as the old saying goes " if we could only see ourselves as others see us", got me to wondering ! I know I am a man in his forties, balding , shrinking , getting more hairy on the parts that least need it , have a paunch of sorts lol, wrinkles, getting more grumpy as the days go by , etc.
now when I look in the mirror I have convinced my self that I don`t look like the guy I have just described , but am ten years younger at least ....also when I look at people who are my age I think that I have aged better than them.
so is this self delusion ........or what?
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Is it a good mirror 
Did you have the light on
Did you have the light on
Same here. I'd LIKE to think I don't look 46 though sometimes I don't, sometimes I do. My outlook however, is a lot younger. I look around at some women of my age and all I see are grannies who have now given up on sex and are readying themselves for their retirement years.
Me? Hell no !!!! In my own mind, I'm still in my mid 30s, enjoying a very satisfying and varied sexlife and not ready for the scrap heap yet, thank you very much !
On the other hand, when you get to my age, women in particular have to be very careful about the mutton-dressed-as-lamb look ( Leah from BB take note :dry: ) I know there are certain clothes I can't wear anymore, not because I can't fit into them but because I'd look ridiculous if I walked around in some of the latest fashions. :scared:
I'm now at that age where I know a lot more than I did when I was in my 20s but still young enough, for now at least, to enjoy it. They say women reach their peak in their 40s and so far they've been dead right ! :thumbup:
Me? Hell no !!!! In my own mind, I'm still in my mid 30s, enjoying a very satisfying and varied sexlife and not ready for the scrap heap yet, thank you very much !
On the other hand, when you get to my age, women in particular have to be very careful about the mutton-dressed-as-lamb look ( Leah from BB take note :dry: ) I know there are certain clothes I can't wear anymore, not because I can't fit into them but because I'd look ridiculous if I walked around in some of the latest fashions. :scared:
I'm now at that age where I know a lot more than I did when I was in my 20s but still young enough, for now at least, to enjoy it. They say women reach their peak in their 40s and so far they've been dead right ! :thumbup:
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Same here. I'd LIKE to think I don't look 46 ,
dont worrie you dont ;)
robhambledon i know what you mean.
I say to my friend that i think im a fat belly boney armed ugly guy. but he tells me no ! im not and that its about confidence and self respect. and then i think and look again and think no im not a bad guy???
It depends some Women might see a Well built guy and think wow! Some might look and think yuk thats sick!
Really boil's down to the type of person i think?
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Same here. I'd LIKE to think I don't look 46 ,
dont worrie you dont ;)
robhambledon i know what you mean.
I say to my friend that i think im a fat belly boney armed ugly guy. but he tells me no ! im not and that its about confidence and self respect. and then i think and look again and think no im not a bad guy???
It depends some Women might see a Well built guy and think wow! Some might look and think yuk thats sick!
Really boil's down to the type of person i think?
cheers big guy ...are we sharing the same mirror? lol
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Same here. I'd LIKE to think I don't look 46 ,
dont worrie you dont ;)
You haven't seen the face
Why do you think there's not one in my profile? :scared: Jeez, I'd never get a shag ! :roll:
That's a load of hairy b*ll*cks if I ever I heard it dear Sassy!
I've seen you... so therefore I am qualified to say so! :smug:
KMi can really appreciate what you're saying here Rob
i see a different person when i look in the mirror to the person i see in photographs.
i think i look good in the mirror but terrible in pics
Also i have a portrait picture on the wall in my lounge of me when i was 18... the amount of people ( especially women) who see it and ask who it is astounds me. Even worse when said ladies say " he's fit... who's that?"................even worse when they remark that they'd "shag him , no problem !!!!!"
WTF is all i can say
:shock:
i see a different person when i look in the mirror to the person i see in photographs.
i think i look good in the mirror but terrible in pics
Also i have a portrait picture on the wall in my lounge of me when i was 18... the amount of people ( especially women) who see it and ask who it is astounds me. Even worse when said ladies say " he's fit... who's that?"................even worse when they remark that they'd "shag him , no problem !!!!!"
WTF is all i can say
:shock:
I remember my gran telling me, when I was about 15, that she'd look in the mirror and not recognise herself. In her head she was still 23. I didn't quite understand what she meant at the time but I do now, except my stop off age was 19.
When I was little I thought that something would happen to you one day and you'd become a 'grown up', but it doesn't work like that. Some people were born middle aged and some will always be young at heart. Age isn't measured in years - it's a state of mind.
The mutton dressed as lamb thing worries me a little, but I figure so long as I'm comfortable wearing what I wear, why shouldn't I? There are things I wont do these days like wear a bikini. I'm sure at some point I'll end up in a twin set and pearls - but hopefully it'll be for a fancy dress party.
H.x
When I was little I thought that something would happen to you one day and you'd become a 'grown up', but it doesn't work like that. Some people were born middle aged and some will always be young at heart. Age isn't measured in years - it's a state of mind.
The mutton dressed as lamb thing worries me a little, but I figure so long as I'm comfortable wearing what I wear, why shouldn't I? There are things I wont do these days like wear a bikini. I'm sure at some point I'll end up in a twin set and pearls - but hopefully it'll be for a fancy dress party.
H.x
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I'm sure at some point I'll end up in a twin set and pearls - but hopefully it'll be for a fancy dress party.
H.x
Ok I know I should be saying something insightful or clever - but why break the habbit of a lifetime!
I'm sure you must of read in a thread on here that I have a certain penchant for a lady in a twin set and pearls! (Providing she's yet in need of a purple rinse).
Therefore you must be saying it to tease me! :rascal:
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Quote by goose35
Mirrors are not a true reflectionthey distort the fact. Thay make you look bigger than you are due to some science i don't understand as it's beyond my intelect.
The only thing that can see the real us are other people unfortunatly.
What science books have you been reading Goose? The only mirrors which distort your reflection are the kind you see in fairgrounds, or ones that are broken.
It's not that they distort, it's that they show a mirror image - that's why, when you look at pictures of yourself, they never really look like you. Look at a picture of you in a mirror and you'll recognise it. People with more unsymetrical faces have more of a problem.
When artists do sculptures of people, they tend to do them 1/3 bigger - because if they're life size they look too small. I have no idea why - but I'm sure someone will come along and tell us.
H.x
When artists do sculptures of people, they tend to do them 1/3 bigger - because if they're life size they look too small. I have no idea why - but I'm sure someone will come along and tell us.
H.x
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Same here. I'd LIKE to think I don't look 46 ,
dont worrie you dont ;)
You haven't seen the face
Why do you think there's not one in my profile? :scared: Jeez, I'd never get a shag ! :roll:
I Fancy you just but some of what i think is your Personailty is
and i bet your thinking like every one does, some of us think were not that nice looking etc but really we dont see that we are quite beautafull.Theres some Women that i have seen and So out of my league even if i could "pull" them i dont think i find it so enjoyable or spritable ( if thats a word and spelling? ) as people like you. ;) hehe
You talk about your face thats why you have no photo! Why do you think i go to the Gym im not happy feeling like i have 3 year old arms.! But realting to robhambledon and you even beauty is on the inside. You can be the Sexy / Fit-ess Women/Guy in the world you have to have a good soul and sprit and spark inside?
(ps Sassy-Seren you have that :wink: :lol: :inlove: not flirting or nothing ! )
From the Personailty thread, it means a lot more in a non relationship way if that makes sence.
Im a big beliver in the 3 S's Spirt Soul and Spark ;). Or mabye i talk crap ?
robhambledon thats all right mate you really have to think theres loads of other people put there and i bet they think you pretty
You have no photo so i cant comment on you personaily but hey.
What do you think ?
Quote by Freckledbird
Mirrors are not a true reflectionthey distort the fact. Thay make you look bigger than you are due to some science i don't understand as it's beyond my intelect.
The only thing that can see the real us are other people unfortunatly.
What science books have you been reading Goose? The only mirrors which distort your reflection are the kind you see in fairgrounds, or ones that are broken.
I looked it up an i was wrong. My mirrors must all be curving then They just look flat.
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I still think im young and skinny so much so that it wasnt that long ago i was messing around at work on the nightshift. Anyway decided to try and do a hand stand :embarrased: the run up was a gudun but my arms had aged and my weight increased and i ended up head diving in to the floor :giggle: with the rest of me following
uch: luckily there were nurses all around to offer first aid :lol2:
:doh: but still feel young, and often do :crazy: stuff
Nicky
I still think im young and skinny so much so that it wasnt that long ago i was messing around at work on the nightshift. Anyway decided to try and do a hand stand :embarrased: the run up was a gudun but my arms had aged and my weight increased and i ended up head diving in to the floor :giggle: with the rest of me following
uch: luckily there were nurses all around to offer first aid :lol2: :doh: but still feel young, and often do :crazy: stuff
Nicky
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Quote by H-x
It's not that they distort, it's that they show a mirror image - that's why, when you look at pictures of yourself, they never really look like you. Look at a picture of you in a mirror and you'll recognise it. People with more unsymetrical faces have more of a problem.
When artists do sculptures of people, they tend to do them 1/3 bigger - because if they're life size they look too small. I have no idea why - but I'm sure someone will come along and tell us.
H.x
So the statue of David by Michelangelo, really had a small willy :shock:
Quote by robhambledon
as the old saying goes " if we could only see ourselves as others see us"
Actually is the old Bard himself - Robert Burns who wrote “Oh would some power the gift give us, to see ourselves as others see about a woman who was proudly wearing a new hat in church without knowing that there was a great big louse in it - thereby making everyone laugh at her.
How fallen are the arrogant and proud!
End of lecture
:jagsatwork: Quote by BIGJIMMYUK1986
Same here. I'd LIKE to think I don't look 46 ,
dont worrie you dont ;)
You haven't seen the face
Why do you think there's not one in my profile? :scared: Jeez, I'd never get a shag ! :roll:
I Fancy you just but some of what i think is your Personailty is
and i bet your thinking like every one does, some of us think were not that nice looking etc but really we dont see that we are quite beautafull.Theres some Women that i have seen and So out of my league even if i could "pull" them i dont think i find it so enjoyable or spritable ( if thats a word and spelling? ) as people like you. ;) hehe
You talk about your face thats why you have no photo! Why do you think i go to the Gym im not happy feeling like i have 3 year old arms.! But realting to robhambledon and you even beauty is on the inside. You can be the Sexy / Fit-ess Women/Guy in the world you have to have a good soul and sprit and spark inside?
(ps Sassy-Seren you have that :wink: :lol: :inlove: not flirting or nothing ! )
From the Personailty thread, it means a lot more in a non relationship way if that makes sence.
Im a big beliver in the 3 S's Spirt Soul and Spark ;). Or mabye i talk crap ?
robhambledon thats all right mate you really have to think theres loads of other people put there and i bet they think you pretty
You have no photo so i cant comment on you personaily but hey.
What do you think ?
Marry me :inlove:
:giggle:
