well if you leave the site that'll be one less man looking and will even the odd a little for the rest of them :grin:
Hiya Alan :welcome: to :swingingchair: heaven
I would suggest joining in here and letting people get to know you.
Always a good start. Hope you enjoy it here.
Well Alan 1/438 is not really that bad...............300 or so don't join in.........so that improves your chances!!!!!! Good luck
The Good news - I met a realy great couple off here from cheshire about a year ago and still talk and see them reasonalby often. The bad news is that I have not had much of a sniff since although I have got married (but play alone) since which puts of quite a lot of people off. I still however enjoy the site and love the profiles although I agree with you there are far too many men and not enough girls. Maybe we should just sent email to all the female friends we have asking, pleading and begging them to join. There are so many single girls in Harrogate that they would do well to join as they will be kept busy for nights on end if they met the men/groups/woman of their dreams!!!
The fact is, if you're reasonably intelligent and have a sense of humour then, as a guy, you've got a huge advantage over the majority of men for whom the most romantic thing they can imagine is pulling their knob out and waving it in the direction of a woman while drooling like an idiot. This isn't very far off what a lot of guys actually do in their profiles/ads, not necessarily on this site, but certainly in many places on the net.
If you can make a woman laugh, if you can keep her interested in your conversation, if you can make her feel relaxed and comfortable around you, you have no problem. Looks don't count, social value does. I've glanced through some single guys ads and it's kind of frightening. But at the same time, for a few of us, it gives us a massive advantage over the majority. A good few women - only one or two of whom I met through the internet but who nevertheless all had the experience of trying online dating and swinging - told me 95% of the men they agreed to meet really, really didn't cut the mustard. On top of that, there's a great number of fantasists who don't know how to translate online activity into real life activity.
Prove you're one of the five percent who have respect for women and know how to hold a conversation, and your days are likely made.
Quick shag don't work. Long talk, quality and SoH do work. Believe me.