how do i bring the subject of swinging up with my girlfriend

2 Nov 2009

Hi I'm dane I'm 20 and my gf is 21. We have spoken of fantasys when we've had a drink or 2 and the subject of swapping cam up but that's the last we mentioned of it! How do I bring it up to her that I want us to play with other couples and single males? I've been swinging since I was 18 and love the lifestyle! I would love to see another man pounding my sexy fiancee! Any suggestions how to bring this up would be a great help! Thanks x

2 Nov 2009

You are 20 ? YOU have been swinging since you were 18 ? Ummm this girlfriend is also your fiancee.... ummm I think the more pertinent question you should be asking each other is whether you really should be marrying someone that you don't know.
rolleyes

2 Nov 2009

Let me explain... I was a regular at a swinging club from 18 then met my fiancee at 19 I am nearly 21 now and haven't been on the scene for nearly 2 years whilst I've been with her. But I would like us both to get into the swing of things sorry for the pun lol!

2 Nov 2009

easy one then tell her ya used to swing ya talked bout swapping theres more things to the scene swapping watching being watched ask her if she would concider going to a club for a look about if she agrees do it , see how she reacts on the night dont ask her to do anything she wouldnt want to if she dont look comfy when ya in ask her if she wants to go if she seems to like it talk bout how she felt when ya go home and how far she would like to go in the scene

2 Nov 2009

You could always show her your single profile on here and see what she says :giggle:

2 Nov 2009

Quote by Kaznkev
sensible answer, just ask her,
worked for us
or tell her theres a great new club you heard about,take her to greedy girls night,she ll either thump you or jump right in lol

:thumbup: If you dont ask you dont get ?
trav..

2 Nov 2009

Sit and talk to her, and ask her.
@ Steve lol

2 Nov 2009

As they ^^^^^ up there said. Talk.
BUT I would recommend that you don't spend the time telling her what YOU want. Certainly not the fantasy of 'watching her being pounded by someone else' - what is she - minced beef? Explore HER fantasies first and foremost.
I'd also not start that particular conversation while in the 'pounding' mode yourself. If she can hold a conversation then you're doing it wrong anyway. biggrin

2 Nov 2009

Quote by Shawy19
Hi I'm dane I'm 20 and my gf is 21. We have spoken of fantasys when we've had a drink or 2 and the subject of swapping cam up but that's the last we mentioned of it! How do I bring it up to her that I want us to play with other couples and single males? I've been swinging since I was 18 and love the lifestyle! I would love to see another man pounding my sexy fiancee! Any suggestions how to bring this up would be a great help! Thanks x

Just ask her what she thinks about it, plain and simple - and preferably when you ain't drunk or during sex. You never know, she may already be doing it anyway! Good luck :thumbup:

2 Nov 2009

Quote by foxylady2209
As they ^^^^^ up there said. Talk.
BUT I would recommend that you don't spend the time telling her what YOU want. Certainly not the fantasy of 'watching her being pounded by someone else' - what is she - minced beef? Explore HER fantasies first and foremost.
I'd also not start that particular conversation while in the 'pounding' mode yourself. If she can hold a conversation then you're doing it wrong anyway.

Agreed!

2 Nov 2009

Sensitively.

2 Nov 2009

good luck. get the tin hat on.

2 Nov 2009

honest open dignified communication sums it up for me.

2 Nov 2009

Quote by BIoke
Just ask her what she thinks about it, plain and simple - and preferably when you ain't drunk or during sex. You never know, she may already be doing it anyway! Good luck :thumbup:

Ohh I dunno about the sex thing biggrin

First time I ever mentioned to Mrs Tweeky that I would like to see that other woman (who was on the TV screen at the time) suck her tits was during sex. Went down very well indeed in the heat of the moment :grin:

2 Nov 2009

start by giving her some hints like buying her some pampas grass................. :mrgreen:

3 Nov 2009

ever thought?
that she might be in love with u??
n not want anyone else?
n if u love her,,,,would u be willing to for get what u want for her?????