hi all
aint been on for ages but i need sum advice and thought who should i ask then i thought of you lot ......
anyways i have been talking to a girl i met of f/p and she has says she really likes me and i was thinking hmmm strange we aint mte but the last few days i have thought wow how great are you and i think of her alot
im just wondering should i feel this way i like her alot even though we have just cammed and txt and talked on the fone we are meeting in a few weeks but feels like i have known her a long time
but is it right for me to feel like this to a girl i aint met?
cheers all
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hey need a bit of advice
Hmmm toughy ... i don't think it's completely daft to feel this way about someone ... i have some very fond attachments to people on msn with whom I've never met.
What you have to ask yourself is are you feeling this way becasue of the person or the " persona" ... online personalities can be quite different.
At the end of the day if you meet up the worst that could happen is that you don't fancy her..... the best thing is that she's fantastic
C xx
What you have to ask yourself is are you feeling this way becasue of the person or the " persona" ... online personalities can be quite different.
At the end of the day if you meet up the worst that could happen is that you don't fancy her..... the best thing is that she's fantastic
C xx
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Hmmm toughy ... i don't think it's completely daft to feel this way about someone ... i have some very fond attachments to people on msn with whom I've never met.
What you have to ask yourself is are you feeling this way becasue of the person or the " persona" ... online personalities can be quite different.
At the end of the day if you meet up the worst that could happen is that you don't fancy her..... the best thing is that she's fantastic
C xx
thankyou x x
My advice would be....Don't get your hopes up too high that you set yourself up for a fall. Keep cool. . . Better to be surprised than disappointed.
I think MSN / texting relationships can be quite dangerous for this reason. What blows your socks off online may not have the same wow factor when delivered in person. Reality is often not as exciting........but there again, it often is....
Hope it works out good funk...just be careful. xx
I think MSN / texting relationships can be quite dangerous for this reason. What blows your socks off online may not have the same wow factor when delivered in person. Reality is often not as exciting........but there again, it often is....
Hope it works out good funk...just be careful. xx
Hey Funk,
Based purely on what you've posted on here before I'm of the opinion that you're sub-consciously doing the emotional transference thing. You desperately want a girlfriend, you've poured your heart out on that score often enough. You could be setting yourself up for a fall.
Or I could be totally off the mark here. Just take things slowly mate. There's someone out there for you. This girl may be the one, or not. Just look after you hun. And have fun with it as you go along.
(((((((((hugs)))))))))))
Based purely on what you've posted on here before I'm of the opinion that you're sub-consciously doing the emotional transference thing. You desperately want a girlfriend, you've poured your heart out on that score often enough. You could be setting yourself up for a fall.
Or I could be totally off the mark here. Just take things slowly mate. There's someone out there for you. This girl may be the one, or not. Just look after you hun. And have fun with it as you go along.
(((((((((hugs)))))))))))
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Funky~
From my own experience, I'd say it's perfectly normal. Vix & I met on-line in a community forum for a distributed computing project on cancer research. We'd responded to each other's posts from time to time and then started exchanging a few PMs of a more personal nature. Then she talked me into getting ICQ and IM for my Mac so we could chat - and chat we did! Within just a few weeks, we were totally inseperable...and, after three months, we'd made a firm commitment to find some way we could be together.
During the first six months, though, our relationship was built entirely upon text-based chat across the Atlantic (I lived in Florida at the time). I didn't even have a web cam at the time, so the only time we "saw" each other was when one or the other of us would share a photo via e-mail. Finally, I got myself a passport and made the long journey over to the UK for our first face-to-face meet. Although I'd never travelled that far outside of the U.S. in my life, I was totally comfortable and secure in "taking the plunge" because we had made a commitment to each other and it felt as if we were already an "established couple".
Thus, I think it's perfectly reasonable to develop strong attachments without physically having met a person. Perhaps it's even better that way, as your normal judgements are suspended for a while and you get to truly know what's inside the individual. I didn't know what Vix looked like - or even what sex she was, for that matter - when we first started our on-line relationship (and, if I had, I would have instantly recognised that she "wasn't my type"!). Our connection was purely intellectual, emotional and spiritual, based wholly upon the thoughts we shared with each other during our on-line chats...and we all know where that can lead!
~Reese!
From my own experience, I'd say it's perfectly normal. Vix & I met on-line in a community forum for a distributed computing project on cancer research. We'd responded to each other's posts from time to time and then started exchanging a few PMs of a more personal nature. Then she talked me into getting ICQ and IM for my Mac so we could chat - and chat we did! Within just a few weeks, we were totally inseperable...and, after three months, we'd made a firm commitment to find some way we could be together.
During the first six months, though, our relationship was built entirely upon text-based chat across the Atlantic (I lived in Florida at the time). I didn't even have a web cam at the time, so the only time we "saw" each other was when one or the other of us would share a photo via e-mail. Finally, I got myself a passport and made the long journey over to the UK for our first face-to-face meet. Although I'd never travelled that far outside of the U.S. in my life, I was totally comfortable and secure in "taking the plunge" because we had made a commitment to each other and it felt as if we were already an "established couple".
Thus, I think it's perfectly reasonable to develop strong attachments without physically having met a person. Perhaps it's even better that way, as your normal judgements are suspended for a while and you get to truly know what's inside the individual. I didn't know what Vix looked like - or even what sex she was, for that matter - when we first started our on-line relationship (and, if I had, I would have instantly recognised that she "wasn't my type"!). Our connection was purely intellectual, emotional and spiritual, based wholly upon the thoughts we shared with each other during our on-line chats...and we all know where that can lead!
~Reese!
I see a few scenarios here.
1...Everything will be fine when you meet and you will both be as well matched in the real world as you think you are in the cyber world and it will lead to a lasting relationship.
2... Either the young lady or yourself will be disappointed in the other person. Maybe feeling that in real life, there are some subtle differences to how she/you appeared on cam or on the phone. This will either be the end of the story or maybe the differences can be overcome.
3... One of you will not turn up for the meet.
I hope it's option 1.
1...Everything will be fine when you meet and you will both be as well matched in the real world as you think you are in the cyber world and it will lead to a lasting relationship.
2... Either the young lady or yourself will be disappointed in the other person. Maybe feeling that in real life, there are some subtle differences to how she/you appeared on cam or on the phone. This will either be the end of the story or maybe the differences can be overcome.
3... One of you will not turn up for the meet.
I hope it's option 1.
