Hi im a newby, the male half of a couple, and thought I should do a little research into what constitutes safe sex. Looking at the adverts section I was worried regarding the number of females saying they only have penetrative sex with a condom yet are willing to give blow jobs and drink cum.
I'm fully sure regarding penetrative sex but unsure regarding oral sex so, I thought if I'm unsure others must be too?
I found this extract on a South African Health web site which is quite illuminating.
At one stage it was advertised on our local (South African) television that oral sex can be used to replace penetrative sex (sexual intercourse) because it safer in terms of becoming infected with HIV. In a way this may be true because the infection rate is indeed much lower. However, this degree of 'safety' should be considered with caution as it is NOT 100% safe at all. If you have any sore, cut etc. in your mouth and your sex partner is HIV-positive you will indeed become infected. The virus can enter such an injury with great ease. The problem is that one often has such injuries in your mouth without even knowing it. For example after having eaten hard sweets, biscuits etc. there will be many such small cuts on the inside of your cheek. They may not be painful and you may not even be aware of them. Something else worth mentioning is that during oral sex, if the male is doing it to the female, he stands a greater risk of becoming infected that when the female does it to the male. The reason for this is because the virus is present in the vaginal fluids whereas in the case of the male it present only in the ejaculation fluid ('cum') of the male. It is not present in the lubrication fluid ('pre-cum') secreted by the male when he is sexually aroused. The danger, however, with a female doing it to a male is that the latter does not always warn the female in time that he is about to reach a climax and ejaculate, sometimes by accident but sometimes deliberately. If you are a female, let the male wear a condom. And do not let him talk you into believing that a condom reduces sensitivity. That is absolute nonsense! Your life is at stake. Anyway, nowadays - if you can afford them - you get flavoured condoms to make the task more enjoyable.
Hope this helps others to make up their mind, it has me.
astylover xx
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Quote by astylover
The reason for this is because the virus is present in the vaginal fluids whereas in the case of the male it present only in the ejaculation fluid ('cum') of the male. It is not present in the lubrication fluid ('pre-cum') secreted by the male when he is sexually aroused.
Very enlightening - thanks! :thumbup:
~Reese!
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That's why dental dams were invented. Don't know how they're used or anything though. I have been thinking about this in light of my quest to give a girl oral...
Dental dam usage
1. Place a bit of lubricant on pussy
2. Cover with dental dam
3. Hold dental dam in place with your fingers
4. Lick dam (lubricant makes gliding easier and more pleasurable
5. Dispose at end of act as they are one use only (replace with fresh one if you have a break or it falls on floor...)
Some people have reported attaching dental dams to suspenders to make life easier. Current boyfriend suggested wearing it on his face like a mask. I told him not to be silly.
Dental dams won't work on large women (I know, I've tried it and nearly suffocated my ex partner).
Hope this helps.
Orgasminator
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Hi im a newby, the male half of a couple, and thought I should do a little research into what constitutes safe sex. Looking at the adverts section I was worried regarding the number of females saying they only have penetrative sex with a condom yet are willing to give blow jobs and drink cum.
I'm fully sure regarding penetrative sex but unsure regarding oral sex so, I thought if I'm unsure others must be too?
I found this extract on a South African Health web site which is quite illuminating.
At one stage it was advertised on our local (South African) television that oral sex can be used to replace penetrative sex (sexual intercourse) because it safer in terms of becoming infected with HIV. In a way this may be true because the infection rate is indeed much lower. However, this degree of 'safety' should be considered with caution as it is NOT 100% safe at all. If you have any sore, cut etc. in your mouth and your sex partner is HIV-positive you will indeed become infected. The virus can enter such an injury with great ease. The problem is that one often has such injuries in your mouth without even knowing it. For example after having eaten hard sweets, biscuits etc. there will be many such small cuts on the inside of your cheek. They may not be painful and you may not even be aware of them. Something else worth mentioning is that during oral sex, if the male is doing it to the female, he stands a greater risk of becoming infected that when the female does it to the male. The reason for this is because the virus is present in the vaginal fluids whereas in the case of the male it present only in the ejaculation fluid ('cum') of the male. It is not present in the lubrication fluid ('pre-cum') secreted by the male when he is sexually aroused. The danger, however, with a female doing it to a male is that the latter does not always warn the female in time that he is about to reach a climax and ejaculate, sometimes by accident but sometimes deliberately. If you are a female, let the male wear a condom. And do not let him talk you into believing that a condom reduces sensitivity. That is absolute nonsense! Your life is at stake. Anyway, nowadays - if you can afford them - you get flavoured condoms to make the task more enjoyable.
Hope this helps others to make up their mind, it has me
astylover xx
Spot on advice there.
