I have to admit.............. when i first started in here i found that i couldn't handle disappointments very well.............. so i always try ed to avoid getting into to the situation were it could happen...........like sending pms..... ............. as there i was ....me fingers trebling and hovering over that summit button ...........and then comes the waiting eek!.......... if you are a smoker like me....... on goes the fags one after the other................ then the thoughts get in to your head like ooh No did i say that :doh: ....... did i spell that right!. :doh: ................. don't you just wish you could just use your voice I DO!...... as i am crap at communicating in typing!............. then comes the waiting! for that PM BACK!!
For all you newbies out there it doesn't get better !
sweet dreams
Debsxxxxxxx
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I have to admit.............. when i first started in here i found that i couldn't handle disappointments very well.............. so i always try ed to avoid getting into to the situation were it could happen...........like sending pms..... ............. as there i was ....me fingers trebling and hovering over that summit button ...........and then comes the waiting eek!.......... if you are a smoker like me....... on goes the fags one after the other................ then the thoughts get in to your head like ooh No did i say that :doh: ....... did i spell that right!. :doh: ................. don't you just wish you could just use your voice I DO!...... as i am crap at communicating in typing!............. then comes the waiting! for that PM BACK!!
For all you newbies out there it doesn't get better !
sweet dreams
Debsxxxxxxx
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: oh debbiewebs its nice to see a dyslexic fool back onlije
mwah mwah hugs and stuff
x dysleckic twoo x
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Quote by Debbiewebs
I have to admit.............. when i first started in here i found that i couldn't handle disappointments very well.............. so i always try ed to avoid getting into to the situation were it could happen...........like sending pms..... ............. as there i was ....me fingers trebling and hovering over that summit button ...........and then comes the waiting eek!.......... if you are a smoker like me....... on goes the fags one after the other................ then the thoughts get in to your head like ooh No did i say that :doh: ....... did i spell that right!. :doh: ................. don't you just wish you could just use your voice I DO!...... as i am crap at communicating in typing!............. then comes the waiting! for that PM BACK!!
For all you newbies out there it doesn't get better !
sweet dreams
Debsxxxxxxx
The question isn't how you deal with disappointment, its why put so much hope into a chance encounter?
We luvs ya (although we think you are a special kind of mad!) , you loves you right? That's all that matters. Anyone who happens to have the chance at meeting the infamous debbiwebs better consider themselves fortunate!
S
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Handle disappointment?Nevermind that - still waiting to see how I handle success!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :therethere:Oh Debs
lovely to see you back hunny :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:As for the PM thing - must admit I'm a bugger for em
I tend to answer the modding things, but leave me mates til I have more time 
Terrible horrible habit, but I know mate ones are long, takes me bluddy ages to type out :? 
I can't just type a hello, yes no, definitely, sometimes, hope youre well catch you later ......... no I have to give me bluddy life story all the time 
I mean tis nice to hear that someone went kite flying, one sentence about it is plenty ........... so why do I write 4 paragraphs :shock:
(which, by the way, I can't move my arms they're so stiff :shock: so for the pain I'm in, 4 paragraphs is nothing 
) I'm just grateful I'm not the one that has to endure PMs from me :lol:Even worse is that the very ones I save for later are the PMs I relish the most! So in the long run, only get about half the amount of mate ones than I would if I bluddy answered em a bit quicker :roll:
Did I mention my arms hurt??? Debs me arms hurt, they hurt bad Debs :( Nasty big kite did drag me off down the field at about 45 miles an hour :undecided: - in what I thought was a gentle to no breeze
Oooooh and welcome back Debs
assionkiss::bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
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I hate disappointments.
Waiting for PMs to be returned is kind of usual now cos there are only a few people that I PM and know they will reply others I know they won't. I have got used to it.
The thing I havn't got used to is how funny I find cock shots! The replies to my advert have never ceased to amuse me because they are so random, I just wish I could keep up with replying to the good ones. Maybe it's kind of like that if you get loads of PMs, you end up not knowing which ones you have replied to or havent.
btw, nice to see you
Gem. x
Waiting for PMs to be returned is kind of usual now cos there are only a few people that I PM and know they will reply others I know they won't. I have got used to it.
The thing I havn't got used to is how funny I find cock shots!
The replies to my advert have never ceased to amuse me because they are so random, I just wish I could keep up with replying to the good ones. Maybe it's kind of like that if you get loads of PMs, you end up not knowing which ones you have replied to or havent.btw,
nice to see youGem. x
oh debbiewebs its nice to see a dyslexic fool back onlije
Rachel!!............... Debs wants words!........fool indeed! .....HUH! cheek!!. :kick: .... us dyslexics rule KO! :thumbup:
Handle disappointment? Nevermind that - still waiting to see how I handle success! Thanks for the encouragement by the way
Aldeway!
my pleasure :grin: Anyone who happens to have the chance at meeting the infamous debbiwebs better consider themselves fortunate!
Silk and Big G ........ooh how true!!
now how do i get that to you? 
Did I mention my arms hurt??? Debs me arms hurt, they hurt bad Debs Nasty big kite did drag me off down the field at about 45 miles an hour - in what I thought was a gentle to no breeze
MISSCHIEF are you sure it wasn't a helium balloon you got there Missy ..if not ....it must of been a bloody big kite
The thing I havn't got used to is how funny I find cock shots!
Gem!............. :lol: :lol: you send them to me :twisted:
btw, nice to see you
you to babes
assionkiss:Right got to go and do some work!!
thank you all :passionkiss:
Debsxx
If you want to know how to deal with disappointment, 'tis easy - lie ( or better still big LIES! ) Viz...
Size is not important, I've always said that...
I'm sure it's never happened to you before, I'm sure you don't need Viagra - you're just too tired / drunk / stressed
I'm sure that's never happened to you before, and you are not a virgin, - in fact it's quite erotic, that you have such a reaction to me or my touch.
What Goebbels said is true " When you tell a lie, make it a big one. Tell it often enough, people will think it is the truth. "
Size is not important, I've always said that...
I'm sure it's never happened to you before, I'm sure you don't need Viagra - you're just too tired / drunk / stressed
I'm sure that's never happened to you before, and you are not a virgin, - in fact it's quite erotic, that you have such a reaction to me or my touch.
What Goebbels said is true " When you tell a lie, make it a big one. Tell it often enough, people will think it is the truth. "
Quote by Debbiewebs!
Aldeway!
I'd be very happy to contribute to your pleasure
:twisted: :shock: Did I mention my arms hurt??? Debs me arms hurt, they hurt bad Debs Nasty big kite did drag me off down the field at about 45 miles an hour - in what I thought was a gentle to no breeze
"Kite" sounds like a euphemism to me...! (miss spent euph...) Sure is wasn't an over enthusiastic spell of somat else down that field????
mwwwaa big kiss better anyway...The thing I havn't got used to is how funny I find cock shots!
Hmmm, well, if any of you lovely ladies fancies a giggle, let me know! Always very obliging me
Anyway, sun is shining - long weekend starts here. If anyone wants me I'll be practicing tall dark and sunburnt
in the garden. Anyone need rubbing in???Al
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I have to say when I send PM's it is in a rather "Fire and Forget" manner, If I get a reply I'm a happy bunny but if I don't I just assume the person meant to reply but was too busy.
BTW - Welcome back Debbiewebs!!!!! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: assionkiss:
Roger the Dragon
BTW - Welcome back Debbiewebs!!!!! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
assionkiss: Roger the Dragon
Quote by smokerjim
If you want to know how to deal with disappointment, 'tis easy - lie ( or better still big LIES! ) Viz...
Size is not important, I've always said that...
I'm sure it's never happened to you before, I'm sure you don't need Viagra - you're just too tired / drunk / stressed
I'm sure that's never happened to you before, and you are not a virgin, - in fact it's quite erotic, that you have such a reaction to me or my touch.
What Goebbels said is true " When you tell a lie, make it a big one. Tell it often enough, people will think it is the truth. "
You no you have lost me here!.mind you doesn't take much theses day!
As for lieing NEVER!............... trouble is i am to bloody honest at times!. :doh:
I would love to lie and tell you i have got the pm i have been waiting for ......but i haven't got it yet ........... it was a pm in hope to get together with a cpl one day!........... but they are as busy as us at mo .............and really we don't no what is happening in peeps lives at the time you send pms........do we?..
. so as you see thanks all .......i am now looking on the positive side ..and yes!.........there lost not ares if they don't!
Manofmunchfun hope things sort out for you soon
I once enrolled in a course of "How to deal with disappointenments" but when I turned for the class - it was cancelled
Everyone deals with disappointments in different ways It's only when you don't know how to deal with them that things can become unhealthy - the ones you have to worry about are those who make people around them pay for a "bad hair day".
The best way to avoid diasppointments is to set oneself realistic expectations; in terms of SH if one thinks I'm going to PM this person and they'll be dying to shag me, then most likely one will be extremely disappointed when things don't turn out that way.
Another way of helping to deal with disappointmens is to take each one as a learning curve and think of them as part of the past that you will learn from in order to avoid future set backs. It has been said that talking about your disappointments are a good way to learn to cope with them - however in terms of SH posting about your disappointments will only result in people berating you for whining about it - so in this case better keep it shtump
Life is full of disappointments, or as they say, life's a bitch, turns into a bastard and then you die... so before you die pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself that you tried, learn from that disappointment and move on.
Everyone deals with disappointments in different ways It's only when you don't know how to deal with them that things can become unhealthy - the ones you have to worry about are those who make people around them pay for a "bad hair day".
The best way to avoid diasppointments is to set oneself realistic expectations; in terms of SH if one thinks I'm going to PM this person and they'll be dying to shag me, then most likely one will be extremely disappointed when things don't turn out that way.
Another way of helping to deal with disappointmens is to take each one as a learning curve and think of them as part of the past that you will learn from in order to avoid future set backs. It has been said that talking about your disappointments are a good way to learn to cope with them - however in terms of SH posting about your disappointments will only result in people berating you for whining about it - so in this case better keep it shtump
Life is full of disappointments, or as they say, life's a bitch, turns into a bastard and then you die... so before you die pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself that you tried, learn from that disappointment and move on.
I once enrolled in a course of "How to deal with disappointenments" but when I turned for the class - it was cancelled
ooo i am sorry but i am here
But thanks for the advice ...but i didn't only put the post in for myself ..
i all so hope that others that feel the same at times don't feel alone
and feel great now for all your peeps advice now!
I couldn't give a monkeys tail!
this is what i like about the café so much support when you need it and others learn to!
I think at times i let my values down
But i hold me head up high now and tis going to stay! :thumbup:
Pepe thanks babes
Quote by little gem
I hate disappointments.
Waiting for PMs to be returned is kind of usual now cos there are only a few people that I PM and know they will reply others I know they won't. I have got used to it.
The thing I havn't got used to is how funny I find cock shots!
btw,
Gem. x
Re: the cock shots. When we ran an ad. they never ceased to surprise us. Producing shocked "eek"'s and much giggling. Even tho we must have got 20+ a day.
I love pm's and probably cos of this reason i get loads!!
Always reply to them all (except if they are from some brain dead moron who has writen a one liner like "i want to fuck you now, ring me")
I start with the ones that are most interesting and work my way down to the boring one!! (very self induldgent)
If i initiate pm contact then im happy if the ohter person dosnt reply, its their perogative and there may be ohter things going on in their lives that are more impotant. I suppose its just like real life, if someone dosnt want to talk to you its their problem and all you can do is move on!!
Nice to see you back posting Debbiwebs and nice to have some dyslexic copamany, at least now the sh spelling police will have someone else to have a go at!!
Always reply to them all (except if they are from some brain dead moron who has writen a one liner like "i want to fuck you now, ring me")
I start with the ones that are most interesting and work my way down to the boring one!! (very self induldgent)
If i initiate pm contact then im happy if the ohter person dosnt reply, its their perogative and there may be ohter things going on in their lives that are more impotant. I suppose its just like real life, if someone dosnt want to talk to you its their problem and all you can do is move on!!
Nice to see you back posting Debbiwebs and nice to have some dyslexic copamany, at least now the sh spelling police will have someone else to have a go at!!
Quote by Vix
I hate disappointments.
The thing I havn't got used to is how funny I find cock shots!
btw,
Gem. x
Re: the cock shots. When we ran an ad. they never ceased to surprise us. Producing shocked "eek"'s and much giggling. Even tho we must have got 20+ a day.
20 a day sounds like an unhealthy habit! And if you cut back do you get withdrawal symptoms? Maybe thats what the penis patches my spamming "friends" keep offering have in mind. Hey, its my health they are interested in after all not my money. Hmm that'll be right. So what was soo funny? Last turkey in the shop?
Chicken drumstick (shaven)? :shock: Be interested to know, though I don't tend to send those sort of shots myself! No, honest ....Al
Sex God
Debbs yer back!!! :shock:
how the fuck we built another two feet on top of the swingingheaven wall, run some razor wire along the top, yet you still managed to get through.....how!!!!
c'mon someone gave you a key didn't they admit it, you've got head of security wrapped round yer little finger havn't ya!
well if you've popped back in then I suppose you better have one of these
ohhh and that eeermm...thingy, ya saw the other night. that accidently was left on the screen..wasn't mine at all...no not really it was errmm someone elses, yep thats right someone elses
how the fuck
we built another two feet on top of the swingingheaven wall, run some razor wire along the top, yet you still managed to get through.....how!!!! c'mon someone gave you a key didn't they admit it, you've got head of security wrapped round yer little finger havn't ya!
well if you've popped back in then I suppose you better have one of these
ohhh and that eeermm...thingy, ya saw the other night. that accidently was left on the screen..wasn't mine at all...no not really it was errmm someone elses, yep thats right someone elses
Mark wrote....
Right that its ya bugger.
.going to send you loads of pms now:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Sexysteph awww thanks babes
Dave J wrote
:gagged:
what you mean the smear of Anosol Dave??
Just move on and forget about it... and stop sending me PMs!
Right that its ya bugger.
.going to send you loads of pms now:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: Sexysteph awww thanks babes
Dave J wrote
c'mon someone gave you a key didn't they admit it, you've got head of security wrapped round yer little finger havn't ya!
:gagged:
ohhh and that eeermm...thingy, ya saw the other night. that accidently was left on the screen..wasn't mine at all...no not really it was errmm someone elses, yep thats right someone elses
what you mean the smear of Anosol Dave??
Sex God
Hey Debbs, great to see you about again, hope you stay too, we missed you loads! assionkiss: Hiya Debs
We be Newbies/Virgins, so may be posting out of turn and we're sat here expecting to be shot down by the Newbie Police (based on visting the Cafe on a regular 'just lurking' basis for some time). Imagine how disapointed we'll be if it doesn't happen??
:banghead:
Seriously though; people disapoint. Probably the best way to deal with it is to rely only on those that you know and expect nothing from the rest. That way, you can only be pleasantly surprised.
Take care hun xxx.
Oh, and assionkiss:
We be Newbies/Virgins, so may be posting out of turn and we're sat here expecting to be shot down by the Newbie Police (based on visting the Cafe on a regular 'just lurking' basis for some time). Imagine how disapointed we'll be if it doesn't happen??
:banghead: Seriously though; people disapoint. Probably the best way to deal with it is to rely only on those that you know and expect nothing from the rest. That way, you can only be pleasantly surprised.
Take care hun xxx.
Oh, and
assionkiss: 