable to accept "no thanks" as an answer. Clearly you're not one of that breed so our comments were not directed at you or even the guy who couldn't access our profile whose politeness I actually commented on in my original post.
Yes you will sometimes get tarred with the same brush sadly just as all sorts of groups do whether they be England football fans or single male swingers and there's nothing you can do about someone who believes 'all men are bastards'. However despite my comments and our profile we have had many very pleasant and sexy chats with single guys and long may it remain so - which is why our profile states we don't respond to pushy single guys as opposed to ANY single guys.
Thats because you have style & class wink

Kent = the garden of England ..........Yorkshire = Gods own garden :wink: But we still have to do the weeding lol

20 Jun 2006

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20 Jun 2006

Just for the record, I think that the instructions for using the site could be much clearer for newbies. I have used SH for several years and only discovered "by accident" how to put a photo onto a reply. Nowhere does it tell u that you have to highlight the photo u want to include AND left-click on it. Also if you edit an advert, you have to manually reselect the photos otherwise the advert doesn't have them on display.
I dunno about women getting fed up over replies, but I do know that last week I replied to five seperate couples, longish replies with much detail and included photos, but not one of them even bothered to acknowledge them with a "No thanks". I checked my mail box and all of them have been read! Don't you think that's a bit rude and offputting?

20 Jun 2006

Quote by osemlover
Yesterday we were whispered by a guy in one of the chatrooms who very politely asked about us. I referred him to our profile but he said he couldn't access it. Is this correct? If so, why? I thought eveyone could access profiles if not some of the other site features. If it is correct what is the point of havign a profile?
I'll freely admit to having been a bit terse with some of those who've sent unrequested whispers. PM's etc. but I'm starting to wonder if they too couldn't access our profile.

I don't know if anyone has pointed this out yet - but there is another option to this suggestion...

Quote by Mal
No - just checked and no problem accessing your profile. Probably just him being a numpty.
Mal

Some pop-up blockers have tight settings and prevent a profile being accessed whilst in the chatroom - the blocker thinks the profile window is a pop-up and doesn't let it open. The person trying to access either has to go into their internet settings and adjust the pop-up blocker level or...
press 'Ctrl' as they left click 'view profile'

20 Jun 2006

Quote by peterdw
I dunno about women getting fed up over replies, but I do know that last week I replied to five seperate couples, longish replies with much detail and included photos, but not one of them even bothered to acknowledge them with a "No thanks". I checked my mail box and all of them have been read! Don't you think that's a bit rude and offputting?

No.