How do you handle age issues?

I am getting old.  Somewhere between late middle age and antique, now single again. Sex has been a big part of my life, skin on skin, but I'm going to have to seek other outlets. As a single male reality check says it will no longer ever "be me" at a party or club, refusals would be too depressing so best avoided.  On the other hand I scrub up, behave, and have been a member without ever attending a sex event, my membership existing years before my recent relationship started, so more than 13 years ago. Places like Cap d'Agde could still be fun with a friend but not alone, (have motorhome - can travel).

With two failed life partnerships, still my friends, I'm no longer up for trying again but chastity is equally unappealing.

This must be a real problem faced by many people, single, widowed, or divorced, love to know what you do. I'm up for being a voyeur if you like performing, my bi side is ok limited to fondling/wanking, happy to start dating without strings. I've never managed to "act my age" and don't want to start now, still love the boys toys, the music, and travel. Am retired and living in the South Midlands. 

How do you handle it?  Polite sincere suggestions welcome here or by pm.

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I am getting old.   Polite sincere suggestions welcome here or by pm.

 Honesty.. Simple as that!

I absolutely believe in honesty, I believe my post was very honest, possibly too honest, but honesty on its own doesn't cut the mustard.  I find women my age don't often appeal and those that do might find their husbands objecting, (this is a joke btw). I was hoping for responses from those in my position. Of course Scotchlander there are singles groups, but essentially I believe those ladies are looking for life partners not a dalliance, regular or otherwise. Here is where they ought to be found if existing.

I really get where you are coming from as women your age are not as active sexually as you, if you chase younger women you're a perv.

The trouble with us boys is we have the cock of a teenager and the looks of a pensioner.! Difficult problem, I have no answers, only sympathy, as I'm of similar age !!!!!

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Musketeer, you are as old as you feel, and a good attitude and a mature outlook is a lot more sexy and inviting than just a number. Never let anyone tell you different.

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Musketeer, you are as old as you feel, and a good attitude and a mature outlook is a lot more sexy and inviting than just a number. Never let anyone tell you different.

Well some days ... 

People are kind enough to disbelieve my age which is always nice, and covered up I'm still OK to look at, (the mirror tells me and I believe it).  I think there is some truth that I'm a little reluctant to go looking, there's a considerable amount of "can't be arsed" going on. In part this is because I don't really know where to look, the traditional venues no longer apply to me, and there's nothing more pathetic than an old man not paying attention to life's realities.  

Big hug on its way but remember, there is someone for everyone. We all get older, but we dont need to get old. None of us are as young as we used to be, and some of us are a bit rounder, but we all like different things, and anything worth it, is well worth waiting for.

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Big hug on its way but remember, there is someone for everyone. We all get older, but we dont need to get old. None of us are as young as we used to be, and some of us are a bit rounder, but we all like different things, and anything worth it, is well worth waiting for.

 Thank you for that.

There's a big age difference between us (c. 20 years) and we've met older guys well into their 60's and 70's. In some ways we prefer them so there is hope for mature men both here and in the real world - it's just a case of being positive and charming with a large dose of perseverance.  On this site, it's important to read profiles to establish what other people are actually looking for because contacting females or couples who're only interested in younger guys is likely to be a rather pointless and confidence busting experience.  

I am late middle-age heading towards my pension. I am married to a gorgeous woman who is much younger than me (which is fine because she will not contemplate being with anyone under 45 and that lower limit is constantly rising). We have a fantastic life together, full of laughter, love and sex. We have swung with an older man (regular partner in MMF) and younger women (too many to remember). Life is good. You just need to find a soul mate.

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As I've passed 70 you could say I'm more granddad than dad, but I keep myself in good shape, try and get exercise both physical and mental, but above all have a very active sex life which helps to keep me feeling a lot less than my age. I'm gay and happen to like young guys 18-25, and I'm pleasantly surprised how many guys this age are on dating sites, and who want sex with a guy my age. I realise it's not going to last for ever, so I'm making the most of it whilst I can.

I confess, if that's the word, for wanking with guys for sexual release, but I realised when an ex suggested I might like to cross the aisle that I could not. My attitude to anal has always been negative and the idea of kissing a guy just doesn't stimulate anything but fright!