if a single str8 guy wants to meet a couple (where hubby happens to be bi) but neither party can accomodate,and because he wants to get his "rocks off" he suggests a hotel meet , who should pay for the room.
1) single guy pays
2) share the cost
we have our view wondered what single guys and couples feel is correct.
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Share the cost, but.............
Is either the single guy or the couple actually staying in the room overnight? If so, then whoever is staying should pay.
Mal
Is either the single guy or the couple actually staying in the room overnight? If so, then whoever is staying should pay.
Mal
Sexlightened
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Quote by R n M
This is what a gentelman does and it is the only correct thing to do. A single male playing with a couple and/or single fem iin a hotel should of course insist on paying for the hotel, and do it discreetly.
I agree entirely about the "gentlemanly" thing to do. When single, I'm the same. To the point of feeling insulted if a house guest (I realise the difference) insists on the "half and half thing" or insists on prep-ing the bbq and food and "stuff" - I prefer people to be guests and allow me to host and entertain them.
So if I was to be "hosting and entertaining" in a hotel, the same would apply. Provided I was in a position to do so.
But . . . . . . .
I think the question of a single guy and a couple getting together in a hotel to play is a different matter and depends on the individual attitudes of those involved. Let's not forget; there are (or should be) two gentlemenin that scenario.
As a single, if I ever picked up on the impression I was expectedor indeed required to pay the bill I would just simply walk away. thus
Mainly because I would feel that they expected me to be as "grateful" as if I'd won the lottery.
I'd have no problem sharing the costs, or even standing the cost, in view of fairness, but certainly not by demand.
I have no problems sharing the cost - but something which has been bugging me just lately (in a few PM's) has been the suggestion from couples to go 50/50.
Now you may not agree, but as I see it, I am one third of the total number of people - therefore I think one third is the fair split if we are sharing the costs.
Now you may not agree, but as I see it, I am one third of the total number of people - therefore I think one third is the fair split if we are sharing the costs.
Quote by PoloLady
I have no problems sharing the cost - but something which has been bugging me just lately (in a few PM's) has been the suggestion from couples to go 50/50.
Now you may not agree, but as I see it, I am one third of the total number of people - therefore I think one third is the fair split if we are sharing the costs.
1/3 for a fem joining a cpl may be considered as ok but if a single guy suggested 1/3 for joining a cpl, he would be laughed at...suppose its a case of supply and demand..loads of us single guys, not so many single fems!!!!
RWL
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Quote by redwine_lover
1/3 for a fem joining a cpl may be considered as ok but if a single guy suggested 1/3 for joining a cpl, he would be laughed at...suppose its a case of supply and demand..loads of us single guys, not so many single fems!!!!
RWL
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But surely that continues to perpetuate the myth?
Personally, I think it should be done on penis size... 
Quote by PoloLady
I have no problems sharing the cost - but something which has been bugging me just lately (in a few PM's) has been the suggestion from couples to go 50/50.
Now you may not agree, but as I see it, I am one third of the total number of people - therefore I think one third is the fair split if we are sharing the costs.
I might be reading that wrong
Would you consider it fair for "the single" element to pay £20 of a £60 hotel bill ?
Quote by PoloLady
I have no problems sharing the cost - but something which has been bugging me just lately (in a few PM's) has been the suggestion from couples to go 50/50.
Now you may not agree, but as I see it, I am one third of the total number of people - therefore I think one third is the fair split if we are sharing the costs.
I might be reading that wrong
Would you consider it fair for "the single" element to pay £20 of a £60 hotel bill ?
Quote by dambuster
I have no problems sharing the cost - but something which has been bugging me just lately (in a few PM's) has been the suggestion from couples to go 50/50.
Now you may not agree, but as I see it, I am one third of the total number of people - therefore I think one third is the fair split if we are sharing the costs.
I might be reading that wrong
Would you consider it fair for "the single" element to pay £20 of a £60 hotel bill ?
What I am saying is... If 3 people arrange to get a hotel room, I do not think it fair for me to pay half the bill when there are two other people in the room - be they a couple or not.
Sex God
This thing about how much the couple pays could break down a bit further. If they are a true couple as in living together normally then they could count as one unit and pay half. If, on the other hand, they are not normally a 'domestic' couple - just swing friends or f* buddies (I hate that term by the way) then they could be considered as 2 units and pay the same as the other single person (regardless of their gender).
Then again you could get into the male/female thing or into the waged/unwaged thing.
In the first instance, though, I would assume that the cost would be split 50:50, and then maybe varied after discussion. Same with entry into places - if you don't pay individually, the group splits the cost equally.
Then again you could get into the male/female thing or into the waged/unwaged thing.
In the first instance, though, I would assume that the cost would be split 50:50, and then maybe varied after discussion. Same with entry into places - if you don't pay individually, the group splits the cost equally.
Quote by Bloke2005
1/3 for a fem joining a cpl may be considered as ok but if a single guy suggested 1/3 for joining a cpl, he would be laughed at...suppose its a case of supply and demand..loads of us single guys, not so many single fems!!!!
RWL
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But surely that continues to perpetuate the myth?
Personally, I think it should be done on penis size... good idea..... a cheap night for me then!!!!!!
RWL
Quote by redwine_lover
1/3 for a fem joining a cpl may be considered as ok but if a single guy suggested 1/3 for joining a cpl, he would be laughed at...suppose its a case of supply and demand..loads of us single guys, not so many single fems!!!!
RWL
xx
But surely that continues to perpetuate the myth?
Personally, I think it should be done on penis size... good idea..... a cheap night for me then!!!!!!
RWL
Like your style.... :P 
Sex God
I remember once a long time ago, pointing this out to a couple that I was only prepared to pay 1/3 of the room cost.
To this I got mutterings about time wasting females, and the phone slammed down on me. :shock:
I never did hear from them again!!
Ho hum life goes on
To this I got mutterings about time wasting females, and the phone slammed down on me. :shock:
I never did hear from them again!!
Ho hum life goes on
so what if its a single bi fem meeting an established couple? is the "single" still expected to payal the bill, as some have said if the single is a man?
i say split the cost unless one insits they are paying the bill and it was their invite/treat
as can often happen in living apart relationships.
Again if someone is on buissness and they happen to already be in a hotel and invite company in for fun fro a few hours then i wouldnt see whythe company/guest should pay anything if the room was before the arrangement, if you get what i meen??
or to solve it all go doggin lol
xx lou xxx
i say split the cost unless one insits they are paying the bill and it was their invite/treat
as can often happen in living apart relationships.
Again if someone is on buissness and they happen to already be in a hotel and invite company in for fun fro a few hours then i wouldnt see whythe company/guest should pay anything if the room was before the arrangement, if you get what i meen??
or to solve it all go doggin lol
xx lou xxx
Sex God
Quote by redwine_lover
or to solve it all go doggin lol
xx lou xxx
meet u half way...ok who is paying for the condoms..or we splitting that cost???? and who pays the car park fee?..
RWL
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Round my way the car parks are free, BUT you still have to take a ticket to prove you have parked there and at what time you arrived.
