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Quote by __random_orbit__
I should hope there are many more important/significant things than my spelling or grammar to annoy people cool
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yes! like the clangers! where the heck did you get that pic from? well in archives lol
Quote by helnheaven
thier spelling
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Quote by westerross
thier spelling
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and...?
what?
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Quote by Cherrytree

It's like I keep saying.... I wish people would acknowledge EVERYONE has a right to post their OWN thoughts on here. And maybe starting a thread and pulling a person apart for doing something is every bit as bad as the supposed thing that upset the author in the first place... :crazy:
Why can't everyone just say what they want, I bored with this 'she said this, he said that'.
People.. please post your thoughts then go have some fun... wink

Hang on Jaymar - if everyone has a right to post their own thoughts on here - aren't I entitled to my opinion too?
I haven't pulled anyone apart - I have asked people's feelings on an issue which concerns me.
Cherry, you know it's Mar cos we get on really well, there's no need to be falling out :wink:
I was talking about EVERYONE who posts and then starts thread criticising - I wasn't actually singling you out, as you well know. It's happened a few times lately.
I do think however, in this occasion your thread may have been in response to one person's comments about spelling. The point I was making is that person had every right to post their thoughts as did the person before and so on.... and so do you.
I really think you're reading too much into what I was trying to say, I was simply trying to calm the situation a little before a lot of people end up falling out. I also think you know me better than that having often come to your defence.
In short this thread, as per, is getting out of hand, it's a shame when people genuinely try to diffuse situations end up becoming the bad party.
I'm offskie. wave
Quote by jaymar
I should hope there are many more important/significant things than my spelling or grammar to annoy people cool
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yes! like the clangers! where the heck did you get that pic from? well in archives lol
family snap-shot... I had permission though... and they are members, so all is well
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Quote by __random_orbit__
thier spelling
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:shock:
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rotflmao kiss
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and...?
what?
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:rotflmao: passionkiss
Seriously now. I spell perfectly as you all know (but I do have a bugger of a keyboard that won't do as I say! smackbottom )
I have been picked up on my spelling and I really don't have an issue with that even though I do take some care in trying to make sure it is correct.
When I come on here I usually don't have a lot of time to read everything and I often skim things. When I come across something that is badly written with spelling and grammatical mistakes then I lose interest and just move on. Basically I'm not prepared to put in the extra effort in interpreting something that is nigh on imcomprehensible - even though it may have a gem hidden in it. Sorry - my loss maybe but it is a value judgement that I make.
Clear communication is really the key. I know that many think my posts are incomprehensible but then I live with that!
Be happy and chill! cool
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i dont think spelling should matter, but then i would say that as my spelling is bad.
i left school at 13 and didnt have a good education even up to that point, this did not make me thick or ignorant or lazy.
i returned to education at uni level as a mature student and i am now in a job one might consider professional. but my spelling is still shite.
i can articulate myself and ensure i spell check everything re work, im not at work here, ive come to let my hair down.
like has been mentioned if i felt i had to word , spell check etc then i woudnt be arsed to post and the drive behind posting would be lost.
does this make me less fuckable? who cares i wouldnt wish to be so intimate with someone who judged me on my typing skills.
i like to read well structured posts, as i love to read. i dont like text talk in pms, they often come from the younger lads, but i guess thats a trend, sign of the times we live in, its natural for them.
its the person i like not the typing skills.
this reminds me of the thread about people stating professional on their profiles/ ads, most who did this were ridiculed, but maybe they were responding to the fear of not being attractive if they were in a job where spelling wasnt important?
by the way i do not view professional as being able to spell.
i feel when people say they are professional it could be their way of saying they are educated in the world and therfore this means they will be viewed as being sociable company, able to hold a intersteing conversation and be clean. I know thats another discussion.
but spelling does it matter, to me.. no
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Quote by Wunderhorse
In another thread, after being pulled up for his spelling, a poster has defended himself, saying that he is dyslexic. This is followed by a critical post, about people "claiming to be dyslexic".

The mentioned member that said he has dyslexia, is me.

No, it wasn't you actually.
Quote by jaymar

It's like I keep saying.... I wish people would acknowledge EVERYONE has a right to post their OWN thoughts on here. And maybe starting a thread and pulling a person apart for doing something is every bit as bad as the supposed thing that upset the author in the first place... :crazy:
Why can't everyone just say what they want, I bored with this 'she said this, he said that'.
People.. please post your thoughts then go have some fun... wink

Hang on Jaymar - if everyone has a right to post their own thoughts on here - aren't I entitled to my opinion too?
I haven't pulled anyone apart - I have asked people's feelings on an issue which concerns me.
Cherry, you know it's Mar cos we get on really well, there's no need to be falling out :wink:
I was talking about EVERYONE who posts and then starts thread criticising - I wasn't actually singling you out, as you well know. It's happened a few times lately.
I do think however, in this occasion your thread may have been in response to one person's comments about spelling. The point I was making is that person had every right to post their thoughts as did the person before and so on.... and so do you.
I really think you're reading too much into what I was trying to say, I was simply trying to calm the situation a little before a lot of people end up falling out. I also think you know me better than that having often come to your defence.
In short this thread, as per, is getting out of hand, it's a shame when people genuinely try to diffuse situations end up becoming the bad party.
I'm offskie. wave
Sorry for using your full name, Mar - honest error, nothing funny meant kiss
When you referred to "maybe starting a thread and pulling a person apart..." well you can see how I, as the very same thread starter, would assume you were on about me lol
Anyway, I'm not falling out with anyone, it's all healthy debate.
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Quote by Cherrytree

It's like I keep saying.... I wish people would acknowledge EVERYONE has a right to post their OWN thoughts on here. And maybe starting a thread and pulling a person apart for doing something is every bit as bad as the supposed thing that upset the author in the first place... :crazy:
Why can't everyone just say what they want, I bored with this 'she said this, he said that'.
People.. please post your thoughts then go have some fun... wink

Hang on Jaymar - if everyone has a right to post their own thoughts on here - aren't I entitled to my opinion too?
I haven't pulled anyone apart - I have asked people's feelings on an issue which concerns me.
Cherry, you know it's Mar cos we get on really well, there's no need to be falling out :wink:
I was talking about EVERYONE who posts and then starts thread criticising - I wasn't actually singling you out, as you well know. It's happened a few times lately.
I do think however, in this occasion your thread may have been in response to one person's comments about spelling. The point I was making is that person had every right to post their thoughts as did the person before and so on.... and so do you.
I really think you're reading too much into what I was trying to say, I was simply trying to calm the situation a little before a lot of people end up falling out. I also think you know me better than that having often come to your defence.
In short this thread, as per, is getting out of hand, it's a shame when people genuinely try to diffuse situations end up becoming the bad party.
I'm offskie. wave
Sorry for using your full name, Mar - honest error, nothing funny meant kiss
When you referred to "maybe starting a thread and pulling a person apart..." well you can see how I, as the very same thread starter, would assume you were on about me lol
Anyway, I'm not falling out with anyone, it's all healthy debate.
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Yes I can, don't worry, if you didn't matter to me I wouldn't have bothered replying.
I'm getting worse for 'allowing people to be themselves' it's like a crusade :lol: but I have reasons which I'll not go into.
Night pet xx
I'm am a bit OCD about spelling and punctuation but don't have an issue if others don't speak 'well English' as a rule BUT people who do, generally, interest me more.
I admire those who understand and can apply the written word to express themselves beautifully.
I admire those who do not have those skills but are still able to express themselves.
I dont know if I have dyslexia. I do know that I often spell badly and i can only follow the rules of english if I tryt really hard. I dont like folk ebing criticised for bad spelling or grammar. If it haoppens to me in chat I just explain that I am typing with my head using a stick.
To be honest Cherry I’m very much of the same opinion as you. I’m all for constructive criticism and healthy debate. I just find the whole correcting of spelling at best tiresome and at worse condescending. If that view upsets some people then so be it.
Is there any need to publicly chastise people on a forum for their lack of grammar or spelling ability?
No I don’t think there is.
If, as many have said, the posters lack of spelling, punctuation and grammar has made up your mind not to play with someone then fine, move along. What then gives anyone the right, morally or otherwise, to set about destroying perhaps what little confidence they have built up to post in the first place??
People making the effort to join in should be encouraged. This isn’t an exclusive club for the better educated or more academically able as far as I’m aware or has the site really changed that much???
If it bothers you that much then PM them with some helpful advice. There’s no need to make people seem small.
I wasted my education, my English is poor, as is many other subjects, I am just an uneducated oik
If someone is to pull me up on my grammer, spelling and punctuation, it says more about them, than it does me, it is just a way of declaring superiority, by proving they know more than I do
Many people are better educated than me, but they aren't better than me, they have just made the most of their opportunities, unlike me. If they want to judge me for that, i have no problem with it, but equally, I have no interest either
Quote by Steve
And lifes too short to go round starting threads about people who like to see good grammar dont you think dunno
yes thats wot i thinks too lol rather talk about sex or better still be doing it steve x
Quote by westerross
Seriously now. I spell perfectly as you all know (but I do have a bugger of a keyboard that won't do as I say! smackbottom )
I have been picked up on my spelling and I really don't have an issue with that even though I do take some care in trying to make sure it is correct.
When I come on here I usually don't have a lot of time to read everything and I often skim things. When I come across something that is badly written with spelling and grammatical mistakes then I lose interest and just move on. Basically I'm not prepared to put in the extra effort in interpreting something that is nigh on imcomprehensible - even though it may have a gem hidden in it. Sorry - my loss maybe but it is a value judgement that I make.
Clear communication is really the key. I know that many think my posts are incomprehensible but then I live with that!
Be happy and chill! cool
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Saves me from typing, pretty much sums things up for me too 8-)
I couldn't really give two hoots about peoples spelling or punctuation, so long as I can still understand what they're saying.
Even the best spelt and punctuated posts can still be bland and of not much content - yet someone that's excitedly hammered something out on the keyboard, with spelling and punctuation all over the place, can exude personality and character.
But personally, for me there is still a point where I can't read something. If there's zero punctuation, just a massive paragraph of words, I end up gasping for breath trying to read it :shock: and must admit I lose interest rather quickly confused
I remember a few years ago, some poor bugger came on here and just couldn't be understood.......... when the language klingon was mentioned, I must admit I laughed like a drain :lol2: redface
People also have to realise that these kind of communities are very much based on the written word. If you ain't very good at it - not my problem, I wouldn't join the local running club and demand allowances be made cos I'm too large, unfit and a really bad runner, I either wouldn't join, or I would just make the best of it and enjoy myself for what I can get out of it. Don't demand that poor use of the written word is everyone elses problem and just battle on and concentrate on getting the personality across. It does and has worked very well like that with many many people on here, to the point where they've managed to get their personality across extremely well and punctuation/spelling isn't noticed whatsoever.
By the same token tho, I'm not keen when I see people being pulled up on their spelling/punctuation and the post content totally ignored, even tho it's perfectly legible and has a point :?
I can't say that my written word is perfect, it's far far from it - I don't understand a lot of the rules and regulations, certainly when it comes to punctuation, tending to follow the 'if in doubt shove some commas in' motto :? :? :?
Text speak tho - another matter for me :? I can't abide it and can't help cringing when I see people using txt spk for full paragraphs/posts :? For me, it takes away any personality they may have when I see these txt spk 'words' glaring at me :? If people can't even be bothered to try to type properly, I'm not gonna be bothered to read what's been said.
Quote by Cherrytree
I have been lucky enough to have had an old fashioned schooling, where spelling, grammar and punctuation were an essential part of the education.
I was also an attentive student, I wasn't ill very often, and so I gained the most out of the school system.
Not everyone has been as lucky as me.
For some time now I have been getting increasing annoyed at posts being criticised because of the author's spelling.
In another thread, after being pulled up for his spelling, a poster has defended himself, saying that he is dyslexic. This is followed by a critical post, about people "claiming to be dyslexic".
Now my point is this -
Everyone on this forum has a right to agree, disagree, or debate someone else's point of view.
But does anyone on this forum have the right to criticise, make fun of, or belittle someone's post purely because of the spelling?
Not in my opinion.

I have to agree with you cherry on this one. wink
I am a lucky person because whilst I bunked off school for almost the last two years of my school days and left with no qualifications, my spelling and grammar was always ok.
I think it would be wrong to " critisise or belittle " anyone because of their spelling. I would find that offensive myself if I saw that kind of thing but....school kids today are learning a completely different kind of spelling. It is called the " text language ". Teachers have to tell children NOT to write in text form on their English papers. If we are not careful the next generation will think that is how the English language really is.
A good post cherry!
Quote by Missy
Seriously now. I spell perfectly as you all know (but I do have a bugger of a keyboard that won't do as I say! smackbottom )
I have been picked up on my spelling and I really don't have an issue with that even though I do take some care in trying to make sure it is correct.
When I come on here I usually don't have a lot of time to read everything and I often skim things. When I come across something that is badly written with spelling and grammatical mistakes then I lose interest and just move on. Basically I'm not prepared to put in the extra effort in interpreting something that is nigh on imcomprehensible - even though it may have a gem hidden in it. Sorry - my loss maybe but it is a value judgement that I make.
Clear communication is really the key. I know that many think my posts are incomprehensible but then I live with that!
Be happy and chill! cool
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Saves me from typing, pretty much sums things up for me too 8-)
I couldn't really give two hoots about peoples spelling or punctuation, so long as I can still understand what they're saying.
Even the best spelt and punctuated posts can still be bland and of not much content - yet someone that's excitedly hammered something out on the keyboard, with spelling and punctuation all over the place, can exude personality and character.
But personally, for me there is still a point where I can't read something. If there's zero punctuation, just a massive paragraph of words, I end up gasping for breath trying to read it :shock: and must admit I lose interest rather quickly confused
I remember a few years ago, some poor bugger came on here and just couldn't be understood.......... when the language klingon was mentioned, I must admit I laughed like a drain :lol2: redface
People also have to realise that these kind of communities are very much based on the written word. If you ain't very good at it - not my problem, I wouldn't join the local running club and demand allowances be made cos I'm too large, unfit and a really bad runner, I either wouldn't join, or I would just make the best of it and enjoy myself for what I can get out of it. Don't demand that poor use of the written word is everyone elses problem and just battle on and concentrate on getting the personality across. It does and has worked very well like that with many many people on here, to the point where they've managed to get their personality across extremely well and punctuation/spelling isn't noticed whatsoever.
By the same token tho, I'm not keen when I see people being pulled up on their spelling/punctuation and the post content totally ignored, even tho it's perfectly legible and has a point :?
I can't say that my written word is perfect, it's far far from it - I don't understand a lot of the rules and regulations, certainly when it comes to punctuation, tending to follow the 'if in doubt shove some commas in' motto :? :? :?
Text speak tho - another matter for me :? I can't abide it and can't help cringing when I see people using txt spk for full paragraphs/posts :? For me, it takes away any personality they may have when I see these txt spk 'words' glaring at me :? If people can't even be bothered to try to type properly, I'm not gonna be bothered to read what's been said.
I'm glad I saved you the effort with my post!! rotflmao
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Quote by Garfield1
Whoa!!! should i just leave now, because to be truthfull with what everyone is saying i may as well not stay.
What is the point in staying?

Where do you get that idea from dunno
The thread has been started as a dig at one specific person (IMHO anyway) and to be honest its a bit of a sly way of doing things really ....
I agree.
It's like I keep saying.... I wish people would acknowledge EVERYONE has a right to post their OWN thoughts on here. And maybe starting a thread and pulling a person apart for doing something is every bit as bad as the supposed thing that upset the author in the first place... :crazy:
Why can't everyone just say what they want, I bored with this 'she said this, he said that'.
People.. please post your thoughts then go have some fun...wink
But then that the point, who the hell is going to have fun with me?
i'm lazy and illitarate because my spelling and grammer is not up to other peoples standards!
i'm just really sick of trying to live up to other peoples standards!
i'm now at the point were i'm so self concious it to the point of paranoia.
It's not your looks that's important it your personality! ok well unfortuantly my learning disablity is part of my personality,
But now your saying that its actualy detrimental because people don't want to have fun with people who arn't literate or interlectural.
And how the hell someone's abitlty to spell can even be compared to intelligent i dont friggin know
and if your interested it has taken me 15 minutes to write this reply as i have had to carefull check to make sure i haven't made any mistake
Garfield STOP being silly. Dont ever worry about what others think of you, certainly NOT over something like bad grammar. Also NEVER try to live up to others standards. We are all different...accept that and you will live a much happier life. cool
Quote by westerross
I'm glad I saved you the effort with my post!! rotflmao
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Its probably as well you did as there may have only been one post on this page :rotflmao:
I have been careful to read this one very carefully, or is that non grammatical syntax?
Anyway, enough word play, I myself have, at times been a little dismayed that some folk have been picked up on their spelling when a thread has been of good content but poor spelling or grammar and punctuation.
When somebody has been on the site a while and is a "known member" and makes these type of mistakes, people just either accept it or have a bit of a dig (normally in good humour as we who use the forum regularly know one anothers posting style). A small "thread hijack" sometimes ensues before returning (usually and thankfully) to the topic in question.
However this type of thing has a more impactual (is that a word) effect on those newer members who donot have the familiarity of "the way things go here", and can, and will, probably be seen as criticism. This can affect the newer members self confidence if they are a person of lesser mettle than the "water off a duck's back type" and as such is probably not very nice for them!
IMHO (text speak haters will be reaching for the pitch forks) if the content of a thread is good, I will read it even if the grammar and spelling are not what one would expect on the essay of a student studying for a Masters Degree in English Language.
However, if the content is terrible, vulgar or just plain stupid, I might make a small comment about the lack of effort taken to write it.
Here is an example of one I remember vividly, having been sent it by a single male.
Quote........"wud luv to bang ur las i do mets with any1 age size looks no important give me a male on here if u want a nice big cock 4 ur las. Unquote.
This is where I can empathise with people who make comments or reply with posts of a negative connotation. They are probably not having a dig at the persons spelling or grammar but the crudeness and lack of thought that has gone into it.
People have mentioned that this thread is perhaps about one particular person or occasion, but I have to look at it objectively as I donot know the original poster or the person in question other than from what they have written previously on this site.
Whether the original poster has an "ulterior motive" or not, they have brought up an interesting topic for discussion which is what this section of the site is about.
The people who are assuming that it is anything other are speculating at best and fanning the flames for those "bandwagon types" or people who take up a moral crusade on the behalf of one faction or another.
Let us discuss the topic in question, without a thread hijack, sub topic or speculation. There is too much politics and sociology going on in the site and it drives people away. We are a community and for this place to exist in the manner we have come to know and love there must be conflicts of opinion.
Quote by Cherrytree
But does anyone on this forum have the right to criticise, make fun of, or belittle someone's post purely because of the spelling?

No they don't, and doing so just indicates a lack of basic good manners. If a post is so badly written that the meaning is unclear then of course it's fine to ask for clarification. If despite bad spelling, grammar or syntax the poster has got across the point that they wished to, then I see no real problem. This is a general discussion forum, not an English class, and the main purpose is to communicate.
That said, bad English does make an impression. I'm not so shallow as to think it means the person is stupid, uninteresting or unshaggable <grin> but I would register the fact because I'm an old fart and 'proper English' is important to me. There are free spell checkers available as plug-ins to all major browsers and if someone knows they aren't too good at spelling it might suggest they just don't care if they don't install one. On the other hand they might just not know about them:-)
Quote by westerross
I'm glad I saved you the effort with my post!! rotflmao
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:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Bad Chooon smackbottom
Can't believe you summed up everything I wanted to say - and then I promptly launched into a waffle of epic proportions :rotflmao: actually I can believe it :lol2: You got me on a roll with your post, and off I went on a right ol tangent :shock:
I didnt know there were browser spell check plug ins.
TYVM for that Unc.
Im off to find one.
As it turns out as a firefox 2 user I already have a spell check facility, I just needed to switch it on
i often use txt talk cus i find it easier
im not sure if thats cus im dyslexic but its certainly not cus im lazy !
spell checkers are no use for me .... even when im told iv spelt things wrong they usually still look ok to me biggrin
no one ever said they didnt want to meet me cus i cant spell :D
Quote by benrums0n
I didnt know there were browser spell check plug ins.
TYVM for that Unc.
Im off to find one.
As it turns out as a firefox 2 user I already have a spell check facility, I just needed to switch it on

NP ben:-) I use Firefox too but a good one for IE users is here
My spelling issues are primarily to do with the difficulty I have in using a keyboard and my inability to proof read. My hand written English is perfectly fine. I am delighted; at last I will be able to appear to be literate on line.
Blimey I love it when you manage to find a solution to a problem you weren't even looking for a solution for.
Quote by benrums0n
My spelling issues are primarily to do with the difficulty I have in using a keyboard and my inability to proof read. My hand written English is perfectly fine. I am delighted; at last I will be able to appear to be literate on line.
Blimey I love it when you manage to find a solution to a problem you weren't even looking for a solution for.

A chance to use one of my favourite words, serendipity biggrin
Quote by benrums0n
My spelling issues are primarily to do with the difficulty I have in using a keyboard and my inability to proof read. My hand written English is perfectly fine.

My 'hand written' english is much better than anything I can ever type or say on here, so glad Im not the only one who has noticed this. Also it could be that when I handwrite something, I am normally doing it in work or in a card or the like, here Im here to enjoy myself and sometimes, the spelling etc, just goes out of the window redface