I need some good tips to overcome my shyness, my better looking half is banging my mate which does turn me on and i do join in, but we all feel it time for me to do some chatting up with the aim of getting my leg over myself. but stupid as it may sound... i dont just have a clue where to start. any suggestions????
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Help im as shy as hell... any suggestions???
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Well I've become a lot more confident since a) I finished uni and b) even more so, since I joined up here. Partly through chatting to people on the chatroom/in here and opening up (which it's easier to do online); partly through just going out and saying hi to new people (I'm not just talking about with a swinging agenda) and partly through having made some good friends who helped me come out of my shell more. It should be easier with your partner there to help you, you probably feel more confident with him around; but don't let that be part of the problem (as in don't let him do all the talking, or maybe he can help bring you into things a bit more rather than just taking charge all the time which might(??) be happening). How abouts if he does some of the initial work introducing you to people if you're really that shy then leaves you prompts to answer questions, ask them and so on. Gradually at first.
I might be talking a pile of poo and I hope I'm not being patronising, I had to guess just how shy you are; but good luck.
I might be talking a pile of poo and I hope I'm not being patronising, I had to guess just how shy you are; but good luck.
If you are shy, then you are shy, but it doesn't mean that has to stop you doing anything. You wouldn't believe the amount of people on here, who online appear very confident, and then in real life are very shy.
Only advice I can really give you is that if you realise that at least half of the people you are likely to chat up, are probably equally as shy of doing it themselves, it gives you a level playing field. Be honest about it, say you are a bit nervous, turn what you see as some kind of obstacle into something that works for you. Lasses love sensitive guys !!!
Failing that, buy them chocolate.
Only advice I can really give you is that if you realise that at least half of the people you are likely to chat up, are probably equally as shy of doing it themselves, it gives you a level playing field. Be honest about it, say you are a bit nervous, turn what you see as some kind of obstacle into something that works for you. Lasses love sensitive guys !!!
Failing that, buy them chocolate.
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You really need to spend a little less time trying to get a leg over yourself - therein lies the problem!
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if you're a guy wanting to meet other girls then the best way by far is to have a gf set you up with them, either individualy or in 3somes.
So there is no hope for me then, I don't shag and don't have a gf :!: Take great consolation from my pathetic shyness and inability to even go up and speak to people I have already met before. And thats just saying hello how are you to them, when it comes to releasing details of my fetish it's even worse :cry: What a hopeless case I am.
Thinks arghh I haven't written all this crap in my "milestone post" and makes a mental note to check before each post hereon in
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Harry Jones
I'm with the hallway clutterer here. There are plenty of people on here that appear to be really outgoing but actually quite shy in real life.
There is nothing wrong with being shy, in a lot of ways its better than being overly loud or brash.
A few tips to avoid shyness -
Think to yourself "I'm going to "act" as if I'm not shy". If you can have that mindset it will often help.
Avoid subjects you know little about, rather than saying something silly because you think you should contribute.
Try to talk about things you are enthusiastic about, that might be of interest.
Remember that the ones who seem the most confident and outgoing are often not, but cover it up well.
Failing that, get pissed!
There is nothing wrong with being shy, in a lot of ways its better than being overly loud or brash.
A few tips to avoid shyness -
Think to yourself "I'm going to "act" as if I'm not shy". If you can have that mindset it will often help.
Avoid subjects you know little about, rather than saying something silly because you think you should contribute.
Try to talk about things you are enthusiastic about, that might be of interest.
Remember that the ones who seem the most confident and outgoing are often not, but cover it up well.
Failing that, get pissed!
