How important is swinging to you?

15 Jul 2006

Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Just wondering how important swinging is to you?
Could you just stop and never look back, would you miss it?
Also, if your single... would any future partner you get have to be either a swinger or be happy for just yourself to swing?
For us, its became quite a fun part of our lifes, we could give it up but it would be missed to quite a high degree.
We are very happy with each other sexually but the bit of extra fun you get with swinging makes us even more horny.. and normally after we have played with someone we have quite a long passionate night when were on our own again.
If i was to be single now and meet a new partner then i could go without the swinging but i would try my hardest to convince him otherwise first :twisted:
Not that me and Tony would brake up... hopefully!
So come on guys, whats your thoughts on this?
Shaz x

We both come from relationships "on the scene" and are happiest with the choice to play or not to play.
We have participated in a few meets together now but find we are happy to leave it for a while also.
We will never give up nor pursue it as a weekly " sport", but just as and when we feel like it.
We have met some great couples to be friends with and/or play with.
(Hi to you all x x)

15 Jul 2006

Not bene on here long and haven't arranged any meets from here yet. But the thing that I love most about the site is definitely the community part - everyone has been dead welcoming and I can happily while away ages on here just chatting. Great stuff! smile

Missed it in the last week after the move and before the internet was fitted...

15 Jul 2006

whats a vanilla partner??????

15 Jul 2006

Quote by mazandden
whats a vanilla partner??????

a partner who doesn't swing I think

15 Jul 2006

Quote by mazandden
whats a vanilla partner??????

I've heard that ref but not 100% myself.
But i think it's a term for non swingers but i will be corrected if wrong.

15 Jul 2006

I was about to say â€œam I the only sexual deviant here who would miss the unorthodox sexâ€
But then I noticed Scandal had popped up biggrin

Quote by Freckledbird
Fek, I think he may be joking honey.

Sorry Fb, youâ€™re mistaken - he is only here for the sex and has said so on many a thread - along with a few other controversial bits 'n' bobs lol

Nice to see yaâ€™ popping up scouse lad wink

After thought - he does prove his own point rather well though.
May be he should market his methods :lol: :lol: :lol:

15 Jul 2006

Quote by goose35
whats a vanilla partner??????

I've heard that ref but not 100% myself.
But i think it's a term for non swingers but i will be corrected if wrong.
:thumbup: - its how I describe my partner dunno

long term relationship, been together 13 years. live together, have a child together but he doesnt swing, with me or alone, or have any wish to be part of the 'scene' -therefore he's vanilla lol

15 Jul 2006

Quote by Darkfire
whats a vanilla partner??????

I've heard that ref but not 100% myself.
But i think it's a term for non swingers but i will be corrected if wrong.
:thumbup: - its how I describe my partner dunno

long term relationship, been together 13 years. live together, have a child together but he doesnt swing, with me or alone, or have any wish to be part of the 'scene' -therefore he's vanilla lol

Thanks for confirming. Was only guessing before in the context of the posts where it cropped up.

16 Jul 2006

If i was to become single now (sure i wouldn't) then i think when the time came to find another partner i would look for someone thats not in the swinging scene, i need to really be able to trust my partner to be in this scene and i don't think (for me) the trust could be there that early in a relationship, I would be on edge all the while wondering if she would stop with me or find another.
Tony wink

16 Jul 2006

Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
If i was to become single now (sure i wouldn't) then i think when the time came to find another partner i would look for someone thats not in the swinging scene, i need to really be able to trust my partner to be in this scene and i don't think (for me) the trust could be there that early in a relationship, I would be on edge all the while wondering if she would stop with me or find another.
Tony

A valid point but if it came to it " trust" is there in any relationship swinging or not babes...
I have been in non scene relationships but fell in love with a fellow scene player...
Happier now then ever and no issues of trust on either part as we have the choice and the pleasure of play at any time. Plus the nature of our choice of play differs from some.
lol

16 Jul 2006

Funny how this topic should arise. I have a new lady friend in my life, she has been aware of my "activities" for a while and says "its part of what makes you, you". I count myself as being fortunate enough to have an honest, liberated "vanilla" partner.

16 Jul 2006

The only things I get from this site are the chatroom and the forum, which are fun. It's entertaining to chat with and read about you all and learn your exploits. One day, if the dates match up, I may even meet some of you!

17 Jul 2006

In the big scheme of things between me and GT... well it's as about as high as a gnats knee joint...
We've had two or three truly exhilerating experiences with a wonderful lady and I owe a lot to her for the trust and care she's given me in ensuring that everything went beautifully... and I thank her for the very sexy memories I have... ;-)
BUT... and it is a big butt sadly... if I never kissed, smooched, fondled, swapped spit in the shower with anyone other than GT... would I cry...... NOPE! smile

huggggggggggggs y'all
Wibbly

18 Jul 2006

I regualarly take breaks from the scene but find myself drifting back for the social side more than the sex cos I get great sex within my relationship, so don't need to shag anyone else. If play does happen then it's on our terms too and adds a bit of spice to what we already have in my opinion. That added spice could be aquired from role play, dressing up and bedroom games between the two of us... so all is not lost and my life wouldn't collapse completely if I never swung again. Can't speak for my partner though cos we've not really discussed this.
Could I personally give it up totally and never come back. Yeah probably. I coped with monogomous relationships before I found out I was bisexual, so I'd cope again happily.
People I consider friends in the truest sense of the word I hope would not be bothered one ounce if I left the scene because I'd like to think thats not why we're friends. I could just phone them or chat through email, instant messenger or pop round for a cuppa.
kiss

Gem. x

18 Jul 2006

Quote by little gem
IPeople I consider friends in the truest sense of the word I hope would not be bothered one ounce if I left the scene because I'd like to think thats not why we're friends. I could just phone them or chat through email, instant messenger or pop round for a cuppa.

Oi, i'll have you know i'd be bloody gutted if you stopped coming to munches and socials kiss

18 Jul 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
IPeople I consider friends in the truest sense of the word I hope would not be bothered one ounce if I left the scene because I'd like to think thats not why we're friends. I could just phone them or chat through email, instant messenger or pop round for a cuppa.

Oi, i'll have you know i'd be bloody gutted if you stopped coming to munches and socials kiss

Awww. :kiss: Thanks meaty.
In time you wouldn't though. The swinging world can be fickle and it moves on, so, in time you become a distant memory of the former party animal you were and folk say... "oh do you remember little gem, wonder how she is now, not seen her on the scene for ages, wonder how shes doing, just dropped off the face of the earth, shame.... I miss her"
And in time... people could forget you were ever there.
With some... you could only hope and wish they were never there. lol

:kiss:
Gem. x