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how long does it take to get over an ex
Quote by Srne
no time limits apply i dont think, probs best to avoid her altogether, having sex with her a few times since you split up is probably not the best way to have a clean break especially if you both have other partners!! :shock:
what she said.
everyone and every situations different, its a how long is a piece of string question, but the sex is a really bad idea
Earthy xx
I'm not sure you ever do.
If you have had strong emotional ties to someone you can't ever really get rid of them. Sure if they treat you like shit, you can hate them but deep down there will be some lingering feelings, memories of the good times. The reasons you got together. It's these emotional scars that make you the interesting person you are.
If you have had strong emotional ties to someone you can't ever really get rid of them. Sure if they treat you like shit, you can hate them but deep down there will be some lingering feelings, memories of the good times. The reasons you got together. It's these emotional scars that make you the interesting person you are.
Sex God
Quote by DeviousLiasons
We guess it all depends on what you drive.... in a fiesta it may take you two or three attempts to get it over your ex, but if you could borrow a tank from an army mate, it would take no time at all!
no probs anything to help
i finnished usein this 1 years ago
just fill her up when your finished
I agree.. no time limit on grieving for a lost relationship, BUT I defo do not think its a good idea to be still sleeping with her esp. if you are in a new relationship. Pardon me for saying this you don't actually mention if you love your new lady, so it could just not be for you yet...
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:Quote by kvs4fun
was with my ex for 16 years but she left early me and kids this year, we have had sex few times since, and both met new partners, mine treats me so well and better in every way but still pine over ex, even that she treats me so bad and nasty , how long untill i get over her,,,,,
new partner even thinking about swinging
the question that i feel you should be asking is "how long are you gonna let it affect you for?"
now i hate sound harsh.... especially because i have been there myself ( partner treated me like shit ... but i still pine for her).... but the true answer to this dilema is for you to " wake up and smell the coffee"
take your self out of the scenario for a minute and pretend its a pal of yours who is in your situation...
would you like him to be feeling this way?
would you want him to be still pining for someonwe who didnt feel the same about him as he does her?
is she really worth it? any woman that treats u like shit should be avoided.
is it a case of him being too soft? is he just being clouded by "love"
has he still got a life at the end of the day that he wants to lead?
are there better people for him out there?
the best way to tell yourself why this relationship is best over is to remember all the bad things that happened.
Realise that any relationship that causes that amount of hurt is better off ended. once and for all. would you stay mates with a bloke who was a twat to you? would you fuck...... youd tell him to fuck off and never darken your door again
go on and live his life to the full with people who care about you
Sexlightened
8 months, 2 weeks, 3 days, 1 minute and 62 seconds!
nah only kidding, hate this subject because it reminds me how much it hurts, i dont know if ill ever get over my ex, maybe its me being silly,,,,,,
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nah only kidding, hate this subject because it reminds me how much it hurts, i dont know if ill ever get over my ex, maybe its me being silly,,,,,,
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Quote by kvs4funim in the same boat but my ex got twenty grand out of me tell me she wanted to get back together after a week she got the money she went back to her new man and hasent been seen since
was with my ex for 16 years but she left early me and kids this year, we have had sex few times since, and both met new partners, mine treats me so well and better in every way but still pine over ex, even that she treats me so bad and nasty , how long untill i get over her,,,,,
new partner even thinking about swinging
Sex God
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Firstly, sorry you're hurting. That's just crap, I hate hurting.
Secondly, well done for finding a woman who treats you well and clearly trusts you enough to think of swinging considering the element of trust required is huge.
Thirdly, try not to abuse that trust by sleeping with your ex. You'll hurt and so will your new partner if she finds out. Think how well she treats you - do you want to lose that?
Fourthly, and finally, don't put a time limit on it. You'll just realise one day that you've not been hurting for a while... it's not a conscious thing when it ends. Just be cool with her for the kids and put your new relationship first.
feel free to call me an old bag!! I know it's not easy to stop sleeping with an ex - been there before. You have something new and positive going on now, maybe make an exciting plan with your new partner - something to really look forward to - buy her naughty undies, weekend away, naughty movies... concentrate on what you have and your future.
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Secondly, well done for finding a woman who treats you well and clearly trusts you enough to think of swinging considering the element of trust required is huge.
Thirdly, try not to abuse that trust by sleeping with your ex. You'll hurt and so will your new partner if she finds out. Think how well she treats you - do you want to lose that?
Fourthly, and finally, don't put a time limit on it. You'll just realise one day that you've not been hurting for a while... it's not a conscious thing when it ends. Just be cool with her for the kids and put your new relationship first.
feel free to call me an old bag!! I know it's not easy to stop sleeping with an ex - been there before. You have something new and positive going on now, maybe make an exciting plan with your new partner - something to really look forward to - buy her naughty undies, weekend away, naughty movies... concentrate on what you have and your future.
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I really think it's a bad idea to be sleeping with your ex, especially as you've both found new partners. You obviously can't break off all contact with her as there are children involved. I would keep the contact to a minimum and concentrate on your new love.
I got involved with my best mate which was heaven for a while but we had to split before it got even more complicated than it already was. If I had broken off our friendship and never set eyes on him again, I would have gotten over it easier and faster but as we're best mates, that means more to us than an physical relationship. To still see him, almost daily, and knowing I'm still in love with him breaks me in two sometimes but I know we could never go back to that so I have to deal with it the hard way or I lose my best friend and soulmate.
Everyone deals with their own situations as best they can but there's no right way or wrong way......just YOUR way.
I got involved with my best mate which was heaven for a while but we had to split before it got even more complicated than it already was. If I had broken off our friendship and never set eyes on him again, I would have gotten over it easier and faster but as we're best mates, that means more to us than an physical relationship. To still see him, almost daily, and knowing I'm still in love with him breaks me in two sometimes but I know we could never go back to that so I have to deal with it the hard way or I lose my best friend and soulmate.
Everyone deals with their own situations as best they can but there's no right way or wrong way......just YOUR way.
Sex God
Quote by DeeCee
was with my ex for 16 years but she left early me and kids this year, we have had sex few times since, and both met new partners, mine treats me so well and better in every way but still pine over ex, even that she treats me so bad and nasty , how long untill i get over her,,,,,
new partner even thinking about swinging
the question that i feel you should be asking is "how long are you gonna let it affect you for?"
now i hate sound harsh.... especially because i have been there myself ( partner treated me like shit ... but i still pine for her).... but the true answer to this dilema is for you to " wake up and smell the coffee"
take your self out of the scenario for a minute and pretend its a pal of yours who is in your situation...
would you like him to be feeling this way?
would you want him to be still pining for someonwe who didnt feel the same about him as he does her?
is she really worth it? any woman that treats u like shit should be avoided.
is it a case of him being too soft? is he just being clouded by "love"
has he still got a life at the end of the day that he wants to lead?
are there better people for him out there?
the best way to tell yourself why this relationship is best over is to remember all the bad things that happened.
Realise that any relationship that causes that amount of hurt is better off ended. once and for all. would you stay mates with a bloke who was a twat to you? would you fuck...... youd tell him to fuck off and never darken your door again
go on and live his life to the full with people who care about you
Good post DC :thumbup:
though I am hardly qualified to comment having had this happen to me only 4 weeks ago (nearly) and that from a woman who I shared 28 wonderful years with, and thought I would grow old with.
ok who at the back said " you are old" come on, fess up
on a serious note I will be watching this thread closely as every day I do have to ask myself, "when will it end?"
The day to day stuff is getting better. I seem to be coping ok with looking after the nipper, the house and the mutt, the garden has gone all to hell but hey, its that time of year
It’s the little things that hurt the most, I can’t for instance walk into our regular supermarket without getting upset, we have shopped there since it opened. every time I find something of hers in the house I well up. Every time I take the mutt for a walk where we have walked together my heart nearly breaks. I read certain threads on here that remind me of stuff we used to do and that darned prickling behind the eyes starts. I look at myself in the mirror and see a very sad lonely old man.
When the f*** does all that stop?
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Blimey, wtf did that come from :dunno:
Cough, as you where peeps, carry on
Sorry about that 
Quote by Pete_sw
It’s the little things that hurt the most, I can’t for instance walk into our regular supermarket without getting upset, we have shopped there since it opened. every time I find something of hers in the house I well up. Every time I take the mutt for a walk where we have walked together my heart nearly breaks. I read certain threads on here that remind me of stuff we used to do and that darned prickling behind the eyes starts. I look at myself in the mirror and see a very sad lonely old man.
When the f*** does all that stop?
Unfortunately not for a while hunni, along with certain songs you just can't listen to ( Goodbye My Lover is now banned in my house and car ) tv shows even certain smells but it's something you have to go through to get to the other side where the happiness is hiding.
Patience, getting pissed sometimes and letting it all go, having a shoulder to cry on, good mates and very old crockery that's good for hurling at walls all helps and some day that man in the mirror won't seem so sad and lonely any more.
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Sorry, I seem to have had a shot of serious....normal service will resume after the break
Quote by Pete_sw
When the f*** does all that stop?
pete, mate.. if we could wave a magic wand the3n it would stop immediately.
for me it stopped as soon as i thought " hold on, are you a man or a mouse" and "its time to get a grip and behave like a grown man"... that was my "magic wand"
admittedly it took nearly 2 yrs but i reckon the sooner a guy starts telling himself that the better........ i wish id have done it after 4 weeks ............. i would now.
live for the future, not the past
it's really difficult to answer cos there are degrees of 'overness' if you get my drift.
initailly they are on your mind more as force of habit and daily routine really, you miss them because you are used to them being there.
then there comes a time when the thoughts stop, you get used to them not being sround etc.
in the end you never think of them at all or when you do it's as if you are remembering another lifetime., like scenes from a movie, the emotions are unattached when you think of them.
that's it i guess, then it's really over.
at least that how it was for me. hope it helps.
p.s. don't shag them not good, major fuck up your head jobbie
initailly they are on your mind more as force of habit and daily routine really, you miss them because you are used to them being there.
then there comes a time when the thoughts stop, you get used to them not being sround etc.
in the end you never think of them at all or when you do it's as if you are remembering another lifetime., like scenes from a movie, the emotions are unattached when you think of them.
that's it i guess, then it's really over.
at least that how it was for me. hope it helps.
p.s. don't shag them not good, major fuck up your head jobbie
Orgasminator
Quote by DeviousLiasons
We guess it all depends on what you drive.... in a fiesta it may take you two or three attempts to get it over your ex, but if you could borrow a tank from an army mate, it would take no time at all!
I personaly find a Series 2b Land Rover Forward Control works equaly well.
Sex God
Quote by sheddy
how long does it take to get over an ex...................
It depends how big she is.................I've misunderstood the question again haven't I
is it quicker going under them do you think???
Sex God
I had a gilrfriend who i was very much in love with break up with me on may 23rd 2004 (young love). I remember that day so well and it was shit, i got what i deserved though....ahem. We still talk sometimes although shes in florida now dating a loser and thats the only part of it that still gets to me (apart fromsongs on the radio- we were together a long time as far as relationships at the age go) i hate to see that shes with a guy that doesnt care about her, hes in rehab and hes bringing her down with him. I think we find it hard to get over people 100% because no matter how much you hurt them or how much they hurt you there will always be a part of you that cares about them.
Got a bit serious there
Got a bit serious there
Sex God
Quote by browning
I split up with my ex about 10 yrs ago, last week my mates girlfriend called me and said she was at a party and my ex was there, my ex is now married with a little girl, I felt a little twinge in my heart.
see now that’s what I’m talking about
Sex God
Quote by Pete_sw
I split up with my ex about 10 yrs ago, last week my mates girlfriend called me and said she was at a party and my ex was there, my ex is now married with a little girl, I felt a little twinge in my heart.
see now that’s what I’m talking about
bugger, wrong quote ffs
Quote by kvs4fun
was with my ex for 16 years but she left early me and kids this year, we have had sex few times since, and both met new partners, mine treats me so well and better in every way but still pine over ex, even that she treats me so bad and nasty , how long untill i get over her,,,,,
new partner even thinking about swinging
'Letting go' that's the hardest, You've moved on,good on you ! so let go , don't look back ,think positive, keep looking forward you've found swinging heaven now move on and go with the flow!
I echo a lot of the sentiments in this thread. In my case it was a split that happened 6 monthsa go. We still Email, and stay in contact via text etc, as I consider her one of my closest friends of all time. And although I am mostly able to get on with my life and live, occassionally I do get little reminders....
Best thing is to take every day at a time. You walk by taking a step at a time, don't you. Same with carrying on without them.....
Best thing is to take every day at a time. You walk by taking a step at a time, don't you. Same with carrying on without them.....
