here: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewforum/2.html
Hi,
I read your post carefully and you mention screening guys, but you dont mention what your screening guys for, not unless im missing something. Not being one to open a can of worms, but if couples were more up front with what they are looking for or even what they expect from another person then they may be able to narrow the field even more and in doing so, find exactly more of what they want. Im sure your not doing anything terribly wrong, but by just being a little more open it can go a long way. I do realise that there are alot of guys out there whos lives revolve around what they would like to be rather than what really is. Im now awaiting the backlash for my comments.
Its a lot less bover than a hover.
Best wishes.
I'm probably about to get lynched too, but can I add a single guys perspective here too ?
If a couple have a fairly good idea what they want, and they have communicated this in simple terms in the advert (keep it simple - us blokes are all stupid - LOL), then the next best thing is to state what you are looking for from the person - looks, likes, sexual pref.s and so on. Requesting a picture and talking to them on the phone will pretty much remove all of the idiots, and you will have a fairly good idea what sort of a person they are from the way they 'come across' (no pun intended).
Anyone who won't talk on the phone, won't supply a photo, or other details, probably doesn't intend to meet anyway.
And ........ from a single guys point of view, I have to echo the above - please say what it is you are looking for, and don't be afraid of being specific, after all you must have an idea of what would be good and what would be bad - tell it like it is !
I have stopped replying to ad's that say "Couple looking for another guy for fun" or anything similar - they rarely come to anything.
OK, you can get the sharp knives out now .......
<ducks>
T.
how many times a day do you shave jude?
Well I guess its not surprising but what pees me off is when you do everything the couple asks for - pics, number, detailed letter, etc etc and you still don't hear a word back. By my reckoning it takes about 10 seconds to type thanks but no thanks - there I've just done it - but that rarely happens. Allowing for the fact that a significant proportion of the ads are probably fakes it still means there are an awful lot of rude people out there....Of course since they've privatised this site it may be that people can't reply.....anyone know?
But hey ho I keep on trying so how stoopid am I????!!! Doh...
Peter not really
battle royale=damn fine film
Well - we always reply if someone actually tells us a bit about themselves, includes a piccie, etc. We will delete the ones that simply say something like "I like your profie. Get back to me" because there are a very large number of those and if they can't be bothered to write a few lines about their hopes and expectations then why would we spend time on them? Everyone else gets either a "we'd liek to meet for a drink" OR "thanks but no thanks" reply.
Oh, and the system seems to be working just fine at the moment.
Hi,
Thanks for explaing what it is that you wished to get accross to us. Im sure we are all smart enough to understand.
Best wishes.
lol well sotted freckledbird........that was so obvious i missed it.
maybe im just paranoid but on the net a lot of people are not what they seem.
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: So, my question is - does anyone know of a better way to meet and screen the men ahead of the fun starting? We'd love to learn from someone else's experiences.
Next question: where do we get details of London Muches?
