This is such a diverse question,what makes you happy?,can happiness be confined only on bank balance or context of a circumstance?,are we confusing joy with happiness...am slighty mixed up what happiness really is,
Any ideas?
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How do you define happiness
I think happiness is an inner feeling that shines outwards... I can honestly say I have felt pure happiness very few times in my life.
That's cos I'm a miserable old sod!
A few things give me joy in life....my kids, my hobby and my friends.
I have one friend who defines her happiness by the amount of money and material possessions she has. It really does make her happy and she goes all out for her an her children's happiness based on that. I find her quite difficult to deal with at times because of this as its made her quite selfish.
That's cos I'm a miserable old sod!
A few things give me joy in life....my kids, my hobby and my friends.
I have one friend who defines her happiness by the amount of money and material possessions she has. It really does make her happy and she goes all out for her an her children's happiness based on that. I find her quite difficult to deal with at times because of this as its made her quite selfish.
Sex God
People get off on different things, for me its doing what I want and not feeling guilty about it.
In saying, 'doing what I want', its not the things that I do for me that always makes me happy, but a combination of doing things for me and others.
I don't know why, but as I get older and do more, things seem to disappear off of the happy list, things that would have put me on cloud 9 when I was 18 just don't come along or have the same affect
In saying, 'doing what I want', its not the things that I do for me that always makes me happy, but a combination of doing things for me and others.
I don't know why, but as I get older and do more, things seem to disappear off of the happy list, things that would have put me on cloud 9 when I was 18 just don't come along or have the same affect
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I don't know why, but as I get older and do more, things seem to disappear off of the happy list, things that would have put me on cloud 9 when I was 18 just don't come along or have the same affect
I can relate to that Steve...we do change as we get older and the things that hit the happy buttons do so now to a lesser extent or not at all. Our happy buttons are harder to press! Is it because we have already had certain experiences that made us feel happy and nothing can beat that?
Sex God
ok to get back to the question, 'How Do You Define Happiness?'
Thats really quite deep, I can think of a thousand and one ways to make myself 'feel happy' :scared:
But to define true happiness I would think is probably impossible because everyone's idea of the concept differs ............... sorry
Thats really quite deep, I can think of a thousand and one ways to make myself 'feel happy' :scared:
But to define true happiness I would think is probably impossible because everyone's idea of the concept differs ............... sorry
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I don't know why, but as I get older and do more, things seem to disappear off of the happy list, things that would have put me on cloud 9 when I was 18 just don't come along or have the same affect
I can relate to that Steve...we do change as we get older and the things that hit the happy buttons do so now to a lesser extent or not at all. Our happy buttons are harder to press! Is it because we have already had certain experiences that made us feel happy and nothing can beat that?
am like you two somethings that made me happy now dont, but somethings which i hated in my teens now make me happy
Sex God
Lot's of things make me happy!
Being appreciated for what I do always brings a glow.
Little things my kids do and say.
The sun being out.
My animals.
Driving.
Horse riding.
Trees.
The Sea.
A nice cup of tea.
All these and more bring a sense of wellbeing and therefore make me happy.
However there are lots of things that make me unhappy so I usually spend my time balanced somewhere between the two...neither truly happy or truly unhappy.
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Being appreciated for what I do always brings a glow.
Little things my kids do and say.
The sun being out.
My animals.
Driving.
Horse riding.
Trees.
The Sea.
A nice cup of tea.
All these and more bring a sense of wellbeing and therefore make me happy.
However there are lots of things that make me unhappy so I usually spend my time balanced somewhere between the two...neither truly happy or truly unhappy.
xxx
Sex God
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the things from my childhood still make me happy now. i still love kids films (so glad i have my son as an excuse to watch them lol) and the horses that i needed as an escape are now there just because i love them. so my son and spurs aside;
my best friends (of which there are only 2)
helping our mares to deliver their foals and watching them find their legs
losing myself in a good book
sunning on the beach with spurs (though this is now open for some others to join us :twisted: )
seeing all the seeds i planted grow
the fact that my son is 14 and still wants to cuddle medoing things that make other people happy
the anticipation of meeting someone from here next weekend is making me happy at the mo :twisted:
the list could go on
whips
That says a huge amount of good things about you
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This is such a diverse question,what makes you happy?,can happiness be confined only on bank balance or context of a circumstance?,are we confusing joy with happiness...am slighty mixed up what happiness really is,
Any ideas?
Hi Phuckers! Great question!
This is just my opinion.
I believe everyone has a level of happiness as in a scale from 1-100.
I think we all have a level at which is set to a degree, but saying that we have the ability to increase this level to a different level that is then set and that we feel content at.
Different things that happen in life swings the pendulum for a time both up and down the scale but it seems to stop back to the set level.
Things that send the pendulum swinging upwards can variety from person to person.
For me it is:
The contentment with my family,
My Friends,
Helping others
The sun shining,
Nature
Watching the smiles on peoples faces,
Laughter,
There is a lot more than this but these are a few of the things that make me happy.
Most of these things are free and available to be seen by all.
How to make life happier in my opinion
Looking for the positives in life
Don’t taking life too seriously
What ever life throws our way to roll with the punches.
We are here for such a small amount of time in the whole scheme of things, we may as well enjoy it, and be remembered as a happy person, then to be forgotten because we were a sad one.
I think happiness is the feeling of contentment.
I hope this makes sense, this is just my opinion!
Sex God
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a smoking gun
lp
you're bored aintcha
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a smoking gun
lp
you're bored aintcha
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does it show?
just preparing to go to work
(and that 'gives' me happiness when all is going well)
though how I would define happiness I have absolutely no idea whatsoever.
Happiness...hmmm
Ken Dodds lyrics have just started spinning madly around my brainium... not a good thing.
& no, i would not define Ken Dodd as happiness... nor his tickle-stick.
could I define happiness as either accident or design finding myself in a state that id niether confusion, frustration or personal disapointment?
i can find happiness is the smallest and simplest of things... and tend to think of myself as a happy person. In short bursts.
Tending to find those moments in a sea of otherwise unhappy or cynical times and balancing them appropriately.
not neccesarily 'looking on the bright side' all the time, but remaining in the moment seems to do the trick.
am I rambling?
lp
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There is a danger of confusing Happiness with contentment on the one hand, and euphoria on the other.
Does being content with ones lot equal happiness?
The difference to me is that contentment can be a continuous / constant state of mind, where as happiness comes in waves, i.e. at that moment when something good happens.
For instance, you could be quite discontent with your lot in general, but things that happen occasionally in your life can still make you happy at the time of the event. :shock: made sense when I thought it :dunno:
On the other hand really good / exciting things that can happen to us from time to time can leave us with a feeling of euphoria which is often misinterpreted as happiness. Again this emotion is transient rather than a constant.
All that said, I suppose if you are in a position where you have no worries such as financial, health, family friends and life is generally good, would this induce a state of constant happiness, or just contentment?
confused meself now
Does being content with ones lot equal happiness?
The difference to me is that contentment can be a continuous / constant state of mind, where as happiness comes in waves, i.e. at that moment when something good happens.
For instance, you could be quite discontent with your lot in general, but things that happen occasionally in your life can still make you happy at the time of the event. :shock: made sense when I thought it :dunno:
On the other hand really good / exciting things that can happen to us from time to time can leave us with a feeling of euphoria which is often misinterpreted as happiness. Again this emotion is transient rather than a constant.
All that said, I suppose if you are in a position where you have no worries such as financial, health, family friends and life is generally good, would this induce a state of constant happiness, or just contentment?
confused meself now
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There is a danger of confusing Happiness with contentment on the one hand, and euphoria on the other.
Does being content with ones lot equal happiness?
The difference to me is that contentment can be a continuous / constant state of mind, where as happiness comes in waves, i.e. at that moment when something good happens.
For instance, you could be quite discontent with your lot in general, but things that happen occasionally in your life can still make you happy at the time of the event. :shock: made sense when I thought it :dunno:
On the other hand really good / exciting things that can happen to us from time to time can leave us with a feeling of euphoria which is often misinterpreted as happiness. Again this emotion is transient rather than a constant.
All that said, I suppose if you are in a position where you have no worries such as financial, health, family friends and life is generally good, would this induce a state of constant happiness, or just contentment?
confused meself now
errr
Sex God
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well happiness for me is just
when the good outways the bad 'cos we will always have
worry,problems etc. Its just when u stop and take notice
of your life, and ask yourself how u feel.
I dont belive happiness is ment to be complicated but,
just the opposite. thats my 2 cents.
Chief Moo
xxx
Seeing Chief Moo has just made me happy! How the feck are you?
Good to see you looking in.
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Sexlightened
Can happiness can only come from the escape of negative influences?
Sex God
I reckon there are two sides to this: what causes me to be happy, how do I know I'm happy.
The first is easy - anything deep-fried and covered in chocolate. LOL No, in reality it's more likely to be seeing my son happy and settled, harvesting food from my garden, hearing a song I love from way back.
The second is much harder : but I get a warm glow behind my heart, my throat tightens and I get a silly smile. And sometimes it's all inside.
The first is easy - anything deep-fried and covered in chocolate. LOL No, in reality it's more likely to be seeing my son happy and settled, harvesting food from my garden, hearing a song I love from way back.
The second is much harder : but I get a warm glow behind my heart, my throat tightens and I get a silly smile. And sometimes it's all inside.
