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Help, i'm about to cut off my penis! Condom too tight!

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i was in a steady long term relationship for about 3 years, and it all ended about 6 months ago.
Basicly i'm back in the "field" now and using condoms, but the thing is when using a condom i last about 30 seconds and i'm being completely serious! I'm geting quite self conscious about it as i never used to be a sexually shy person, but recently i've actually been quite scared of sex.
When i was with my ex partner,we both got checked out at a clinic and she got on the pill so we had no need for condoms. We had amazing sex! lasting easily 40 mins to 1 Hour, then sometimes going again afterwards!
i've tried bigger size condoms, as i have been told i am pretty well endowed, but still have had no joy
Someone shed some light and give me some advice, i feel like a sex failure sad
Alex
I think you will find your not alone on this one!.........good luck........... and in a mo i am sure some of the guys in here will eather pm you or post in here!
just a thought, but it might not necessarily be the condoms, it might have something to do with increased arousal because of new partners dunno
:doh: fuck thats the second sensible one tonight
Ermmmm, I can't really give you any advice as such except bear with it. Condoms are the neccesary accessory of the modern swinger! cool
Plenty of guys I've spoken to say they last longer with a condom on, so I think your problem is down to nerves. I'm not sex therapist so don't quote me on that though wink .
I did read in a sex manual once that if a guy is struggling using a condom he should practice on his own to get used to the feel of it. I'm guessing that might help? Using more lube might also help.
Finally, welcome to the forum! lol
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just a thought, but it might not necessarily be the condoms, it might have something to do with increased arousal because of new partners dunno
:doh: fuck thats the second sensible one tonight

you feeling all right Dave?....Debs getting abit worried about you! biggrin
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just a thought, but it might not necessarily be the condoms, it might have something to do with increased arousal because of new partners dunno
:doh: fuck thats the second sensible one tonight

Bev spots this sensible post and seriously wonders what's up with Davej :shock:
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just a thought, but it might not necessarily be the condoms, it might have something to do with increased arousal because of new partners dunno
:doh: fuck thats the second sensible one tonight

Good point, I never thought of that :thumbup: . I suppose if you cum quick with a new partner when you're involved in activity that doesn't require a condom, you have your answer to that one.
davej, don't have any more sensible thoughts tonight, you'll wear your brain out :lol2:
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davej, don't have any more sensible thoughts tonight, you'll wear your brain out :lol2:

He has one??? :shock: :shock:
Shireen
xxx
Quote by bluexxx
just a thought, but it might not necessarily be the condoms, it might have something to do with increased arousal because of new partners dunno
:doh: fuck thats the second sensible one tonight

Good point, I never thought of that :thumbup: . I suppose if you cum quick with a new partner when you're involved in activity that doesn't require a condom, you have your answer to that one.
davej, don't have any more sensible thoughts tonight, you'll wear your brain out :lol2:
Blue I'm so sensible tonight I've even got a back up plan for the guy in case that isnt the reason......
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So which one are you recommending then for his DIY sex change? lol :lol:
I did think about a new partner being the reason, but it doesnt phase me, well mentally anyway, i feel fine about it!
I forgot to mention the second part, when wearing a condom what happens is either i shoot too fast, or with condoms on it restricts the feeling for me, so i dont enjoy it and i go floppy redface no matter how hard i try to maintain it!
It's seriously depressing me as i think i'll never have good sex again sad
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I did think about a new partner being the reason, but it doesnt phase me, well mentally anyway, i feel fine about it!
I forgot to mention the second part, when wearing a condom what happens is either i shoot too fast, or with condoms on it restricts the feeling for me, so i dont enjoy it and i go floppy redface no matter how hard i try to maintain it!
It's seriously depressing me as i think i'll never have good sex again sad

O.K. you've got me on a good day....](mainly cos of a special offer on Magnum lollies at Tesco).....what condoms are you buying, One of the durex range is called 'Performa' and is designed to assist with a firmer erection and longer performance. I havn't a clue how and can only guess that it's tighter at the base and therefore restricts bloodflow back. It might be that the condoms your buying are the wrong type.
Shireen quickly calls the men in white coats as Davej is being far too serious :shock:
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So which one are you recommending then for his DIY sex change? lol :lol:
If it were me roger I'd choose the blunt one in the hope that my plea for help would be spotted before I could draw blood.
I've tried almost all of the durex range! performer, the sensual ones, and lots of different sizes of the normal standard ones.
i want really want o perform amazingly like i know i can on the 1st time of having sex with someone new, to really impress!
But with condoms those days are gone sad
You said you were well endowed.........If you do cut it off can I have it? smile
Quote by AlexandAlanda
i want really want o perform amazingly like i know i can on the 1st time of having sex with someone new, to really impress!

Perhaps that's why it's not going as well as you'd like. Maybe you need to be more relaxed. Treating it like a competition is only going to make you tense.
o.k.....o.k......still working for you here. Have you tried useing baking powder?
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i want really want o perform amazingly like i know i can on the 1st time of having sex with someone new, to really impress!

Perhaps that's why it's not going as well as you'd like. Maybe you need to be more relaxed. Treating it like a competition is only going to make you tense.
Agree with ice pie :thumbup:
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o.k.....o.k......still working for you here. Have you tried useing baking powder?

BAKING POWDER........now i am getting worried..what you think he is going to do cut it off mix it with baking powder in hope it rises rotflmao
Sure, i was actually thinking about giving it to oxfam sad
Baking powder ? :P
Any guys in the same boat as me? I need advice
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o.k.....o.k......still working for you here. Have you tried useing baking powder?

BAKING POWDER........now i am getting worried..what you think he is going to do cut it off mix it with baking powder in hope it rises rotflmao
lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
ee debs that a belter i`ve just pissed me pants.
sierra x x
masterbate more often and you will last longer :thumbup:
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One of the durex range is called 'Performa' and is designed to assist with a firmer erection and longer performance. I havn't a clue how and can only guess that it's tighter at the base and therefore restricts bloodflow back. It might be that the condoms your buying are the wrong type.

Performa has benzocaine, i.e. local anaesthetic in the tip!! confused
You said you are w/e, so have you tried the larger size condoms? Trojan are apparently very good.
The other thing you can do is 'gel-charging' which a gay friend of mine recommends, (it's a tip apparently well known in the gay community) which is putting a bit of lube inside the condom, which apparently provides more sensation for the man. wink
Jo just glad she's a girly and doesn't need to fret about these things.... lol
ago I had also been out of a 3yr relationship for 6months where she took the pill and we both knew we were clean, and my first time after that I was very nervous again and because of that it actually took me longer, but I can see nerves or just unfamiliarity with the new person being a possible cause. I did use them a few times with the ex, but we both weren't that fond of them. Having to wear them made a difference.
Hope it fixes itself or you find a solution.
I used to get condoms in Amsterdam called 'big boys' .
They did the trick.
If it's any help, I was in Superdrug the other day and they had loads of different condoms all really really cheap. Including Trojans.
Just thought I'd mention as we wimming know how expensive it can get buying and trying different things ....... lippy, moisturisers etc....serious business biggrin :twisted:
I would definately suggest a different condom brand. Trying different stuff in the same range seems to make little odds at times, but a different brand makes all the difference.
I personally found that the 'famly planning' joe blow basic condoms resulted in numbnes or early endings depending on the weather. Using another brand that I bought in bulk and were therefore both reasonably priced and better than famly planning wellys allowed me to have virtually normal sex.
For me the only real difference between condom and no condom is those 5 seconds when your putting it on... which means you can no longer supprise your lady with a quick bit of rod after half an hour of tounge. I like the wetter warmer feel of no condom... but I can happily live without it for that feeling of relative safety one provides.
Hmm cheers people, i'm going to have to try these "trojans" out!
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One of the durex range is called 'Performa' and is designed to assist with a firmer erection and longer performance. I havn't a clue how and can only guess that it's tighter at the base and therefore restricts bloodflow back. It might be that the condoms your buying are the wrong type.

Performa has benzocaine, i.e. local anaesthetic in the tip!! confused
Jo just glad she's a girly and doesn't need to fret about these things.... lol
well there ya go, now I know how they work.
....davej off to test the anaesthetic capabilities of Performa, by stuffin the hamster, head first in one, to see if it keeps the fucker still whilst he cuts it's nails.....